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Bleh. V-necks. Gimme a good crew neck any day.
/r/TheRedPill02/05/15 03:32 PM
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Sounds pretty alpha to me, man. A common misconception is that overly aggressive and dickheaded is alpha, when those are just personality flaws. Alpha just means you default into leadership roles and excel in them. Whether or not you're a dickhead is another matter entirely.
/r/ExRedPill01/05/15 11:46 PM
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One of the big things I notice about The Red Pill that they get wrong is the assumption that anyone can be alpha. Alphas are leaders. Betas are followers. A follower personality is not suited for leadership, and vice versa. An actual alpha is pretty much worthless in subservient roles and probably isn't great in any job where he isn't in charge. They clash with other dominant personalities and are always striving to achieve the top slot. Since they're dominant and confident, they aren't easy to …
/r/ExRedPill01/05/15 11:28 PM
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Let's be honest, though: if you're too socially awkward to have a quality sex life, NoFap sure as shit isn't gonna make that better. You're more likely to be even more anxious and awkward with a pent up need to fuck than you would if you were relaxed and didn't have all your release riding on getting laid.
/r/TheRedPill01/05/15 10:48 PM
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Or you could just have a sex life that rivals the stuff you find in porn. I don't know about you, but things like anal, threesomes, and BDSM are pretty par for the course in my sex life. Hell, most girls are up for just about anything if you make it worth their while.
/r/TheRedPill01/05/15 10:31 PM
15

I pretty much automatically associate kilts with social mutant weirdos. I haven't been proven wrong yet.
/r/TheRedPill01/05/15 10:27 PM
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Anybody can be a hardass. It takes a certain kind of man to carve out a name for himself without being one.
/r/TheRedPill01/05/15 10:14 PM
1

Nah, I'm a motorcycle jacket and/or hoodie kind of guy. I prefer not to wear clothes I have to worry about getting trashed if I'm riding or mixed up in a scuffle.
/r/TheRedPill01/05/15 09:56 PM
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Just one. She was pretty westernized and spoke fluent English, so hooking up with her wasn't much different from the girls in Europe or the U.S. You could definitely tell she preferred foreigners to the locals, though. Can't say there was much to complain about. She was friendly enough and the sex was pretty good. Didn't have any illusions that I was sticking around, so that was good.
/r/TheRedPill01/05/15 09:53 PM
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Also the amount of dopamine that is released by the ability to see naked chick after chick with huge perky tits getting railed is insane. That's just the sort of thing I was talking about being debunked. And maybe porn has no place in your life if you're having issues getting women into bed in the first place. But if you're already getting tons of play with whoever you want and sex isn't an issue in your life, why not jerk off and watch some porn while you're at it? Some days, when you're having…
/r/TheRedPill01/05/15 09:03 PM
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I had a movement this morning. NoFap is pretty fucking absurd when all is said and done. There is countless documentation espousing the benefits of masturbation, and loads more documentation debunking the "yourbrainonporn" myths. You're not depressed and pathetic because you beat off too much. You're depressed and pathetic because you do nothing to improve your life and then attribute your failure to a healthy biological process. Passing the buck never helps your situation. You're not going to g…
/r/TheRedPill01/05/15 08:30 PM
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Stories matter. Odds are nearly every facet of your personality, for good or ill, was developed and conceived because somewhere in your lifetime, a concept was related to you in some form of narrative. You might've learned about empathy and the benefits of cooperation from Sesame Street. You might've learned about standing up for yourself and not being a whiny pussy from Back to the Future. You might've lived under a rock for your entire childhood and learned all of that stuff from a narrative y…
/r/TheRedPill01/05/15 08:11 PM
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It went pretty well for me. I'm a big time world traveler, and Goa was one of those off-the-beaten-path places I like to visit when I'm traveling abroad. And you're probably better off than some people, appearance-wise. Prejudice about skin color still runs pretty deep in some parts of the country.
/r/TheRedPill01/05/15 07:52 PM
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Eh. Suits and blazers are a once in a while kinda thing. That's why it's called formal wear. Wearing them all the time just looks like you're trying too hard. I've got a couple custom suits I wear to special occasions and business meetings. Otherwise, it's jeans and t-shirts for me.
/r/TheRedPill01/05/15 07:16 PM
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Where are you at in India? Goa's not a bad place to hook up if you're having difficulty with the locals. Everything's still low key sex-wise, but because it's got a lot of Portuguese influence, the attitude towards sex is a bit more relaxed than other parts of the country. And apparently there are plenty of hookers to choose from if that's more your thing. Then again, I'm white, so from what I understand it's a bit easier to hook up there if your skin's lighter. Whatever you do, make sure you wr…
/r/TheRedPill01/05/15 07:06 PM
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All right, let's use a simple one. Say you've got a car you want someone to buy, but they aren't particularly interested in anything but the color and body style. They want a car that's clearly inferior in every way to the one you're recommending. But you can see that they've got a kid who they've brought in a safety seat. Suddenly, you realize that the kid is a concern of theirs, and that you can make an appeal to their emotions towards their child. So you talk up the car's safety features and …
/r/askTRP17/04/15 05:48 PM
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I say that because of all the bi dudes on there.
/r/askTRP17/04/15 05:15 PM
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It's pretty simple: you need to appeal to emotions if you want to get anywhere with people like that. If you try to have a logical debate with someone whose primary decision making is based on feelings, you're going to get nowhere fast. So find out what makes them emotionally invested and act accordingly.
/r/askTRP17/04/15 05:14 PM
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Because Grindr is mostly for gay dudes, and men tend to prefer bluntness over dancing around and drawn out flirtation.
/r/askTRP17/04/15 05:04 PM
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So what? I say it's good that she knows these things. It keeps you honest, and it lets you know that she's versed in more than the standard line of bullshit regarding the nature of men and women.
/r/askTRP17/04/15 04:58 PM
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The McClintock Effect -- or synchronization of menstrual cycles -- is still theoretical. But it is observable when two or more women live in close proximity for more than a few months. If you've ever had multiple female roommates, their periods will almost always fall within a few days of each other. The proposed biological mechanisms have to do with pheromone release and lunar phases, but neither have any serious scientific data proving one or the other. For right now, it's anyone's guess as to…
/r/askTRP15/04/15 02:22 PM
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Bear in mind, though, that even before contemporary marriage was around, having a relationship like that was a partnership. You didn't want to start a family with someone who couldn't realistically handle shit on her own when you were out providing. Having a girl like this may be stable (for now, anyway), but if family is the goal, you need someone who can pull her weight and be a partner, not someone you have to babysit. I don't know about you, but I sure as shit don't want a genetic legacy wit…
/r/askTRP15/04/15 02:15 PM
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I'll level with you, man: nobody gives a fuck about your shoes. Nobody but complete spazzes, anyway. If you're self-conscious about your height, get yourself a pair of boots. But 5'8'' isn't anything to freak out about. You're slightly below average height for a dude in the suburbs or rural areas. In the city, you're around average. If people are ignoring you or not taking you seriously, it's because you're projecting insecurity, not because of your height. I've seen dudes way shorter than you w…
/r/askTRP14/04/15 10:46 PM
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Sounds boring. Not gonna lie. I've had countless relationships like that and they all lasted a couple months at the most because of how little stimulation they offered. You take on the role of a teacher/provider/daddy replacement, and suddenly you're just left with a needy little ball of emotional responsibility that you could honestly take or leave. That's nice for getting consistently laid, but pretty drab in terms of an actual romantic interest. But hey, that's just me. If it works for you, m…
/r/askTRP14/04/15 10:36 PM
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Kiss like you're on TV, basically. Don't be boring, kiss her like she's the protagonist of her own little love story and you're the hot romantic interest.
/r/seduction04/04/15 06:07 PM
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Develop the qualities that you want, not ones you think other people will want. Never change who you are to accommodate someone else. At best, you'll seem disingenuous. At worst, you'll seem like a sycophantic pushover who seeks people's approval.
/r/seduction04/04/15 04:42 PM
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Don't overthink it. Just text her, "Hey, whatcha up to?" Then when she responds, ask her to hang out. If she says no, just try again some other time. If she consistently says no, then move on to someone else. There's absolutely no need to stress out or get obsessive over something like this.
/r/seduction04/04/15 04:38 PM
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You haven't shown her any interest, so she flirts in order to get a response out of you so you'll validate her. Lots of people do this. It's actually really easy to leverage into a fuck buddy situation if you remain detached and only give her a tiny taste of what she wants, but then you'll have to deal with a clingy girl with self-esteem problems. Personally, that's more of a headache than it's worth, but you're still young so you might get some fun out of it.
/r/seduction04/04/15 04:35 PM
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He's confident and he doesn't care about the chicks he's banging. It ain't rocket science. You don't need money or looks to get chicks. They help, but they're far from the main reason you'll get laid.
/r/seduction21/03/15 10:59 PM
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First step is to get past the chickening out part. Understand that the very worst thing that can happen is someone turns you down, and you're right back to where you were before you said anything. You effectively lose nothing, so there's no reason not to do it.
/r/seduction03/03/15 07:48 PM
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Basically, yeah. Just start talking. It's only weird at first, but you've already got the shared experience of school. Treat her like you'd treat any guy friends you met at school. Invite her to hang out with you and your friends, then get to know her and isolate accordingly. Be attractive (i.e. confident, funny, and a little bit ballsy) and the rest will typically fall into place.
/r/seduction07/01/15 01:32 PM
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Well, the obvious solution is to go from "barely talking" to talking. You'll probably find out she's not that interesting and not really worth a ton of effort, but fuck it. It doesn't hurt to try. And if she doesn't want to talk, then it's no big deal. There are plenty more where she came from.
/r/seduction07/01/15 12:43 AM
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You sound like me at your age. You've generally got a good sense of things. These observations are especially true for women in your age group, and in general they're pretty good rules to live by. I will say, though, that there will come a time when you meet a girl who's more rational than not, who's still ultimately governed by emotions (because she's a girl), but who is able to detach herself from the situation and recognize her behavior for what it is. This will be the woman you will want to …
/r/TheRedPill06/01/15 11:25 PM
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I know. I should really do standup. Seriously, though. Say hi to your girlfriend for me.
/r/TheRedPill06/01/15 11:06 PM
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Hmm. Must've been your significant other's bluff then.
/r/TheRedPill06/01/15 11:03 PM
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Sounds like someone's upset that their bluff got called recently.
/r/TheRedPill06/01/15 11:00 PM
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Rape culture is just a buzz term people use to shut down any kind of argument by putting men on the defensive. It's not a real thing -- at least not in the developed world.
/r/MensRights03/01/15 06:40 PM
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Fuck your facts. 'Cause, you know, feelings.
/r/MensRights28/12/14 03:15 PM
1

They get girls just fine -- just probably not the girls of their dreams. Boring people attract boring people.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/11/14 09:52 PM
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People don't really know what those terms mean. Alpha is simply a leader personality type. Beta is subordinate. Since leaders categorically have stronger personalities and confidence in order to fulfill their roles as leaders, alpha personalities naturally seem like the more attractive choice at first glance. There's nothing wrong with being beta. The world can't be entirely comprised of lone wolves or leaders; they need people to follow them in order to be effective. What you gotta watch out fo…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/11/14 01:46 AM
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Just invite yourself up. Failing that, ask to use her bathroom.
/r/seduction06/11/14 02:03 AM
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You gotta like what's on the inside first. Nobody wants to be with someone who has self-esteem issues, regardless of how much game they have. As long as you're still lonely and desperate, you're going to reek of it and women won't want to be around you. But if you're comfortable with yourself and the idea of being alone, magically, you won't worry about the outcome anymore. And you'll suddenly start getting really good at it.
/r/seduction09/10/14 04:34 PM
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Or you could just own the fact that you fucked up rather than trying to attribute it to someone else. God forbid something ever be your fault.
/r/seduction25/09/14 03:43 AM
1

Top responses: "Yeah, I was gonna wear my fifty-dollar t-shirt today, but then I was like, 'Fuck it. Thug life.'" "It's laundry day. Also, fuck you." "Shut up, baby. I know it." "Pfft. Jealous much?" "Well ain't that the pot calling the kettle black." "Shit, when you look this good, you don't need a better shirt."
/r/seduction24/09/14 10:50 PM
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Is a musician pathetic because he wasn't a child prodigy? Is a mechanic pathetic because he doesn't have an innate ability to fix cars? Pickup is a skill. Some people learn it at a young age for one reason or another, and others don't. But most of the respected pickup artists out there were completely unskilled at one point. If you don't naturally possess it, how else do you expect to learn except by reading up on it? It's not pathetic to learn how to do something. It's pathetic to reject learni…
/r/seduction24/09/14 10:41 PM
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Yeah, I didn't insinuate any such thing. You inferred it -- erroneously, I might add. Don't put words in my mouth.
/r/seduction24/09/14 09:04 PM
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The fuck? I never said not to disclose it. I just said it's not a huge deal. Because in all but a few strains (strains which have vaccines, mind you), it's not. Given the host of other STDs he could've gotten, contracting HPV is getting off light. It's a cheap lesson as opposed to a harsh one, like herpes.
/r/seduction24/09/14 07:52 PM
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Without knowing exactly what went down, it's tough to say where you went wrong. Lots of little things can turn people off to you. Not to mention the fact that you're establishing fleeting connections with girls in clubs -- they're probably not interested in repeat business.
/r/seduction24/09/14 03:04 PM
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You don't. Unless you want your lurid sexual affair to come to a screeching halt. Sooner or later she's going to get wise to you and revoke those benefits you've so enjoyed, because no girl enjoys being someone's shameful little secret -- unless she's specifically into that. My advice would be to man up and just own the fact that you're banging her. Because really, why not? But if you insist on pulling some kind of clandestine maneuver with her, your best bet is to avoid bringing attention to it…
/r/seduction24/09/14 02:57 PM
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The same way you crawl through mud under a barrage of gunfire: you just cowboy the fuck up and do it. Force yourself. Even if it's unnatural or makes you uncomfortable. As for what to talk about? It doesn't matter. The only thing you need to worry about is getting a good back and forth going. Comment on her shoes. Or her hair. Or what she's reading. Or just smile and introduce yourself. Use that newly found confidence of yours and just start talking. Realistically, you don't have to say much: mo…
/r/seduction24/09/14 01:45 PM
2

God, I hope that was a typo... At any rate, I got her just by being me -- and no small amount of confidence, humor, and sexual acumen.
/r/seduction24/09/14 01:39 PM
4

Most people get HPV at some point in their lives. It's not a big deal. It'll most likely clear up on its own. Just take it as a lesson to always wrap it -- especially with girls who are only looking for a good time.
/r/seduction24/09/14 01:36 PM
1

I'm guessing the guy who wrote this hasn't been at it very long. He still assigns way too much importance on style and appearance, and that whole "eating top-shelf pussy" nonsense just reeks of someone who still bases his self-worth on how hot the girls he bangs are. Plus, some of the shit in that "entitled" list is just plain absurd: They feel that they are as "cool" as the girls are "hot." That just made me cringe. They get angry when the girl won't swallow their cum. The fuck is wrong with yo…
/r/seduction24/09/14 06:13 AM
1

I think my "collection" consists of a copy of The Game that my friend got me for Christmas nearly a decade ago, and an old copy of How to Win Friends and Influence People I got at a rummage sale. I can't say that's as bad as having copies of The Secret or The Power of Now lying around.
/r/seduction24/09/14 06:00 AM
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A buddy of mine once said that you can tell how big a loser a person is by the number of self-help books they have in their house. Not sure how much validity there is to that, but it's not an uncommon perception.
/r/seduction24/09/14 05:55 AM
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Oh man... You're lucky she was a good sport about it. I don't know many girls who'd think too highly of the insinuation that they're actually men.
/r/seduction24/09/14 05:28 AM
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Best of luck to you, son. Best advice I can give you is learn to be okay with making mistakes. Figuring shit out through trial and error is the only truly effective way of learning this stuff.
/r/seduction24/09/14 05:24 AM
1

It's 2014, son. The people who actually give a shit about that sort of thing are very much in the minority. And to be honest, even if they did care, you're not going to get as much shit for being Hispanic as you would for being black, Middle-Eastern, or even Asian. Hispanic is practically white by bigot standards -- especially if you talk without an accent. So relax. Go out and talk to whoever you want. The ones who disregard people because of their race are ones you wouldn't want to associate w…
/r/seduction24/09/14 05:19 AM
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I'm going to go out on a limb and assume that guy wasn't actively trying his hand at pickup and giving his own body language a lot of scrutiny. But I digress. You ever considered maybe just recording yourself when you go out some time? You could review your body language and such later and it'd probably be a hell of a lot cheaper than spending the cost of a used car to have some guy do the same thing for you. Or better yet, what about making friends with people who are categorically good with wo…
/r/seduction24/09/14 03:52 AM
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There's nothing wrong with just wanting sex. Everyone goes through that period, and you shouldn't be ashamed of it. I'm a big fan of hookers for that exact reason: you get the carnal need satisfied without the emotional fallout and inevitable drama. If you don't want to pay for it, then you have to realize that there are steps you need to take to get women in bed. You can't reasonably expect girls to just throw themselves at you without possessing qualities that make them want to do that. There …
/r/seduction24/09/14 03:17 AM
1

Do you really not know your own sticking points? That kinda seems like something you'd have a pretty firm grasp of, seeing as you have to live through them and all. That aside, even if you weren't already aware of them, it seems like a very small reason to shell out the kind of money people pay for bootcamps.
/r/seduction24/09/14 03:00 AM
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I'll preface this post by saying that some people have gotten some serious utility out of them. I'm not discounting the fact that they're effective for some people. But I'm not a big fan of bootcamps in general. Here's why: They're prohibitively expensive. Many will claim that a lot of the fees are going towards your accommodations and events, but there's still a huge chunk of money that's going in the pockets of so-called gurus. Basically, you're paying someone to tell you to do something that …
/r/seduction23/09/14 06:56 PM
0

I'm gonna be honest: that's a shit idea. Being self-deprecating just makes you look insecure. Insecurity is literally girl repellent. And odds are, the girls you're into aren't actually bitchy. You're just giving off a needy, entitled, shallow vibe. That is also girl repellent. Besides, it's just plain irrelevant if you're ugly or short. My best friend gets laid even more than I do and he's simultaneously short and ugly as fuck. He's just super confident, so it doesn't matter. Being choosy about…
/r/seduction23/09/14 06:39 PM
1

Not really. It just takes practice, experience, and the self-confidence to know that people shit-talking you doesn't actually affect you unless you let it. The only way to do that is by diving headfirst into it.
/r/seduction23/09/14 05:02 PM
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Well the good news is she really likes you.
/r/seduction23/09/14 05:00 PM
1

Don't. Approach her outside the gym. Don't be that guy who tries to pick up girls there. The gym is for one thing: working out.
/r/seduction23/09/14 04:27 PM
2

Well that was certainly cringeworthy.
/r/seduction23/09/14 04:02 PM
1

Just be friendly. You can be intimate later.
/r/seduction23/09/14 03:58 PM
1

Hey, sometimes a little quick fling with a woefully naive 20-year-old is what you need. Just don't be surprised if this girl comes riding in on the drama llama. She's young, she's stupid, and she's got a boyfriend. That's a pretty drama-soaked mixture there.
/r/seduction23/09/14 03:54 PM
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Looks help. That's a given. It's a lot easier to give someone a wry smirk or a wink when you're handsome. But I'd avoid relying on it if I were you. As for what move to make? Just make one. Don't make it needlessly complicated. Be friendly and talk to people with confidence. Don't look at it like you're out to achieve some goal. Just focus on enjoying yourself and letting things come to you. If she seems into you, get physical with her. If she's just being friendly, move on to the next one.
/r/seduction23/09/14 03:49 PM
0

I'm fairly certain that was staged, but it's a good point nonetheless. Confidence makes all the difference.
/r/seduction23/09/14 03:29 PM
2

Hell, those jackasses who designed non-locking power cords for laptops are walking proof of that.
/r/seduction23/09/14 03:05 PM
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Yeah. It's just talking to people. No big deal. My advice would be to get out more by yourself and just start talking to everyone. I've been a foreigner before, so I know that as long as you're interesting and fun, people won't really care where you're from.
/r/seduction23/09/14 02:59 PM
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Well, most girls are gonna have a job regardless of their academic focus. That's just basic survival. So I wouldn't worry about needing to provide for them. And you gotta lose the oneitis, brother. That shit ain't gonna serve you well in any capacity. What, you think that just because a girl can string a sentence together and do the same job that countless other people go into (engineering is the next big market bloat, just like law and nursing before it), she's some super rare treasure to behol…
/r/seduction23/09/14 02:53 PM
1

