I’ve mostly been a lurker here for about a month and a half, and I’ve been applying the concepts and philosophies I’ve read here on my game (total newbie though). And now I have a mini [FR] and some questions to present to you. Sorry for any language and grammatical errors.

So my long-time friend and I hit the clubs this past Saturday. My friend recently became a father and this was his first time going out since then, so he was happy just being there in the moment in that atmosphere. We had a blast and talked about this and that, being a father vs myself being alone in a new city. I brought up my attempt at “reinventing” myself; gaining more confidence, working on my body and trying to not give a hoot about what people think of me. About how I’ve been doing NoFap (three weeks so far!) and how I’ve tried soloing at clubs a couple times. He offered to be my wingman for the evening and I accepted his offer graciously.

So we pounded a couple brewskies at a few bars before we went to the club (I’m not ready to game sober yet… still need that liquid courage!). We arrived at the club and sat and chilled when I noticed two cute girls (one brunette and one blonde) at the bar, who later moved to a table to sit. I said we should approach and just converse a little. I also told him I had dibs on the brunette (I tend to lean that way) and that he should chat up the blonde and keep her distracted while I game the brunette.

Anyways, AA kicked in (even though we were two!) and we hesitated for a couple minutes. But we snapped out of it and lunged forward. My legs just moved towards their table as if they had a mind of their own. We asked them if we could sit down and they welcomed us with open arms (see, not that hard to approach!). Apparently my wingman had misunderstood me earlier and sat next to the brunette, leaving me with the blonde girl. Luckily it turned out that closer up the blonde was WAY cuter, so I couldn’t have been happier!

At first there was a little group conversation, introductions and the likes. My wingman was a total bro though, and kept the brunette “distracted” with interesting conversation, so that I could focus on miss blondie. We talked and I could tell she was totally digging it, conversation just flowed! I put my arm up on the headrest of the couch (so that it was basically around her) and she scooted closer.

Some friends of the brunette turned up and wanted the girls to go dance. We went with them but I could tell that my wingman was uncomfortable with the intimate nature of the dancing (he has a very serious relationship with his awesome girlfriend) so I told the girls we’d see them later, and we headed for the bar.

A little time passes and, of course, the girls come seeking us out. I talk to miss blondie, and my wingman talks to the brunette. At this point he drops the “I have a girlfriend and a two month old at home” to her, and she actually gets really pissed. She definitely wanted the D. So she basically storms off, leaving me, my wing and miss blondie. We talk, laugh and have a lot of fun, she’s charming and can talk… a lot.

I’m getting lots of IoI’s from her, the most obvious one being the following. I have an old-fashioned name which everyone in my country associates with a movie title. So I tell her “Yeah, I’m a movie star. Want my autograph?”, to which she responds “Yes! I’ll let you sign anywhere!”.

Time keeps going and my wingman, even though this his first time properly winging, feels it’s time to give us some alone time, and slyly says “I feel like winning some cash, I’m gonna go play some blackjack”. Such a bro!

Blondie and I keep talking, building rapport and receiving IoI’s. My wing returns and blondie wants us to go to the bar downstairs. Along the way she meets some friends and I think they say something about drama involving aforementioned brunette. So she goes with them and tells us to “wait here”. Are we going to do that? Hell no. We go to the bar and talk to some girls there (amazing how easy it is to approach once you do it the first time).

After a little while, blondie comes looking for us. Here we are, talking to other girls (DHV). I give her a kiss on the cheek as she comes to stand by me. I get my phone out of my pocket and just hand it to her. Without any words being exchanged she punches in her number. I call it and, lo and behold, her phone rings!

My friend orders some water (time to try to sober up) and I drag blondie on to the dance floor playing 80’s music. Both of us press against each other, so there’s literally not an inch of space between us. We dance like this for a couple of minutes and then I go in for the kiss. It’s great and I tease her, moving in and then pulling away last second. She flings her arms around my neck and we go into total make out mode.

Time passes and it’s close to closing time. I tell her she should come home with my, but she resisted (she still lives with her parents and she promised the brunette that she could spend the night there). She tells me to add her on facebook and to contact her as she hails kisses on me. She skirts off and I find my wingman and thank him for being totally awesome. He’s just happy he could help. What a guy!

Fast forward to Monday night and I send her a text. She answers like four hours later and we exchange four or five texts over the course of the evening.

Anyways, on to sum it up and a couple questions to you, fellow seducers. Blondie and I really hit it off, she was fun and charming with a killer body. Great conversation, rapport, constant escalation and IoI’s led to a K and #-close.

I didn’t feel that she’s girlfriend material however. My testosterone-filled mind and body (the “consequence” of three weeks NoFap) honestly just wants to fuck her brains out, with the hopes of a flourishing FWB relationship. I however don’t want to waste time text gaming and such. So my questions to you are:

  • How forward and assertive can I be in my next text to her? I plan on waiting for her to send a text, seeing as how I sent the first one. Can I say something like: “Look, I don’t want to waste time texting. I thought you were charming and sexy as hell. Is Thursday 8 o’clock good for drinks?”.

  • When should I drop the “I’m not looking for a relationship”-bomb? I don’t want to be an asshole and sleep with her and then never see her again. I like women and find them interesting and having one to talk to and sleep with without any strings attached would be nice.

So yeah. Looking for a FWB relationship with her. If I get rejected it wouldn’t really be a loss, but damn, it would feel good to fuck her. Then who knows, we might be super-compatible. Only time will tell. This turned out to be a lot longer than I imagined, so if you made it this far I sincerely thank you!

TL;DR: Met blonde. Got number. Made out. Got a couple of questions for you.