I have a high SMV. Always been good looking. Good career. Nice car. I got shit going for me.

But my game is mediocre, at best.

What is holding me back is that I have trouble not giving a fuck. For example, at the club, I'll dance but I'll be reserved because I am not having fun since I am worried about what I look like.

Contrast that with house parties, I'm always cracking jokes that are a bit divisive and it can rub people the wrong way. But that is who I am. I need to know when to reign that part of me in and when to truly let go. I need to learn the line between NGAF and being a total asshole.

Women can sense that I am in my head. Searching for the next thing to say because I'm not comfortable in my skin. I don't trust myself with having the wherewithal to carry a conversation with a 9 or 10. It's ironic because I am a decent conversationalist...when I don't feel nervous.

My goal is to be as grounded, calm, collected, and as quick witted as possible. I'm tired of feeling nervous around 9s/10s and even guys with a higher perceived SMV. I want to be comfortable in my skin. Any advice on achieving this would be appreciated.

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