This is my first field report so please go a bit easy on me. I have been a long time lurker and have read many posts on here so I have decided to share my night from this past week to get some insight on my techniques and to share my experiences.

The Location: This was a thursday night fraternity party. It was supposed to be another run of the mill night. The new pledges were getting their fraternity big brothers and a party was going to celebrate this. Our fraternity house is two stories with a big outside court yard, individual suites, and a main party room.

My group: At these social functions I tend to go out with three of my best friends. Tonight my best friend and favorite wingman because we have the most similiar personalities stayed in so I was left with my other two friends. I will name them Luke and John. Luke is the type of guy that if I weren't his friend I would deem him competition, he can carry him self in a social manner excedingly well and just like me, we tend to only socially drink. My other friend who we will get to know better is John. John is the guy that comes out with you and before he can talk to any type of female looking creature, sometimes even the attractive looking light pole, John needs to be incredibly drunk. For most he would be a hinderance, but when he gets this way we just figure he is making us look even more appealing.

The Start of the Night: It is about nine and girls are coming over to the house. Me and Luke are causally talking in the court yard where we always position ourselves so we can determine if it is worth staying or heading out to the bars since we can monitor the enterance into the house and see potential girls coming in. My other friend John is about half a fifth of whiskey in at this point and starting to have the drunk heart to hearts with our new pledges. It was about this time that me and Luke notice a group of girls come in led by one of our pledges. The group consisted of a HB5, two HB6, HB8, and the HB9. It was at this point that the guy that had been bringing them into the house disappeared to find them drinks and me and Luke causually approached them.

The conversation at this point with the group was nothing major, we introduced ourselves, asked them their names, along with other small talk till one asked where the bathroom was. I showed the group where it was and when I got back the guy that had been leading them has showed back up and very sternly informed me and Luke that, "I brought these girls over and I have first dibs on whoever I want". It was at this point that me and luke started laughing, patted him on the back and headed out to mingle with the other girls that had come in thinking nothing more of the group we had just met.

Transition into middle of the night:Seperate and Conquer It is now about eleven thirty and me and Luke have made our way up to the chapter room(Party room consisiting of three beer pong tables, a card table, pool table, and miniture dance floor). This is where me and Luke prefer to work, it is easier for us to seperate girls from their groups by asking them to play a game with us or to move in next to a group when they are playing a drinking game. We decide to start playing beer pong since we notice that the HB8 was playing beer pong with a guy while the HB6s were standing next to the table. We get on the table against the HB8. Me and Luke instantly realize the HB6 is starting down luke so I introduce us which makes her come stand next to me and luke.

This is the point where we first seperate her from her friends to get her near us and now we need a reason to keep her there talking to us. Depending on our luck and intoxication level the next step is all or nothing. As soon as I have her near and talking to me, Luke will shoot making a cup. At this point I look at her and tell her that she has to stay near us because she is our good luck charm so if she leaves then there is no way we could possibly win. Something about this has never back fired and has always kept the girl near us and talking with us. We beat the HB8 at which point I know it is now my time to seperate me and Luke. I have noticed how competative the HB8 is so I tell her with me on her team there is no way she can lose. So I walk over to the other side and Luke starts complaining to me how he now has no partner and of course the HB6 jumps at the opportunity. So we play a few games, the HB8 is giving me nothing to work at to this point. Any conversation or at this point anything I try is being shot down because she is so focused into the game. At this point I have secured Luke a girl and pretty much about to cash it in and leave till I notice the HB5 and HB9 walk back in.

Late Night and a Drunk Friend: If you are still reading up to this point and haven't fallen asleep I hope this gets a little more interesting. Up till this point my night has been decent, I never have a bad night because every night you get shot down or reject is another night of learning from your mistakes. The HB8 though very attractive was just in a different mindset then I could work with. Normally an HB9 would be something that I wouldn't try to touch or waste time with. This one was no different. She was short, blonde, petite, incredibly gorgeous, and had every guy in that house that night on her. Also from my evaluation early she looked like a girl that maybe would kiss you on date fourty. She was the girl next door that every guy wanted and she enjoyed the attention.