I think most people enjoy genuine compliments without an ulterior motive behind them. I'm not sure I'd call it selfish to refrain from complimenting every single girl you see. Some people would rather be left alone.
/r/seduction23/09/14 02:35 PM
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I think every young man feels that way at some point. For whatever reason, the biggest fear a young man feels is that of judgment. He cannot handle the idea of other people thinking less of him for the things he does. And it's usually an inconsistent fear too: for example, he won't care that people think he's a douchebag for wearing stupid-looking pants or voting Republican, but he'll freak the fuck out over the idea that someone thinks he's dating "beneath him". Eventually, you just grow out of…
/r/seduction23/09/14 02:23 PM
1

I gotta ask, man: why would you care if a girl has a good job? You plan on mooching off of her at some point? And I'm gonna be perfectly honest: I've never actually met a STEM girl who didn't bore me to tears after about five minutes of conversation. People who dedicate themselves to a narrow discipline like that tend to have severe deficits in interesting things to talk about. Kinda the same way a PhD candidate is usually less interesting than a guy who spent the same amount of time gaining lif…
/r/seduction23/09/14 02:06 PM
1

Nobody actually cares that you blush, son. Just go with it. It's not nearly the big deal that you think it is.
/r/seduction23/09/14 04:44 AM
2

Best bet is to just be up front and noncommittal about it: "Look, I don't like putting labels on things. All I know is I like you and I'm going to see where it goes. If it does go somewhere, cool. If not, I have no regrets."
/r/seduction23/09/14 04:41 AM
1

It's good for a laugh or two. I'd torrent it or check it out at your local library.
/r/seduction23/09/14 04:39 AM
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Look at it this way, son: you're in a generally better position than about 90% of the people in your age bracket. Most people who graduate now basically sit around in jobless limbo with an impending avalanche of debt that will most likely take them a lifetime to pay off. You? You're at least going to be someone in a few years. Besides, if the scrawny hipster douchebag who fixes bicycles while sitting on $60K worth of debt for his art history degree can get girls, there's no reason whatsoever tha…
/r/seduction23/09/14 04:35 AM
1

I look at it this way: letting people affect you is a choice. You're the one who decides what constitutes a big deal. And the truth of the matter is nothing is ever as big a deal as you think it is. If someone straight up disrespects you, it's because they feel the need to cut you down since that's the only way they can build themselves up. People like that are just plain inconsequential. Now, for me, the line is drawn when they start that shit with other people. I don't honestly give a fuck wha…
/r/seduction23/09/14 04:29 AM
1

I'd say you should just be comfortable with your own feelings and stop trying so hard to express them. Feel what you feel and stop making a big deal out of it. We all have feelings, but how we react to them is a choice. Also bear in mind that an enigmatic man is always more attractive than an open book. There's nothing wrong with showing a little stoicism rather than wearing your heart on your sleeve.
/r/seduction23/09/14 04:22 AM
1

I'm inclined to agree with you about insecure guys using a woman's hotness as a means of validation. I think we've all been there at one point or another. But having personally run the gamut of women from double-baggers to fashion models, I can safely say that it's rare that I meet an insanely hot girl who's also good in bed. The best sex I've ever had has been with girls who most guys would consider average at best.
/r/seduction23/09/14 04:17 AM
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Handle your shit, son. If you're going to drink, maintain a buzz. Drink a little and then meter it with water and time. Don't get blackout drunk like a jackoff. No means no. She filed a complaint because you acted like a dumbass while being completely shitfaced. If you don't do that, you magically won't get complaints filed against you.
/r/seduction23/09/14 04:13 AM
2

Maybe broaden your horizons a little instead of going after one specific look? Your odds dramatically decrease the pickier you get.
/r/seduction23/09/14 04:08 AM
3

In all likelihood she's probably busy. She could also be nervous or trying to play it cool by making you wait. I wouldn't stress about it too much. Just wait for her to respond and live your life in the meantime. Wait a day or two for her to get back to you. If she doesn't reply, just send her a "Hey, what's up?" text. If she doesn't reply after that, don't sweat it. Just write it off and move on.
/r/seduction23/09/14 04:05 AM
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I've had my best luck at gaming stores, art exhibits, nature preserves, youth hostels, and libraries. But really, they could be anywhere you'd find normal women. You basically just gotta talk to people and find out.
/r/seduction23/09/14 04:01 AM
1

Nothing special. I just talk to them, usually after we make eye contact and smile at one another. There's no need to make it more complicated than that.
/r/seduction18/09/14 11:16 PM
3

All right, I'll offer you a few bits of wisdom that might come in handy: She's just a girl. You're twice her size and have a generally easier shake out in life. No matter what, the very worst thing she can do to you is not have sex with you, and you're there by default anyway. You lose nothing by talking to her. Rejection isn't a big deal. At worst, it's putting you back in the default state of not having sex. There's no rejection on earth that can prevent you from trying again with some other c…
/r/seduction18/09/14 09:05 PM
1

Here's a little bit of advice, son: pretty girls know they're pretty. You're not telling her anything new by reminding her of that, and you're basically sending the message right away that looks are your top priority. Worse yet, girls tend to feel devalued when they think that your interest is contingent upon their appearance. I suggest striking up a conversation with her like you would with a guy friend. Be friendly. Make her laugh. Be charming. Flirt with her. Then, when it's clear that she's …
/r/seduction18/09/14 08:59 PM
1

Gesture. Touch. Articulate things you say. Be animated. Your hands are an important part of speaking. Don't just stick them in your pockets like a jackass.
/r/seduction18/09/14 05:07 PM
1

Being yourself is fine, unless "yourself" sucks ass. If you're a whiny, entitled, insecure gamma male who frequents /r/theredpill and gets angry that women won't fuck him, you should probably not be yourself. If you're a timid introvert who can't even bring himself to cowboy the fuck up and get past his anxiety, you shouldn't be yourself. You should always strive to be better than that. Most guys here aren't looking to marry anyone any time soon. Most just want to bang more girls, which again, y…
/r/seduction18/09/14 05:02 PM
11

Women aren't hood ornaments, son. Take pictures with whoever you want and stop worrying about how it's going to affect your social status.
/r/seduction18/09/14 04:43 PM
5

I have a good friend who didn't lose his virginity until he was twenty-four, but who now hooks up with new girls on an almost weekly basis. It's just like starting any other new skill set late: it probably won't come as naturally to you as to someone who's been doing it since they were a kid, but you can still do just fine if you set your mind to it. As for being upfront about it, I'll leave you with this piece of advice: nobody needs to know anything ever. Play your cards close to your chest an…
/r/seduction18/09/14 04:38 PM
2

Realistically, what are you doing to keep them around? Are you particularly funny? Do you constantly engage them and keep things fresh? Do you do -- or at least talk about -- interesting things? Keeping women around is fairly straightforward: don't be boring and keep them engaged. Nobody, least of all women, wants to carry a conversation. Small talk is death. The easiest way to engage someone is to ask them about themselves and then relate to what they said, preferably in a funny or interesting …
/r/seduction18/09/14 04:17 PM
1

Ah, the ol' "I'm not ready" shtick. Usually I just grin and say something like, "Relax, darlin'. I'm not that easy." On rare occasion, I've had to give this speech before to girls who were putting the brakes on just to save face: "It's cool if you don't want to. But let me put this to you: arbitrary timetables aren't going to change how you feel about me. Either you like me that way or you don't. And that's totally fine either way; we're still friends. But let's not pretend that waiting is going…
/r/seduction17/09/14 09:11 PM
2

My advice is to not actually date. Just stay friends with them, but add sex to the mix. When you hang out with them, just amp up the physicality. Dating will happen on its own out of that when they invariably say they want something more.
/r/seduction17/09/14 08:56 PM
1

The secret to storytelling is embellishment and humor. Kind of like a standup routine. Describe things in hilarious terms that people can relate to, while also forming a narrative that culminates into some kind of punchline. Feel free to add hyperbole as needed to make things more exciting along the way. A good example is in the film Sleep With Me when Quentin Tarantino explains Top Gun.
/r/seduction17/09/14 08:48 PM
2

Yeah. I used to do this in the old days of Myspace too. Basically, it's just like OKCupid: you're flirting with a stranger either way. Nothing too serious, nothing too in-depth. Chat with her casually, grab her number, and go hang out somewhere. Easy.
/r/seduction17/09/14 08:37 PM
3

I don't believe in being straight-edge, but there is something inherently awesome about being able to hold a Shirley Temple in your hand like it was a glass of thirty-year-old single malt.
/r/seduction17/09/14 08:31 PM
1

You don't have to date someone in order to have sex and hang out with them. She just freed you up to see other people in the meantime. And here's the rub about people, son: if you keep fucking them, sooner or later, oxytocin wins. She's going to want something more eventually, so there's no need to rush a label onto it. Just be cool, see her casually, fuck her brains out, and be amazing. Time and brain chemicals will do the rest.
/r/seduction16/09/14 03:18 PM
6

"Ah, you know. Hard work and all that." Acknowledge that it was tough, but that there isn't anything inherently amazing about working hard. This basically says, "Yeah, I worked hard, but so what? If you work hard too it'll come just as easy to you."
/r/seduction15/09/14 08:53 PM
0

Day game is just night game with better lighting. The same rules apply.
/r/seduction15/09/14 08:40 PM
1

If you're bringing beer and nobody appreciates it, they're shitty people. If you dress comfortably and people give you snobbish looks because of it, they're shitty people. If you have to be a social chameleon in order to get people to like you, you're probably dealing with -- you guessed it -- shitty people. I don't know about you, but I wouldn't want to suck up to people like that. Being a gladhanding sycophant will get you far enough to keep you under people's radar, but I guarantee those same…
/r/seduction15/09/14 08:31 PM
2

If it were me, I'd lay on the charm and build up the suspense to a kiss. Move in like you're going to kiss her, then pull away at the last minute and shoot her a wolfish grin. Make her work for it. Girls love being teased. Double points if you build it up all night and then exit while saying, "Well, it's been fun. I'll see you soon." Then blow her a kiss, but don't actually kiss her. Pleasure delaying is something I just do anyway, and I'm not even afflicted with cold sores.
/r/seduction15/09/14 08:23 PM
3

Just be relaxed and comfortable about sex? You don't need to frame it so much as just... be it. Talk about it openly and honestly without embarrassment. Don't judge her based on her experiences and don't apologize for yours.
/r/seduction15/09/14 08:15 PM
4

It's a party. Go mingle.
/r/seduction15/09/14 07:28 PM
4

I usually just say something goofy and lighthearted, then leave. "And on that note, I gotta see a man about a duck."
/r/seduction15/09/14 07:27 PM
1

I'm logically minded too. It's fine to prefer logic to feelings, but that doesn't mean you can't engage people on an emotional level. If it helps, think about it like a simple task: in order to produce a certain effect, you must activate the correct triggers. Use your own deductive reasoning ability to determine which stimuli are required to achieve the desired result. Or, another way of looking at it, feelings and emotions are just the GUI of the chemical-based operating system that is the huma…
/r/seduction15/09/14 05:21 PM
1

Well, realistically, the best possible outcome you can reasonably expect is you coming onto her and her being really flattered. But that's about it. Statutory rape notwithstanding (I know you said it's legal where you are, but it's still really creepy), you're her friend's son. She probably saw you as a baby. If that's not an instant turnoff, I don't know what is. Go find yourself a girl your own age, son. You can get your MILF on when you're an adult.
/r/seduction15/09/14 04:46 PM
7

I'd call her out on it in a teasing way. "You done writing that novel?"
/r/seduction15/09/14 04:18 PM
1

Nah, you couldn't pay me enough to live there on purpose. But I did stay there for a couple weeks in my youth, since I ran out of cash and I had to work a construction gig to get enough money to move on. Not something I'd care to repeat.
/r/seduction15/09/14 03:54 AM
5

Whatever you feel okay with, basically. Don't do things based on some arbitrary idea of what is "alpha" or whatever. If being generous and helpful is how you roll, and you're not fucking yourself over in the process or being anyone's whipping boy, then fill that cup. If you don't want to fill the cup, then don't fill the cup. Filling your cups up together works too.
/r/seduction15/09/14 03:49 AM
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Try meetup.com or something similar. The internet makes meeting new people who share your hobbies pretty easy. Also, move to a better city if you can. Phoenix is a goddamned wasteland.
/r/seduction15/09/14 03:44 AM
1

Like I said: it's good for getting over your anxiety. But that's about it. If you're already good with approaching, you can move on to more productive things. Talking to women is just one of those life skills you should have, like being able to drive stick, change your oil, or win in a fist fight. Cold approaches are basically a way of diving head-first into learning that skill. As for that challenge, it isn't really more than masturbatory. Being able to say, "I approached a 100 sets of women!" …
/r/seduction15/09/14 03:11 AM
1

I did a long time ago for extra credit in my social psychology class. It was pretty enlightening, and actually explained a lot of stuff I did unconsciously. It's definitely worth looking into, if only to give you a better understanding of how you communicate with people.
/r/seduction15/09/14 02:00 AM
1

It's a friend with benefits. That means sometimes, you gotta be, you know, a friend. She's not beholden to you, and you two aren't actually dating. So don't be a chump and back out just because she's dating someone. Go with her to the concert, have a good time, and go seek out sex somewhere else. She ain't your girlfriend so this shouldn't be a big deal to you. Also, you should probably avoid taking any advice from TRP. Angsty gamma males are the last people you want to be seeking advice from.
/r/seduction15/09/14 01:55 AM
5

Well, consider the situation first: Your default state is not getting laid. At the very worst, all a woman can do to you is not have sex with you, putting you at default. You've lost nothing. Even if she makes fun of you, disrespects you, talks shit about you to her friends, or whatever, you're still ultimately the same person when all is said and done. You are unaffected by anything she does. Women are not scary. You're twice her size and strength and you've got a generally easier shake out in …
/r/seduction15/09/14 01:34 AM
1

Bleh. I hate calls.
/r/seduction15/09/14 01:27 AM
2

It's because you don't give a shit and you're relaxed with the girls you don't care about. It ain't rocket science. Treat the ones you're interested in the same way and magically you'll have similar results.
/r/seduction15/09/14 12:43 AM
2

Women hardly ever reciprocate on questions. And they don't need to anyway; an enigmatic guy is more interesting than an open book. I have a little saying I like to use for that situation: nobody needs to know anything ever. Play your cards close to your chest and don't give out any more information than is required of you. When asked about yourself, feel free to give vague, open-ended answers. That'll make you seem way more interesting, even if you're actually boring as shit. As for escalation, …
/r/seduction15/09/14 12:41 AM
7

Understand that being boring is a choice. You chose to wake up this morning and do something safe. You chose to go to work and do the same damned thing you do every day. You chose to avoid talking to that person or avoid taking that different route home. You chose to listen to Nickelback on your way home and watch yet another three episodes of CSI: Miami before going to bed and repeating the same shit tomorrow. What can you do about it? Be bold. Take chances. Make calculated risks. Understand th…
/r/seduction15/09/14 12:36 AM
2

Addendum: if your personality sucks, feel free to change it accordingly. Don't be so married to your personality that you fail to recognize when certain aspects need improvement or replacement. For instance, if you're inherently shy, it's not a bad idea to work on changing that.
/r/seduction15/09/14 12:25 AM
2

In the words of my best friend, "She's not not interested." Escalate accordingly and see what happens. Some girls are a little less obvious than others.
/r/seduction15/09/14 12:21 AM
3

Cold approaches are basically just shooting blindly and hoping you'll hit something. They're useful for getting over your anxiety, but I don't know anyone who has much serious success with them. One cold opener is really as good as any. Warm approaches, on the other hand, (i.e. approaches where a girl gives you some indication that she's interested, either by meeting eye contact with you and smiling, laughing along with something you said, or leaving an opener for you in some way) are really the…
/r/seduction15/09/14 12:19 AM
4

Honestly? I don't like being that guy. When I go to the gym, I am going there specifically for one thing: to work out. And the vast majority of my female friends are of the same opinion. I've never met anyone who had a particularly high opinion of guys who try to pick up chicks at the gym. It's usually a pretty prominent douche flag. If you really want to be that guy, try offering them help with weights or ask if they want to toss the medicine ball around with you. Basically, offer to help out. …
/r/seduction15/09/14 12:13 AM
3

My advice would be to not even bring it up. It's nobody else's business but yours. If someone offers you a drink, politely decline or make a joke of it by saying, "Nah, I'm trying to cut back." If they insist, decline again and say, "Nah, I'm good." Hold your ground and don't make it a big deal. Straight-edge people are boring, but that's mostly because they feel like they have to let everyone know that they're straight-edge. If a guy doesn't want a drink, I'm cool with that. But if a guy feels …
/r/seduction15/09/14 12:05 AM
1

Except when it does work. If you stand up to a guy like that and promptly tell him to fuck off as soon as he starts, he'll usually put up a fight because he thinks he's hot shit. But just like any bully, if you hold your ground, they tend to back off. The point is to not give them any leeway and control the interaction. Hold your ground. Obviously nonviolently if you can.
/r/seduction13/09/14 01:44 PM
1

If you're completely choking every time, then you take a step back to the drawing board and start working on your timing and critical thinking skills. Because that's indicative of a much larger problem.
/r/seduction13/09/14 04:36 AM
1

Well, I haven't lost a girl yet for standing up to a bully, so I'm not sure where you're getting that idea.
/r/seduction13/09/14 04:29 AM
6

Knock knock. Who's there? 9/11. 9/11 who? YOU SAID YOU'D NEVER FORGET!
/r/seduction12/09/14 09:14 PM
1

It's fine to tell girls they're pretty as long as you're earnest about it and not trying to use it as a means of getting in their pants. Girls like that, actually. Especially if you compliment them on things like their hair. That's not the way to attract them anyway. Keep up the good work. Get some jeans, son. And I've never gone wrong with work boots (Wolverine, Timberland, Redwing, etc.) or Adidas/Chucks. At your height, it might be a good idea to get some footwear with lift. Sandals -- especi…
/r/seduction12/09/14 09:11 PM
2

Which is why I know you'll have this kind of opportunity again. Things don't fall into place for people who are unskilled at this sort of thing. You've got game. Don't worry. You're gonna get another one before you know it. You got this, buddy. Chalk this one up to a life lesson. It wasn't a waste as long as you learned something.
/r/seduction12/09/14 09:02 PM
1

I guarantee you're no worse looking than half my buddies. The fact that you're able to rely on wit and charm says a lot. You're gonna get another chance at someone just as hot down the line. Don't worry.
/r/seduction12/09/14 09:00 PM
1

You're wigging, son. You gotta chill. She's one chick out of billions. This wasn't a once in a lifetime opportunity. Just remember: no matter how great you think she is, someone out there is sick of her shit.
/r/seduction12/09/14 08:58 PM
1

The fact that you got as far as you did tells me you're doing just fine in the attraction department. You'll do it again, don't worry. In the meantime, have some water and sleep it off.
/r/seduction12/09/14 08:54 PM
2

Eh... Realistically? Best case scenario is she would've most likely starfished the entire time while either crying or giving a thousand yard stare. And that's all assuming she didn't cry rape the next morning. Trust me: you're better off.
/r/seduction12/09/14 08:53 PM
1

Trust me, it's not that bad. She won't be the last smoking hot chick you hook up with. After a while, this story won't be anything but an amusing anecdote to tell at parties.
/r/seduction12/09/14 08:51 PM
2

From the sound of it, you dodged a bullet. Any girl who brings up the "I was raped" talk to a complete stranger while making out with him is probably more than a bit nutty. At any rate, you win some, you lose some. Don't beat yourself up too much. If I had a dollar for every missed opportunity that went by in my life, I could retire.
/r/seduction12/09/14 08:48 PM
1

Keep it simple and stop overthinking it. Ask her to hang out. Escalate accordingly while hanging out. If you don't manage to hang out with her, do something else. You're doing fine, son. Relax.
/r/seduction12/09/14 08:17 PM
2

Practice. The more you do it, the easier it gets. One thing that helped me through my formative years was thinking of one of my boyhood heroes (Indiana Jones or Han Solo) and trying to emulate them. When in doubt, ask yourself: what would Han Solo do?
/r/seduction12/09/14 07:57 PM
2

All right, followup questions: do you engage in a lot of smalltalk, or do you actively engage them in conversations? How do you hold yourself when you talk? Are you monotone, or are you animated? Do you perpetually talk with a tone like you've got a chip on your shoulder, or are you generally cheerful? Do you have a flat affect or "resting asshole face"?
/r/seduction12/09/14 07:42 PM
2

Ah, this guy. This guy's usually the reason I got into bar fights when I was younger, since I was never one to back down from shitheads like this. And truth be told, I've got more than a few scars to show for it. Nowadays, it's not a common occurrence for me, being that I'm a muscular, broad-shouldered guy in his mid-thirties. Nobody really fucks with me that much anymore. Although a few years back, someone tried this on me. He even got in my space and put his hand on my shoulder before I told h…
/r/seduction12/09/14 07:37 PM
1

Just a few questions: When you're escalating with women (i.e. making a move), are you asking for their permission first, or are you simply going for it? How are you with reading body language? Are you going after every girl or just the ones that you think are hot? Are you funny and exciting to be around, or are you legitimately boring?
/r/seduction12/09/14 06:57 PM
7

