There's a lot in here. Some of this is not directly from the field, but it was critical to my success tonight.

10 AM:

Wake up. Read more of The Manual (highly recommended, though read Models first if you haven't). Then I mediate.

During meditation I decide that I am the most important person in my life. That I am going to put myself first. I make this decision consciously and begin to act on it throughout the day. I am awesome. Nobody can tell me otherwise.

4 PM:

I'm at work. Bossy female co-worker calls demanding we do something for her. I've always shied away from confronting her as she is very domineering when she wants something. Not Today. I stand up to her and tell her her behavior is unacceptable.

I put myself first. I am building my confidence.

6 PM:

Work continues. I make a list of the mindset I want when I am approaching women. My list is as follows:

  • You are the most important person in your life.
  • All women are 'easy'. They just don't want to be seen as easy.
  • She wants to go home with you. (Be Optimistic!)
  • No girl is out of your league because there is no "league" at all.
  • You are a sex god. Giving women the opportunity to go home with you is a gift. (Note: I honestly believe this. I am really really good in bed.)
  • You don't need to be funny. That's trying to prove yourself / trying to "earn" women. (Note: I don't believe I am a funny person. Trying to be what I am not is forcing the issue).
  • SHE IS INTO YOU.

9 PM:

Work ends. The local basketball team is on TV (I'm a huge basketball fan). I head to my favorite bar. Here's where the real "Field Report" begins.

I get to the bar and I see two women sitting at the bar who are very attractive. The most attractive girls (to me) in the bar. I don't approach immediatley (GASP). I am not here to meet women. I am here to watch the game. This is my priority. If I want to talk to women I will do so when the basketball game is on commercial break. I am putting myself first.

Even so, my limiting beliefs are floating through my head. I think "She's out of my league", "theres no way she'd be into me", "i'm not good at approaching girls in a group".

FUCK THAT. I accept what I'm doing. I'm resisting change (as Mark Manson would say. READ MODELS). I decide that I am going to approach them when it is best for me, after the quarter ends during a commercial break.

During the break between the 3rd and 4th Qs, the two women walk outside to smoke. Perfect opportunity. They are now open faced and I can do a frontal approach.

THE APPROACH:

I look at my list one more time and dive right in.

  • Shoulders back. Standing up straight. Head held high. Great body language.
  • I approach them directly. I am positive as fuck. Huge smile.
  • I say "Hi. My name is ___" and introduce myself. They respond positively (because I'm positive and have good body language and portray confidence, etc. etc.)
  • I start with a cold read and guess who their favorite local basketball players are. Turns out its like the worst mother fucker on the team (I mean really? WTF.) I poke fun of this. I stand my ground and call them out on liking the WORST MOTHERFUCKER ON THE TEAM. (I MEAN REALLY?).
  • I mostly maintain eye contact with the girl I am more attracted to (Girl A) and Kino with her.
  • Small talk, blah blah blah.

I realize the game is back on and go back inside. Again, I am putting myself first. I care more about the game than these women.

THE FOLLOW-UP:

After watching the game for a bit I approach them again. We talk about the game and I try to escalate with the Girl A. She's not really into it, but I persist.

I am invited to come smoke by Girl B and I decide that yes, I would like to smoke. So I come with them.

More small talk. More kino with Girl A. She's not digging it. Girl A is drifting away from me, while Girl B is trying to get closer. Girl A says she's leaving. Girl B asks me to stay and hang out with her.

THE PIVOT:

Girl A leaves, leaving me alone with Girl B.

This was terrifying to me. My single biggest weakness is not the approach, not feeling confident, but carrying on interesting conversation with women. I have a long history of social anxiety. I SUCK at communicating.

BUT I FUCKING DID IT.

I shared myself and my life. I was vulnerable (READ MODELS) and shared things that developed a much deeper connection with Girl B. I got to know her and her life. I escalated physically. This continued on for a solid hour.

THE # CLOSE:

I asked for her number. She gave it to me happily.

Yeah that's it. #-Closes aren't about asking for the number. If you do everything else right women will be ecstatic to give it to you.

I also texted her a quick "Hey Cutie =D" with my name so she had my number. Not sure if this was a + or a -. She didn't really respond to it. W/e. I thought it was cute. Haha.

THE K-CLOSE:

This is so fucking perfect. I'm really proud of myself for this one.

So me and B are talking. She's talking about how she doesn't want to be the owner of a company but would rather be part of one. She'd rather be a part of something greater that gives her purpose. I say it reminds me of a Fleet Foxes lyrics from Helplessness Blues (see footnote).

I sing the lyric to her.

She's incredibly flustered, like "oh my god this guy just sang to me holy shit what the fuck just happened". I grab her arm gently, pull her toward me, and kiss her. Perfect first kiss right?

Couple of things to note here:

  • I had already established in our conversation that I was a singer and loved fleet foxes, so brining this up was totally authentic.
  • I fucking love singing, so me singing to her in the middle of the bar was totally authentic for me.
  • I had sung this song dozens of times before at open mics and performances. I knew it by heart. It's one of my favorite songs.
  • I'm going to say it again, but this was totally authentic. This was not planned. I had never even dreamed of doing this to a girl before. But that's why it worked so well. It was in the moment and very much me.

The Attempted F-Close:

She's like head the fuck over heels into me at this point. Straight up googly eyes. I close my tab and go outside for a bit. I tell her that I want her to come back to my place but she resists. We're making out and she physically she wants to jump my bones, but she's still resisting. I tell her in multiple ways to come back with me, finally resorting to just a straight up "I want you to come back to my place". She resists. I'm ok with this. She's not comfortable enough with me yet. She will be.

I say goodbye and go home.

Conclusion:

YOUR MINDSET IS FUCKING EVERYTHING.

  • If you believe you will have success with women, you will have success with women.
  • If you believe you are valuable, women will see you as valuable.
  • If you belive she isn't into you, she won't be into you

and so on and so on.

The single biggest thing you can do to improve your success with women is change your mindset. It's why I started this post with deciding that I was the most important person in my life.

Thanks for reading. Hopefully this helps others.

The lyric is:

"I was raised up believing I was some how unique / like a snowflake distinct among snowflakes unique in each way you can see / and now after something thinking I'd say I'd rather be / a function cog in some great machinery turning something beyond me."

I also want to note that my success tonight took a lot of fucking work. I've been on a path of self-improvement for two and a half years. I've lost 80lbs. I've conquered my social anxiety. I've conquered my Approach Anxiety (I did 100 approaches in a week). I've had many success along the way, but I've had 10x as many failures. The most important thing for you to do is to stay on the path. Commit to improving yourself and you will get there.