The reason why most guys play it safe in a set and try to pick their words carefully is because they're trying hard to not fuck the situation up. They've entered into the night and have talked to a couple girls but really wanna hit it off with one girl. So they try to make things work as best as possible. Sounds like a good plan right? But the reality is that because you're trying so hard for the close and for things to just go well, if they don't go well or take a slight turn you'll immediately be shook and lose your frame and be anxious.

Now let's say that as the night went on you made out with a couple girls already and danced with some as well. Most of you may believe that this situation would be pretty solid and a night well spent. Which is understandable, sounds like a pretty solid night to me as well. But the point is that because you already THINK that you "succeeded" by making out with a chick or that it's a satisfying night because you danced with a lot of girls, you immediately start not giving a fuck, well that's what I do anyway.

I think, "well I already had a lot of fun, met some girls, danced, got a couple make outs so I might as well just go around and bullshit through sets for fun". I believe this is the mindset you should be having when you step in at first. Once I get into this mindset I could literally just walk up to any girl no matter how hot and just start talking because I literally wouldn't care. I would think I already had a lot of fun tonight so this can't be a bad night no matter what happens in this set. Doing this allows me to approach the most hottest girls when I normally wouldn't because of anxiety. And even when I do approach, most of the time I bullshit and just say whatever I please because I think it's funny and I wanna say it.

I think this is a good foundation to have. Don't worry about what to say at all, maybe go in and use a pickup line that's not overly beaten to death. Ask questions to her and make jokes. For example a girl I was talking to was getting distracted because she had to buy her drinks so I would whisper into her ear that I would spot her or something along the lines and then I'd joke and say I was kidding and I'd ask what if I actually did spot you though. These are the little things I'm talking about. Granted later on I tried to close just for the hell of it but I couldn't manage to do it and I'm not disappointed by that at all.

Sometimes I would go up to girls even when I know things aren't going to go well and I just start talking and saying whatever comes to mind, if the girl doesn't walk away but isn't replying i still keep talking too lol. It's pretty funny, some girls would just straight up ignore you but not leave which I think is the best. Because you can just stay there and keep saying random shit, it's a good exercise to not giving a fuck.