Is there anyway to connect with a person on FB you've never met?

avonv · 2012-09-15T02:03:46+00:00

wow, where to start here. first of all, you spilling your guts via a facebook message is about as unattractive and creepy as it gets for girls. especially if that girl does not even talk to you. the moment you hit "send" you disqualified yourself from ever having a chance with even getting to know her in the slightest bit. NEVER, EVER, do that again. have some pride and show some goddamn restraint over your emotions. remember the golden rule about getting girls - the harder you try, the easier you fail.

your problem in all of this is that you are looking for a way to hurdle from A to Z in a single jump. you need to accept the fact that it may take a lot of time to get to point Z. or that the avenue to get there might be "blocked" off for some time until you are presented with a chance to build a bridge to advance further.

have some pride in yourself and stop letting it affect you so much. you have probably read advice telling you to be "alpha" and pursue your women actively, and are misinterpreting this as you having to act immediately with whatever you have at your disposal to pursue something.

252 · 2012-09-15T05:33:20+00:00

Keep it simple, man. I can tell just by this post that you need to tone it down a bit.

Your communication style from this post is I feel X, and this is why. Somebody who doesn't know you really doesn't give a fuck about that. I don't mean that in a negative way. I just mean that you need to approach communicating with other people from a different angle, than maybe you have been.

Don't use the word I, at all. Honestly anytime you use the words I or you, it's going to put people in a really judgemental frame.

Why talk about yourself, and how you feel, when you could talk about how everyone feels?

Pimpin hoes, is like an adventure/mystery in which you are trying to figure out what is common to everyone? and what is unique to everyone?

If you were as good at figuring out why she feels the way she does, as you are at telling somebody why you feel the way you do, you would be swimming in girls.

2012-09-15T14:19:43+00:00

Having only one mutual friend IS kind of creepy. But you shouldn't be turned down by that. Just invite her to be your friend. If she accepts, the next time you see her logged in, just text a friendly "Hi, you look cute and I like meeting new people, why not get acquainted?". That's atleast what I do most of the time. If she doesn't accept, she will probably PM "Do we know eachother?" You could try something funny like "I am your long lost brother from Mexico" or just a simple"No, but I'd like to get acquainted". Sorry, english isn't my primary language.

Title	Is there anyway to connect with a person on FB you've never met?
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Date	September 15, 2012 1:35 AM UTC (13 years ago)
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