I met this really cute girl who was working as a server at a work event a few weeks ago. We made a bunch of eye contact and smiles through the night, but didn't actually talk. I asked for her number at the end of the night, it was an immediate yes.

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I got her number, did some texting. I kept it short and sweet, as soon as she gave me an opportunity to ask her out, I took it. (Her: Did you grow up in the city? Me: Yep, lets get a drink on xxday and I'll tell you all about it). Once the first date was set there was no more texting, I don't really like text game anyways.

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I took her to a concert some of my friends were playing at. We got there at 9, it started at 11. This was planned.

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I knew a bunch of people in the bar (a bit risky) and had at least 10 people come say hi (social proof). It was pretty relaxed, we talked for about 2 hours and then the concert started. The talking was a lot of conversation threading and EYE CONTACT. I can't believe I am only really starting to appreciate it now, but fucking eye contact. Bonus points if you think about fucking her, she can tell. 

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About 10 min into the concert I went for the handhold. She was very receptive, and had obviously been waiting for some physical contact beyond baisic kino. About 15 min later I turned with a straight face and looked her in the eye:

"I've got an idea, its a bit risky.." at this point she turns her head.

And that is how the kissing started. Again, she seemed to be waiting for it. She had to go home (out of the city) for a week and had to pack, whatever. I was surprised that it really wasn't a big deal. We texted lightly for the week, but she definately seemed very into me. Awsome!

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She got back, we were going to go out but ended up just fucking for a few hours. It was amazing. Seddit, this is what it's all about, actually being with someone who you WANT to be with.

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My story takes a sad turn here. She was super busy with work and stuff during the week. I saw her tonight and after we sexed it up she said she had reconnected with an ex. I was really calm, I didn't freak out, and I actually talked to her about it, for the sake of experience if nothing else. It became obvious I wasn't winning this. I told her that until she figures it out, we shouldn't see each other. This is another huge deal, as the old me would have begged and pleaded and just been an embarassing mess. 

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Epilogue: Shit timing can ruin even the best things. I learned a lot, the final bit is that I am fucking awsome! Before this I was kinda faking it and just hoping I was convincing enough. Now I know that I am fucking delightful, and I am going to start projecting it more. It is not always easy, but it is SO worth it. 

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I will leave you with this: All of you are awsome. You may not realize or appreciate it just yet, but you are. All that work you are doing to improve yourself is WORKING. If you want something, go for it. It is so much more productive and gratifying than being passive and confused.

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Tl:dr - Eye contact. Go for expressive gestures that show you are interested (ie. handhold, kiss). Shitty timing can ruin everything. You are AWSOME, go show and get what you fucking WANT!!