Shit guys, I need help.

recyclablebantha · 2013-05-21T17:03:24+00:00

From what I've gathered, when I kiss, it is apparently too "Sloppy" and I'm not firm enough? Also I've gotten that I'm too detached. Any help would be greatly appreciated.

From my experience, everyone kisses differently. Trying to pin down what exactly to do is not necessarily the way. It's better to think of the process with a certain mentality, rather than specific things to do or don't do. For example, some girls like sloppy and some girls fucking hate firmness. There is NO damn rule here.

Overall, the main thing I'd recommend keeping in mind are the following concepts:

ALWAYS start out slow and gentle. Then you have somewhere to go, rather than trying to jump in at Volume 11.
Approach it with an exploratory and curious mindset. Like you have no idea what will happen as you explore her lips and neck, etc., with your mouth and tongue.
As with your kino escalation, escalating while LISTENING to her responses is fucking key. Starting off slow and gentle will do one of two things: it will please those who like that style, or it will tease those who want something less gentle and/or faster. With this in mind......
........ as you listen to her, COPY what she does. If she does something a particular way with her lips, do it back to her: mirror her. Mix that in with whatever exploration you might be doing.
........ and if she wants higher intensity and/or less gentle kissing, etc., she'll make it evident in her body language: it might feel like she's ready to really let her rip. Regardless, if she puts off cues like this, just go with the flow and allow the kissing intensity/speed to increase or decrease, how it will.

n1cey · 2013-05-21T06:50:24+00:00

Great question

One hand on the neck, the other around her(you elbo at her side and bent up her back). Eyes open untill right before the lips touch. Angle your head slightly, usually left. In the beginning your mouth should be open about 2-3 cms, and you lips should be a little tight. Try to open and close your mouth about the same time as her. NO TOUNGE unless she does it first.

After maybe 20-30s, change things up a little. Suck a little on her bottom lip, perhape nibble it a little, start using a little tounge. Here you can loosen up your lips fully, but mostly do what she does.Tilt your head to the other side. Perhapes move your lips from directly on hers, to more of yours, hers, yours, hers. You can move your hands, grabb her head carefully with both hands. Or you slide one hand up backside of her neck and into her hair. Both hands around her like a hug. If she has her hands around you hear, take both your hand up under her armpits and one high on her back, the other at low at the beginning of her spine(resting on top of her ass).

Don't try to do all at once, keep it simple if your not skilled. Changing between leaning and pulling her is important aswell

Good luck mate

whatwhywhy · 2013-05-21T10:38:09+00:00

dude, if she ask. tell her shes the first, make joke even if its real.

while kiss, dont go full tongue, do little small kiss on the lip, with bites when she's not ready, when she does, go slow... we dont want to kiss forever. so dont worry. touch everywhere . done

TheGentlemanTeapot · 2013-05-21T13:27:17+00:00

Thanks all. Your tips are greatly appreciated. Will put all this to work next time. You're all fantastic.

wily_quixote · 2013-05-21T21:02:36+00:00

I think she is just confused about why she isn't into you. I think if a girl digs you it doesn't really matter how you kiss, as long as you don't do anything seriously weird. Same with sexual technique. The main indicator of how a girl will rate your kissing/bedroom skills is how attracted she is to you.

So, you likely just need to step up your game in the pre-kiss interactions.

There's also the possibility that this was some sort of shit test, but it's tough to say without context. However I can totally see a girl saying "whoa, you're a terrible kisser!" just to see what you do.

2013-05-21T06:38:01+00:00

Sloppy = wet. Make sure you don't have a mouthful of saliva before you kiss a girl. Not firm enough = your lips are loose and not really connecting with her lips/mouth/etc. I know this is going to sound totally corny but you might want to try practicing on an orange or something. Make sure your mouth is totally connecting. If it is an open-mouth full-tongue kiss your tongue should be connecting with HER tongue, not just roaming around aimlessly (or worse - licking her mouth/teeth).

Also, make sure you aren't opening your mouth TOO wide when you open-mouth kiss. You should not be absorbing her mouth into yours, but rather meeting her lips (alternating whose lips are on the outside).

That's definitely a deficit you need to fix as nothing is worse than a sloppy kisser that feels like he's kissing the air between us (rather than me). If you've got a female friend, it's worth it to ask her if you can practice with her and ask her to be totally honest about what you are doing wrong and how to fix it.

Title	Shit guys, I need help.
Author	TheGentlemanTeapot
Upvotes	5
Comments	6
Date	May 21, 2013 5:49 AM UTC (13 years ago)
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