How not to wear virginity on my sleeve?

IntensePancakes · 2014-01-10T02:42:36+00:00

Honestly, it'll be hard for you to hide who you really are when it comes down to it. You don't need to run from it. That doesn't mean be upfront about it to every girl you meet, but if it comes up there's no need to lie or pretend to have any experience that you don't have. There's absolutely nothing wrong with your situation, and anyone who says otherwise isn't worth a millisecond of your time.

As long as you are not ashamed of it, girls will not be either. In fact, virginity can even be an attractive trait if you spin it the right way. A buddy of mine is virgin and he attracts girls like crazy. This is because he has an attractive personality, and isn't ashamed of the fact that he is virgin. When prompted he simply and truthfully says that he hasn't met a girl yet that he was attracted to enough to want to lose his virginity with. This raises his value because it shows him as non-needy, and it ends up with many girls wanting to be that special first one.

Focus on your strengths, be humble about your weaknesses. If you are an otherwise attractive person (not physically but personality-wise) and are not ashamed of your virginity or lack of romantic experience, it won't be a problem.

Also you mentioned you can't handle awkward situations. The thing is, no matter how good you get you will always have some awkward situations. Awkwardness is a part of life and if you learn to embrace it you'll find a lot more success with women.

kingcal · 2014-01-10T04:20:39+00:00

I know that just saying, "Don't worry about it," is not really helpful advice, but there are two important things you need to realize.

First of all, among young adults sex happens a lot less than you think. That study shows that among men 18 - 25, only 28% have had more than one sexual partner.

Second of all, the first misunderstanding affects how we think in a massive way. We believe that when we're young, that's the best time for sex. You're young and life is easy. Everyone's having sex, right? Not really.

Young people are always assuming that everyone but them is having sex. It's a huge contributing factor to self-esteem problems. The bottom line for you is that no one is going to look at you and assume you're a virgin. I have met a fair number of virgins during and after college (all of them female now that I think of it) and they're not physically disabled, mentally handicapped, obese, or even unattractive people. They're totally normal people who just haven't had sex yet.

MagnumDolphin · 2014-01-10T01:59:32+00:00

Stop caring what other people think of you. Do your own thing. You will be better off for it

WeedenWainbow · 2014-01-10T06:37:03+00:00

I used to wear a watch on my wrist but then I lost it

2014-01-10T03:42:17+00:00

I promise that they can't tell. My now long term boyfriend (coming up on our second anniversary) was exactly in your position when I met him, and I and nobody else could tell. There's no club for people looking for long-term relationships, and unfortunately it's just a matter of being patient until the right person comes along. :( I know it's cold comfort from a stranger on the Internet doe.

TL;DR meet lots of people until you find someone right.

Urasquirrel · 2014-01-10T07:08:51+00:00

There is no replacement for getting experience. Have you ever been to a troubleshooting forum? Thats what this is if im not mistaken. Get your hands dirty be confident and come back with a feild report. Realixe this one thing. No matter how calm and collected and put together a girl tries to put off that she is. She's not. She may even convince herself that she is and that may be even the worst kind, but remember this. Men and women were made to be together as polar opposites to equal each other out and they/girls need you(biologically, psychologically, spiritually, and emphatically! They cant live without you. They just dont know it yet because you havent shown them. Learn about them, talk to them about them and be truly interested. Make them laugh, have a couple sips of a 5 hour energy! Have fun. If you arent having fun they can smell it like an animal. Girls just want to have fun and they will follow the fun. Be fun to them. Find out what girls find fun. Try getting a job working around mostly girls.

dELUXE- · 2014-01-10T10:13:25+00:00

Be proud of it. It's not a shame. I am a virgin too and whenever someone asks me about it I admit it without ant bad feelings about it.

2014-01-10T19:11:47+00:00

The funny thing about this - it isn't on your sleeve. Nobody knows but you. Every time you meet a new person, you get to be a new person, yourself.

Reddit_SLC · 2014-01-10T03:37:28+00:00

It sounds to me like your biggest problem is confidence.

"I feel like my lack of sexual or romantic experience screams out." What? A chick will have no clue if you don't tell them. You need to work on your confidence. Lack of sexual or romantic experience shouldn't be a problem. Fake it until you make it. Just act like you've had some experience that would be normal for your age and go about your business.

Title	How not to wear virginity on my sleeve?
Author	MeesterWestside
Upvotes	16
Comments	13
Date	January 10, 2014 1:29 AM UTC (12 years ago)
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