Warning : walls of text.

So I recently got out of a ltr and had my first date since the breakup last night. Overall I'd say I did pretty good, I got her to laugh a lot and we kissed and touched etc etc.

My problem was I visibly gave too much of a fuck. I mean I made it pretty clear to her that I'm really emotionally invested in her. I'm pretty sure I also came off as really eager to have sex/and or desperate. Feeling that I came off this way left me really emotionally drained last night. When I got home I just had this pervasive worry that I fucked up.

She sent me a Facebook message right when I got home, and I screwed up again there a little by indicating that I kinda felt like I didn't do a good job. She returned good vibes with me and we drifted the conversation in a more sexual direction. But then all the sudden she pulls back and says she's hesitant to get physical because of her last relationship and some trust issues that formed as a fallout of that. I respond by telling her that I don't want to move to fast for her, but that I want her to let me know if she decides she isn't in to me.

She says she likes me and that she'll let me know if that changes. I can't really remember how the conversation went after that, but I know I felt shitty after it ended. I just felt like I had so much game before our date and then boom I'm a nervous wreck.

I'm unsure if she's pulling away or just being cautious before we have sex for the first time. I know I am over thinking all of this because I am really emotionally invested in her already. I don't want to be this emotionally invested in her at this stage because she indicated at one point that she wasn't there yet herself. I can't be emotionally invested in a girl that isn't emotionally invested in me. I mean that's all kinds of fucked. I know I need to just relax and space things out and try not to give a fuck.

Any advice in general would be greatly appreciated. More specific advice on how to bring her emotionally closer to me is also appreciated. I know I should be going after lots of girls as lots of girls are no doubt into me, but I really like this one girl. I mean she's a perfect 10 in my eyes, and her getting a 10 has more to do with her personality than her body. Talk about one-itis. Thanks everyone who read this far, your help and support mean a lot to me.

Tl;Dr first date in three years. Good light kino. Getting mixed messages about having sex. Seems to really want me and then pulls back. Over thinking it? No doubt. I'm too emotionally invested too early. Need advice.