I'm just over a month out of an LTR and really haven't been single for any prolonged period of time for the last decade (I'm 29). I've been dabbling with Tinder & Bumble (unsuccessfully), but I much prefer meeting girls in person. So far I've secured a FWB with a HB7 and had a ONS with a HB9.

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Anyways, I approached a HB8 at a coffee shop yesterday. I'm 6'5 and have been shamelessly using it to my advantage having realized it helps compensate for any other physical shortcomings I may have (i.e. being slightly overweight, babyface, etc...). I've seen this girl there before and we've exchanged a few glances; however, having recently swallowed the red pill, I would have never considered approaching her even just a couple weeks ago.

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I sit down at a table next to her and notice she's reading a book I had just read a few months ago. She looked like she was almost done with it, so I leaned over and said "they could have left out the details about the syphilis outbreak, huh?" (the book is called "The Tipping Point" for those wondering). She giggled and said "definitely".

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We both exchange a few observations about the book and I tell myself I just need to shoot my shot.

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Suddenly, I feel myself get warm and my heart start beating a little faster. This girl was more attractive than I thought - "was she simply being polite engaging me in conversation," I thought to myself. The only words I get out of my mouth are "Would you like to grab a drink this weekend?". The timing was poor, the delivery was poor, but she looked at me with a little smirk and said "oh, yeah, sure!". It was more surprised than emphatic. She then tells me she's busy Saturday, but asked if I was available Sunday. I tell her I am and she proceeds to ask me for number and calls my phone immediately so I have hers. She tells me to text her to set something up for Sunday. Then, she brings up Saturday again and says she actually has a date that night. I just smile and say "I'm not the jealous type".

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To make a long story short, I texted her last night at 9:00: "Hi HB8! This is Awayhethrows. I need some pumpkins for outside my house and office. I know a great farm across the river we could pick some. How's Sunday at 1:00?"

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She has yet to respond.

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My questions are:

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  1. What was her intent in bringing up her other date Saturday?

  2. Is it okay that I asked her out for a drink and then suggested an activity instead?

  3. I'm completely okay never hearing from her again, but is it a bad sign she hasn't responded yet?

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Open to any other advice you guys may have.

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