Hi there,

I realized long ago that I'm an extremely sappy guy, and I have a million what you would call feminine hobbies and tendencies. I actually think I started working out solely because I wanted people to have no reason to give me crap for being feminine when I look buff and lean - in a word, mighty cool. I'm not quite there yet, but well on my way. Now, my questions are the following:

-How big a turnoff is being insecure to women? It has recently come to my attention that few things are as big turnoffs for women as insecurity in a man. Now, there is no excuse to being directionless in life / lazy, but emotional insecurity is another thing.

-Does appearing insecure play a bigger part in good-looking-guy game? When you have a handsome guy with nice muscles and a stellar six-pack, can he use his supposed insecurity more for romantic purposes than a stereotypical 200-pounder?