Last month a girl I was seeing gave me the withholding of sex shit test and I did not handle it well. I tried to apply what I knew from studying TRP but I believe a lack of knowledge combined with deeply engrained beta tendencies elicited a butt hurt response by me - which inevitably communicated to her that I failed the test.

For context purposes, this girl was an avid shit tester (I no longer talk to her btw, so this is not an attempt to woo back a ONEitis). Some of her shit tests were comical at times because they were so obvious. I recognized them immediately and they were as if they were robotic. Like she HAD to say these things in order to cover her bases.

Some of the early shit tests were: where do you see this going, are you having sex with other people, are you planning on having sex tonight (first date), I’m not sure we should continue if you’re doing this with other people, and so on.

When it came to the withholding of sex shit test, I did not immediately recognize it as such. My automatic reaction was 1) she’s becoming disinterested 2) she’s fucking someone else. Both quite plausible, however I did not consider the idea that she may just be withholding sex for the sake of withholding sex. To see how I’d react. She often shot tested me for no reason in the past so this is possible.

I haven’t found a ton of information on this, so I’d like to stir up a discussing on the best way to go about this common shit test.