Hi guys,

relatively new to TRP this will be my first post ever here.

Pretty much I met a girl at University who is a foriegn exhange student from Sweden. She lives in my friends flat which is how I met her and we have been talking for about a month now.

We get on really well and always have a great time... I would say she is far different to the girls I am used to dealing with. I.e. on our first date she wanted to pay for dinner which shocked me but obviously I let her. Only thing is she says that she doesn't want to do anything sexual to me yet. (she doesnt mind what I do to her i.e. cunnulingus). This is due to the fact that her ex-boyfriend has recently been put in prison and she never got to end things with him before she came over to the UK. Also she feels like he could be in a fragile place at the moment and something like finding out about me could send him over the edge.

In addition, when she is drunk sometimes it seems like she is open to having sex but her having told me sobor that she wants to wait makes me reluctant to do anything.

The strange thing I dont understand is that she said it was more a casual relationship as she didn't trust him fully. He told her that he cheated twice while she remained faithful but disregarded his behaviour because of all the good things he had done in the past. In my head I am just like "he cheated on you so why cant you cheat on him".

Obviously this leaves me frustrated and in my current state I never expected to meet someone like her (currently doing weight loss and looksmaxxing etc.) So I am kind of happy regardless although I do want more and cant wait forever.

I have spoke to her about where I stand and made it clear that my time is valuable and of course we can be friends but ultimately I am not in the friendzone so why would I want to be? Also, if its not going to go anywhere I wont wait forever etc. She also said to me that she would understand if spoke to other girls however, this is not really what I want.

When we spoke about the situation she actually started to cry about what to do. She felt like she needs to support him but also doesn't want to lead me on as she can really see something with me. Obviously he isn't the best of people hence why he is in prison, so why does she give a shit about a piece of shit so much? maybe because its fresh?

Mainly looking for advice because obviously its a strange situation.

Thanks all, C