I'm in a pickle. How do I prove to a girl that I'm not trying to use her but also initiating sexually.

kingcal · 2013-09-12T04:57:49+00:00

She expressed this concern to you directly? Just say "Okay." Honestly, if she's bringing sex up, it's because she's thinking about it. I can't tell you the number of times when I picked up a girl and she told me "We're not having sex." Pretty much all of those times, sex happened. She may be genuinely concerned about the issue of what you think of her, or it may just be some way of her trying not to seem like a slut for sleeping with you.

Regardless, your answer should be the same. Tell her it's fine and then ignore it. Have a normal date. Talk about normal shit. Don't make any overtly sexual passes, but still maintain intimate kino. When she sees that you're treating her normally and not getting butthurt about the fact that she said she won't have sex with you, she'll be a lot more comfortable with you.

donit · 2013-09-12T05:59:54+00:00

on one hand, it's best to ignore everything thre girl says. Most of what they say is designed to throw you off, especially when they tell you what kind of man they want.

That said, sexual hangups are the worst type. I've never had one of these situations go well. it usually requires you dating her long enough to become emotionally involved, and then laying down the law and telling her you'll find somene else who doesn't have this hangup. These relationships are at least twice the work of a normal one, so if you have other options, I would pursue them.

Another issue is this: If the girl talks about being used for sex, that kind of implies two things:

She doesn't enjoy it herself, and/or
she's very selfish and doesn't like the guy to enjoy it either. I've known women who really are that selfish...who can't stand for the guy to receive anything. They taught by their mamas to only receive from men...but to never give anything because that makes her a sucker. You can't untrain those kinds of beliefs, so it's usually best to steer clear.

Either way, if a girl talks about being used for sex, it's bad news.

And any white knights want to come git u some, suit up & submit yourself and I'll put you through my shredder...I'll make sure you feel everything and every situation I've been through :o)

puaCurveBall · 2013-09-12T06:51:22+00:00

This belongs in /r/askseddit as it is asking advice for a specific situation / girl

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Title	I'm in a pickle. How do I prove to a girl that I'm not trying to use her but also initiating sexually.
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Date	September 12, 2013 4:20 AM UTC (12 years ago)
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