I've been browsing this subreddit for a few months now and I've definitely noticed a MASSIVE improvement both in my ability to attract women and also the way I perceive myself. But I'm faced with a new problem now. I can attract the girl, but I can't seem to keep her. This has happened to me about 3 times already - I meet a girl at a party, we 'click', I use kino and flirt with her then K-close and #-close, but after that it just goes down hill. All of these girls just seem to flake on me after that initial encounter.

The thing is, I feel extremely disconnected when I talk to people, especially girls, and I don't know why. Its frustrating because I've been working on my lifestyle for quite a while now - I'm part of a regular yoga class, I play sports that I'm really into, I go out much more than I used to and I'm passionate about what I study. Girls seem to be attract to that diversity of hobbies and I've also been complimented about my good looks. But this all falls away after about the second or third encounter - I just CANNOT seem to connect with the girl on a deeper, more emotional level. I've been through quite a lot of circumstances in my life where I was treated unfairly, over and over again and I think this may have impacted my ability to feel vulnerable and to really trust and connect with others. But it could be something else.

Please help reddit! I'm determined to fix this.