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Are large arm movements better than small ones?

burningpoint · 2013-08-08T05:39:24+00:00

I thought I had a problem of making too many wild, big arm/body movements. I have recently read to make big movements. That is was more confident. Is there a...

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August 8, 2013

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Title	Are large arm movements better than small ones?
Author	burningpoint
Upvotes	1
Comments	1
Date	August 8, 2013 5:39 AM UTC (13 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
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[–][deleted] 2 points3 points4 points 13 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link

Try not to do jerky movements. Try to be smooth. Usually people get jerky when they're nervous.

It doesn't really matter what you're doing. Right now, you're probably thinking "I should do big movements to project confidence". The problem is, you're going to try to do big movements so others perceive you as confident, i.e. doing it for other people. If you do things for other people to receive approval, it's never really going to be confident.

Just to clarify, doing something for other people to be nice is totally cool. But, don't do things for other people such that, "oh please think that I'm a nice person!" In the first situation, you're doing nice things for others for the sake of doing nice things. You're purely offering value. In the second, you're doing nice things because you want other people to think better of you. That's trying to take value from other people. It's validation-seeking.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=PHSaEPVSVEE

It's not about the actual motion, but rather, the place you're coming from as you do them. You can do big movements or small movements, but if you're not actually feeling confident, then you probably won't project confidence. If you feel confident, you'll naturally project it through all of your thoughts, words, and actions. Confidence isn't something you do, but something you are.