Pickup is the process of getting a girl to let you put her penis in her. Okay, that was too funny not to point out. In all seriousness, though, I agree with you. For every legitimate guru who's gone out, honed his craft, and decided to impart his knowledge for a price, there are probably a thousand people just trying to sell you something. But anyone who's ever gotten anywhere with this knows theory is absolutely no substitute for firsthand experience.
/r/seduction12/09/14 06:50 PM
1

Nah, man. I've done way worse in college and gotten away with it just fine. Don't be so concerned with looking cool that you're afraid to be goofy now and then. One of the most attractive things to a girl is the ability to not take yourself too seriously.
/r/seduction12/09/14 03:28 PM
1

Nah. It was on a dare from a fellow sedditor, actually. You can read about it here.
/r/seduction12/09/14 07:14 AM
13

Where I come from, we call those guys gamma males. Miserable little shit stains whose only purpose in life is to get ahead by cutting others down because they can't get by on their own merits. These are often the same whiny, entitled shit stains who think every girl owes them sex because they're "nice guys".
/r/seduction12/09/14 04:21 AM
4

Consider this: if you make a move and she rejects you, would you still want to be friends? If so, and she turns you down but wants to remain friends, you lose nothing. Now say you get rejected and she's so offended by your making a move that she doesn't want to be friends anymore. Would you seriously want a person like that in your life anyway? Just make a move. You lose nothing, except possibly a shitty friend.
/r/seduction11/09/14 07:08 PM
16

Great job, son. Keep up the good work.
/r/seduction11/09/14 07:03 PM
2

"I'm not much of a relationship guy. I like you and you're fun to hang out with. And obviously the sex is great. But if you're looking for something more than that, then you probably shouldn't get your hopes up with me."
/r/seduction11/09/14 06:58 PM
1

Definitely go get that sorted out. With modern advances in speech therapy, there's no need whatsoever that you have to suffer through that. James Earl Jones, Bruce Willis, and Samuel L. Jackson all had pretty bad stutters, and they managed to get past them. I suggest consulting a professional. You can only do so much on your own.
/r/seduction11/09/14 06:28 PM
0

Why would that be bad? Go and have fun. And this time, try escalating.
/r/seduction11/09/14 06:22 PM
0

I'm guessing English isn't your first language?
/r/seduction11/09/14 06:20 PM
6

"Shit, is it too late to make something up?"
/r/seduction11/09/14 05:10 PM
1

I stopped caring about a woman's number a long time ago. Part of it just came with age: you don't meet a lot of girls over 30 who are in low numbers, and after a certain point, it just ceases to be a big deal to you. It's just sex. But beyond that, it has nothing to do with me, so it doesn't really matter anyway. And I'm really good in bed. Like, exceptional. I've had girls come back years after the fact just to hook up again because of it. So I'm not really worried about being underwhelming com…
/r/seduction11/09/14 04:59 PM
2

Yeah. A few are surprised, but the majority of them don't really care since I just own it. I make no apologies for it, nor should I.
/r/seduction11/09/14 04:30 PM
7

You could really say anything as long as you say it with confidence. Get creative. Be funny. Leave an impression. I once started a conversation by saying "butt cheese".
/r/seduction11/09/14 05:56 AM
4

It's best to not be a straight-up user. Just be honest. Leading a girl on just to get laid a few extra times isn't cool. Besides, it's not like you can't go out and get another one if she loses interest in casual sex. Of course, if you insist on going the scummy route, deflecting the question with open-ended, vague answers is usually best. Something to the effect of, "I don't know. I try not to put labels on things. I prefer to just see how they play out."
/r/seduction11/09/14 05:53 AM
2

Well, if you've gotten this far, she clearly doesn't care about how you look. You'll find that's true with the vast majority of women. Looks are pretty far down on their list of important traits. So don't sweat it. Hell, my best friend is ugly as shit and he gets laid even more than I do.
/r/seduction11/09/14 05:32 AM
2

Honestly, not every woman is worth knowing. That's really the only reason I could see why not.
/r/seduction11/09/14 05:30 AM
1

Nah. STDs are pretty easy to avoid as long as you're not careless. In twenty-two years of sexual activity and over 400 partners, I've never contracted anything.
/r/seduction11/09/14 05:26 AM
2

I'd have personally gone with "Why not?" instead of acting like a total spaz, but that's just me.
/r/seduction10/09/14 11:13 PM
5

It does go away eventually. Honestly, I can't even remember the last time I was anxious about talking to a girl. It's all just a matter of practice. Do it enough, and you'll wonder how you were ever nervous about it at all.
/r/seduction10/09/14 10:49 PM
1

I've always looked at as a structure for simple social dynamics: alphas are leaders, betas are followers, and gammas are the whiny pussies who feel entitled to everything the alpha has, but who don't actually do anything to earn it. In every group there's typically one alpha, a bunch of betas, and maybe a gamma or two skulking in the corner and bitching about the fact that he's not getting laid. There's nothing inherently wrong with being a beta, save for the fact that people tend to be more att…
/r/seduction10/09/14 10:36 PM
1

I dunno, your responses might've a bit much. There's a line between taking the lead and being a stickler. That interaction basically told me that you're not very flexible, which can be kind of a pain in the ass to people who like to play things loose. Realistically, it shouldn't matter what you do or where you go -- even if you've made plans for X. Unless X cost you some money beforehand (i.e. a concert), you shouldn't be completely married to it for the sake of sticking to plans. That just make…
/r/seduction10/09/14 10:29 PM
13

Typically, we just go based on who she's more interested in. Usually, though, I don't care enough about a specific girl to get in a twist over it. My buddy probably wants/needs it more anyway.
/r/seduction10/09/14 08:53 PM
1

Honestly, the only way you're gonna get better is by practicing. Try touching them more as you speak and getting in their space. Amping up the physical contact will help you out a lot when you're trying to establish comfort and rapport with someone.
/r/seduction10/09/14 06:32 PM
1

My guess is you didn't introduce yourself or ask her what her name was, so she wanted to point out the awkwardness of it in a snarky way. You probably could've taken this as an opener, since it opened the door for some good banter. The tattooed girl was probably not that interested. You mentioned she kept looking distracted, which usually means she's looking for a polite way to bail on the conversation. Overall, you didn't really do anything wrong, but you didn't exactly make a ton of headway. N…
/r/seduction10/09/14 06:04 PM
2

I'm shit with names, but I'll remember faces for years. To get around this, everyone gets pet names. Men: son, chief, boss, pal, buddy, fella, hoss, playa, young man, old boy Women: darlin', sweetheart, princess, pretty lady, nibblet, string bean (tall girls), booster seat (short girls) Useful trick for remembering a girl's name: hold up your phone as you're getting her number and say, "How do you spell that?" If it's something stupid easy to spell, counter with, "I meant your last name." or "I …
/r/seduction10/09/14 05:48 PM
2

That's just basic group dynamics, though. You're probably the alpha male of your group, just like I'm the alpha of my group, and so on and so forth. When people cluster, a de facto leader naturally rises to the occasion. There's nothing inherently douchey or bad about that. If you can be the alpha of multiple groups, so much the better.
/r/seduction10/09/14 05:37 PM
3

Which is funny, because it literally just stands for "Alpha Male of the Group". Nothing bad about that.
/r/seduction10/09/14 05:29 PM
0

Mostly I'm here to point out how easy it actually is, and how you don't need to shell out tons of cash for "bootcamps" or reading material, and you sure as shit don't need to devote your life to it to achieve a lot of success... like a try-hard weirdo. If I can save one person time and money, I think my being here will have been worth more than just my entertainment. We all may be homies, but I'm not above pointing out when someone's just plain wrong. There's nothing malicious about it. It's no …
/r/seduction10/09/14 05:08 PM
1

Ah, shit. You're right.
/r/seduction10/09/14 04:26 PM
1

In that case, it's time to acclimate, son. Unless you've got a legitimate disorder that requires medication and/or psychotherapy, it's on you from this point on to get out there and get shit done. Nothing's gonna happen for you otherwise.
/r/seduction10/09/14 05:07 AM
19

Vaya con dios, old boy. Look on the bright side: even if you're retired, you've got skills and experiences now that'll last a lifetime. You can't put a price on that. Edited for crap Spanish.
/r/seduction10/09/14 03:50 AM
1

It really shouldn't take that much effort, though. Pickup is simple: you're taking a simple social/biological process, repeating it a couple thousand times, and getting good at it as a result. Shit, through repetition you can master just about anything. That doesn't mean you need to devote your life to it like some try-hard weirdo. And people who are relaxed/laid back about getting laid invariably do better than people who obsess over it. Don't get me wrong: there's a time and a place for dedica…
/r/seduction10/09/14 03:43 AM
2

You know, ten years ago, I'd have agreed. But nobody calls anymore. 99% of my phone communication is through text. It's less intrusive than a call, it allows a continuous conversation to be carried throughout the course of a day rather than having to devote a whole block of time to a call, and it keeps you fresh in her mind. Text game is no different than IM game from back in the day, and I got laid a ton in college because of that. Can you go without it? Sure. But why would I when it's such an …
/r/seduction10/09/14 03:25 AM
1

Eh, might as well push for something physical the next time you see her. Worst case scenario is she says no and you're no worse off than you were before: you're not getting laid either way. But I wouldn't pin too much hope on it. If it happens, cool. If not, don't sweat it. It's basically a free spin.
/r/seduction10/09/14 03:14 AM
1

Uh... I dissect human cadavers for medical research. Pickup is really more of a hobby. Plus, I've always been interested in social psychology, and seduction is one of the bigger components of that.
/r/seduction10/09/14 03:08 AM
1

Have you been diagnosed with agoraphobia or similar anxiety disorder?
/r/seduction10/09/14 03:04 AM
1

Whatever, really. I use a lot of pet language with the women I know, so most conversations have liberal use of the words "darlin'", "pretty lady", "sweetheart", "princess", etc.
/r/seduction10/09/14 03:02 AM
1

I usually go with something like, "Hey, pretty lady. Whatcha up to?"
/r/seduction10/09/14 02:54 AM
0

Giving too much of a fuck is kiddie stuff. You have to care enough to get out of bed, take care of yourself, and seize opportunity when it presents itself. Any more than that and you're just trying too hard (or overcompensating for self-esteem issues, which this author seems to be doing).
/r/seduction10/09/14 02:43 AM
3

Personally, I hate being that guy. When I go to the gym, I'm going there for one thing: to work out. Pretty much every woman I know goes there for the same reason (except this one girl who's just there to stare at dudes doing squats... but she's an oddball exception). You can feel free to offer assistance with their workouts and flirt with them while you're at it, but the odds are good that they've heard that shit before from a dozen other guys at the gym that week. So you're probably just going…
/r/seduction10/09/14 02:38 AM
2

If you're too nervous to get in her space and touch her, what makes you think awkwardly suggesting friends with benefits will work? Gotta be ballsy, son. That's the only way you're going to get results.
/r/seduction10/09/14 02:34 AM
3

Usually there's one or two things in lists like this I disagree with. But I'm pretty much on the same page with all of that. Good post.
/r/seduction10/09/14 02:30 AM
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Well, for one, they're probably not legitimate problems. They're probably just the problems that every young man faces. That's the point. Throwing a ton of money away on therapy when you're more than capable of working those problems out yourself is pretty stupid. I'm not above seeking out professional help if it's needed, but the odds of you actually needing it as a young man are realistically not that great. You're probably just going through the same bullshit that everyone else does. And if e…
/r/seduction10/09/14 01:54 AM
2

If it were me, I'd stick her on the back burner and check back periodically while doing other things. Don't put too much stock into this chick. Sometimes, girls legitimately are busy. It happens. But that doesn't mean you need to sit around waiting for her either. Go live your life in the meantime.
/r/seduction09/09/14 06:02 PM
5

I'm gonna disagree with the "next person" part. There's nothing wrong with trading up.
/r/seduction09/09/14 05:52 PM
1

I'd say it's important to have a well-rounded knowledge base when it comes to these things. Yes, some things are more utilized than others, but ignoring or discounting stuff is how you run into deficits. Besides, it's not like you're on some huge time constraint that you need to worry about prioritizing. You're a young man.
/r/seduction09/09/14 05:36 PM
1

Headphones are a pretty clear "don't bother me" sign. I actually know a lot of girls who'll put in earbuds that aren't connected to anything just so guys won't try to pick them up. You're probably not the first one to want to talk to her on the bus, and you definitely won't be the last. This presents an interesting opportunity, though. If you see earbuds, you can make eye contact, smile at her once you've established it, and smoothly and calmly say something like, "So are you really listening to…
/r/seduction09/09/14 05:09 PM
3

I can't speak as to the percentage of men who could benefit from therapy versus the percentage that just needs to quit acting like whiny pussies. From what I've seen and experienced, it's a fairly small amount of guys who genuinely need it, since a lot of this self-esteem/internal validation stuff just comes with growing up. For instance: if you're a 20-year-old who's barely even started his life yet, the odds are good that the shit you're going through is the same shit that every 20-year-old go…
/r/seduction09/09/14 04:56 PM
1

My personal experience with cold approaches is that they're good to do early on so you learn how to eat rejection and understand how little it actually matters; but as far as a means of getting consistent results, they're mostly useless. Instead of approaching strangers at random like a weirdo, I like to go for what I prefer to call "warm approaches" -- that's where a girl has in some way invited you to approach her with her body language. Either you've locked eyes and smiled at one another, or …
/r/seduction09/09/14 06:15 AM
1

Take her by the hand and start dancing with her. Laugh it off and hug her if she looks awkward or hesitant. Repeat as desired.
/r/seduction09/09/14 05:56 AM
5

I'll just put this question to you: would you really want to be involved with a girl who'd cheat on someone after only a little convincing? Besides, this situation is just inviting needless drama. I'd say it's fine to stick her on the back burner and wait it out while you go do other things, but you don't want to be that loser who needs to get between people. There's nothing wrong with playing the long game on someone while you go live your life. Of course, if you insist on going the douchey rou…
/r/seduction09/09/14 05:44 AM
1

Usually nobody raised a fuss when I walked into one of those clubs. In certain parts of the world I might've gotten a lingering glance or two since they're usually not used to seeing sandy-haired, blue-eyed white guys showing up (except Spain, where that's pretty common). But then, I speak reasonably good Spanish and I don't act like a douchebag, so nobody really cared. Hispanic culture's a bit more... physical than other cultures, from what I've experienced. The concept of personal space is a b…
/r/seduction09/09/14 05:31 AM
2

Usually I'm indifferent. Depending on how much alcohol I've had, I might offer him some pointers.
/r/seduction09/09/14 05:25 AM
5

Only if you like having an alternative to swallowing flat-out rejection.
/r/seduction09/09/14 05:16 AM
1

By my way of thinking, you have two options: Go up to her as she's shit-talking you, put your arm around her, and say, "Hey, speaking of which, how would you like to tutor me? You look like someone who really likes to help out." Ignore it because it's needless kiddie drama and it doesn't fucking matter. That chick's probably going to peak in high school anyway, and in a decade she'll be doing the same gossipy bullshit with no prospects in the world, except to land a husband who's too stupid to k…
/r/seduction09/09/14 05:14 AM
5

I think you're looking for /r/fPUA.
/r/seduction09/09/14 05:08 AM
1

I think your approach is a great idea for something to do after you've done the other one. Basically, the idea is to take the tried and true military approach: break you down to nothing so that all you're left with is a blank template. This usually takes some time. But you're absolutely right about needing positive reinforcement afterward, because you need to build something back up once you've done the tearing down.
/r/seduction09/09/14 04:47 AM
1

The Game is a pretty good book on the subject. It's a novel, though. It's not a how-to guide, like I said. The wisdom you can gain from it is in the story itself, which is why it's recommended to people just starting out -- because the story is about a guy who's just starting out. The only way you're going to actually improve is by going out there and experimenting. Trial and error. It's how every guy worth his salt at seduction has done it. There are no shortcuts. I'm not going to hold your han…
/r/seduction09/09/14 01:04 AM
5

Thanks, man. In general, the age thing doesn't come up for me that often. Part of it is the fact that most of the women I attract or give much consideration to tend to be over twenty-five. On occasion, there are younger girls who flirt with me, but my interaction with them is usually less flirtatious and more general amusement on my part -- kinda like how I felt when I was a teenager and somebody's kid sister was giving me the goo-goo eyes. That's not to say that I haven't indulged my dirty old …
/r/seduction09/09/14 12:54 AM
5

You gotta basically just go for it. I suggest feeling it out first by touching her a lot (people around here call that "kino" or somesuch). Put your hand on her shoulder when you speak, touch her arm, get in her space. See how she does with that. If she recoils or looks visibly uncomfortable, stop it and don't go for a kiss. If she seems receptive to physical contact, lock eyes with her and slowly move your head in. If she follows your lead, go for it. If not, just smirk at her and touch her nos…
/r/seduction09/09/14 12:29 AM
2

Because most people are capable of extrapolating on the experiences detailed within that book and applying them to their own situation. Seduction isn't some recipe out of a cookbook. You're not going to find anything of substance that tells you how to do things in some step by step process. Get that idea right out of your head if that's what you're thinking. Seduction is the philosophy of Self, the art of conversation. It's reading people's emotions and intuiting their responses. It's knowing wh…
/r/seduction09/09/14 12:20 AM
1

Looks amount to very little when it comes to seduction. They help, there's no doubt about it, but at best they're bonus points. You can't rely on them exclusively. So if you see a guy who's better looking than you, so what? Be a better man than him. That much isn't difficult. Be smarter, wittier, funnier, and cooler than everyone else in the room. And if you're not that guy, then find that guy and learn from him.
/r/seduction08/09/14 11:33 PM
3

It's a novel, not a how-to manual. Take from it what you can, but understand that it's not supposed to show you how to do anything. It's just a biopic of one man's journey through the world of pickup artists.
/r/seduction08/09/14 11:17 PM
1

Proceed as if she didn't know your brother. It's not an actual obstacle.
/r/seduction08/09/14 11:09 PM
3

Flirting ain't fucking, son. I never stop doing it since it's just part of my personality. It's harmless. Basically, you're either gonna fuck around on her or you're not. If you've made the choice to stay faithful, then leave it at that and stop worrying about it.
/r/seduction08/09/14 11:08 PM
7

Do more push-ups and core stability exercises (specifically TCF exercises like "vacuuming" maneuevers). Your posture will improve naturally and you won't look like you're trying too hard. Plus, you'll get jacked in the process.
/r/seduction08/09/14 11:01 PM
1

Practice makes perfect. Even the best of us started out as awkward teenagers like you. Keep talking to girls. Experiment. Use what works and stop using what doesn't. Don't get discouraged; you're going to fail a lot. But you'll have your share of successes too. The important thing is to stay confident and funny no matter what. Best of luck to you, son.
/r/seduction08/09/14 09:59 PM
0

There are countless reasons why he'd bring it up, many of which don't involve attraction. Don't read too much into it. If you want to know if a guy's attracted to you, just ask him.
/r/seduction08/09/14 09:55 PM
5

Force yourself. There's very little in this world that can't be accomplished by putting on your big boy pants and forcing yourself to do something that you don't want to do. If you can get up every morning and make yourself go to work, you can stop yourself from acting like a clingy spaz. Negative reinforcement. When you feel yourself getting clingy or like you need to have a girl do a particular thing in order to be satisfied, smack yourself and tell that whiny little voice in your head to fuck…
/r/seduction08/09/14 09:50 PM
8

Almost. You're getting there, but you've got a ways to go yet. Some things will become clearer with time, though. All in all, this reads like a good preliminary assessment, but it clearly lacks the tempering of significant experience. You're on your way to getting it, though, so that's good. Mostly, the things I found indicative of this were the following: Seduction is often about validation; both men and women want to feel validated for having snagged a good catch. Sleeping with any and every g…
/r/seduction08/09/14 09:38 PM
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I'll leave you with a few things: She's just a chick. She can't do anything to you. You're physically more powerful than her and you've got a generally easier shake in life than she does. Relax. The very worst she can do to you is not have sex with you, and you're already there by default anyway. So you effectively lose nothing by talking to her. Everything is always worse in your head than it is in real life. Remember when you rode your bike for the first time? Remember how nervous you were? Re…
/r/seduction08/09/14 05:53 PM
6

Practice. A lot. Practice in the mirror and exercise all those normally unconscious muscle groups until you can effectively approximate an animated affect. Or, failing that, try the Peter Pan method: just think happy thoughts. Go back in your mind and pull forth the nicest, happiest memories you have. Or think about the happiness you get from stabbing someone you hate with a shard of broken glass... whatever floats your boat.
/r/seduction08/09/14 05:48 PM
4

Try touching her in places where she has more clothing. Failing that, wear biker gloves everywhere like it's 1987.
/r/seduction08/09/14 05:43 PM
3

