My last post seemed to help some people so I decided to write another. I just back from going to the bar with a few friends. I decided that tonight I wouldn't go chasing any girls as I needed the people closest around me. It's been a tough week but I feel stronger for it. 3 weeks ago I had never heard of PUA, the game, seduction, daygame, text game. I, like you most likely, thought if I was the nice guy, respectful guy girls would like me. How I was wrong. This entry is a bit bloated so feel free to skip through it but I hope at least one thing resonates with you and helps you on your journey.

Today I want to talk about escalation, often most afc guys think that if they wait with a girl that she will respect him more and therefore allow him to get in her pants. The truth is that girls want a guy who gives them little to no choice, I’m in no way talking about rape and if a girl ever says anything along the lines of stop then stop, if not you no man and a complete cunt. Girls want a guy who takes control and fulfills the alpha role. Even if you are the smallest, timid introvert you can imagine yourself as an alpha and pretend. Lie to yourself that you are this person and eventually you will become this person and you can stop lying. Imagine you’re a girl, there is this one guy who always texts you and is really needy. Does this sound like something you would be attracted too. Or there is this guy who is always cool, never chases you but is fun to be around so you want him to be there whenever you go out. You know he sees other girls which makes you jealous as you want all of him to yourself. These are the thoughts which go through girls head. It may seem so counter-intuitive but men and women are so different. Try it the next time you go out, get two girls numbers and try the needy approach and then try the cool, alpha approach with the other and see how it turns out. Girls like a challenge. There is a fine line between being too unavailable and too available and there is no short cut to finding this. It varies girl to girl, situation to situation. This is why life is a numbers game. The majority of the time you will get it wrong so why not do it with 100 girls and get it right with say 30 or 20 of them rather than 5 girls and get with 1 of them.

I know from first hand experience how not escalating things can rip you apart. I recently went to university and bear in mind I only started reading the game the second week of university. Since then I have spent near every waking hour reading, watching and learning the game. I would rate myself as a 6/10. I am 6’2, skinny, good fashion sense but not a classically good looking face. There was this girl I met on the first day, a real HB9. Skinny, blonde, pretty, confident. Originally I was put off by this as I thought in my afc ways ‘oh she’s too good looking.’ I got her number but never acted upon it. I saw her again a few days after the original meet and she was shocked I hadn't texted her. As you naturally do you think she is interested. I started hanging out with her friends and won them over. I even had her back to my flat but i was so afc that I didn't do anything. I still look back on this kick myself, It goes down in one the worst, most regretful moments of my life. I had put all the hard yards in but that last part i was too scared of rejection that nothing happened. I was a fucking pussy. This is why I touched upon rejection being far more ideal than never knowing. Who knows, if I went for that kiss I could be with her now, showing her off too all my friends and family. Having more fun than I could of imagined. Long story short she tells me she has feelings for me but doesn’t want to get in a relationship. We have the text flirt still going and she begs me to come out with her. So i reluctantly come out. at this point it is key to note that I know more a lot of the game. I start flirting with her friends, ignoring her, upping the kino, busting her balls the whole routine. Yet we get in the club and within 5 minutes of us being there she gets with some guy she barely knows. It is also important to note I had oneitis bad. I saw her getting with another guy, i put my drink down and left. I got the bus back and sat in my room for a good two hours in silence crying. I literally laid there in my bed and just sobbed. I’m not an emotional guy but seeing caused me break. I had physical pain from it. It felt like all my hard work, all the hours spent learning trying to get her to like me were wasted in seconds.

I hope this is a lesson to everyone out there. We have all had oneitis at one point and it sucks. Never focus all you attention on one girl. It is the worst thing you can possible do. Not only does it completely ruin your chances of getting with that one girl you like it also means when that inevitable fails you have nothing to fall back on. This is what hurt so much, you build it up in your mind to be something that it is not. It eats you from the inside and makes you cold, withdrawn and miserable. The most important thing is to blame yourself and accept responsibility. I could have easily been like fuck you, you fucking slut but instead I merely asked her to be clear in the future with guys as to what she makes them believe. I also told her if being with the guy she got with made her feel truly happy the she should go for it. The use of truly here is important. You can think of many times when you are happy but truly happy? It is not something many people can achieve and feel. Take the moral high ground and don’t be a dick. Instead of wasting that rage on her use it to motivate yourself to get an even better girl, a girl you deserve.

These last three weeks have been the biggest learning curve of my life. Although I have been rejected more than I ever had I feel confident. Everything seems to faze me less. Embrace pain and torment as it makes you so strong. I look forward to rejection more than I look forward to success now. This may seem like an alien concept but rejection means there is flaws in my game that I need to fix. Success and winning doesn’t teach me anything, it boosts my ego which is detrimental to my study and learning. I get with a few girls and I suddenly think i’m god when in fact i’m an irrelevant person who happened to be lucky.

In the future don’t be scared. The regret of me not acting and escalating it with this girl still eats away at me. I get that horrible, lead stomach just thinking about it. I never want to feel this again and i’m sure you are the same. Make a promise that the next girl you start to game you don’t pussy out. I would rather be slapped and rejected than feel this.

