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[–]sisyphan_sophistry 2 points3 points4 points 13 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Well, if you are going to all that trouble doing reconnaissance, just invite her out to somewhere you know, for a fact, that she will enjoy. Not just you two. Bring friends. Mixed company.
"Hey, we're going to blah blah blah tonight. It is going to be a great time. You should come."
Then, give her your number. Do it with the thought in mind that you know she will call. you need to project that mentality.
In the best of scenarios, girls are flakey, though. Let her flake. They get all weird when you don't care if they flake, or not, for some reason. This was just to test the waters.
If you have generated enough attraction, she'll accept on the spot. If not, you know you have some work to do. If she doesn't accept on the spot, expect her to flake.
Go out, have a good time, anyways. Next time you see her, tell her about how great it was. Make up a funny anecdote, if you have to. Then invite her out again...
"This week (remember, you do something cool and fun at least once a week) we are off to so and so."
Invite out again. Rinse and repeat. It just depends on how bad you want this girl, really. it sounds like you are willing to jump through hoops, but I hope you won't let on to her of that.
If you have generated enough attraction and know what she likes to do (even just what kind of music she listens to), it should be easy enough.
[–][deleted] 1 point2 points3 points 13 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Just passing through here, so take it with a grain of salt.
When I worked retail it was very unlikely I would give a guy my number that I didn't feel like I already knew very well and we had established mutual interest and possibly we had mutual friends. The number of guys that hit on you at work is high and at times the fact alone that I'm working is a turn off. Turn the conversation away from work and establish the connection.
I think idea 3 is good. You let her know clearly you're interested. It's easier to say no for her with an excuse in case she needs more time to feel comfortable with you.
Personally I like getting phone numbers, but was more likely to call than most girls (wasn't afraid of seeming forward.) Perhaps use this as a reserve if the date idea isn't able to work out logistically but she still seems interested, you can ask for hers and offer yours to seem less pushy since its her work.
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