The same general rules about confidence and humor apply. But girls my age tend to be a little more jaded, a little wiser to PUA bullshit, and a little more desperate to settle down. You're not going to get very far with magic tricks and goofy hats. You will get far by showing her a good time and having your shit together.
/r/seduction08/09/14 05:41 PM
2

"Hi. What's your name?" Keep it simple and hold yourself like you're Han fucking Solo. You'll be fine. Bear in mind, though, that's she's probably at the library to get shit done, not flirt with strangers. Don't be surprised if she doesn't want to talk to you. If that happens, don't sweat it. Just try again with some other girl.
/r/seduction08/09/14 05:37 PM
2

I don't dance that often. But when I do, I look like I'm fighting a thousand invisible ninjas. And that's awesome.
/r/seduction08/09/14 05:33 PM
1

Maybe when you're just starting out you're gonna fuck it up a lot. But unless you're dealing with psychiatric patients on a regular basis (which even then, if you know the symptoms, they become pretty easy to predict), people are still mostly predictable. Or, at the very least, understandable enough to where it doesn't leave you absolutely confused. Motivations aren't that tricky to figure out if you half pay attention. That's why people do well when they keep things simple and don't overthink t…
/r/seduction08/09/14 05:27 PM
3

It's a pretty saturated market, but knock yourself out.
/r/seduction08/09/14 07:08 AM
3

Just focus on having fun and don't worry too much about it. You don't want to be that guy who peaks in high school anyway, so even if you're not a fucking rock star right now, who cares? You've got your whole life ahead of you. And grinding is pretty harmless. Your parents are just spazzing out over nothing. Shit, I did way worse when I was your age, and they probably did too.
/r/seduction08/09/14 06:52 AM
2

You're not going to do well following a script. "Go from there" means engaging a girl on what she says. If she says, "I work in finance", reply with something lighthearted and funny like, "Sweet. I'll know who to exploit come tax season." The key is banter. It literally doesn't matter what you say as long as your back and forth is good. If she brings up something that you can relate to, tell her an engaging story about that. If she says something that you can't relate to, ask her to elaborate. U…
/r/seduction08/09/14 06:48 AM
5

Truth be told, that's not all that complicated. Learn to read people and act accordingly based on their idiosyncrasies. Do it enough and you don't even have to think about it; you'll just do it. Also, I disagree with this part: Women also take a long time to decide if they like a guy, which is they will oftentimes dismiss a guy as a “creep” and then later fuck him. Women decide immediately if they like a guy or not. That doesn't mean they can't ever change their mind.
/r/seduction08/09/14 06:00 AM
3

Defining things is pretty overrated, and usually pretty unnecessary since girls will invariably want things defined at some point anyway. Let other people know what you want through action, not words. Instead of saying, "I like you, let's be in a relationship", just act like you're in a relationship. Sooner or later, she'll want you to define things, so you can just make it known what you want then. Until then, shut up, go with the flow, and let things play out naturally. There's never a need to…
/r/seduction08/09/14 05:54 AM
1

Yeah, she's probably at least somewhat into you. But you also sound like you're in high school, so she's probably going to flit around between a bunch of people. Relax, have fun, and don't be stupid.
/r/seduction08/09/14 05:50 AM
1

It's useful to know. A lot of people -- myself included -- hate phone calls. I try to avoid them whenever humanly possible. They're intrusive and they take up too much time. Texts, on the other hand, allow for an extended conversation while you go out and live your life. It takes a few seconds to check and respond to a text message, then I can go about whatever I was doing. As a bonus, if you text back and forth over the course of several days, it keeps you fresh in her mind. And never underesti…
/r/seduction08/09/14 04:42 AM
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"Mindfulness is the intentional, accepting and non-judgmental focus of one's attention on the emotions, thoughts and sensations occurring in the present moment" Now explain to me how that's not overthinking.
/r/seduction08/09/14 12:13 AM
-1

I do understand mindfulness. I also understand that it's a great way to get needlessly fixated on being "in the moment". I've seen my fair share of guys freaking out over their "state" because they think they need some fucking meditative hooplah to get through the day. And they don't; it's a crutch. But the way some people in the seduction community talk about it, they think it's absolutely imperative to meditate and destroy the Self every day. Sorry, but I don't buy it. The Power of Now is one …
/r/seduction07/09/14 11:42 PM
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Feel free to disagree with me, but being constantly fixated on being "present" or "in the moment" is overthinking. That's where the whole concept of mindfulness becomes a big fucking contradiction of itself.
/r/seduction07/09/14 11:29 PM
1

In either event, it's over the top. If you're getting bent out of shape over someone fucking someone else, it doesn't say much about your ability to go with the flow and take a pass on drama. Even if it was her friend, it's frankly none of her business, and her choice to make a big deal out of it.
/r/seduction07/09/14 07:12 PM
2

"Nah. Three's a crowd." She's using the friend as a buffer, which most likely means she's not interested in anything romantic.
/r/seduction07/09/14 07:02 PM
1

Neo on Fullerton and Clark is usually where I go.
/r/seduction07/09/14 07:00 PM
2

"Nah, I don't know your friend. Just you."
/r/seduction07/09/14 06:59 PM
1

From my understanding, mindfulness is the goal.
/r/seduction07/09/14 06:53 PM
1

The fact that you're posting to /r/amiugly (a subreddit whose entire purpose is external validation) indicates that you're not actually that confident. Odds are, you're coming off as approval-seeking, needy, or desperate in some way. And that, my young friend, will turn women off to you faster than anything. Either that, or they legitimately have boyfriends and you have a pathological attraction to unavailable women. In which case, I suggest just going out and talking to more women.
/r/seduction07/09/14 06:52 PM
7

Yeah... That sidebar is sorely in need of an update. I don't think anyone's actually used that Mystery method nomenclature since, like, 2005 -- it sounds creepy as fuck.
/r/seduction07/09/14 06:45 PM
0

Some people need that new wave quasi-Buddhist stuff to feel like they're on an even keel. A lot of guys simply don't have the wherewithal to cowboy the fuck up and force themselves to do things. So they need to go inside their heads and do some mental exercises first. There's nothing really wrong with it, but your mileage will vary. Personally, I've never found it particularly useful. I've always been a big proponent of simply pushing through the discomfort of a situation and using sheer force o…
/r/seduction07/09/14 06:43 PM
6

I just act friendly, but don't actively pursue anything. There's nothing to prove from boning some girl who's throwing herself at you. And there's no need to get sucked into someone else's drama when there are plenty of other girls to choose from.
/r/seduction07/09/14 06:37 PM
-12

I'm gonna disagree with this. Overthinking is precisely what holds you back most of the time. But then I've never subscribed to that Eckhart Tolle new wave crap.
/r/seduction07/09/14 06:32 PM
2

Own it. Remind her that you've got nothing to apologize for since you two weren't dating. It was just sex between consenting adults. Then drop it and move forward. If she persists in being pissed off, remind girl B that you're not beholden to her for anything and that unless she wants to pursue something serious, this incident is none of her business. Frankly, she sounds like she has shitty self-esteem and is going to be more of a pain in the ass than she's worth. I wouldn't want to date someone…
/r/seduction07/09/14 06:30 PM
1

As long as you promise to never call it a lair again.
/r/seduction07/09/14 06:16 PM
1

Try looking at it this way: everything you were taught was wrong, so you've got nothing to be nervous about. Worst case scenario is you suck your first few times, and then you'll naturally get better because that's how experience works. Don't fear failure, son. It's just part of becoming awesome.
/r/seduction07/09/14 06:53 AM
1

Yeah, it's been a while since I've written one. Maybe I'll get around to that soon...
/r/seduction07/09/14 06:51 AM
9

Get a shitty motel or bang her in your car. S'what I used to do back when I was a lad.
/r/seduction07/09/14 06:42 AM
3

Yeah... That's simultaneously lame and creepy as fuck. But hey, give it a shot and see.
/r/seduction07/09/14 06:40 AM
2

There's no reason whatsoever that you can't simply condition yourself to be talkative, witty, and relaxed over time through persistence and frequent experience. As with any skill, the more you do it, the better you'll get. Weed is fine and fun to do, but you're using it as a crutch, and that's not going to get you anywhere in the long run. Do you really want to be the guy who's totally fucked without weed? Or do you want to be able to own the situation regardless of your mental state?
/r/seduction07/09/14 06:00 AM
4

Well, you believe in leagues, so it's not going to be very effective any way you go about it. You've already shot yourself in the foot by assuming she's above you in any way.
/r/seduction07/09/14 05:55 AM
2

She's very obviously into you. Relax. It's just banter. You're doing fine.
/r/seduction06/09/14 06:10 PM
3

Was the recording your "nasally" voice? Because it already sounds like Darth Vader.
/r/seduction06/09/14 05:59 PM
1

In general, yeah. But you don't lose anything by giving it a try and making sure. Sometimes, people can be wishy-washy. So you can go ahead and try escalating next time you hang out with her. That way, you'll know for certain.
/r/seduction06/09/14 05:32 PM
2

A few things: Never, ever ask, "Do you like me?" That's kiddie stuff and makes you look like you lack confidence. Always assume she's into you. When you're attracted to someone, you just are. You don't have to think about it or wait some arbitrary period of time. If she's not into you now, odds are pretty good she's not going to be into you after hanging out with her for several more weeks. When in doubt, make a move. If she rejects you, you'll know she's not into you and you can stop immediatel…
/r/seduction06/09/14 05:24 PM
4

Understand that the typical girl you're hooking up with or dating casually probably isn't the one, so there's no need to get attached beyond feelings of general fondness. She's but one girl in several billion. At any point, you could replace her with someone just as good. Take it from someone who's been there: when you find your it girl, it won't be anything remotely like the feelings you've had so far. It'll be like being electrocuted and you'll be completely taken off guard. These girls you're…
/r/seduction05/09/14 06:41 PM
1

It's your call. I'm just going off of experience here. People flake sometimes. Life gets in the way. But I would've missed out on some truly epic fun if I wrote people off because of it.
/r/seduction05/09/14 06:04 PM
3

Chill out. Seriously, that's the first thing you need to do. If you lose your shit every time one person disrespects you, you are effectively giving away control of your life to someone else. Being offended is a choice, no matter what any tumblrina or SRS warrior will tell you. This broad's actions affect you exactly as much as you let them. She was shitty to you. So what? Does this truly affect who you are as a man? Are you any different a person because someone else was a problem? Of course no…
/r/seduction05/09/14 05:34 PM
7

It's a party, son. The point is to mingle. Circle back to her after you've chatted up some other people and continue where you left off.
/r/seduction05/09/14 04:38 PM
5

Wait, you're a promoter and you don't already know how to do this? Did you just start? Whew... Okay. Well, your best bet is to be gregarious, fun, and chummy. Don't act like you're trying to bang them, just that you're a fun and awesome guy and you're inviting them to an even more exciting place. Keep it short, simple, and memorable. Give idle compliments on shit girls care about (clothes, hair, etc.), but don't be afraid to throw in playful banter or teasing if they're hesitant. You're effectiv…
/r/seduction05/09/14 04:35 PM
1

Don't overthink it, son. Life gets in the way sometimes and she's giving you the opportunity to see her regardless. Go with and see what happens. Feel free to give her shit over it later in a playful, teasing way. A flake is less of a big deal than people think it is; just plan to do something else in case she does and don't stress out over it. Don't flush a perfectly good opportunity just because you want to hold fast to some idea that women need to be completely punctual all the time. Do yours…
/r/seduction05/09/14 04:27 PM
0

You're overthinking it. A simple, "What's up?" after a day or two doesn't convey anything other than "What's up?" And if she says nothing, you move the fuck on. As someone who's been with a lot of categorically busy women, it's important to realize the difference between looking desperate and just following up. There's absolutely nothing wrong with giving someone the benefit of the doubt.
/r/seduction05/09/14 04:20 PM
1

Life gets in the way sometimes. People get busy and don't always have time to reply. There's no need to spaz out about it. Besides, you literally lose nothing by giving it a try. Worst case scenario is she keeps ignoring you and you write it off.
/r/seduction05/09/14 03:56 PM
0

Not in the slightest. I like to win.
/r/seduction05/09/14 06:43 AM
2

All I can say is you're lucky he/she played along.
/r/seduction05/09/14 06:41 AM
1

The heartbreaking part is what's confusing. Why would you want to invite that kind of drama?
/r/seduction05/09/14 06:07 AM
1

Seems a little much considering you just met her. But I've seen worse. Wait and see if she responds. If she doesn't, feel free to shoot her another text in a couple days. If she doesn't after that, write it off and move on.
/r/seduction05/09/14 06:06 AM
3

Fuck going slow. Life's too short for that bullshit. If you like someone, have the stones to go for them and have a relationship on your own terms. Don't set arbitrary timetables on things just for the sake of setting pace. If you're comfortable with something, do it. If not, don't. Keep it simple and don't be a spaz. You'll be fine.
/r/seduction05/09/14 05:58 AM
1

I honestly have a hard time being all that sympathetic. It's the same general concept as leaving your wallet on the seat in a convertible with the top down and expecting it not to get stolen. If you use an insecure medium for file storage, expect to get shit stolen -- especially if you're a high-profile individual. If you're going to take racy photos, awesome. But at least have the common sense not to do it on your fucking iPhone. Now as for the movement itself? It's kinda silly. I mean, who doe…
/r/seduction05/09/14 05:55 AM
14

You could shorten it to, "Boring. What else you got?"
/r/askTRP04/09/14 06:21 AM
13

"You're telling me that of all the specifics about you that make you unique, the one thing that separates you from other women is that you're not slutty? What else you got?" She sounds boring as shit, by the way.
/r/askTRP04/09/14 05:26 AM
-1

Of course they're different. Different doesn't mean unequal. Just because I take charge in a relationship doesn't mean I need to lose my shit over the fact that a girl's slept with other people. Serious question: do you honestly view other dudes as competition? Because that would explain a lot.
/r/askTRP04/09/14 03:27 AM
0

Of course they're different. Is separate but equal no longer a concept, or are we all seriously so scared of chicks rejecting us that we need to freak out over the slightest hint of equitable treatment? Come on, man. That's stupid.
/r/askTRP04/09/14 03:25 AM
0

Except I don't hold women to different standards, so it would be hypocritical. I'm an egalitarian. If she gets the same legal considerations as I do under the law, there's no reason whatsoever why I need to hold her to some draconian standard of purity just to make myself feel better. I'm not that insecure. Her life is her life. My life is my life. If I got bent out of shape over every guy she ever fucked, I'd be nothing but a whiny gamma male. Besides, if the previous guys were of any actual co…
/r/askTRP03/09/14 04:11 PM
-3

Only insofar as it pertains to diseases. Otherwise, I don't really give a fuck. I'd be a giant fucking hypocrite if I got upset over my girlfriend's past, given the sexual history I've had. Besides, it's not like other guys are gonna be much competition, so why would I worry?
/r/askTRP03/09/14 05:50 AM
1

I remember this one. It's kinda funny because you can tell she expected shit going into it, but Strauss actually held his own.
/r/seduction24/05/14 12:31 AM
1

I'm gonna call bullshit on this one. If you can show me one legitimate example of anyone who ever became an alpha male after a lifetime of being something else, I'll rescind my statement.
/r/seduction10/05/14 04:13 AM
1

OKCupid works sometimes. I once sent a chick the message, "You seem like my kind of crazy." She replied with, "I probably am." We sent a few texts and met up later that day for anonymous sex in a motel. Never saw each other again.
/r/seduction10/05/14 01:38 AM
5

Racial segregation is only an issue if you make it one. Otherwise, I wouldn't have been able to date outside my race so many times. Go out and meet people of all races. Step outside the box. Be ballsy. And if the chick isn't into you because you're ethnically different from her, fuck it. Why would you want to bang a chick like that anyway?
/r/seduction10/05/14 01:21 AM
1

I'd call her out on it. "Why you trying to cock block me, bro? You weren't interested and that's totally fine, but stop trying to sabotage my chances with other chicks."
/r/seduction10/05/14 01:18 AM
1

You're really overthinking it. If you see someone you're interested in, talk to them. Introduce yourself. Ask them some questions. Do it enough times and you'll stop being awkward about it. Then once you're comfortable with talking to strangers, you can start applying humor and wit to make yourself attractive to them. If you're worried about being bored with the conversation, then don't be boring. It's literally that simple. I mean, Jesus, how did you make friends with people before? It's the sa…
/r/seduction09/05/14 04:48 AM
3

Life doesn't come with an instruction booklet, son. The overwhelming majority of people figure it out by trial and error, and that works just fine. Besides, giving you exact commands for what to say wouldn't help you anyway, because scripts don't account for conversation variables or unexpected behaviors. You need to be able to get a general idea of what to do and figure out the rest on your own. Everybody else does. You can too. You're not an idiot. Also, you're in New York City. It's the most …
/r/seduction09/05/14 04:17 AM
2

... You realize that hostility and general air of unpleasantness is probably why you're having problems with women, right?
/r/seduction09/05/14 03:58 AM
3

It's the same principle as any skill: you're not going to be confident when you first start out, but after practicing and getting the hang of it, you start to become more confident in your skills. You've already done this in some areas (i.e. video games, music, reading, etc.). Find out what your problem areas are and work on them. If you've got social anxiety, force yourself to be in social situations until you're desensitized to it and can handle your shit like a grown up. If you're bad at some…
/r/seduction09/05/14 03:49 AM
3

If yourself is already great, then just be yourself. But if yourself sucks at certain things, there's no reason whatsoever to keep sucking. That's what self-improvement is all about.
/r/seduction09/05/14 03:43 AM
1

Don't think of it as "faking it until you make it", think of it as reprogramming years of bad habits and shitty social conditioning until you do stuff like that automatically. You cannot do this without forcing yourself to act differently than you normally would, which to some can be construed as being fake. You're not being fake; you're just slowly undoing the years of damage that made you into an ineffectual turd. That takes time, and a fair amount of rebuilding who you are from the ground up.…
/r/seduction09/05/14 03:25 AM
1

"Ratted you out"? I thought it was a false accusation?
/r/seduction09/05/14 03:14 AM
1

You're a confessed shut-in who spends the majority of his time indoors watching anime and playing video games. I'm fairly certain you don't have a clue what "normal" people do.
/r/seduction09/05/14 02:42 AM
4

Be friends with her? Not much else you can do aside from ignore her completely.
/r/seduction09/05/14 02:39 AM
3

You're looking for /r/askseddit or /r/socialskills.
/r/seduction08/05/14 07:12 PM
3

Do you seriously need people to hold your hand with everything? Christ, making friends and meeting people is like social skills 101. If you're looking for pickup tips in the intermediate to advanced seduction subreddit, you should already know basic shit like that. Or, to put it another way: ask a stupid question, get a stupid answer.
/r/seduction08/05/14 07:09 PM
2

And yet nothing I said was inaccurate.
/r/seduction08/05/14 06:58 PM
1

I wouldn't bother. On the one hand, you lose nothing by doing it. On the other, virtually everyone is tense, keyed up, sleepy, or otherwise pissed off that they have to spend the next 8+ hours at work. Even if you're incredibly charming, the odds of you actually getting anywhere are next to zero.
/r/seduction08/05/14 05:52 PM
1

If it were me, I'd bust her balls for thinking that way. "Okay, princess. Just thought you'd like the help." Unless you actually do doubt her ability to succeed on her own, in which case dial it back and don't be afraid to watch people fail. Life is a series of mistakes and lessons, and in general, it's best to let people handle it on their own unless they ask you for help.
/r/seduction08/05/14 05:46 PM
2

The only way that's possible is if you're constantly putting your own needs aside for the sake of someone else and getting nothing in return. Otherwise, it's perfectly fine to be supportive and helpful.
/r/seduction08/05/14 05:35 PM
1

Go outside. Make new friends. Go outside again. Meet women. Casually date women until they want a solid commitment from you. Rinse and repeat until you find a woman you want to do that with. Girlfriend acquired.
/r/seduction08/05/14 05:21 PM
1

Ah, gotcha. Yeah, that's fine. Doesn't hurt to double-check and have backup plans in case things fall through.
/r/seduction08/05/14 05:06 PM
2

No, don't check at all until she asks you to define things.
/r/seduction08/05/14 04:38 PM
182

Jesus Christ, son... Okay, when a girl hits on you so blatantly like that, just go with it. Fuck being nervous; she was literally doing all the work for you. Your one job when that happens is to roll with it. If you're afraid of looking bad, just remember: she's already into you. It doesn't matter if you look like a jackass or awkward, because she clearly doesn't care. In that situation, the only thing you could do to fuck it up is to choke like you just did. Next time, don't be such a spaz.
/r/seduction08/05/14 06:57 AM
0

Right... but that doesn't change your inherent temperament. Like I said: you're either are one or you aren't. You don't become one any more than an ENTJ becomes an INFP. Your personality is your personality. It matures and becomes refined with experience, but it doesn't fundamentally change without dramatic alterations to brain chemistry (i.e. head trauma).
/r/seduction08/05/14 06:49 AM
7

