Anyone else surprised about how little control you have of your state/mood as your day goes by?

JamieValentine · 2013-08-15T09:53:12+00:00

I find it difficult to be in control of my state all the time. I know I can change it, but I'm not even always aware of it.

Yesterday I was really angry about my living situation, but as soon as I walked in, I immediately thought "its not that bad" and was happy. I'd literally spent the previous 4 hours angry for no reason, it didn't occur to me why until I read your post just now.

When I go out, the more people I talk to and make laugh and have fun, the more my energy increases. Kind of expected.

The thing I'm thinking about taking up is meditation, have heard from multiple sources its awesome, need to incorporate it in to my daily routine.

dakadare · 2013-10-19T01:25:33+00:00

Just try and be in the present. Try not to judge and just be with whatever is going on. You'll soon realise, while things don't change, your attitude towards them do, and then you'll find that things have changed. Does that make sense? Cheers

www.benefitsofmeditation.net

Stythe · 2013-08-15T11:54:11+00:00

You need to learn to control it. It is possible. It requires to to rearranges the paths in your brain. Try this: The next time something happens that upsets you, don't get mad, but notice the point when anger comes in. When you find that a few times you'll be able to predict it. Once you can do that, you can make the decision to stop yourself before you get upset, then replace that upset with a better emotion.

This takes time, effort and most importantly, accountability. If you don't want to try it and stick with it, it won't happen. If you decide to try it, honestly, then you will be able to do it. Just don't give up.

2013-08-15T12:25:52+00:00

Just woke up, so this is going to be stream-of-consciousy and kinda all over the place. Sorry.

You can control your state and mood. It takes some practice and refining, but you absolutely can control your mood.

You can't necessarily will your bad emotions away. Like, telling yourself "be happy be happy!!!" won't magically make you happy. But, you can do actions that will make your emotions lean towards happiness.

First, eat correctly, exercise, stay hydrated, and sleep well. When your body is working well, it lowers your stress and your overall mood improves. If you didn't eat or sleep well on a particular day, it will seriously affect your overall state (of course, you do have the capability to power through that nonsense, if someone holds a gun to your head, or a hot girl throws herself at you, your mood will spike instantly). And, maybe it makes you feel better about yourself because you're taking care of your body.

Secondly, meditate. Meditation trains your mind to stay in the moment. By meditating, you train the ability to stay in the moment and ignore nonsense thoughts. You're literally exercising your mind.

Thirdly, as you become a better, more self-actualized man, your overall baseline mood will improve slowly. As you get older, you get more experience, you do more things, and you have more time to work on yourself. 21 year-old me is more confident than 18 year-old me because I've had more time to exercise, practice my game, read more books, etc.

Say you're in a nightclub, but you're feeling shitty and you don't want to do approaches. You can't tell yourself "get in state! be confident!" and magically be confident. RSD taught me, however, that you can do actions that will change your emotions. So if you're feeling shitty, maybe you can just try dancing wildly for your own amusement, and you'll probably feel much more lively since you're changing your physiology.

You also need learn to be comfortable being in a bad mood. "I feel shitty, that's okay." Don't chastise yourself for being in a bad mood, because it just makes your mood even worse. Don't try to "control" your mood, per se. Just try to influence it. And if you can't influence it well, be okay with that. Maybe you're just having a bad day. Maybe you're new, so you shouldn't expect to backflip before you walk.

Title	Anyone else surprised about how little control you have of your state/mood as your day goes by?
Author	burningpoint
Upvotes	7
Comments	5
Date	August 15, 2013 6:37 AM UTC (12 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
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