Dominant HB5 initiated relationship, newbie PUA developing oneitis, need advice please!

centurijon · 2013-07-18T13:20:29+00:00

just thought I dont want her to feel rejected thats why I went out with her.

Why are you worried about her feeling rejected? You don't owe her anything. You will be rejected yourself. What if every girl you met that wasn't interested in you took you on a terrible date just so you don't feel bad? It would be awful.

One part of this community that doesn't come up very often is that you will be rejecting people. I usually do it gently, but have had to give a firm "never going to happen" before.

asked that I agree to be her boyfriend

Who does that ~~after~~ before the end of one date? This girl is needy.

I told her that I do approach women because it frees me from my previous self.

Honesty is good, but your frame started to crack. Not an ideal response, but not awful.

Of course, she told me I would have to stop that.

Fuck that. It's your life, you're taking steps to improve yourself. Who is she to decide what -you- do in your life? If you didn't stand your ground there then you have destroyed all for which you have fought and suffered.

I tell everyone that I date that I'm not exclusive and I'm dating other people. If they aren't ok with that then they're welcome to walk away. Sometimes they have concerns with it, but nobody has outright stopped dating me because of it yet.

she love to be the dominating one

So here you are, making changes to improve yourself. Trying to take more charge of your life. Trying to be in control of situations. But she says she's the dominant personality in a relationship.

You're going to run into problems in the future. What she wants and what you want do not line up, and one or both of you are going to be unhappy.

telling her that I was a introvert with no experience

Broke frame. No good.

I keep feeling an overwhelming pinning and neediness which is quite tough to control.

Go out, open more. As soon as someone better looking reciprocates some interest that neediness will go away.

Title	Dominant HB5 initiated relationship, newbie PUA developing oneitis, need advice please!
Author	gosurobber
Upvotes	5
Comments	1
Date	July 18, 2013 2:26 AM UTC (13 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
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