Confidence and a sense of humor aren't things you "use up" -- they're just traits you possess. You "keep up" your relationships by just being the best man you can be. If your personalities are compatible and you don't get bored with each other, it'll last. Otherwise, it'll end just like everything else. People are in your life for as long as they need to be. Don't stress out over longevity; just focus on being the best version of yourself.
/r/seduction08/05/14 06:46 AM
0

These are things an alpha male does, but doing those things will not make you an alpha male. You either are one or you aren't one. It's an inherent temperament. Some people are natural leaders; others aren't. And that's totally okay. You shouldn't try to shoehorn yourself into a role that doesn't fit you just because you think it'll get you more ass. You should learn to be comfortable with who you are and what role you fall into in a group setting. Remember: if everyone is the leader, then nobod…
/r/seduction08/05/14 06:39 AM
10

Because she feels bad for turning you down but still doesn't find you attractive enough to date.
/r/seduction08/05/14 06:34 AM
3

And you didn't tell her to chill the fuck out because...?
/r/seduction08/05/14 06:29 AM
2

Personally, I don't bother with labels. Shit will get defined in its own time whether I want it to or not, so I just ride it out and have fun until that happens.
/r/seduction08/05/14 06:27 AM
2

I'm failing to see the rude part.
/r/seduction08/05/14 06:25 AM
2

There are times when I visit the rural town outside Chicago where I grew up. It's a small place with not much going for it; the skinheads I went to high school with either killed themselves with meth years ago or got dead-end jobs and crapped out a couple shitty kids. The hot girls became People of Wal-Mart. The town itself was run primarily on the construction business, so it sprawled out with shitty strip malls while its downtown rotted away, abandoned and forgotten save for a few kids who lik…
/r/seduction07/05/14 08:57 PM
1

The difference is confident people just are confident. They don't have an off switch and they don't have different faces for different people. They are who they are. If you were one of those people, you wouldn't be thinking in terms of "modes" because you'd only have one mode.
/r/seduction07/05/14 08:39 PM
0

I strongly doubt she was referring to the ones who have to fake confidence. There are people who are just approachable and confident by default, and those people will beat out the ones who have to fake it 100 times out of 100.
/r/seduction07/05/14 08:03 PM
2

Remember that conversations are a give and take. You don't really have to talk a lot about yourself, but you need to be able to relate to people -- especially women. If they tell you something about yourself, being able to convey that you relate to their experience in some way is absolutely crucial. The easiest ways to do that are having a lot of general knowledge about a wide variety of topics and having a broad range of experience to draw from. Then, you can relate that by means of engaging th…
/r/seduction07/05/14 07:08 PM
2

Who cares? Just own it if it comes up. This is only a big deal if you make it one.
/r/seduction07/05/14 06:55 PM
8

Well, you're off to a good start. But ask yourself: what are you doing to make yourself stand out from every other dancing monkey? So far, the impression you're giving me is that you're an overly straight-edged dude who enjoys goofy shit like dancing, but doesn't really offer anything of substance. If they're friendly but disinterested, that pretty almost always means you're a boring person to talk to and not worth the effort.
/r/seduction07/05/14 06:52 PM
1

Doesn't sound like she's into you, but fuck it. Once your class is over, ask her out. You're exactly where you were before if she says no, so it's no big deal. Do yourself a favor, though: don't be a lovelorn spaz about it.
/r/seduction07/05/14 05:24 PM
1

Shocking. A girl who doesn't like bullshit.
/r/seduction07/05/14 05:20 PM
1

Easy. You've gotten past the early stages of what you need to do: getting over anxiety, having interests, being contented with your overall life situation. But that's just the first couple steps. What you seem to not be doing is being ballsy and taking chances. You're talking to girls just fine, but that seems to be all you're doing: talking. Where's the escalation? Where is the physical contact that indicates what you're doing is going somewhere? Where's the flirtatious banter? You've gotta ste…
/r/seduction07/05/14 05:10 PM
0

Be attractive. Don't be unattractive. Be confident in everything you say and do. Be actually funny. Touch her a lot and get in her personal bubble. Escalate. Her body language will show you the way.
/r/seduction07/05/14 09:11 AM
2

... No, man. Just... No.
/r/seduction07/05/14 08:48 AM
2

Just go to her place. Problem solved.
/r/seduction07/05/14 08:36 AM
0

I didn't notice any major differences between America and the UK in terms of pickup. General bar etiquette is to take turns buying rounds when you're in a group, but otherwise it's pretty similar.
/r/seduction07/05/14 08:11 AM
4

Did... that chick say "lol" in a regular conversation?
/r/seduction07/05/14 06:57 AM
1

Everybody judges people, just in varying degrees. It's a perfectly normal part of the human condition and one of our chief mechanisms for survival. After all, judgment is what keeps us from walking into danger and getting killed. Judging people fairly is what you should be concerned with, and it seems like that's what you've been doing. You deemed that guy arrogant based on his behavior -- which was merely an observation -- but you didn't judge his value as a person by calling him a douchebag. I…
/r/seduction07/05/14 03:59 AM
1

Again, they're vague talking points, but not signs or examples. Dishonest could mean literally anything you want it to mean.
/r/seduction07/05/14 02:41 AM
1

You don't. Them's the breaks, son. It's tough being a man.
/r/seduction07/05/14 02:39 AM
1

Yeah, but I wouldn't expect much if you have to follow up.
/r/seduction07/05/14 02:39 AM
1

By realizing that it'll come on its own eventually, so you can stop pushing for it. Emotional connections are easy as shit to develop because your emotions are pretty stupid when all is said and done. I mean, hell, you can develop an emotional connection to something as goofy as a car or a building. Just because you share a connection with a person doesn't mean it's significant. You'll have dozens if not hundreds of similar connections throughout your life, so there's no need to get all clingy o…
/r/seduction06/05/14 07:03 PM
8

Avoid neediness. Be self-reliant. Stop making a big deal out of everything. Virtually every problem in a relationship is only an issue if you make it one. Avoid going on pointless crusades out of "principle" or whatever. Nobody truly gives a fuck about your point of view but you. Most arguments are extraordinarily stupid when viewed through an objective lens. That's not to say you shouldn't stand up for yourself or discuss things that are genuine issues, but I guarantee you that most of what peo…
/r/seduction06/05/14 06:35 AM
2

One kinda begets the other. You don't gain confidence in something until you're practiced at it.
/r/seduction06/05/14 04:29 AM
1

It's fine. She's at work. Don't spaz out about it.
/r/seduction06/05/14 03:40 AM
1

Relax, stop making a big deal out of things, and focus on having a good time with women. Don't get all needy on them and you should be fine.
/r/seduction06/05/14 03:18 AM
9

Obsessing over your bicep size isn't going to make your workout progress any faster. Similarly, obsessing over pickup isn't going to make you any better at it. Learn about it and put it into practice, but stop freaking out over it.
/r/seduction06/05/14 03:16 AM
-1

By that standard, anyone who makes out with drunk chicks and posts super edited video footage of it is, by definition, the man.
/r/seduction06/05/14 03:11 AM
2

I dunno, I wouldn't exactly call it impressive. I think there are certain types of girls who are comfortable being up front and direct, and those girls are attracted to a certain kind of guy. It's probably the same reason I've dated so many strippers and chicks in the kink community.
/r/seduction06/05/14 12:33 AM
1

The "signs" provided aren't actually solid, clear answers or any kind of definitive list. They were more like five talking points, but those are useless if there's only one person talking. So the entire video just comes across as the whimsical ramblings of a teenaged girl. Concrete answers would be more like: He hides his phone from you. He wants more sex than you provide. He has active dating profiles. Etc. etc.
/r/seduction06/05/14 12:31 AM
1

You're definitely not going to be doing that by trying too hard, I promise you. And beyond that, you're certainly not going to be an alpha male by worrying about coming across as an alpha male. You either are one or you aren't one. There's no "becoming" an alpha male. You either have a natural leader personality or you don't. And that's totally fine if you don't; not everybody does. There's a reason there's only ever one alpha in a group -- actually having that temperament is pretty rare (and th…
/r/seduction06/05/14 12:25 AM
3

Like I said...
/r/seduction06/05/14 12:16 AM
2

For a couple reasons: First, you're probably trying way too hard. Profiles with a ton of detail and stress on things you value give women the ability to instantaneously judge you and pass you over. You want a modicum of mystery surrounding yourself -- something to figure out. Laying it all out there means there's nothing to discover, and if you can accurately sum yourself up in a single dating profile, you're obviously not that interesting a person to begin with. Minimum effort in online dating …
/r/seduction06/05/14 12:06 AM
2

The easiest way to learn how to be funny is to surround yourself with funny people. If you see people making a lot of people laugh, make friends with them. Over time, you'll adopt their mannerisms and speech cadence. You'll also learn what jokes work and what don't. Aside from that, there are a couple different types of humor that you can learn on your own: Referential humor - making references to inside jokes or obscure knowledge. Examples of this style of humor include shows like Archer, The V…
/r/seduction05/05/14 11:56 PM
3

Eh, not uncommon, but not exactly the norm either. Numbers aren't really a big deal, though, so even if they don't offer it, it's not like it's a problem to ask for it.
/r/seduction05/05/14 11:33 PM
1

Jesus... Anything passes for seduction tips these days, doesn't it?
/r/seduction05/05/14 06:43 PM
3

Neither. Go solo. Unless you've got a solidly dedicated wingman who knows exactly what he's doing and what his role for the night is, you're better off alone.
/r/seduction05/05/14 06:41 PM
0

Man, it's like for every good point there's an immediate, retarded generalization. I know RSD is a lot of garbage, but come on. Half of this stuff is just asinine.
/r/seduction05/05/14 06:38 PM
2

It's always great seeing someone from your past and starting with a clean slate. You'd be surprised what short memories people have, and a couple years is more than enough time to start fresh and come off as a completely different person.
/r/seduction05/05/14 06:29 PM
1

I had the best luck taking pictures with random people. Walking around as an attractive white guy who's taller than the average Japanese dude gave some novelty to my presence, so the girls seemed more than happy to oblige. On Okinawa especially, they seemed particularly interested in speaking to someone who spoke English fluently so they could practice. Just remember that in Japan, be confident, but be polite. They're big on politeness over there. Try your best to memorize lines in your phrase b…
/r/seduction05/05/14 06:24 PM
0

Uh... Why would it be beta to find out a person's schedule? Just ask what their week looks like and plan accordingly. Not everything is some hierarchical power display, dude. Also, stop worrying about what's "alpha" and what's not. You know what's alpha? Being a leader. That's it. That is literally all there is to it. If you're not a leader, stop trying to be one -- that's not your personality and it'll just make you seem desperate. Be comfortable with who you are and your role in groups. That i…
/r/seduction05/05/14 06:13 PM
1

I prefer to tell them like anecdotes, since my goal is usually to teach and to tell an entertaining story.
/r/seduction05/05/14 06:08 PM
1

If she brings it up, make light of it. "Ah, you know I'm just fucking with you. You're all right." If she persists in being angry at you, man up and say, "All right, I'm sorry." Learn to dial it back a notch. It's perfectly fine to tease and banter, but don't be a douchebag.
/r/seduction05/05/14 06:07 PM
1

Maybe that's why his game has been so epically shitty lately.
/r/seduction04/05/14 06:58 PM
3

Start with touching and keep pushing the envelope until she either reciprocates or rebukes you. Once you get a kiss, the hardest part is over. Everything else pretty much follows from there. Really, the thing you gotta do is just force yourself to grow a pair and act. You can't sit there all timid and expect things to happen.
/r/seduction04/05/14 12:05 PM
1

By not seeing them as above you. It's mostly a matter of reprogramming your mind by realizing that you were taught wrong, and that there's no such thing as leagues. Think about any other time you're wrong: do you go on doing the same shit, or do you adapt and change accordingly? It's the same basic principle.
/r/seduction04/05/14 06:15 AM
1

That's a pretty accurate assessment, yeah. Generally, if you're teasing a girl and bantering with her, it's an indication that you're not scared of what she'll think, so you're comfortable busting her chops a bit -- kinda like you'd do with your buddies.
/r/seduction03/05/14 08:57 PM
2

Well, aside from his game totally sucking balls, he didn't do anything wrong.
/r/seduction03/05/14 07:41 PM
1

I think the general expectation is that someone with such alleged prowess in the field of attraction and seduction shouldn't be so overtly, powerfully cringeworthy. He should've learned by now how to be cool all the time rather than hinging his entire game on a single gimmick and just playing the percentages. I mean, that's like beginner-level common sense, but this guy's been doing it for over a decade. I expect creepy loser from inexperienced people, but this guy's supposed to be an icon in th…
/r/seduction03/05/14 07:15 PM
1

It's because you're relaxed and you don't give a shit around the girls you're not into. It's not rocket science. Chill out and treat the other girls the same and suddenly you'll have similar results across the board.
/r/seduction03/05/14 06:28 PM
1

Stay in touch and reconnect later. Date other people in the meantime. Odds are, she'll be doing the same.
/r/seduction03/05/14 06:17 PM
2

Schadenfreude. Schadenfreude everywhere.
/r/seduction03/05/14 06:10 PM
6

The line is drawn with intent. It's perfectly fine to be chivalrous and pay for things if that's just how you roll. If it's who you are and you're not doing it to garner any kind of favor, it'll be obvious to anyone because it'll just be an automatic, unconscious part of your behavior. You won't draw attention to it or expect any kind of reward for it. That's the key difference between a sycophant and an overall good guy. The pedestal is a lot of inner thoughts, but those translate into subtle c…
/r/seduction03/05/14 06:08 PM
3

Oh how the mighty have fallen...
/r/seduction03/05/14 05:51 PM
8

Assuming she's more valuable than other girls because of how attracted you are to her. Assuming she's "out of your league" in some way. Being sycophantic or sucking up to her. Trying to impress her or garner her favor in some way. Buying things for her in order to win her approval. Being chivalrous (opening doors, pulling out chairs, etc.) because you think it'll get her to like you. Assuming she's special, unique, or unattainable in some way because of a trait you admire. Letting her take the l…
/r/seduction03/05/14 05:50 PM
1

Just focus on having a good time. Prom's pretty far removed from the John Hughes Brat Pack idea that it used to be. People don't get laid or throw house parties anymore. They don't get drunk and drive to "makeout point". They usually go home early or get chaperoned to some venue that keeps the kids distracted from doing naughty things. My kid sister went to Gameworks for her prom. In other words, don't stress out about it. It's just a dance. Go there, have a good time, eat some overpriced food a…
/r/seduction03/05/14 05:35 PM
1

Try the mall out there. I met some pretty hot girls last time I was down that way.
/r/seduction03/05/14 05:30 PM
2

Approaching women and getting laid should be things you want to do, not things you need to do because you've given yourself no outlet. You should want it because it's fun and makes you feel good, not because you desperately need a hole to stick your neglected penis in. And really, you can jerk off once in a while and still have the drive to talk to women. Your refractory period isn't that long. After a certain point, the benefits of holding back start to dramatically taper off, and you start run…
/r/seduction03/05/14 05:20 PM
5

Except it's not immature or a waste of time. It's a cardiovascular workout, balances out dopamine levels, provides a healthy outlet for fantasies, increases muscle tone, and dramatically improves prostate health over time. It also helps prevent premature ejaculation. And seeing as it takes like five minutes, you can easily fit it in with all those other equally masturbatory activities you mentioned. I mean really, meditation? That's just jerking off for your subconscious. And it's every bit the …
/r/seduction03/05/14 05:06 PM
10

That's good, but you can go ahead and jerk off, man. Doing it every now and then won't kill you, and it's actually good for you. Don't let those NoFap weirdos sell you on bad science and cultish behavior.
/r/seduction03/05/14 04:43 AM
1

It's simple enough: if you're a leader, walk around with supreme confidence, and regard all of her petty bullshit with little more than an aloof smirk, you'll do fine.
/r/seduction02/05/14 12:47 AM
2

Sure. By having the mindset that there are always other girls out there, and that even if she fucks someone else, that doesn't inherently change who you are. Besides, I like variety in my sexual partners and it'd be shitty of me to deny someone that same inclination. She can go ahead and fuck whoever she wants, because at the end of the day, I can do the same.
/r/seduction02/05/14 12:44 AM
1

HappyJerk was banned? What the hell for?
/r/seduction02/05/14 12:35 AM
1

It's never a bad idea to play it cool, man. So relax. There's no need to go on in great detail about yourself. She's not your therapist, and I guarantee you she's more interested in having you as an outlet than knowing about your inner bullshit. Here's the thing: she seems to like you on a personal level. I know from experience that strippers tend to value physical relationships differently than other women: sex to them can be a sign of affection, but not necessarily something significant. To he…
/r/seduction01/05/14 10:46 PM
1

Seems like a lot of whimsy but nothing really concrete here. So, really, pretty useless.
/r/seduction01/05/14 10:32 PM
24

Relax. Nothing is ever as big a deal as you think it is.
/r/seduction01/05/14 09:30 PM
2

Jesus, man. You're making me blush over here.
/r/seduction01/05/14 07:42 PM
3

Try to remember that despite what anyone else says, you are the one who ultimately decides the kind of person you are. Nobody else. Yeah, people can call you shy, introverted, or whatever -- but their perception ultimately isn't the deciding factor here.
/r/seduction01/05/14 06:59 PM
2

Cold reading's pretty easy, and it's kind of fun to play amateur detective based on tiny clues. You can tell a lot by a person's appearance: for instance, the girl with consignment shop clothes and nerd glasses probably listens to bands like The Arcade Fire or Bright Eyes. If she fidgets a lot even when she's having a good time, she's probably anal retentive and busies herself with arts and crafts. If she's in her mid-twenties and a college graduate, it's safe to assume she's worried about makin…
/r/seduction01/05/14 07:37 AM
2

Prague, Istanbul, Chicago (my home city), Amsterdam, Phuket, Manila, Jakarta, Madrid, Sao Paulo, Mexico City, and Beijing should be added to that list. And if you're feeling fairly ballsy/have a general disregard for your personal safety: Khartoum, Johannesburg, and Monrovia are fascinating places -- provides you can deal with the weather and know how to avoid being murdered.
/r/seduction01/05/14 07:18 AM
1

Just don't look awkward. Pick a stance and be comfortable with it. Look relaxed, but confident and ready to take on whatever situation presents itself. Some people you're just not into. There's nothing wrong with that. But understand that being picky or feeling entitled to a certain kind of girl will do you more harm than good in the long run. Part of developing real, genuine confidence is being able to be comfortable with any kind of girl and not fear judgment or ridicule from others because of…
/r/seduction01/05/14 06:13 AM
3

Sometimes, you don't need to. When it needs to happen, it'll happen. Part of being in control of the situation is knowing that there's no need to rush; things are on your timetable.
/r/seduction01/05/14 06:00 AM
2

I only showed you the door; you were the one who had the balls to open it. But for my part, I'm happy to have helped.
/r/seduction01/05/14 05:58 AM
3

You're welcome. And nicely done, young man.
/r/seduction01/05/14 05:55 AM
3

I don't know how it is on the mainland, but I spent some time in Jeju and my experience wasn't in the slightest bit similar to what you described. Then again, I'm a white American and my Korean is about as good as my Japanese or Thai -- which is to say, not at all. The novelty factor may have had something to do with it, or maybe the fact that almost all of my communication had to be nonverbal. But I found Koreans to be a warm, inviting group of people, and the girls seemed to have no problem ge…
/r/seduction30/04/14 06:05 AM
2

I'll level with you, man: once you've got the confidence and the humor down, you've pretty much got it all covered. There's not a hell of a lot more to being good with women. Yeah, you can read up on gimmicky stuff like the Mystery Method just for yucks, or you can analyze and interpret the psychology behind pickup to get a deeper understanding as to why it works. But really, that's just extras. So I'm not really sure what you're having an issue with. Did you think there was somehow a deeper lev…
/r/seduction30/04/14 04:10 AM
11

Smirk and say, "Ah well, I had to try." Follow that by brushing their chin between your thumb and forefinger. Then proceed as if nothing happened.
/r/seduction30/04/14 03:29 AM
1

Try meetup.com for convenience. Otherwise, talk to people and mention the fact that you're new in town and looking for someone to show you around.
/r/seduction30/04/14 03:27 AM
1

I think it really depends on the scene. If you go to events in the kink community, for instance, it's a lot easier because sluttiness isn't seen as a bad thing there. Or if you meet people online through OKCupid or something. But if you're just going to clubs hoping for the same kind of results, you'll probably have about as much luck as you'd have asking random strangers on the street for sex.
/r/seduction30/04/14 03:21 AM
1

Usually, I just have my girlfriend do it. If you're trying to get someone into a threesome, they usually respond better when the girl propositions them.
/r/seduction30/04/14 03:00 AM
1

It's fine, man. Some people are just nervous about eye contact. It's a primal thing that can make some people very uncomfortable -- even when they like someone.
/r/seduction30/04/14 02:57 AM
1

