Just a few days ago I was posting about my AFCness. Today I have a new story to tell. I'm going to talk about outcome independence and how it has helped me. But first, I am going to give a little background of a few of the successes I've had (no F closes, still working on that).

  1. Earlier this summer I was invited to a party by a friend of mine. I've always been kind of shy and haven't talked to girls much in the way of seduction. There was an HB 9 at this party that I was intimidated to talk to. Whatever, I was just there to have fun. I went out to the campfire and was talking to the people around the fire. I was talking about how I wanted to start brewing my own beer and educating some of them about the process. We all kept talking about different subjects for about an hour or so. I didn't even pay attention to the HB 9 because I was afraid I'd blow it, and I was already enjoying myself talking to her friends. Her friends accepted me quickly and we had good conversation. The HB 9 kept inching herself my way and somehow we ended up alone at the campfire talking about random stuff. We ended up making out. I got her number at the end of the night when I left.
    *I went to that party without expecting anything to happen, talked to people and had a good time, and ended up making out with a super hot girl. Outcome independence.

  2. That next weekend I met a friend at a dive bar to sing some karaoke. One of his friends was with him. I'd rate her as an HB 7, but her personality and 'spunkiness' took her up to a 9 in my book. I'd met her once before but I didn't remember her (which I think shocked her a little bit [a little hit to her ego]). I was talking with my buddy and simply wanted to have a good time. We sang a few karaoke songs, and I drug her up to sing a duet with me (I'd never sung karaoke before until tonight because I just wanted to have fun). We were sitting around a table and I stood up because I was tired of sitting. HB 7 said, "why are you standing? That's just awkward. Sit down." I almost did and then I replied, "no." She squinted her eyes at me and said, "Oh you're good." Until then I really hadn't considered flirting with her. More flirting ensued and we ended up having a drink together at a different bar. One thing led to another and I ended up K-closing her there, getting her number, and hanging out more that weekend.
    *I went to hang out with my friends without expecting anything to happen. Talked to a new girl, had a good time, and ended up making out with her too. Outcome independence.

  3. Went to a bar and met some of the same group of friends. When I got there everyone was drunk and greeted me rather enthusiastically (good social proof). I was drinking and having a good time when I started talking to another girl I'd met previously (HB 9) (from the same group). We chatted and dirty danced a little bit. Didn't K-close that night. I added her on facebook later, and we met up to go rock climbing. we got rained out so we grabbed some appetizers at a nearby restaurant, and when the rain let up we went on a small hike. There was a perfect double rainbow, which led to another K-close for me. We hung out a few more times after that but it didn't progress and we both lost interest. *Again, I went out not expecting anything, and I ended up dating a really cool girl. I just was there to have fun. Outcome independence.

  4. This one happened tonight. I've been kind of down lately and decided to make a change. I got Neil Strauss's book, "Rules of the Game" and did the first challenge. I hung out with a few classmates tonight and went to a concert with them. After the concert, they had to study so I went back home. on the way home I went by my friend's house, where they were throwing a going away party. I stopped by to say goodbye to the person moving away. I decided to mingle with as many people as I could to get challenge 2 out of the way. I ended up taking shots, so I don't remember how many people I talked to (I think about 7) or their eye color (which was part of the challenge). I talked to this one girl (HB 7.5) and a guy for a little bit before I began mingling again. Everyone ended up migrating to a bar and I saw her again. We began swing dancing, even though it was club music. I tried to escalate KINO as best as I know how until we were alternating between dirty dancing and swing. I finally moved in for the K-close. She was a little hesitant (probably because it was in the middle of the dance floor). We kissed a few times on the dance floor. At the end of the night I invited her to come to my place to try some of my beer but she had already committed to staying at her friends' house for the night. I got her number and she said she'd keep me updated on what they were doing the next night. *Went to friend's house to say goodbye to friend moving away. I decided to mingle. I met a cute girl. I mingled more. We ended up kissing in a bar and may go out tomorrow night still. Outcome independence.

I think she will probably flake because I was aggressive. She lives out of town though, and I needed an ego boost. Just a few days ago I was on seddit talking about how much of an AFC I am. Seriously guys, go out and talk to a few people because you never know what might come of it. There is something magical about going into a situation without any expectation. Each time I expect something to happen, it doesn't. Take an opportunity if it presents itself. Be a yes man. Carry yourself with confidence because the sky really is the limit. I've been reading PUA material for a while now. If you know an opener or two (I didn't even use any yet) you can go places. If you've been reading PUA material for even a few weeks, you have the tools you need to get a # close.

TLDR: Every situation I've gone into without thinking anything would come of it has turned into a K-close. I really do mean every situation.