not caring vs making something happen

IntensePancakes · 2014-02-10T04:32:05+00:00

I used to be confused by this too. The happy medium is that you need to go after what you want, but be outcome independent. Be unapologetic with your attraction towards a woman. If you want to make a move, make it. Don't overthink it. However, if you get rejected, brush it off and move on, because there's millions of other women.

HappyJerk · 2014-02-10T14:17:21+00:00

People on this subreddit have no idea what it means to "not care." You obviously have to care to some degree. The point is to have an interesting, exciting life such that if a woman rejects you its not a big deal.

Nahtanos · 2014-02-10T19:26:10+00:00

Yeah, it's another paradox in the game. On the one hand, we're all looking for an outcome: sex. But in order to get it, we need to release all dependence on the outcome. I think the best answer would be as follows. You should ALWAYS try to make something happen BUT you shouldn't care what happens during that process. So it's not a matter of either/or, a dichotomous mindset that are odds with each other. Both attitudes actually go together.

dfr4nk · 2014-02-10T22:37:43+00:00

appreciate it. a lot of people make it seem like you should do nothing and let girls come to you, and theres a shred of truth to that. but with a plummeting attention span in this country i feel like its important to keep pushing every now and then

Title	not caring vs making something happen
Author	dfr4nk
Upvotes	12
Comments	4
Date	February 10, 2014 3:20 AM UTC (12 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
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