How do you create a connection with someone?

RandianHero · 2014-03-20T07:45:52+00:00

Ask yourself: what are you doing to make people want to hang around you? Are you interesting? Are you particularly hilarious? Do you always make people happy when you're near? Are you insightful in any way? Helpful? Especially skilled?

If all you're bringing to the table is physical fitness, nobody is going to want to take any time with you beyond that initial impression. You need to be a person of substance for them to give a shit about you. Remember: the world does not care who you are. It only cares about what you can offer it.

hwdal · 2014-03-20T08:10:02+00:00

"I fear of losing the attraction"

Its aparent by the language you use in your writing that you have trouble with your inner game. You will not be able to develop and emotion connection with someone until you learn how to be yourself.

Now hold on.... Dont skewer me for saying "Be your self". Listen.

When you develop your inner game you develop a very strong sense of self. You develop a sense of self worth. You develop an attitude that allows you to express yourself in a way that is congruent and confident.

So where do you begin?

Well all of these inner game intricacies start with your belief systems. They start with the personal story that you tell yourself in your head. Is the person in your head telling you "you are so attractive, girls love you.. There are beautiful women everywhere jumping out at me. They need me because I am the man they have been looking for, I'm so carefree and they can see it in my eyes. Im like a release for them."

These thoughts... The story in your head... The internal dialogue..

Thats the indication of your beliefs.

Girls can sense when your internal dialogue says "DOES SHE LIKE ME!? I DONT KNOW!! I hope she thinks Im cool and attractive... Frig... She has huge tits... maybe ill get to see them.. If im lucky..."

Do you see how these two beliefs conflict? How much better would it feel to think and feel like the first one?

Lets look at some examples in your writing.

Example:

1) "always been the gamer in highschool was very shy and quite" 2) "I could've asked to see her tits :/"

Using the two examples I have chosen above I will break it down for you.

1) The first example is indictive of a predisposed opinion you have of yourself. These beliefs, that you are shy and quiet are probably things that you tell yourself frequently.

This belief is damagin because you will transfer the blame for your lack of attractive qualities on what you might consider unchangeable. The funny thing is, even if you ARE quiet and awkward, if you are confident and strong in your frame (otherwise known as belief system, or strong beliefs) than girls will still see you as attractive.

2) "I could've seen her tits :/"

This one is important. You want sex so bad. You want to see tits. You wanna be all up on that.... and there is nothing wrong with that. HOWEVER: This is critical when you are attached to an outcome than you cease being real and congruent in the moment, you are limited by the outcome and this limitation gives HER power AND she can sense it.

Girls are finely tuned to detect these emotions. They have to be. Its in their genetics. They want emotionally strong Alpha males to pass their genes along too so they are more intune with their emotions than we are..

So how do you fix Start enjoying the process of seduction. Enjoy the banter. Find it funny. There is humor in everything. Its all for your amusement. This is alllll fun and games and if there is no desired out come, all there can be is fun. fun fun fun fun.

Thats all she wants

if its all you want as well...

SHE WILL WANT TO HAVE FUN WITH YOU (aka. Show you that dope ass booty!)

I think I read somewhere on here something to this effect:

"Positive feelings lead to sex the same negative feelings lead to fight, if you are having fun and she is having fun than the only outcome can be sex."

The important thing to remember is that you dont care about the outcome, you enjoy the process. By enjoying the process you will each the out come.

Its like enlightment to buddhists, those who seek enlightenment can never attain it. It is only once you stop seeking enlightenment that you can truly accept the higher reality.

Does that answer the question?.... This is pretty high concept/advance game, so if you need clarification, dont hesitate to ask.

Title	How do you create a connection with someone?
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Date	March 20, 2014 7:42 AM UTC (12 years ago)
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