This is my first FR post since joining Seddit.

Back story

I joined this community a few months ago after a fellow redditor linked it to me. When I was in high school I (like I'm sure a lot of you) had a on-and-off fling with the beast known as One-itis, not a fun time but I got over it as you do. Thanks to this subreddit I have felt like (and been told) that I have dramatically changed how I act in social situations. When I was around people I knew I was loud, fun and out-going but I was always shy and introverted with people I didn't know and never approached girls.

After spending a month of so here and learning about things like Kino, IOI's and essentially how to not be a "clingy killjoy", I felt that I was ready to hit the social scene and put my new found knowledge to the test.

Night 1: They say the first time is the hardest.

I was at the local pub with some of my mates just enjoying the night, waiting for a group of people from a uni ball to arrive and join us. I had my eyes on Girl A (HB7). I had met this girl at a friends birthday party, nothing had occurred on the night due to me being an AFC at the time, and I ended up spending the night with the birthday girl and my mates, however I was keen to not let that happen again.

When the uni group arrived, I went over and welcomed her personally, gave her a hug and told her how good she looked tonight. She responded positively with her own light kino and introduced me to her friends. We sat down and started drinking and socializing. Fast forward a few hours and I was sitting slightly off from the main group with Girl A talking to her about your standard things and escalating the kino.

She was leaving early due to work the next day so i knew it was now or never. I manned the fuck up and asked her for her number. She was happy to give it, and I gave her mine and we went our separate ways. This was a big step for me. A year ago I would never have flat out asked for a strangers number.

Lesson learned: Don't bitch out, the worst that can happen is she will say no.

Text Game: Less is More.

This is where I think I made the most mistakes. As I mentioned earlier I am fairly new to seddit and I feel now that we did too much of our socializing over text. So a few days later I sent her a message saying something along the lines of

Me:"It was great hanging out with you I would love to do it again!"

and received a reply saying

Girl A:"Yeah I enjoyed it too! Defiantly i will talk to the guys and see if I can organize another outing!".

This obviously was not what I wanted. I was unsure if it went over her head of if she was just hinting that she was not interested in any 1-on-1 situation so I clarified with

"That sounds great too. However I meant I would like to take YOU out. On a date. How does lunch sound?"

I got a reply fairly soon after saying

"Ohhh that went right over my head. I am kinda clueless with these things! I am flattered but I just got out of a relationship , so I am not looking for anything now, but I would love meet up with you!"

Now this was a bit unexpected. Old me would have given up or became infatuated with one-itis again. New me however decided to go to the lunch and have a good time regardless of what happened (I think this is outcome independence?).

The lunch went well, lots of talking, light kino, hand holding, back stroking etc, however she was fairly hot and cold. Not so much attitude wise but interest wise. The biggest sign was that she mentioned that I should "hook in" with her mate. I would not call it a failure, but a learning experience. I felt happy with the progress I had made and was keen to try again instead of being hung up on the "failure".

Lesson Learned: Outcome Independence is awesome.

Night 2: It is always darkest just before the dawn.

This night I met Girl B (HB8) who is the friend of Girl A she mentioned at lunch. I had met her fleetingly at previous group situation but never really talked with her, other than trading names. The occasion was a mutual friends birthday at a pub. I arrive with some friends a bit later than we had planned and as soon as I get inside I see Girl B sitting alone near the pool table, and Girl A and Girl C (HB7) were playing pool with some randoms. I order my drink, and for once I follow the 3-second rule and go sit down next to Girl B and open with

"Hey sexy, how is it going?".

She looks surprised and reacts positively when she recognizes me and goes for a hug and we start chatting.

I kept thinking that I needed to display some value so after a while I excused my self, and went to say hello to Girl A and meet Girl C, joined in with some silly photos and greeted the birthday person, and just focused on enjoying myself.

When I come back Girl B has started playing pool with Girl C and smiles at me and beckons me over (positive IoI) so I stand with her, hand on the lower back, just chatting and jokingly help her play and do some terrible pool shots and laugh it off. When she talks to me she moves in really close and the kino escalated exponentially.

I buy her a drink and we go upstairs to dance. Eventually our faces are close and I think "fuck it" and go in for the kiss. She kisses back. We stand there swaying on the dance floor making out for a good while.

I pull away, and grab her phone out of her front pocket, and put my number in it and say to her

"Call me. Sooner rather than later"

and wink. The reason I did this was so that the onus of texting was on her, so if she messaged me I knew she would be keen plus it had the added bonus of preventing me from fucking myself over with poor text game again.

We go back to making out. Eventually she says she has to go to find Girls A and C to drive them home (I took the fact that she was sober as another plus in my favor) and goes to find them. I go grab another drink, and find my friends I arrived with. The girls come back before they leave to say their good byes and as I am saying goodbye to Girl B I pull her in for one last kiss in front of her friends. It feels good.

Later that night I got a text saying she enjoyed the night.

Lesson Learned: If a girl kino's you back, don't be afraid to escalate. Don't cling to her all night, show some value and enjoy yourself.

Wrap up: Confidence and Self-Esteem Boosted

This subreddit has done incredible things for my self esteem, social life, inner-game and improved my outer-game from non-existent to at least average. I would like to thank each and every one of you and welcome any constructive criticism. The 4 months of this year have been more successful for me than the combined 12 months of the last one, and it is because of you guys!

That is the end of my long ass and probably poorly written FR. I hope I did this correctly and did not make it too much like a diary entry.

TL;DR Got a girls number, had a date but wasn't interested, didn't let myself feel shit and ended up K-closing with another lovely lady I essentially met on the night.