I've been pursuing a 23-year-old HB8 who, like many at that age, is a smartphone addict. Last weekend she flaked out on meeting up with me, which would have been devastating before I discovered this community. At the time, I was sitting around my apartment until 8PM just waiting for her to text me to hang out. Then I had a Seddit-inspired realization that waiting around like an AFC was pointless, so I went out to a bar district by myself and ran into an old FB by chance. I spent the night partying with her friends and ended up going home with her that night. Next morning I'm in bed with the girl and get a text from HB8: "Sorry I was sick last night :("

I ignore it and have morning sex with FB. Another text comes in, "You upset?" A few hours later I called her, completely unaffected by her flaking, and just talked about how much fun I had the night before. She suggested hanging out this weekend, which I agreed to.

The day after that she texted me, saying "I had a dream last night that you called me and we talked together on the phone." I tease her: "Uhh, pretty sure we did chat on the phone yesterday. You sure you're not confusing dreams with real life?"

And that's the power of calling versus texting. It's so rare and so much more real to hear a person's voice, that this girl was literally dreaming about me that night. I've called her again since and we've already become more flirty ahead of our date tomorrow night. I think the extra rapport gained from these phone conversations will set me above the other 20 guys who are playing the text game with her all day. Just a thought to anyone avoiding the phone call out of fear.