Hi all,

This is my very first post so apologies if formatting isn't standard. A little about me: I'm a 23 recent college grad living at home with my parents until I apply to medical school in June. I've always been self-conscious and shy but I've been trying to start learning how to attract women.

I'm still a virgin at 23. I've made out with a couple girls but that's about it. The last girlfriend I had was when I was 16. I feel like I have no idea what to do. Anyways, I've been lurking on seddit and decided to go out and approach.

Last night I ended up DDing for a couple friends, so I didn't drink the whole night. The first bar we went to was kind of dead, but the second one was bumping, cute girls everywhere. Here's where I kind of got frustrated. I would see really cute girls walking by but I felt so nervous and couldn't muster the courage to approach.

Spotted a blonde (HB 8) and her friend (HB7) and decided to approach and as I walked up and said hi, the HB8 shoved me out of the way and said no. I was a little thrown off at first but it actually didn't feel as bad as I thought it was.

A while later I ended up approaching a girl and said: "Excuse me, I saw you from across the bar and I liked your style so I had to come say hi." Unfortunately the conversation lulled and I ejected but I know I still have a lot to learn.

Some takeaway questions for all of you: What do I do with my fucking hands? I keep putting them in my pocket, and when they aren't in my pocket I want to fold my arms but I know that doesn't send very good body language.

I have problems mustering up the courage to approach sometimes but usually its building attraction and keeping the conversation going and getting the number that I have such a hard time with. Does anyone have pointers?

One other thing I need to work on is over-thinking everything. Most of my friends are very good with women and don't really offer to help me. When I ask for advice they usually don't answer or get annoyed. It's a little intimidating where I feel like I don't do well with women and they are dating several different girls at the same time.

I have a lot more questions, thanks guys