And what point would that serve, exactly?
/r/seduction30/04/14 02:52 AM
1

What other signs do you need, man? She has literally given you all the signs short of her waving a big flashing light pointing towards her vagina.
/r/seduction30/04/14 02:39 AM
2

What exactly are you looking for? Success stories from experienced people? Because I've got quite a few if you're really interested. Most of what I read on here is just people with questions looking for advice.
/r/seduction30/04/14 02:36 AM
3

Heh... That height and weight is just me at sixteen. Hit the weight bench, eat some red meat, and drink beer. You'll gain weight in no time. For now, just do your hair up nice and dress in closer-fitting clothes (just not skinny jeans). You'll be fine.
/r/seduction30/04/14 02:28 AM
2

I dunno, my neighbor seems to do just fine with it and he's, like, Sudanese-level black.
/r/seduction30/04/14 02:19 AM
1

She likes you. Ask her out already.
/r/seduction30/04/14 02:18 AM
3

Depends on the chick, I'd say.
/r/seduction30/04/14 02:15 AM
1

Yikes. I rescind my statement.
/r/seduction30/04/14 02:15 AM
1

To be fair, I think it was probably more an academic question than a call out for advice on careers.
/r/seduction30/04/14 02:06 AM
1

Firefighter/Paramedic -- chicks love this one. When I was in the field, just the mere mention of the fact that I worked in emergency services was practically all the effort I needed to put in. Veterinarian -- anyone who helps sick animals for a living is automatically granted hot points. Environmentalist -- especially amongst the treehugger types. Cop -- this one's hit or miss because of the reputation cops have, but I've had friends leverage this one in their favor more than once. Writer/Musici…
/r/seduction30/04/14 01:58 AM
1

If I'm being perfectly honest, I relied pretty much exclusively on my looks and body language when I traveled abroad. My Spanish is barely conversational, so I did a lot of flirtatious glances, smiles, and physical escalation in order to get anywhere. Luckily, in many Spanish-speaking countries, people's personal bubbles are much smaller, so in general they don't mind being touched as much. So, the way I look at it, you've got two options: one, practice your Spanish until you're as fluent as a n…
/r/seduction30/04/14 01:53 AM
1

Eight, huh? You should probably keep a shot of penicillin handy.
/r/seduction30/04/14 01:00 AM
1

A simple, "We still on for later?" works just fine. Have a contingency plan just in case she flakes out or something comes up. Shit happens sometimes, but there's no reason for your entire evening to go up in smoke just because one plan didn't go through.
/r/seduction30/04/14 12:55 AM
1

I say it's better to err on the side of being cool than to say every stupid thing you think of. As a rule, if it doesn't need to be said, keep your fucking mouth shut.
/r/seduction30/04/14 12:45 AM
1

Please, for the love of God, never call it sarging again.
/r/seduction30/04/14 12:42 AM
1

I think my immediate reaction would've been, "I like to study subcultures and bang chicks. Blow me."
/r/seduction30/04/14 12:41 AM
3

I'll be here if you ever change your mind.
/r/seduction29/04/14 06:22 PM
1

The self-esteem part is what you gotta focus on. There's no such thing as too old. I've seen people in their thirties, forties, and fifties learning this stuff for the first time.
/r/seduction29/04/14 05:07 PM
1

Son, do yourself a favor and don't make excuses for yourself. If I could do this shit in rural America while backpacking through without a residence or more than twenty bucks to my name, you shouldn't have any problem. I'm not being glib when I tell you that this shit is easy once you figure it out. But if you're prone to mood swings, depression, and low self-esteem to begin with, you gotta sort that shit out first. Believe me, those things aren't permanent states of being. Take it from someone …
/r/seduction29/04/14 04:32 PM
1

If only you were as determined to succeed as you are to convince me that you didn't do anything wrong. Maybe you might get somewhere in life. Tell you what: come to me again when you're ready to shitcan this loser mindset and cowboy the fuck up. You're clearly determined to be all emo about it for the moment, so I won't try to stop you. When you're ready, I'll be here.
/r/seduction29/04/14 04:20 PM
2

Saying hi or smiling at someone isn't approaching, dude. Going up to her and starting a conversation is approaching. And you're not going to do that unless she gives you some kind of signal that you're not wasting your time. I guarantee that you already do this, so don't feed me a line of bullshit saying all you do is cold approaches. Do yourself a favor and just bow out of this one, son. You've been doing this for what, two years? I can tell it's not very long because you're still using the PUA…
/r/seduction29/04/14 04:15 PM
1

No, you don't get it. That's the point. You were doing it wrong, clearly, because here you are whining to everyone that nothing worked.
/r/seduction29/04/14 04:10 PM
2

Typically, I just smile at them or say hello. If they reciprocate in some way, I approach. If not, I move on. Warm approaches, man.
/r/seduction29/04/14 07:26 AM
2

All right, explain what's so difficult about it.
/r/seduction29/04/14 07:14 AM
2

I somehow doubt that you approach every random, busy, obviously disinterested girl you see and get any kind of results whatsoever. No, you probably go for the ones who smile at you, or who don't immediately rush away from you as you approach, or ones who give you some kind of indication that you're not completely wasting your time. That's a warm approach. It's not rocket science, dude. Unless you're a complete jackoff who can't tell the difference between a girl who's into you and a girl who jus…
/r/seduction29/04/14 07:12 AM
3

Travel. Do it as much as you can. Every spare dollar, every free day you have -- instead of blowing it on something stupid, go on an adventure. See the world. Gain experiences. There's little more interesting than a worldly man.
/r/seduction29/04/14 05:44 AM
1

Relax and don't be a spaz. You'll do fine.
/r/seduction29/04/14 05:40 AM
1

Being alone is totally fine if that's actually your choice and not just you giving up because you're not getting it. The fact remains that if you're not having success with one of the most basic and easy parts of the human experience, you're doing something wrong. And make no mistake -- pickup is easy. It's only difficult if you're doing it incorrectly. Now, I can help you if you want, but that means you gotta knock this self-pity nonsense off and take responsibility for your own life. Remember:…
/r/seduction29/04/14 05:28 AM
1

Personally, in cases like this, I found the easiest thing to do is to embrace your status as a friend, but still make yourself out to be an attractive option. The friend zone in no way means the no sex zone, after all. In instances like these, it's easy to point out common guy flaws and laugh about them with her, as if you're both privy to an inside joke. Or you can talk sex and relate to each other's experiences. Basically, you're setting yourself apart from the herd by making it apparent that …
/r/seduction29/04/14 05:19 AM
1

Son, you've described a whole lot of non-issues. If you want to ask a girl out, be ballsy and ask her out. They don't actually give a shit about who your friends are. Real life isn't like some bullshit teen movie. So here's what you do: stop putting so much stock in appearances (because they really don't matter as much as you think), shitcan this bullshit idea that you have to compliment girls to make them like you (you don't), and just go after whoever you feel like going after. The very worst …
/r/seduction29/04/14 04:57 AM
1

You're not getting girl A, but girl B is available. I'm not seeing the problem. Half the point of being friends with girls is so they can set you up with their friends. So what if girl A wasn't interested? It's not like not interested now means not interested ever. Stay friends with her, put a pin in it, and take her up on her offer to set you up. Don't be a jackass.
/r/seduction29/04/14 04:53 AM
2

The famous butt cheese pickup is a local favorite.
/r/seduction28/04/14 08:30 PM
11

Being new to an area is actually a great way to meet people. Just say you're new in town and you're looking for someone to show you around a bit. Easy. And shitcan that whole "what is alpha?" nonsense. You know what constitutes being an alpha male? Being a leader. That's it. That could mean leading in a totally spur-of-the-moment way, or leading by making plans well in advance, or whatever. You want to know the real test of whether you're an alpha male or not? Next time you're at a restaurant wi…
/r/seduction28/04/14 08:23 PM
1

Pretty much, yeah. There are always exceptions to the rule, but this is pretty much how it's going to go about 99% of the time. If you try to keep her in the fuck buddy zone, she will eventually want to move out of it. The real bitch of it is that if you're a secure guy with his shit together and a genuine, dominant leader personality (the ingrained kind, not the kind that you have to invent), even the flakiest, most free-spirited girl will eventually try to tie you down. To put it into perspect…
/r/seduction28/04/14 08:07 PM
7

I view girlfriend status as an inevitable side effect of being friends with someone and then having sex with them. Sooner or later, the "just having fun" friends with benefits thing won't be good enough for them, and they'll want you to put a concrete label on it (whether you like it or not). At that point, you have the choice of either committing to her, getting your benefits revoked and returning to platonic friends, or cutting her out of your life completely.
/r/seduction28/04/14 07:26 PM
4

Go for a walk. Most chicks like warm weather and it'll give you plenty of opportunity to talk and get to know one another.
/r/seduction28/04/14 07:14 PM
6

Cold approaches are mostly bullshit. They're good for training yourself to handle rejection and talk to people without fear, but that's pretty much all they're good for. Realistically, you'll get maybe one girl to respond positively to you out of fifty. The rest will give you some variation of what you've been experiencing. Almost every rejection I've ever gotten has been with a cold approach. I don't even do them anymore, if I'm being perfectly honest. They're mostly a waste of time after a cer…
/r/seduction28/04/14 06:26 PM
2

That was a general two-cents, not to be confused with accusation. I was agreeing with you.
/r/seduction28/04/14 05:46 PM
2

Think about it objectively: you're a random stranger asking a girl to walk somewhere that you can get an idea of where they live/work/go to school. What did you possibly think was going to happen? Do you seriously think most girls are going to put that kind of trust in some random dude on the street? At best, you're giving off the impression that you're going to mug her. At worst, rape and murder. So of course you're having closing problems. Your approach is absolutely horrible.
/r/seduction28/04/14 05:43 PM
12

Desensitization can definitely be a good thing. I used to be a total pussy about heights, so I forced myself to go skydiving a bunch of times in a row until I was no longer scared of falling. I may still be uncomfortable walking around rooftops, but at least I'm able to function now. The same principle applies to talking with people. The more you do it, the less anxious you'll be about it.
/r/seduction28/04/14 05:35 PM
4

The way I look at it: every relationship brings something to the table. Whether it's for five minutes or five years, there is no such thing as an invalid or hollow sexual experience. Every woman I sleep with enriches my life on some level; some more than others, some less. And it's the height of self-important douchebaggery to insist that every physical relationship carries with it some means of existential fulfillment. Women like me precisely because I don't demand this of them. I don't need th…
/r/seduction28/04/14 05:21 PM
2

I mean, it probably wouldn't hurt you to hit the gym more, but there's nothing inherently wrong with your body... Also, try /r/amiugly next time.
/r/seduction28/04/14 05:15 PM
1

Some of the best sex I've ever had was with girls who weren't stereotypically attractive, while some of the worst sex I ever had was with women most people would consider 9s or 10s. So I prefer not to have any set standards. After all: when you get picky, you miss out.
/r/seduction28/04/14 08:29 AM
2

It's actually pretty easy, man. You should be doing all those things by default anyway because they're just basic life skills. They shouldn't be things you have to think about.
/r/seduction28/04/14 07:53 AM
1

Countless times. But it's no big deal. It's not like there's a shortage of women in the world.
/r/seduction28/04/14 07:49 AM
2

I lost count somewhere in the 200 range.
/r/seduction28/04/14 07:42 AM
-1

Eh. I blew out my eardrums with a combination of gunfire and frequent concerts years ago. I've already got tinnitus, so the damage is pretty well done.
/r/seduction28/04/14 07:41 AM
1

My guess is she regrets giving it out so easily and now she's dialing it back and trying to make you work for it. Have you tried talking to her about it? Just a simple, "So what's the deal?" works fine.
/r/seduction28/04/14 07:39 AM
3

A lot of it depends on how you were raised, the successes and failures you had in your early life, and your individual temperament. If you grew up as a shy, introverted person who didn't take a lot of chances and never developed a tolerance towards failure, you're not going to have as substantial a baseline of confidence. It's easier to learn things like self-reliance, bravery, and risk management when you're young. That's not to say you can't learn those things when you're older, mind you, but …
/r/seduction28/04/14 07:23 AM
3

As long as you say them in a lighthearted and confident way, self-deprecating comments are totally fine. But as a rule, it's better to err on the side of being cool than to open your mouth and say whatever stupid bullshit comes to mind.
/r/seduction28/04/14 07:14 AM
2

Only if you agree to never call it sarging again.
/r/seduction28/04/14 07:10 AM
1

Introduce yourself, engage in a fun and lighthearted conversation, don't be creepy, then ask for their number. It's pretty simple.
/r/seduction28/04/14 07:05 AM
2

Nicely done, son. Nicely done.
/r/seduction27/04/14 09:54 PM
1

Why not? Because you got rejected three times? Fucking sack up, kid. It's not that big a deal. Countless people in worse situations than yours have done more with less. I once knew a dude who got turned down fifty times in a row over the course of two whole years until he finally saw results. My best friend is short and ugly as shit and still manages to score like crazy. I myself probably averaged a three to one rejection to success ratio over the last two decades and I'm actually attractive. So…
/r/seduction27/04/14 05:19 PM
1

Failing is part of life, son. And getting hardened to it is part of being a man. You miss 100% of the shots you don't take, so you literally have nothing to lose by trying anyway. At least if you try, you will eventually succeed. If you give up, you're committing to failure without any chance of success. Another thing about success: nobody gives it to you. You have to take it. So cowboy the fuck up and learn to deal with failure like a grown up, because otherwise nothing in your life is going to…
/r/seduction27/04/14 05:56 AM
1

Again, statistically, it won't always be the case. Even if you fail 99.99% of the time, you'll still succeed .01% of the time.
/r/seduction26/04/14 11:51 PM
1

Why? Because statistically speaking, you won't always repeat it. Because when it really comes down to it, getting bent out of shape over someone not liking you is pretty weak. And because you don't improve your situation by giving up. Trust me, I've been with a lot of women in my day, but my failures probably double my successes, if not triple them. And that's the same with anyone who's good at it; anyone who tells you otherwise is a fucking liar.
/r/seduction26/04/14 11:43 PM
1

Emphasis on the don't draw attention from your friends part. It took me years to learn how to effectively dial back my charm and attractiveness so I wouldn't accidentally outshine the guy I was supposed to be helping. You need to be able to set your ego aside and remember that when you're a wingman, your job is to get the other guy laid. Everything else is secondary. If that means taking one for the team and faking beta male status, then that's what you gotta do.
/r/seduction26/04/14 11:38 PM
2

Well, fortunately numbers don't really matter that much. Just proceed as normal and hope she doesn't draw too much attention to it. Next time, don't be such a spaz about it. Just be direct.
/r/seduction26/04/14 06:11 AM
1

I dunno, man. I'm not entirely convinced you don't vet the guys you work with so you're able to get the right blend of naive and impressionable. And why wouldn't you? Everything else I've seen gives the impression that you're smart enough not to bring certain kind of people (i.e. the incredulous type) into the fold. Besides, turning down a few people and publicizing it gives off a good image, so it makes sense that you'd do that. Again, props to your business acumen. I truly do respect it, and I…
/r/seduction26/04/14 06:07 AM
2

Just relax and focus on having a good time. Chitchat with a couple different people. Mingle. Keep your interactions brief and memorable, then move on to another person. Come back to the ones you like later. If you want to drink, drink. If you want to do drugs, do drugs (just do it in moderation so you're not a sloppy mess). As far as girls go, the same rules apply: escalate things physically, gauge her reactions, and respond accordingly.
/r/seduction26/04/14 02:21 AM
6

Relationships are like plants: unless you tend to them regularly, they wither and die. And if you tend to them too much, the same thing happens. Know when to apply attention and when to take a step back.
/r/seduction26/04/14 02:09 AM
1

Sounds like HappyJerk is HappyDrunk right now. Go get 'em, buddy.
/r/seduction26/04/14 01:47 AM
7

Yeah... Half the check's a bit excessive. I mean, she'd have to literally give me a blowjob and comp me a bottle of Scotch to warrant that kind of gratuity.
/r/seduction26/04/14 01:27 AM
3

It's a start, and anything to get you going forward is a good investment. But here's a pro tip: don't try to buy favor. By leaving her a 45% tip, you're basically saying, "Please like me. I'll pay you!" This time is fine because it helped get you moving, but I wouldn't do that again.
/r/seduction26/04/14 01:23 AM
2

Happy to help, friend. Good luck to you.
/r/seduction26/04/14 01:19 AM
7

I was thirteen. I basically remembered what my father told me: "Remember how you felt when you rode your bike for the first time? How scared you were before you actually did it? Remember how it wasn't so bad once you did? Everything in life is that way, son. If you're ever scared or nervous, just remember: once you do it, it's not so bad." So I did. I approached her, nervous as fuck, but spoke in a confident tone of voice because I knew acting nervous wasn't going to work. I asked her out, she e…
/r/seduction26/04/14 01:15 AM
1

Look, man, I get it. And yes, I have taught before (I tutored English in college, I was a preceptor for EMS classes back when I was a paramedic, and I'm responsible for training the new people in cadaver dissection at my current job). So I do know what it's like to take people under your wing and train them from the ground up. I've even taken on a couple people from Seddit who asked me for help and gave them a few pointers in person. But here's ultimately what I've discovered about that, and thi…
/r/seduction26/04/14 01:09 AM
1

Well, I've been around the South quite a bit. Whereabouts?
/r/seduction26/04/14 12:53 AM
1

Jesus, man. Where do you live?
/r/seduction26/04/14 12:34 AM
1

22 years of pickup, probably with the same percentage of successes that most "professionals" can claim. Once you know the basics, it's really easy stuff. I actually read The Game when it first came out because a friend of mine told me "You'd like this -- a lot of the stuff in here reminds me of you." Krav Maga's just another open system like BJJ, Kali, Jeet Kune Do, KFM, etc. A lot of the low level stuff is similar to the basics you'd learn in any MMA system, where the higher level stuff is most…
/r/seduction26/04/14 12:33 AM
3

Honestly? Blunt affect (AKA "resting bitch face" or "resting asshole face") is one of those things you gotta work around, and succumbing to it can make people genuinely uncomfortable and can make things needlessly difficult for you. It seems like you're doing a pretty good job of it so far, so try to reframe it in your mind so it's not an existential issue for you. Don't think of it as faking affect so much as forcing yourself to respond appropriately. You're not faking who you are so much as wo…
/r/seduction26/04/14 12:02 AM
2

You could give meetup.com a try. I've actually met some really cool people through there.
/r/seduction25/04/14 11:54 PM
1

You're venturing pretty deep into my realm of experience right now, so I'll go ahead and take the bait you've so neatly set at my feet. I've got twenty-two years of pickup experience with a little over four-hundred sexual partners. I've boxed in the amateur circuit for close to eighteen years. I've practiced Krav Maga for close to twenty years. My second college degree is an associate's in law enforcement and I shoot at least once a month. I tell you this because I want you to know exactly where…
/r/seduction25/04/14 11:37 PM
0

See? You're doing it again. You don't make a single post without plugging your little business or finding some way to let us all know you're a professional guru who's taught people for X number of years. Gotta make sure every post possibly gets you some business, right? I can't even have a discussion with you without it turning into a friggin' infomercial. And then you do this little thing when someone doesn't buy into your bullshit where you subtly imply that you know how to kick people's asses…
/r/seduction25/04/14 07:49 PM
4

Don't. Talk to women on your own time when he's with his mom or at school. Introduce them later once you've established some kind of stable relationship. Your priority is to your kid now; everything else comes second.
/r/seduction25/04/14 06:52 PM
2

Those same guys strike out with about a dozen women before making out with the one drunken bimbo. Video editing is great for making your game seem incredible, but in reality it's just a highlight reel covering the very sparse moments of success in a night filled with failures.
/r/seduction25/04/14 06:39 PM
1

She's fucking with you, man. Bail out and go for someone who's less of a pain in the ass.
/r/seduction25/04/14 06:27 PM
3

They're interested in the puppy. Don't worry about it, though. It's a good opener. Just proceed like you would normally without the dog.
/r/seduction25/04/14 06:24 PM
3

Relax, man. Lots of people have done more in worse situations than yours. Just find a place to chill out and talk. Go for a walk in a park or around town. You don't have to wine and dine this chick when you're not even sure if she's the kind of girl you want to spend time with. Focus on having a good time and getting to know her. You don't have to try to impress anyone; just demonstrate that you're a cool guy who's attractive and fun to be around. That should be your default way of speaking anyw…
/r/seduction25/04/14 06:21 PM
3

Honestly, you just gotta shove aside that pushy little weenie in your head that tells you to hesitate and just force yourself. Pickup, like most things in life, is a matter of will. Remember that nothing is ever as big a deal as you think it is, and that everything is scarier in your head than it is in real life. And if you get rejected, so what? It's not like there's a shortage of women in the world.
/r/seduction25/04/14 06:13 PM
2