As you probably know girls fantasise more about sex than guys do. if a random girl can up to and said lets fuck, chances are even if she was below your usual standards you would. Girls on the other hand don’t want to talk about sex the same way guys do. Only do dirty talk if she initiates it. If you start talking about sex before she has mentioned it her slut defence will go up and she will see you as creepy. Girls know guys love sex, you don’t need to keep telling how big your dick is or how great in bed you are as this doesn’t turn her on. She wants to imagine it herself.

Actions speak louder than words. This is the key point I have been trying to get to. It’s all well being able to talk the talk but you need to be able to walk the walk. Like me you put in the hard yards but you need to have the self confidence to act upon it. What is the worst that can happen, she says she is not interested and you can seek tranquillity in her decision. You can move on before you have invested time and energy into her and started to ‘fall’ for her. Never care if a girl doesn’t like you. If she doesn’t like you say that is fine and you wish she is truly happy with the other guy (there is always an other guy) and move on. Show you are not needy and it is her that should be grateful to have you never the other way round. The truly happy statement is great as it manifests into a complex thought process where she realises she is not truly happy. Very few people are truly happy. This means she starts to see you as the answer to her insecurities, vulnerabilities and weakness. You are her answer to true happiness so act like it.

Look in the mirror and correlate the voice in your head to the person you see in the mirror. I remember the first time I did it I got shivers all down my spine as for the first time I realised I was in control. Before that it was always someone telling me what to do, be it parents, teachers or society. I felt powerful as I saw these thoughts had actions which correlated with them. I am me. I am Allure. This is my reality. I will shape it. I will be remembered. It is within my control.

Death is inevitable. You will die alone just as you are born into this world alone. Superficial relationships do not cure this. Getting with 1,000’s of women will only numb the pain. It is a quick relief to trick your emotions and conscious into thinking you are needed, loved and wanted. At the end of the day all these women you hook up with are nothing compared to that one women who understands you. Who you can break down the wall and allow her to see all that makes you, you. All the weakness and insecurities you both have are accepted and they love you for that. You will change and develop and you meet more women but never lose the core that holds you. But you won't meet the woman who understands you and you feel 100% comfortable around by being an afc and sitting inside your whole life. She is out there but it is up to you to go find her.

Ask yourself why you are even reading this? How has your life gone in a way in which you are reading this? What are your motivations? Unhappiness, a feeling of inadequacy and a need to feel normal are the most likely. Meeting women and getting to know them are a way of lifting yourself from the cesspit of negativity that festers within us. This is only the first step in your quest to better yourself. A state of perfection cannot be achieved, even the most talented and successful people still have to learn. Push yourself to limits that you didn’t know was possible. Learn and study and elevate yourself from your peers. Everyone has the capability to be special it is that only a few act on it. Stand up and be counted for. Don’t hide or be afraid to make mistakes. Worst come to worse these mistakes make great stories. You know why girls think you’re boring, because you’re scared to push yourself and make mistakes. Think if some girl rejects you, her boyfriend comes and punches you. You know how interesting people find shit like this. Think how many girls you could pick up with a black eye. Shit i'm thinking about getting my friend to punch me just so I can use that.

You don’t remember the nights you stay in. Remember the greatest nights you have had, were they sitting in your bedroom alone looking at cancerbook? No. They were going out and creating stories. Tonight go out. Don’t make excuses just do it. Get ready and go. Aim to be there for just 30 minutes then come back. Talk to as many people as you can then go. If you get rejected by every single one of them that is a great night. That is the best kind of night. I live for those kind of nights. Because you know what those nights give me so much motivation and energy that the next night I know it is going to be successful. I know that i’m going to study and practice harder than i ever have. What is there to lose? People are far more friendly than we perceive. We always assume worst case scenario which limits us significantly. Just go and connect with people. Don’t even think of getting past small talk just go and break that barrier. Go, hit them with everything you think you know and then go. Girls will be following you around for the night wanting you to spend seconds more with them as you are more interesting than their whole friend group combined. Girls automatically assume you are another creepy guy who wants to fuck them. Completely disarm yourself, say you are not interested, say that you are gay, say you are married. Say anything that will cause her to relax and then work your game. Relaxing the girl will make kino far easier as she assumes you don’t want anything. But what will happen is she will be annoyed that you are not interested as she wants you. You are in her head, you have touched her, you have connected with her and then just like that you are gone. This will escalate her attraction for you. Disarm, connect, interact, intrigue, touch and then go, If she goes to kiss go for the cheek and say your not like that. It will drive her so crazy she will do anything just to be with you as you appear alpha, superior, a commander.

It’s nearly 4 o’clock and feel I have vented enough. Please leave a comment be it negative or positive and it will be upvoted and I will respond. Ultimately I am as clueless as you, working together is the only way we will fully understand seduction and pick ups. Never stop learning and improving. You are here for a reason so shape your reality and future and realise you are in control. Embrace it and use it in the limited time we have.

As always

Allure