How do I stand out? How am I going to make a move? Hell is this a waste of time? She is so out of my league why am I even considering this? All these questions were answered in a moment when the HB6 on Luke looks over to me and goes HB9 has never played beer pong before, you should show her how to play. Game On.

This is where I know I have to work every angle. I introduce myself, I show her how to shoot the ball. Every cup she makes I make sure to high five her(I know this sounds pathetic, but contact barriers have to be broken slowly some times), then when every ball is shot from the other team I make sure to go and get them.

This is the my go to thing, when ever I hand the ball back to her I make sure for my finger to linger on her hand a little longer each time. We win the first game we play and she gives me a semi hug. Small Steps I'm thinking in my head. Then it was in the middle of game two that when I was giving the ball back to her that my fingers lingered a little longer then normal and I realized she was holding my hand, it was the eye contact at that moment and the smile on her face that I knew I wasn't just being associated with the rest of the guys. So we continue to play, I now put my arm around her between shots and she is starting to mimic my personality of teasing the other team along with wrapping her arms around me and holding my side. It was at this point that I realized it was now about one thirty in the morning and we had been playing forever.

This is where I start trying to figure out how to get away from the beer pong table and isolate her and as if god was listening Drunk John appears. In his drunken stupor he has aquired HB9 in his sights and is going full drunken hitting on her. I realize I need cause some space so I tell drunk John to play me in one last game of beer pong knowing he would make the hot blonde be his partner. The look on her face when I said that was fine when she asked if I minded was some where between anger and horror movie chase scene. I called over one of my friends because Luke has been locked down onto a couch by his HB6, so this entire game John laid it on thick and I laughed the entire time because HB9 had save me wrote all over her face. After me and my friend beat John and HB9 I decided to go sit off in the corner on a couch while John continue to spit his whiskey covered game.

The End of the Night: A Tie

So I continue to sit and watch what was going on before me waiting on the HB9 to come over and sit by me, more so hoping, which she did. Here I kept my hand on her leg running my fingers back and forth while she told me about herself and asked me some generic questions. At this point I noticed a tie hanging on the back of the couch and I put it around my neck and started to tie it. She told me she always wanted to know how to tie one, but no one ever showed her. So I knew this was my chance to get out of the chapter room. I asked her if she wanted to go sit outside where it was less loud and I would show her. She agreed, so we went outside and sat in the court yard.

Wrapping it all Up: This is where it was make it or break it. In my mind this was a number and kiss close type of night. I lived in an apartment off campus and it was about two thirty by this point. We are sitting outside alone and I had put the tie around her neck to show her and would let me fingers casually run along her neck telling her how tense she was. She would giggle and I would give her small neck massages between tieing the tie. It was at this point that I got hit like a brick wall....

HB9:So Southern what is your number?

Me:I thought guys were supposed to ask for the phone number?

HB9:No, how many girls have you been with? You seem to know what you are doing.

Me:Laughing A gentleman never kisses and tells.

HB9:Looking me in the eyes I'll tell you mine if you tell me yours.

It was at this point that it crossed my mind for the first time that what if she isn't a bible thumping virgin? Where do I go from here?

Me:I laugh Alright, my number is #.

HB9:Looking at me with a straight face So are you just trying to make me number #?

Me:Without pausing If you want to be I wouldn't mind it.

HB9:Giggling I'll consider it

At this point I leaned into kiss her and asked her sorta half heartedly if she wanted to head back to my apartment....

...she said yes.

The point to take away: Don't always be selfish when out with your buddies. Sometimes if a girl is more into them help them to secure their hook up because you never know who that girl is friends with because my greatest wingman that night was the HB6 that gave me the in I needed.

TL:DR Always call dibs on the drunk friend at the party who is wearing a tie.