Absolutely. I think lots of guys go through a stage of pickup when they discover just how easy it is, so they start to juggle multiple relationships at once. They get a surge of self-confidence, like they're able to take on the world and the sum of womankind is ripe for the picking. Most people chill out after a few years and settle into something more stable. Or they realize that playing people is ultimately not worth the headache of fucking with people's emotions and earning a bad reputation.
/r/seduction25/04/14 05:51 PM
3

I'm So Meta Even This Acronym...
/r/seduction25/04/14 05:42 PM
1

It really must be like fishing with dynamite in Vancouver.
/r/seduction25/04/14 05:41 PM
3

Escalate things physically. You'll be getting in her space a lot because of the dancing and photos, so just up the ante. Hold her hands, put your arm around her, put your hand on her leg, do the standard pull the garter off with your teeth bit... If she reciprocates, escalate further. Go in for a kiss. If she rejects you, just smirk and play it off cool like, "Ah well, I had to try." then go about your night as friends. A good general principle to follow: act like Han Solo.
/r/seduction25/04/14 05:38 PM
1

A good rule of thumb is to make plans to do things on your own without her, and then invite her with. It shows that you're a busy person with your own life, but that you're willing to take time out of your schedule to fit her in. Try saying something along these lines: "I'm going to get ice cream. Wanna tag along?" Remember: your job as a man is to lead. Her job is to follow. That's the way it works. Girls aren't attracted to wishy-washy guys who want them to make all the decisions; they want so…
/r/seduction25/04/14 05:32 PM
0

Seriously, man... Do you ever shut the sales pitch off and talk like a real person? Pickup is pretty simple stuff. It's one of the most basic, fundamental elements of human interaction. I can teach you everything you need to know about it in about half an hour; the clincher is a person's level of experience and self-confidence. So that's why I can't take paid "gurus" like you seriously. You make it into this huge song and dance, comparing it to professional fighting or some kind of deep mastery …
/r/seduction25/04/14 04:56 PM
1

Off the top of my head, no. I'm sure if you go digging you'll find some subreddits that match what you're looking for. Really, though, no amount of theory or forum discussion will be a substitute for getting out there and doing this stuff yourself. Generally, the rules of seduction you need to worry about are: Be confident. Be funny. Don't worry about the outcome. Those can be applied to pretty much any interaction you have with people -- male or female. They apply whether you're trying to make …
/r/seduction25/04/14 09:15 AM
2

If you really want to get better at being charismatic, force yourself to talk to everyone you meet. Read their faces and body language as you speak. If they look bored, distracted, or use a lot of simple, dismissive, one-line answers, adjust accordingly. Basically, your goal is to never be boring. Always be interesting. You want to captivate an audience, not make people want to escape a pit of idle chitchat. You'll get better at it in time. Keep practicing and you'll eventually get the hang of i…
/r/seduction25/04/14 09:04 AM
1

What's the difference? If it's talked about enough that it might as well be overused, the result is really the same, isn't it? Case in point, I witnessed the old "you've got a piece of lint on your shirt" line being used less than a month ago, to which the girl pretty much laughed in the guy's face and said, "Really? You really think that pickup artist bullshit works in real life?" And not that long after, a totally different guy tried to use the "do you think guys should wear eyeliner?" bit on …
/r/seduction25/04/14 09:00 AM
4

Playful teasing or giving backhanded compliments is fine. That's just basic flirting, and it's a principle means of bonding with people. Not playing into someone's bullshit is also fine; if someone has an overly high opinion of themselves or is clearly trying to assert themselves as being above you in some way, then it's perfectly fine to put them in their place. Overall, though, negging is one of those standard Mystery tricks that got overused in the last decade, to the point where more often t…
/r/seduction25/04/14 08:04 AM
2

The best advice I can give you is to work on your "inner game" first and foremost. You need to like yourself; you need to be able to wake up every morning and say, "I am the man I want to be." If you're not there yet, make a list of all the things you need to do to get there. For instance: have bad skin? Go to a dermatologist and get that fixed. There's no reason in this day and age to suffer from more than the occasional blemish. Skinny as fuck? Own it or go to the gym and bulk up. Bad at conve…
/r/seduction25/04/14 07:46 AM
2

There's absolutely nothing you could learn at those things that you couldn't figure out through learning the basics (which literally just amounts to being confident and funny) and applying them firsthand. Save yourself some money and just go out on your own. Don't be one of those poor chumps who shells out thousands of dollars to learn what they could've figured out for free with an internet browser and regularly talking to girls.
/r/seduction25/04/14 07:33 AM
2

I like to do fifty push-ups every time I go to the bathroom. Seriously, though -- just go out and talk to people. Don't make things needlessly complicated.
/r/seduction25/04/14 07:29 AM
3

Seriously? That's your excuse? Do you make a habit of showing off every purchase you make to your family? This is a non-issue, son. Check the book out at your local library, pirate a scanned copy of it, or read it at a book store. Don't just sit there idly because you're afraid of what other people think. That's just weak. Really, no amount of guide books or pickup theory is a substitute for going out and experimenting. Go out and talk to lots of people. Figure out what works and what doesn't. M…
/r/seduction25/04/14 07:26 AM
3

Sounds like your friend pulled some strings for you and tossed a willing, horny girl your way. You really didn't have to try in this situation: she was doing all the work for you. The only way you could've screwed it up is if you completely choked and froze up, but you didn't. You reciprocated her affections. So that's good. Sometimes, life throws you a freebie. Enjoy it. They're pretty rare, even for those of us with a lot of experience.
/r/seduction23/04/14 09:56 PM
1

When I was homeless and around your age, I just went back to her place most of the time. It's not a big deal. Plus, you can leave whenever you want and you don't have to worry about kicking her out or having your stuff get stolen.
/r/seduction23/04/14 09:47 PM
1

Or those commercial intros to certain porn videos that have the dramatic music with fade-in text that says something like, "We've discovered a secret technique that is 100% effective at getting women to sleep with you."
/r/seduction23/04/14 09:42 PM
2

Unless she's also a gym rat/competitive bodybuilder, don't talk about fitness. Nobody else cares. It's the equivalent to being a math geek and yammering on endlessly about calculus problems to a room full of English majors.
/r/seduction23/04/14 09:39 PM
2

Wear clothes that look good, not clothes that are currently fashionable. The current generation of "fashionable" clothing is a hideous throwback to the worst parts of the 1980s, and in five years, people are going to look back on it and cringe at the fact that they wore it. Same goes with haircuts. Clubs are fine, but they're hardly the only place to meet women. Learn to adapt and appreciate them, but don't stress out about them being the only game in town -- they're not. So what? I go out alone…
/r/seduction23/04/14 09:15 PM
9

Maybe try saying hello?
/r/seduction23/04/14 08:52 PM
2

I don't know if I would trust advice from a guy who wears pink shirts and sunglasses indoors.
/r/seduction23/04/14 08:41 PM
13

You know, I'll be honest: some of your posts are pretty hit or miss. Some of them I definitely agree with, others I find myself going, "the fuck is that guy smoking?" But this? This one struck gold. It was honest, hit on some genuinely good points, and it illustrated the diffference between a young man trying to "crack the code" and a grown up man knowing that true power comes from within. I don't find myself impressed very often, so take this for what it's worth: that was impressive.
/r/seduction23/04/14 08:38 PM
4

I'm sick of being alone and really want a girlfriend. Do yourself a favor and shitcan that attitude before you do anything. Girls can smell that kind of desperation from a mile away. You need to know how to be happy with being single, and come at things from the perspective that whatever happens, happens. Focus on having a good time, not on trying to score with your future long-term relationship. Getting fixated on the outcome is a surefire way to make yourself fail.
/r/seduction23/04/14 08:30 PM
1

I always found it was easier to just make working out a part of my daily routine -- like showering or brushing my teeth. If it's habitual, it's not really an issue. You don't have to spend three hours at the gym a day to stay fit; try doing a daily routine of fifty push-ups and a hundred sit-ups (or whichever caveman exercises you prefer). And don't forget, if you're backpacking, you'll be getting a shitton of cardio just from walking around all day. For private time, just do your own thing when…
/r/seduction18/04/14 09:02 PM
5

Deserving has nothing to do with it. You can be a totally funny, good-looking, talented, interesting, physically appealing guy; you can deserve all the happiness in the world. But if you dislike yourself, you're not going to get it. That's just the reality of the situation. Insecurity is literally girl repellent. If you want results -- and I mean genuine, consistent results to the point where pickup becomes as easy as breathing -- you need to legitimately like who you are. You need to be secure …
/r/seduction18/04/14 08:37 PM
2

Working on out the road is easy (isometric and caveman exercises are great when you don't have access to gym equipment), there's no better way to work on languages than total immersion, and private time can be had anywhere (you're on the road; the entirety of your time is yours to do with as you please). As for the hobbies, find some new ones in your travels. You can always come back to your old ones later.
/r/seduction18/04/14 08:22 PM
2

Usually something along the lines of, "You're funny. Why do you not have any pictures of you up?" or "Are you a scientist?" I had one the other day that said, "Okay, Mr. Mysterious. Now I'm intrigued. Do you have Skype?" People like to sate their curiosity, and there's nothing that makes them curious like an enigmatic but interesting profile.
/r/seduction18/04/14 05:19 PM
3

You basically make time. I took sabbaticals all the time, often disregarding work or school commitments. I figure there's always time to slave at a job or attend classes; there's a finite amount of time to be young and free on the road.
/r/seduction18/04/14 02:17 AM
1

You're putting way too much importance on physical appearance -- to the point where it's still obviously affecting your confidence. You've also demonstrated that you assign value to the girls you pursue based on how physically attractive they are to you, which will also negatively affect your performance. Now, I'm what you would consider a hot guy. I won't lie to you and say that it doesn't benefit me in initial impressions, because it clearly does. But that's about the extent of its value. Ever…
/r/seduction17/04/14 10:47 PM
5

I wholeheartedly agree. I spent a good portion of my late teens and early twenties backpacking across the United States, Europe, Africa. And I spent some time in Asia, and Central/South America in my thirties. Travel makes you more worldly, gives you a ton of experience, makes you more interesting, and gives you the confidence to deal with any social situation. It's probably one of the best things you can do to improve yourself.
/r/seduction17/04/14 10:27 PM
1

Never pay for something that you could get for free with better results.
/r/seduction17/04/14 10:13 PM
12

Really, how can you expect someone else to like you when you don't even like yourself?
/r/seduction17/04/14 08:53 PM
13

All right, I'll give you a few suggestions: Don't ever pay for dating sites. Places like match.com are full of the wrong kind of desperate people, and the women there are excessively picky. It's a bad place for casual pickup, and an even worse place if you're looking for something serious. Dating sites/apps are a fishing net, nothing more. You cast them out, check them periodically, but mostly just leave them the fuck alone. They're supplemental to going out and meeting people in person, not a r…
/r/seduction17/04/14 08:48 PM
6

He seems like he'd be too exhausting to hang out with for more than five minutes. I think any longer than that and I'd probably just jack him in the face for being so irritating.
/r/seduction17/04/14 08:35 PM
4

Go to the beach, man. Lake Michigan may be a nasty, polluted, carcinogenic puddle, but people still love the beach.
/r/seduction17/04/14 08:28 PM
3

Friends come and go. People are in your life for exactly as long as they need to be; sometimes only a day, sometimes a lifetime. Every relationship -- regardless of the length -- has value in its own way.
/r/seduction17/04/14 08:26 PM
1

How about you, I dunno, reciprocate and find out? Jesus, man... Stop overthinking things.
/r/seduction17/04/14 08:24 PM
3

They also didn't have deodorant, refrigeration, or germ theory. The fact that something didn't exist in the 18th century doesn't really mean anything, except that you like to pretend cultural evolution doesn't exist.
/r/seduction17/04/14 08:21 PM
1

I try not to bother with conversation gimmicks. Engaging them on their interests usually works the best -- just like when you make friends with people normally.
/r/seduction17/04/14 08:17 PM
2

Swap driver's licenses. When I was your age, I had a FOID (that's Firearm Owner's Identification to those who live outside of Illinois) card that looked so incredibly over-the-top sketchy (I had a black eye, messy hair, a swollen jaw from a fight I'd gotten into the previous day, and a serial killer-looking glare), it looked hilarious. It was a great conversation piece, but it also gave me a chance to check their age so I wasn't accidentally risking jail time.
/r/seduction17/04/14 08:14 PM
1

Why not do both? It's not like pickup is this incredibly in-depth thing that you need to spend every waking day on. Once you know the basics, it's pretty goddamned easy. Pay attention in school. Learn shit. It'll only help you down the road.
/r/seduction17/04/14 08:03 PM
4

My profile consists of filling in all the fields with assorted blurbs from Wikipedia articles and a single picture of me looking like I'm about to get kicked by the walking clock statue in Glasgow, Scotland. I offer next to zero information about myself, pay nothing, and do not take it seriously in the slightest. I get an average of about five messages a week and have a reply rate of probably one in six. Most of them are pretty attractive too.
/r/seduction17/04/14 07:15 PM
3

And really, why would you even let someone's snarky comment affect you so much? What the hell does someone else's remark have to do with how you feel about yourself?
/r/seduction17/04/14 06:40 AM
0

Easy: be her attractive, intriguing friend who she wants to sleep with, and just wait it out. She'll dump him eventually, leaving you a perfect opportunity to swoop in and hook up with her while she's not looking for anything serious. In the meantime, see other people.
/r/seduction17/04/14 06:28 AM
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Generally, I just get really condescending and egg him on until he makes himself look like an idiot. That, or just talk over him and act like he's not even there. If he tries to assert himself, I just say, "Shhh. Grown ups are talking." If he tries to pick a fight, I put him in the hospital. Just be better than him and you'll be fine. Don't try hard either; just make it obvious to everyone that you're the man and this guy's completely insignificant to you.
/r/seduction17/04/14 06:25 AM
1

Height is such a non-issue, the only way you could possibly get affected by it is if you're self-conscious. That will definitely set you back, because people can easily pick up on insecurity. But that's all in your head, and easily remedied with raw force of will/charisma. I'll give you an example: I'm 5'11'' -- not exactly the tallest, but not short by any measure. I've dated several girls who were my height or taller. It was never once an issue. And realistically, if my 5'6'' buddy with the fa…
/r/seduction17/04/14 06:02 AM
3

Try treating them like people, man. If you disagree with something about her philosophy, either engage her on it or just don't get involved with her in the first place. Don't just be that turd who pretends to give a shit about someone just so he can get his dick wet. Not only will you get more out of it, but you won't make the rest of us look bad by acting like a gigantic choad.
/r/seduction17/04/14 05:30 AM
2

I disregarded what she said as I didn't give a fuck again I really don't give a fuck what she is saying. I felt like I probably could have just brought her to my apartment and fucked her. Am I right about this? Nope. Seriously, man... You've got the douchebag cranked up to 11. You think you could turn it down to maybe a 3?
/r/seduction17/04/14 04:57 AM
2

i've actually got a horrible lack of confidence Well, there's your problem. Fix that, and suddenly you'll start seeing how ridiculously easy it is to do those things.
/r/seduction17/04/14 04:49 AM
11

Son, I'm 35. Not only have I never heard of that, but now having watched it, I can safely say that I hate it.
/r/seduction16/04/14 06:23 PM
3

"Dougie"?
/r/seduction16/04/14 06:17 PM
5

I remind myself to keep things simple and stop overthinking. Remember: nothing is ever as big a deal as you think it is, and there's no need to make things needlessly complicated. 99% of life's problems can be solved with force of will.
/r/seduction16/04/14 06:11 PM
0

Physical contact. Lots of touching and getting in her personal space. Accentuate every joke with a playful touch of the arm or a soft jab to the shoulder. Play thumb wars with her. Brush her hair from her face. Touch the small of her back. If she reciprocates or goes with it, up the ante. Go in for a kiss. I personally like to tease her with the idea of a kiss: move in to kiss her, then turn at the last second and do something else. Then, when she can't handle it anymore and is visibly going cra…
/r/seduction16/04/14 03:11 PM
9

It's because you're relaxed and you don't give a shit about what happens with the chicks you're not into. It's not rocket science. Apply that principle across the board and suddenly picking up chicks becomes ridiculously easy.
/r/seduction16/04/14 03:00 PM
2

Too formal? Too commanding? The hell kind of environment were you raised in? Whoever taught you that nonsense needs to have their head examined. There's nothing wrong with saying someone's name. At all. But while that's true, I usually stick to nicknames, because I am horrible at remembering people's names (fortunately, I never forget faces). My most commonly used nicknames for girls are sweetheart, kid, kiddo, darlin', and princess.
/r/seduction16/04/14 06:45 AM
2

Yes, it's possible. But from what you just described, the more likely scenario is you're not giving her anything to go off of conversation-wise. I mean, small talk? Are you trying to bore her to death? If your friend and other guys are able to keep a conversation going with her, it's because they're actually being engaging. If all you're offering is your physical appearance and bullshit chitchat about nothing, prepare to go nowhere fast.
/r/seduction16/04/14 06:41 AM
1

Couldn't tell you the difference, man. It felt like any other pair of jeans I'd buy at JCPenny or Kohls or whatever. If anything, it was pretty poorly cut and too snug in the crotch compared to cheaper jeans. I think they're meant for guys with super skinny legs and a decided lack of junk to stuff into their pants. It felt like they'd rip if I moved around too much. I take it "raw" is supposed to mean something special?
/r/seduction15/04/14 03:56 PM
4

I was probably in early or mid twenties. I think once I realized how easy it actually was, things just kinda fell into place. I stopped doing cold approaches pretty much altogether and started only going for the girls who were showing obvious interest. Knowing how to read that I think is a sticking point for most guys, but I've always been naturally good at reading people, so it's pretty easy for me to spot when someone's interested. At that point, it was sorta like fishing with dynamite.
/r/seduction15/04/14 02:53 AM
1

Sounds like she's very definitely not interested. I'd stay her friend and put her on the back burner in case one of you ever leaves that job (not interested now doesn't necessarily mean not interested ever), but don't put too much energy into this one for now. It's not worth your time.
/r/seduction15/04/14 02:42 AM
3

Oh you.
/r/seduction15/04/14 02:36 AM
1

Coffee, lunch, a walk -- whatever works. Keep it simple and don't focus too much on logistics. The point is to demonstrate confidence and take command of the situation. You could literally walk her around in a circle while having an awesome conversation and that'd be fine.
/r/seduction15/04/14 02:13 AM
3

Keep upping the ante with physicality. Start with light touching and work your way up to kissing. Then from there, work your way to sex. Once you've had sex with her, then you can start talking about whether you want to be just friends or actually have a relationship.
/r/seduction15/04/14 02:12 AM
1

You're overthinking it, man. Just add her and talk to her. If she tells you to fuck off, so what? It's better than sitting around doing nothing.
/r/seduction15/04/14 02:10 AM
1

It's literally that easy. People love to deconstruct the mechanics of pickup and overthink themselves into a stupor, but the reality is this shit is about the simplest, easiest thing in the world. When in doubt, be direct and keep it simple. Confidence will get you everywhere.
/r/seduction15/04/14 01:59 AM
3

Have you tried sitting next to her?
/r/seduction15/04/14 01:55 AM
2

There's no real trick to it: be funny and confident, and don't bring any baggage into the equation. Escalate things physically and don't put any labels on things. It won't last for more than a few months (they never do), but it should see you through to the next phase. Good luck, pal.
/r/seduction15/04/14 01:54 AM
2

Move on. That's what you can do. Chalk this one up to a learning experience and don't repeat the same mistakes in the future.
/r/seduction15/04/14 01:50 AM
5

Okay, lemme try to clarify this for you. You've got this girl who is pretty nice, and she obviously likes spending time with you in a friendship capacity. For whatever reason, you never escalated things physically, so the entire time all you had to go on was this rapport. That was where you made your mistake: friendliness is not the same thing as interest. If you want to gauge a girl's interest, you get physical with her. If she reciprocates, she's interested; if she doesn't, you know she's not.…
/r/seduction15/04/14 01:47 AM
2

So... I'm not really understanding the logic you're working off of here. You already fucked her. How is adding her on Facebook creepy, exactly?
/r/seduction15/04/14 01:28 AM
7

So... Let me see if I understand this correctly. You told her you weren't interested in being her friend, that you were only interested in her as a potential romantic interest -- without ever having established any kind of physical relationship beforehand -- and you're now surprised that she gives you dirty looks and treats you like shit?
/r/seduction15/04/14 01:24 AM
3

There are always other prospects, son. Never forget that.
/r/seduction15/04/14 01:00 AM
1

If she's really that over the top, she's not going to be difficult to spot, man. You won't need to seek her out; she'll find you.
/r/seduction15/04/14 12:14 AM
9

Please, for the love of God, call it something other than a lair.
/r/seduction15/04/14 12:04 AM
2

Ask her out immediately. Why else would you get her number?
/r/seduction15/04/14 12:01 AM
1

