So after a number of successful closes, I still let tactics get into my head. My major malfunction is slipping out of state, or never being in state, and being unable to get back in.

After going on a date with an HB7 online, I was fully ready to K-Close her, and did it successfully. After a few weeks of just being stuck in my own head, I finally emerged with a moment of clarity, and I'd like to share it.

So tonight was definitely played on "easy" mode - it seemed that the girl I took out was a bit of a homebody, and a touch sheltered. She was also someone who was considerably overweight, and managed to take a ton of it off (i.e. she showed me a picture of her as an HB1).

Backstory about me - I'm an interesting guy - I work a great job with a lot of fun stories, I'm in a band, and I'm outgoing. I've traveled the world, both for work and for pleasure.

The Night Begins today. I was actually kind of bored this morning, so I texted her if she was busy, and that we should go get sushi. She wasn't, and so we did. She informs me that she never had sushi before. I joked with her that she's sheltered and she needs to get out more. I was not going to pick her up, and I didn't want to meet at the restaurant, so I asked that she meet at my place. I invited her in for coffee/water, but she just hung out while I put on my shoes and coat. This was to get her familiar with my house and feel comfortable with me.

There was a video sale at the store by the restaurant. We walk inside, and they have nothing good left. She's raving at some of the awful movies, and I'm making witty banter about most of them. I then pull out a few awful movies that I actually like ahem Land of the Lost ahem and explained why they're hilarious.

Dinner

I authoritatively, and confidently told her what to order, and of course rewarded her by offering to share with her some sushi from my plate (ok, sashimi, but that's a scarier word than sushi). She was in awe of my chopsticks skills as she ate her pad thai.

The Venue Change I believe back when I began reading PUA stuff in 2008, Mystery and Vin Dicarlo talked about this. It's always worked for me, and a staple of my pickup or dating routine. I think it communicates knowledge, extroversion, and outgoingness.

Location 1 - The New Age Grocery There is a grocery within walking distance that's full of health food, gluten free, vegan, natural - all that. Now, that's not my cup of tea usually, but I have a vast knowledge of what's there because of my job, and all their benefits. We walked through, she asked me what all these fancy products were, and I picked up a few things. My DHV was in my knowledge, and we also had fun grabbing the products and all that.

Location 2 - Indie Rock show. I offered we go see a show downtown. She agreed. Prior to the acts going on, we sat with some cocktails and she learned of the fun stuff I do, and have done. I KEPT IT SHORT AND SWEET. After that I shut the fuck up, and let her gab my ear off. Now, I'm not a passive listener, so I was sure to tease her, add playful jabs and all that.

The ride home So the worst part about seeing a band is that you cannot talk, so you have to rely on anything else, like Kino. We were situated as such where it would have been awkward. I asked her about her job and joked about the details while hi-fiving her, and grabbing her hands, but overall, the kino was rookie at best. I tried to salvage by guiding her out of the crowded bar via my hand, but it was too little too late.

I was maybe about 80% sure I'd be able to go for the K-Close, so I wasn't worried. On the drive home, I had her listen to my band, which after a lot of hard work, sounds really good. She told me she enjoyed it - which was a solid, major IOI.

The Close. So I realized that when I was taken out of state, all the PUA advice and knowledge became superficial and forced. I've always relied on the "Act like her boyfriend" mentality. This normally works except for times when you get in your own head. It dawned on me exactly what every guy does to kiss, and what I've done a million times. The physics - the everything - was perfect. I don't know why the hell why I made this so hard.

WHEN YOU GO FOR THE CLOSE, ALWAYS PREFACE IT WITH A HUG, BUT NOT A WIDE, SHOULDER-LEVEL HUG. Go for the torso (funny story, she thought the menu item "toro" was "torso" and I gave her some shit for that).

It's very easy to smile, make eye contact, hands around her torso, and naturally come together for the close. It's almost like she doesn't have a choice. This is how I've kissed every girlfriend I've ever had, how I've closed before with other girls, and I don't know why I didn't realize what I was doing.

I'll admit again, this girl was definitely "easy mode" in terms of seduction, but sometimes you need to take a step back lest you just repeat over and over again things that don't work (the definition of insanity, right?).

tl;dr - Good night, displayed confidence, passion, and let her talk about herself. Realized that the easy k-close is started with hands low around her torso, bring each other together and maintaining eye contact. If you remember this, you will k-close like a boss, even if you are the type of person that gets inside your own head (like me). If you go for the high-friend hug, you are going to have to regroup quickly, lest you miss your chance at a k-close.