18M. I kinda fucked up, (was drunk) but I think I can rebound. Need advice on how to.

bananapancakes123 · 2014-01-28T18:04:14+00:00

I'm no expert on this kind of stuff, but this is my opinion anyway. Also, I'm a girl, so guys may think differently to what I'm about to say.

First thing to remember... You need to stop seeking her approval and validation all the time. Don't go asking things like 'can I make it up to you?' 'I'm really sorry.' 'Are we still good?' Comments like this are ruining your image and will make you look like a bit of a push over. Girls respond to guys that are confident and can demonstrate higher value. By buying presents for a girl you've never even gone on a date with or kissed... and by always seeking her approval you are lowering your value in her eyes by trying too hard. You are giving her all the power Just play it cool. Stop trying too hard. Girls can smell that kind of stuff a mile away.

Maybe you could invite some friends over to yours or something. And invite her and some of her friends too. I like your idea of doing something as a group anyway. If you do this, try and get chatting to her friends. You need to get them on side. Girls care a lot about what their friends think. So try and get on with her friends.

Apart from that, just be cool and avoid asking questions which involve seeking her approval or validation.

Best of luck with it :)

FinaleStuff · 2014-01-28T18:17:52+00:00

You're young... It's been like a month since you two started talking too... If I were her, I'd think you're way too much of a push over. You need to relax, and be friends with her first. Also, the biggest thing to get a girl, is for sure being happy with yourself, and your position in life. You can't make others happy if you're not happy yourself. You seem as if you're trying to make something perfect, out of nothing.

Definitely_Working · 2014-01-28T18:22:04+00:00

Really man, your biggest step would be to just own up to it for yourself, not to her, then, quit seeming so needy and insecure. All you needed was a simple apology for acting like a fool, then man up and start to actually act like you aren't just pushing to make her like you with gifts and plans for valentines day. You need to calm down and stop worrying about it, I've seen girls act incredibly dumb while drunk,but you just forget about it and move on.

So all in all, you really just need to drop the hurt puppy routine and just relax and be normal. She probly would completely have forgotten it in a day or two if you didn't bring it up repeatedly. If something like that happens, just own up to it and apologize but don't act like it really hurt you and is still affecting you. Don't pull out extra activities just to try and make it better, it's unnecessary.

Times that I have acted like this have been unsalvagable most of the time, atleast for me, so you may be shit out of luck. Acting like this will lead you to the friend zone quicker than anything, I made a lot of the same mistakes. It's pretty much up there as the #1 turn off for women in my experience.

I assure you I'm not trying to insult you! Just trying to make it clear that the overly apologetic attitude is way worse then acting stupid when drunk.

Title	18M. I kinda fucked up, (was drunk) but I think I can rebound. Need advice on how to.
Author	LavenderMan
Upvotes	2
Comments	11
Date	January 28, 2014 5:41 PM UTC (12 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
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