first off, i admit i am still quite an amateur. in high school i was plagued by the "nice guy" syndrome, never had a gf and got fucked over badly by that "one" girl and have been trying to make up for lost time since. then i discovered electronic music, learned how to dance, and that is essentially where i have inadvertently decided i go to meet women. i've pulled many numbers, had one night stands and even a gf or two. my "game" outside of a club/rave/bar atmosphere is average at best and my only tool is that i can be pretty clever and quick when i want to be, but i SUCK at texting.

anyway, met this girl 2 months ago at a club, we hooked up, she's hot, blah blah blah. she seemed very adamant on seeing me again whenever i brought it up casually throughout the evening (for ex. she got offended when i jokingly said that she lives too far away). started texting her the next day at a VERY slow pace (like 1 or 2 a day, couple sentences worth), and seeing that she was matching my pace, i decided we weren't getting anywhere and to skip the "getting to know over text" (which i completely disclosed with her) thing and ask her out and got an almost immediate response. she tells me she's busy one weekend, but the next weekend she had to hang with family and would try to make it afterwards. it should have been a red flag to me but i've been with family at times just waiting to go hang with friends afterwards, so i figured the potential was decent. of course it wasn't and i got stood up. to be fair, it was the most painless stand-up i've had, mostly because she texted me at about 1am completely recognizing her mistake of not keeping me up to date on whether or not she would make it, which completely surprised me. i played it off cool and told her that family comes first and tried to set up another date with her. then she gives me that vague "i have no clue when i'm free" thing and i passively-aggressively tell her to hit me up when she's got some free time. at this point i was a little fed up but told her anyway about a festival i was going to and if she ended up going as well, it would be cool to see her there.

a few weeks before said festival she texts me asking if i was going to another festival that was going on before MY festival. i told her no and to save her money if she still can and go to the festival i was going to (basically). she never responded, but i kinda expected that and don't really blame her. both festivals happened regardless, but now that a new month is upon us (her last text to me was like 2 weeks ago) and a certain holiday is coming up that every male college student loves - and that she still seems to be mildly interested in seeing me again - i need to know 1) if i should bother 2) if i could bother considering the preceding events and 3) how to bother. not looking for date advice necessarily - i do pretty well on dates, but lately i've been debating on whether or not i should still give it a try and would have zero tact going into it other than "hi u busy around halloween? lol hmu." (okay not like that, but you get the deal.) thanks!