So I want to be an enjoyable person to be around. Is it possible to change traits about yourself entirely?

I'm not usually that talkative, even when im hanging out with really close friends or family.

I'm not inherently funny. I usually have to try and think about jokes im going to tell to get people to laugh and I'm terrible with quick back and forth banter.

I also have a bad tendancy to assume a lot of things are serious when most other people recognize it as a joke opener or something.

I have trouble getting to know people. I can walk up to anyone and say hi, but I never really know what to say after that to get them to stay interested in talking to me.

How can I help myself getting better with people. I'm really not happy with who I am after discovering this sub. I started visiting /r/malefashionadvice last summer and /r/fitness , though ive always been an athlete, in order to increase my self confidence. I'm now confident with my dress style and physique, but I don't know how to change who I am. I thought looks could do well enough on their own hut I've realized they're fucking useless for the most part. one of the big things I get AA over is my fear of boring someone to death.