This is actually about the same girl from my previous field report. While it might seem unnecessary to give a field report for a girl that Iv'e already F-closed, I think there are some things that I can quickly touch on, because I've seen similar questions raised fairly frequently.

The morning after the F-close, we got some lunch and talked a bit. It was fun, but it was mostly me talking and amusing myself. She didn't seem super into it. She seemed like a very laid back person who doesn't necessarily show a lot of outward enthusiasm about things. When I pulled her, she hadn't really shown very many strong IOIs, but I pushed ahead and it worked out. Anyway, I walked her to the subway station and got her number and said I looked forward to seeing her again, but I didn't text her all week. I was on the fence about whether I wanted to see her again or try my luck going out solo and pulling a new girl. I waited until Thursday night to text her:

Me (10:08 PM): I'm gonna hit up X tomorrow night. Wanna grab a drink?

Her (10:44 PM): Sure, I don't know if my friends will make it out tomorrow, so any time after 9 should be fine.

Me (10:45 PM): Cool. Let's meet at Y and walk there.

Friday:

Me (3:30 PM): Let's meet 10 PM Y exit 2

Her (5:07 PM): ok

I've seen lots of guys say they K-close or F-close a girl, but then when they set up a Day 2, the girl flakes. As you can see here, there's not a whole lot going on. Until I went to set up the date, I didn't text her at all during the week. My texts were short and to the point. Because I'd already F-closed her, we both knew exactly what was going on. I'm not needy, texting her right away and turning her off. I'm not putting pressure on her -- I'm doing something and inviting her, my night doesn't revolve around her. I don't get bent out of shape it she doesn't respond right away or reply super enthusiastically. Coming from her end, it's a pretty lackluster response for the most part, and a less secure me would be worried that she would flake later. I think with this girl in particular, she's just not a very emotionally forward person. Lesson: When you've picked up someone at a bar and K-closed or F-closed, there's a certain mindset. They were obviously interested sexually at the time, so don't throw them a change up by getting "relationship-y" on them. If all it was was a hook up, treat it as such. This girl isn't going to be a girl I date, but when I'm going out and wanna hook up, I'll contact her, and she understands this. Some girls will be into this, some girls won't. It's all about finding the ones who will be into it.

We met up at the subway station and walked to the bar. I am pretty new to the area, but I had walked around during the day last weekend and scouted out some bars that I wanted to check out. I also went out on Tuesday night with another sedditor and we checked out some bars, so I'd have some idea of what each had to offer as far as drinks and environment. This is so important. Leading is massive. We walk into the first bar and we trade two rounds. We play some Connect 4 for awhile and talk. Nothing super important. I kino her lightly by brushing her arm or pulling her close to talk into her in the loud environment, but nothing overly sexually to begin.

After two rounds, I suggest another bar to change the scene and lead the way. We buy a bucket to share, and immediately, some guy at a table nearby grabs her and starts asking her questions. I could've made some overt display, but instead, I chose to just stand with my arm around the girl and ignore the guy, but still remain social by talking to his friend. They were both engineers in Korea for business. I eventually began talking to the guy who had initially started talking to my date and we got along fine and had a decent conversation. This is when I started to turn up the kino. I lightly trailed my fingertips up and down her back. I lifted her shirt every so slightly and traced the top of her jeans with my fingers, brushing the bare skin along her hips and the small of her back. Light little ass grabs. To the other guy, they were just having a conversation, but I was getting my own enjoyment out of it by stroking this girl discreetly. After awhile, the conversation became more private between my date and me, and the engineers drifted off to do their own thing. I saw one dancing with a girl, so good for him. Lesson: When other guys try to AMOG you, the best defense is just to be friendly with them. Telegraph to both your date and the AMOG that he doesn't threaten you. Ignore him initially and make friends with his friends, then make friends with him. You're an awesome dude. She's here with you. He's not gonna pull her.

I suggested we finish the bucket and go dancing. The bar was super packed, but not many people were really dancing. It was hard to find a good place to do it. I made the kino more sexual. Sliding my hands into her pockets, pulling her belt loops, running fingertips over her bare skin. Eventually I tipped her chin up for a kiss. She's a very tentative kisser. It feels very lukewarm, but I know from experience that's just how she is, and you should always be assuming attraction anyway. If she didn't want me doing what I was doing, she'd tell me. Lesson: Always be escalating. Don't get complacent with kino. I've had plenty of pulls that went to shit because I didn't push the interaction forward. Sure, dancing is great, but doing it for five hours and the girl leaving with her friends is the lamest fucking thing in the world.

After a couple kisses, I suggested leaving. Just a simple "Do you wanna get out of here?" She didn't seem ready to buy. Saying she wasn't sure. Time to really get shit going. Instead of just dancing, I slid my knee between her legs and up, and she just started grinding her pussy on my leg. I didn't do anything. Just let her do her thing. After a couple more minutes, after some particularly awkward exchanges of pushing because of the crowd, I changed up my question a bit. Instead of asking her to come to my house, I just said, "This place is too crowded. Let's go somewhere with less people." We left and walked home and F-closed. Lesson: I've said it so many times -- The first "no" is not a "no" it's a "not right now". Just because she isn't ready to kiss, leave her friends, go to your house, have sex, etc... right at that moment, it doesn't mean she doesn't want to. Just find a way to tweak the circumstances. Particularly when you're trying to pull her home, if a straight up "Come to my place" isn't working, change the question. Give her enough plausible deniability to lower her ASD. Don't ask. Tell her you're going somewhere. Walk home like it was fucking written in the stars. This is how the night was supposed to go. Don't question it.

Side note

On the walk home, we started talking about one of her friends who's a "nice guy". She wanted to help the guy hook up. She tried winging for him, and it just wouldn't work. He didn't have the confidence to approach women at all, even just to say hi. He would also be very picky, criticizing women as an excuse not to approach them. If he did like a girl, he'd build her up in his mind, assume she would reject him, and never approach. Don't be this guy. He had a massive advantage -- a girl was trying to get him laid -- and he squandered it because of his lack of self-confidence. Eventually she just gave up on him.