Hi seddit. I need advice. I lurk here occasionally but I've never posted. I do not tend to go out and really just approach. I like to let it happen and try to make a connection before I make it clear I'm interested. Its probably why I'm still single. Sorry for this wall of text. Anyway I met this girl out at a bar that as it turns out, I'm really into. She is a little younger then me. Early 20's. I'm early 30s. Anyway I met her on a thursday through a mutual friend at a small bar I like to go to near my place. We had some really good conversation but nothing too "deep" but we had a really good time. End of the night comes, I ask to drive her home as I have to get up early for work, she declines but gives me her number and she walks me to my car (I ask her to walk me, Beta I know but fuck it) I get to my car, I turn around grab her and we immediately start making out. I could tell she was really into it. Fast forward two nights. I called her and left her a VM but she works nights so she didn't pick up. Texted me back saying she was sorry she missed my call. I didn't really text her back except to say no worries. I was out with friends and was thinking she would probably show up later that night anyway because it is kind of her spot too. So she shows up at like 2-3am. She immediately comes over and says hi, gives me a smile and we start talking and having fun. Not long after my friends wanted to go back to the house we started from so she tags along. We danced and played pool together until about 6am. I drive her home, we get there and we make out more in my car for like 25 minutes. I didn't press a F close becuase I was really tired and kinda sloppy drunk at this point so I know I would have sucked. We already made plans to see each other the next night in my car so I wasn't worried anyway.

Sunday comes around and I pick her up to go to dinner at this place she mentioned that had amazing food. I'm new in town so I didn't really have a better alternative so I wasn't going to chance it and take her to a place she didn't like. Anyway I pick her up. She looks gorgeous, wearing heels and a dress. I greet her, but she acts like when I give her a hug that she was going to give me a kiss on the cheek. I say fuck that and give her a quick kiss on the mouth. I open the door, put her in the car and off we go. Had an amazing dinner, shared a bottle of wine and I could tell things were going pretty well. I take her home, meet her dog she gives me a tour of her place. And this, seddit is where I feel I completely fucked up. I thought I was in. I was totally expecting to have crazy sex at this point. At dinner she asked me if I smoked. I told her yes and I really enjoy it. She immediately gets closer to me under the table with her legs. Like rubbing mine with hers. So I thought that was pretty much a sign that we are going to hang at her place and smoke and have a great time. So we both smoke and I completely got quiet, nervous and awkward after. I couldn't really talk to her like I could at dinner. She says we should go up to a bar and play pool or something. I have no idea why I agreed to this. Before we left we made out a bit more, but she wasn't really responding like I thought she should. I pull back and say we should probably go (because I'm a fool).

We head up to the bar that is completely dead. We play some pool and Its just more awkward becuase I'm blowing her away and not saying much. I couldn't really have a conversation with her during because I was so uptight and nervous now and it was making it worse as the night went on as I couldn't put a fucking sentence together. No raport, no jokes or anything. Nothing but awkward silence from me for the most part. I know she wasn't having a good time and it was completely my fault. After we get back in the car to go back she kept repeating she is going to bed. Yeah I know. Great. But when I drop her off the second the seat belts come off she grabs me and we make out some more. I try to say I'm sorry i couldn't talk earlier, but she shuts me up by kissing me. I was able to hold out and not say anything else more retarded before she gets out. I texted her on the way home to wish her sweet dreams. She responded to that at least. I was so pissed at myself when I got home and I still feel like I completely fucking ruined it. I waited two days before I texted her and let her know I have some ideas for our next meetup trying to get her curious and gauge if she still wants to hang out. So far nothing. How do I come back from this? I never really smoke and go out as I tend to just veg out and not engage with people. Does it ruin it even more if I text her and I bring this up and try to explain why the 2nd half of the date was bad?

TLDR Saw this girl for 3 nights out of 4. Made out each night. Had a great date on the 3rd night. Went back to her place. Smoked which made me quiet and awkward. We went out to a bar and I failed the 2nd half of the date. Haven't heard from her since..