I've been following TRP since this summer. Always had confidence and some type of game, but couldn't go further with girls. My experiences were limited to one long teenage relationship and <10 girls I've made out with. No sex. Reading the material here I quickly realized what my problems were, main one being escalation.

Then I started lifting a lot more, watching my diet. Been making some gains and people compliment me on it. Adapted a mindset where I'm the prize and trying to be aware of keeping frame in every interaction.

I never thought it would be that easy. Most of my approaches now are minimal talking, eye contact and confident physical contact. I've even gotten approached in clubs just by making solid eye contact from across the room.

In the span of a few months I've now had or tried to have sex with 3 girls.

  1. ONS with a HB6, after foreplay she's dripping wet, I'm just staring at her wondering why I'm not getting hard. Nothing happened, because I couldn't get it up, told her it's the alcohol (I barely even had any that night) and that you should probably leave. That was that, no contact afterwards.

  2. Another HB6 that needed a bit of warming up, ended up coming over on the third meet. Again I'm taking my time, teasing her. I get a half-boner, get a condom and stick it in. First time. Fucking awkward. I have a lot of experience with BJJ type wrestling but this is some difficult shit bros. Finally I get a good position, just standing next to the bed spreading her legs, and I'm rock hard. Go at it for a while, feels alright, I don't know what the fuss was about. Then I tell her to turn over, grabbing her waist and beginning to flip her. She resists and says "No, I don't like it like that." My erection just disappears instantly, I'm staring at my dick, then at her, fucking astounded. No matter what I do, my dick won't follow. I call it a night and tell her to leave. She still wants to meet and keeps hitting me up, getting mad when I ignore her messages. I'm just too weirded out and don't know if I wanna see her anymore. Can't ignore her totally cause of social circle though.

  3. Best looking of these three. I like her body a lot, I stare at it thinking about fucking her. I've been very dominant with her and she's telling me she likes it. She's a tall girl and always gets wet when I carry her to bed and pin her against it. Been reading some /u/VasiliyZaitzev and it's textbook. Now here's the catch. We've seen like five times, every time we end up nearly having sex. Two times where she's butt naked waiting for me to put it in, but I'm not getting hard. I haven't lost frame but I'm surprised that she still wants to meet at all. She's very cuddly and wants to do it, but with her it takes super long to get to the naked part. Fully clothed I might get rock hard just touching her thigh, feeling her soaking wet through the pants. I just want to rip her clothes off and instantly fuck her, but it takes forever for her to finally take her clothes off. Keeps stopping me and that kills my boner. When we're finally butt naked I can't get excited about it anymore. I somehow get this very stressful feeling and no kind of breathing or calming down helps. We just always end up cuddling and talking about shit. I want to keep seeing her, just so it can help me get more comfortable having sex.

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In my teenage relationship we often laid in bed with our underwear and I was always rock hard, I was very comfortable and not stressed at all in those situations. I'm very confident outside of the bedroom but in there I feel like I'm still a fake alpha trying to fake it till I make it. Then end up actually being stressed and anxious over having sex.

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I used to watch porn and masturbate daily, for years. I quit that a few months ago. I don't get morning woods often, but I still get them sometimes. I used to have an urge to masturbate every day, getting a raging boner that I need to take care of before going to sleep. Now that I've done nofap I don't get that urge anymore. Might be that I'm not a teenager anymore though. I know it's not a physical problem, if I open a porn video, I can get hard instantly. Without porn it takes a while and I haven't really found the thoughts that get me going. But I can still get hard relatively easy. Been meditating and doing everything else, but I'm running out of options. I don't want to take any pills, because I know It's all mental and I want to get over the stress that's associated with having sex.