The effect on memory is pretty negligible -- especially in low concentrations. That's why you maintain a buzz. At that level (aka the Ballmer Peak), the effect on memory is barely discernible from sober levels, while your creative problem solving ability skyrockets.
/r/seduction14/04/14 05:14 PM
5

Inaction is always going to be your worst enemy. Avoid that at all cost.
/r/seduction13/04/14 08:08 AM
0

"The fuck are you anxious about? Talk to her, you pussy."
/r/seduction13/04/14 07:59 AM
2

Ask her out. She's already not put off by you sending random messages, so you've got no reason not to at this point.
/r/seduction13/04/14 07:54 AM
2

Maladaptation. If you can't force yourself from being a slave to your impulses through sheer force of will, try punching yourself in the leg or somehow physically jarring yourself out of your frozen head space.
/r/seduction13/04/14 07:37 AM
2

Assert yourself. Walk up to them and say something like, "S'cuse me, sorry. Hey, can I steal your friend for a minute?" Then pull her off to the side and say, "I wanna take you out some time. You got plans this weekend?" If she says she doesn't: "Sweet. Lemme get your number and we'll iron out the details later." If she says she does: "All right, that sounds totally lame, so we're gonna go out instead." Then you hold up your phone and ask, "How do you spell your name again?" Taken by your boldne…
/r/seduction13/04/14 07:25 AM
3

Honestly, you get better at it by just forcing yourself until you no longer have to. Once you're used to something, it stops being a point of anxiety. Now that being said, you shouldn't need any social lubricants to do it, but you shouldn't be afraid of using something that makes your job easier either. If you pull out your best game with a drink or two under your belt, don't shy away from it just because you're afraid of becoming an alcoholic. You'll learn this as you get older, assuming you're…
/r/seduction13/04/14 07:12 AM
1

Just sack up and ask her. Odds are she won't say no. And if she does, oh well. It's not a big deal either way. Don't get overly invested in this.
/r/seduction13/04/14 07:00 AM
6

Next time that happens, lock eyes with her and smile. If she smiles back and engages you, you'll know it was deliberate.
/r/seduction13/04/14 06:55 AM
1

Force yourself. That's literally all you can do. It's like anything in life: it will never be as scary, difficult, or intimidating as it is in your head. Once you actually do it, you'll feel ridiculous for ever being nervous about it. So if you want to get over approach anxiety, you seriously have to cowboy the fuck up, put on your big boy pants, and just do it. Only then will you realize how fucking easy it is, and how ridiculous it is to be anxious about it. As for where to go on a date, I say…
/r/seduction13/04/14 06:52 AM
2

As a rule of thumb, if you have to ask, the answer is always yes.
/r/seduction13/04/14 06:44 AM
2

I don't really expect a heated debate with this, man. This is all pretty common sense stuff. EDIT: Though I apparently underestimated the moralist crowd. Jesus Christ, people -- if a girl cheats on her boyfriend, she was just as likely to cheat on him with you as anyone else. You're getting your panties in a twist over an inevitable outcome? You ever stop to think that maybe her cheating is ultimately a good thing for the poor sap she cheated on? That maybe emotional pain is often a necessary ca…
/r/seduction13/04/14 06:40 AM
2

It doesn't really matter as long as you avoid being awkward or causing an injury. Just a light touch with your hand usually works. A playful, light shove. Brushing her skin with your fingertips. Just whatever feels natural. If you're really having difficulty with it, watch other people do it until you get the general idea. Latino cultures are a good example of people who touch frequently during conversation, so they're probably your best bet for clear, regular examples.
/r/seduction13/04/14 06:37 AM
1

Sometimes, I want a svelte redhead with perky tits and long legs. Sometimes, I want a short, kinda chubby girl with a cute face and a great sense of humor. Sometimes I want a girl who looks like jailbait, and sometimes I want a total MILF. Each brings something unique to the table, and every girl has the ability to enrich your life in some way. Preference should depend on what your needs are at that particular time in your life. The same rules apply across the board (be confident and funny), so …
/r/seduction13/04/14 06:21 AM
2

People will ultimately make their own decisions regardless of whether you're in the picture or not. They're her mistakes to make, and ultimately not your problem. If you truly care about her well-being, then remain friends with her and support her through those moments. But her life is not your responsibility; you're not her dad, you're not her brother, and you're not her husband. You're just some guy who may or may not get to bang her down the line.
/r/seduction13/04/14 06:09 AM
1

Suck it up and move on. Yeah, it stings at first, but so what? She's far from the last girl who will ever reject you; you just gotta numb yourself to it by realizing that it's not a big deal.
/r/seduction13/04/14 02:51 AM
3

You've got a ways to go yet, son. Happiness comes from being contented with who you are, not lamenting over who you've yet to be. You think just because you've got two prospective girls now, there won't be dozens more in your lifetime? Yes, you should always strive to be better, but you should also be able to look at yourself and say, "I am the man I want to be."
/r/seduction12/04/14 05:03 PM
1

Nobody is mentally prepared their first time. Fuck that. You gotta just cowboy the fuck up and go for it, damn the consequences. Trial by fire is the only way to learn this stuff.
/r/seduction12/04/14 04:06 AM
11

I think you're reading into it a bit much, man. Liking a certain physical characteristic is not the same thing as putting someone on a pedestal because they have that characteristic.
/r/seduction11/04/14 10:22 PM
4

I think you're operating on a bit more than luck, chief. Nicely done.
/r/seduction11/04/14 08:25 PM
1

Maybe try /r/stripping? Also, neat choice of music. I'm a big fan of shoegaze -- especially goth shoegaze.
/r/seduction11/04/14 08:07 PM
1

Be sure to keep us updated with your results.
/r/seduction11/04/14 07:36 PM
1

You could always try the famous "Butt Cheese" Pickup.
/r/seduction11/04/14 07:25 PM
2

Yeah. It's not a big deal. A simple, "Hey, what's your number?" works just fine.
/r/seduction11/04/14 07:18 PM
2

Just ask for it. Don't rationalize it, don't try to make a sales pitch, don't look like a big awkward chump. Just ask. Cowboy the fuck up and force yourself. Seriously, getting numbers is not a big deal. It's about the most basic, effortless thing you can do when it comes to dating.
/r/seduction11/04/14 07:06 PM
1

A lot of people are opposed to texting, but I personally love it. The great thing about it is how little effort it takes to maintain contact with someone. I can shoot her a message, go about my day, and have a completely normal life without being impacted by long conversations or having to break my schedule up to accommodate someone else. I can maintain an entire relationship over an extended period of time just through simple text conversations, allowing me to effortlessly juggle multiple girls…
/r/seduction11/04/14 07:04 PM
10

You can tell a guy's been around when he's figured all these things out. Pretty solid list there.
/r/seduction11/04/14 06:51 PM
3

Good hygiene.
/r/seduction11/04/14 06:25 PM
2

I'm a borderline introvert/extravert, so I know what it's like to need to duck out and recharge for a while. There's nothing wrong with going out in small doses -- as long as you're actually going out. If you need to keep your interactions brief, then do so. Just make sure you end on a high note and bow out gracefully before you lose steam. It'll leave them wanting more, keep you fresh in their mind, and allow you to recharge.
/r/seduction11/04/14 06:23 PM
7

Why is she out of your league? Because she's hot? So what? Leagues are bullshit, son. They are entirely a fabrication of your insecurity. There are countless dudes who look worse than you getting hotter chicks than her. Besides that, you lose nothing by going up and talking to her. If you strike out, you're literally no worse off than before you did, because neither circumstance results in you hooking up with her. You miss 100% of the shots you don't take. So it's time to put on your grown up pa…
/r/seduction11/04/14 06:17 PM
1

You're saying that women need to woo men with a large collection of traits and virtues. I'm saying that's false. If a woman comes up to me and makes it known that she's interested, am I gonna be standing there thinking, "Well that's nice, but is she driven and passionate? Does she have similar life goals to mine?" No, I'm gonna be thinking, "Sweet. I like freebies." And I think you'll find that perspective is a lot more common than not.
/r/seduction11/04/14 06:01 PM
1

I'm of the "it's only as big a deal as you make it" school of thought; the less of an issue you make something, the less of an issue they'll try to make it. If it's apparent that the entire focus on your life right now is dealing with this litigious nightmare you're involved in, then it'll be easy for her to get sucked into your drama and want out. On the other hand, if you just casually mention it (or even not bring it up at all), she'll take the cue from you that it's not going to be something…
/r/seduction11/04/14 05:06 PM
0

Realistically, I would with just about any girl. Everyone's got something going for them, and they'll all give me an interesting story to tell later. It's not like I have something to prove by being choosy with who I sleep with, and while I've hooked up with my fair share of models and strippers in my day, experience has taught me time and time again that less attractive girls are categorically better in bed. So no, I'm not imagining a girl I'm already attracted to. I'm imagining a plain girl of…
/r/seduction11/04/14 04:56 PM
1

It's really only as difficult as you make it, son. Adapt.
/r/seduction11/04/14 04:17 PM
1

That's a lot of overthinking there. Truth is, even if a guy had standards or was playing hard to get, there's a small chance that he'd be such an elitist tool that he'd turn a girl down who offered. And if he was, she could easily take her offer elsewhere. Just because you're happy to take something that's easy doesn't mean you're desperate. Not everything has to be an elaborate song and dance when it comes to pickup. I've thoroughly got my shit together, but if a girl came along and offered me …
/r/seduction11/04/14 04:14 PM
2

You've already started. It's really simple: go out and ask women out. Repeat until you get the desired results. Learn from your mistakes. Use what works and shitcan what doesn't. Don't be a douchebag. Have fun.
/r/seduction11/04/14 06:48 AM
1

You win some, you lose some. Cold approaches have a horrible success rate even for the most skilled people. Try mixing it up and going to different places besides concerts or shows. A change of venue helps sometimes.
/r/seduction11/04/14 06:39 AM
1

Jesus, what an awful feature. Why would anyone want that? That's just begging to get people pissed off at you for not replying in a timely fashion.
/r/seduction11/04/14 06:29 AM
1

Amazing what you can accomplish when you just sack up, isn't it?
/r/seduction11/04/14 06:23 AM
2

Have you tried saying hello?
/r/seduction11/04/14 06:19 AM
1

Make a move. If she's into you, she'll reciprocate. If not, at least you tried. Yeah, it might get awkward, but fuck it. You're realistically no worse off than before you tried if she rejects you.
/r/seduction11/04/14 06:19 AM
3

Uh... 'Kay?
/r/seduction11/04/14 06:15 AM
2

Show interest and don't be subtle. That's the best advice I can give you if you want to pick up dudes. When all is said and done, guys are pretty easy. If we think we're gonna get laid, our interest level will skyrocket. You don't need any fancy tricks or different layers of mindfuckery: just keep it simple and make it clear what you're looking for.
/r/seduction11/04/14 06:14 AM
1

You sound pretty young, so it's entirely possibly she's just in her awkward phase as well. But so far, you've demonstrated that you're a sweet boy who'll do sweet things, though you don't seem to be making yourself out to be much else. I mean, holding hands? Sitting close? Playfully scaring her? So what? Have you tried to kiss her? Put your hands on her? Show her that you're interested in more than the level of a sixth grader at summer camp? You can't be timid about these sorts of things, son. I…
/r/seduction11/04/14 06:09 AM
2

She probably sees you as a friend. Have you ever escalated things physically with her?
/r/seduction11/04/14 03:59 AM
1

I'll tell you something that I had to learn the hard way: oxytocin always wins. I figure at any given time, the grace period for maintaining a friends with benefits relationship runs at about six months, max. I've gotten it to nine months before, but that was an extreme case. Usually, they'll want to define things in relationship terms (read: they want a commitment) within a month or two. This is biological; emotional bonds form and attachment hormones kick in when they're particularly into you …
/r/seduction11/04/14 01:47 AM
3

Cool it with the melodrama, son. Lots of people in much worse situations than you have done more with less. Feeling sorry for yourself won't get you anywhere, so it's time to just man up and take control of your life. You want to get dates? Ask people out. Afraid of getting rejected? Buck up and do it anyway. You literally lose nothing by trying. Have nothing to say when you actually ask them out? Just talk to them like your buddies; it's not hard. Women are not that complicated. If you listen t…
/r/seduction11/04/14 01:36 AM
1

All right, son, here's the rub: she's a girl. They're not initiators about 95% of the time. This is not an indicator of disinterest, this is merely a fact of life that you have to deal with as a man. You know they're not interested when they don't want to hang out with you, and thus far, she's given you no such indication. So chill out, stop being a spaz, be a man, and keep on taking the lead. Get comfortable in that role, because that's the only way you're ever going to get consistent results.
/r/seduction11/04/14 01:31 AM
1

Hang out with her if you want, wait if you don't. It's literally that simple. There's nothing wrong with a spontaneous hang out. Keep it simple and casual -- something like, "Hey, whatcha doing right now? I was gonna go to the carnival. Wanna tag along?"
/r/seduction11/04/14 01:09 AM
3

Take it from someone who's had a lot of sex with both virgins and total sluts: sluts are better. Like, a thousand times better. Guys who need to have a virgin are categorically doing so because they feel too inadequate to compete with the guys who have been there before them. But I promise you, unless you're a completely inattentive moron in the sack, you're probably at least on par -- if not better -- than everyone else she's been with. So ditch the puritanism. It's not doing you any good, and …
/r/seduction11/04/14 01:07 AM
2

There are certain things a man does because that's how he rolls. But if he does those same things expecting some kind of reward for it, then he's a neckbeard (gamma male, white knight, nice guy, etc. etc.). There's nothing wrong with being a gentleman if that's just how you are. But if you're going about it expecting the girl to approve of you and reward you with sex, then you need to knock that shit off and stop being such a sycophantic little shit.
/r/seduction11/04/14 01:01 AM
2

Dude, just chill out and go to the stupid concert with her. You're spazzing out over nothing.
/r/seduction11/04/14 12:59 AM
1

As long as you're hygienic, it's not that big a deal. I've only known one or two girls who ever gave a shit about teeth beyond how clean they were.
/r/seduction10/04/14 10:17 PM
12

Ignore it and do what you want. She's not your boss.
/r/seduction10/04/14 10:10 PM
3

It's just one girl, dude. Relax. Even if you do fuck it up, there are countless more where she came from. Just be cool, be funny, and don't act like a spaz. You'll be fine.
/r/seduction10/04/14 10:08 PM
4

Well, the obvious answer is to start treating Tinder like any other online dating site: a fishing net to check periodically, but not to put any serious effort into. Go out and start meeting girls for real instead.
/r/seduction10/04/14 10:07 PM
3

Okay... Hang on... Before anything, you need to explain the imprisoned for pickup story.
/r/seduction10/04/14 10:04 PM
1

Like I said before, your reason behind getting those specific clothes is the only legitimate reason I can see for shelling out that kind of cash. Because the people you're dealing with are the kind of douchebags who actually care about labels. But come on, man. They're still chumps. If you gotta pretend to be a chump to fit in with them, then that's what you gotta do. Fit is less of an issue than people make it out to be. Getting shit tailored is cheap and easy, and you'll still come out ahead i…
/r/seduction10/04/14 08:41 PM
2

I used to be afraid of heights and falling. Like, every time I got up on a scaffold or a rooftop for those times I did construction, I would get vertigo and not be able to function properly. Naturally, I got sick of it, since it was starting to cost me money (I'd miss out on construction jobs that required any sort of elevation). So what did I do? I went skydiving. I went up and probably did close to fifty jumps until it no longer fazed me. Kissing is an essential part of physical relationships.…
/r/seduction10/04/14 08:27 PM
2

I had a girl get mad at me because she tried to creep on me and couldn't find anything but an ultra private Facebook page, an inactive Google+ account, and a picture of me smoking a cigarette. But that deliberate lack of information just made her more intrigued.
/r/seduction10/04/14 08:19 PM
1

What? Super thick denim, good stitching, extra large zipper for convenient bathroom use or quickie sex, deep pockets, roomy fit for those of us who don't have pencil legs... Those were some high-quality jeans. I sure as shit wasn't going to pay full price for them, but they're the only example of designer jeans that might be worth it in terms of quality construction. I can't say the same for jeans made by J Brand or Abercrombie & Fitch.
/r/seduction10/04/14 08:10 PM
176

That's how it's done. Now remember that moment and do it again and again until it's automatic.
/r/seduction10/04/14 07:53 PM
1

Damn it. I caught myself nodding in agreement a couple times there -- especially when they got to the part about the friend zone. If only I didn't hate that guy's deep V and stupid haircut...
/r/seduction10/04/14 07:48 PM
1

I once missed eight messages from someone in the course of a day because I was occupied with fixing my car. Shit happens. I prefer to give people the benefit of the doubt rather than fly off the handle over what could easily be a misunderstanding. If it's consistent, then it's a problem. But if it's just one day? I don't see a reason to be too concerned.
/r/seduction10/04/14 07:40 PM
1

Please Understand Me by David Keirsey gives a really thorough rundown of personality types and how they relate to one another. Naturally, if you know people's motivations and the way their thought processes work, you'll be able to interact with them much better.
/r/seduction10/04/14 07:04 PM
1

Life gets in the way sometimes, son. People get busy, they don't check their phones, or they see a message and they forget to reply to it. It happens, and it's not a big deal. Just roll with it and wait for a response. If nothing happens after a few days, continue texting as if no time has elapsed. If they still don't reply, start a new conversation thread. If they still don't reply, move the fuck on.
/r/seduction10/04/14 07:02 PM
5

Thanks, man. You ever find yourself in Chicago, first round's on me. Our waves aren't too great, but the food's way better!
/r/seduction10/04/14 06:57 PM
1

It's got its place, but it's still a gimmick. For veterans of pickup, it's one of those things that's good to throw out every once in a while to spice things up or put a bitchy person in their place, but not something that's used to deliberately hurt someone. Physical attractiveness may be a superficial trait, but it's the cause behind a lot of external validation, and that can inflate a person's ego to the point where they feel entitled or too good for certain people. Naturally, that's somethin…
/r/seduction10/04/14 06:55 PM
1

Sounds like you have a good friend there. The conventional logic is to avoid situations like this altogether. But personally, I think it's fine to lay the groundwork for something by being attractive and setting yourself up for down the road. I highly doubt she's going to stay with her boyfriend forever.
/r/seduction10/04/14 06:24 PM
1

The general idea is like this: stereotypically hot women get hit on a lot. They get a lot of compliments, and that in turn usually means they expect a lot of external validation. A "neg" turns the tables on this and gives them something they're not used to, which is attractive because of its novelty. It also makes them try to validate themselves because you're not doing it for them, which removes any sense of superiority they might have felt over you.
/r/seduction10/04/14 06:18 PM
1

Yeah, but it still doesn't justify spending that much on clothing that doesn't differ in quality from the standard-priced stuff. If those designer clothes were somehow made of superior, incredibly durable materials that would last for a decade before blowing out, then maybe it might be worth shelling out that kind of cash. But I challenge you to find a pair of designer jeans that does that. In fact, the only pair of designer jeans I ever wore that exceeded the quality of standard-priced jeans wa…
/r/seduction10/04/14 06:08 PM
3

Hipster girls, man. It rubs off on you after a while.
/r/seduction10/04/14 05:32 PM
2

I avoid it, simply because I don't wish them a good day and I'd rather not be fake courteous to someone who just spurned me. It's obvious and disingenuous. I don't want to be a dick, but being supplicating and overly nice is just as bad. Even if I don't actually care that they turned me down, I have no reason to pretend to give a shit if their day is good from that moment onward.
/r/seduction10/04/14 04:46 PM
10

Shave your head completely and just own it. You'll look better and people won't think anything of it.
/r/seduction10/04/14 06:21 AM
6

You can't go wrong with Fink's Distance and Time album, if you haven't heard that one already.
/r/seduction10/04/14 05:39 AM
8

There are countless answers to those. But personally, I'd have gone with these: Her: "Who said I like you? I don't like you!" Me: "Who you trying to convince?" Her: "I don't think you're someone I'd want to be with!" Me: "Good. That cuts the awkward pillow talk in half." Her: "Are you gay?" Me: "Darlin', for fifty bucks I'll be whatever you want." Her: "Why don't you have a girlfriend?" Me: "I'm a complicated guy, sweetheart."
/r/seduction10/04/14 05:29 AM
18

Ah, Jason Isbell -- the poor man's Jeff Buckley. Good choice, man. Good post.
/r/seduction10/04/14 05:19 AM
4

By not giving any credence to it. Drama exists only insofar as people react to it. If you're calm, detached, and don't involve yourself in people's petty bullshit, it won't affect you -- at least not to any serious degree.
/r/seduction10/04/14 05:04 AM
6

Don't give up, son. Everyone who's ever had any real success sat exactly where you sit now. But it gets better. You'll learn the rules and they'll be second nature to you. You won't even think about them after a while -- you'll just do what needs to be done. You're already way ahead of the curve for beginners by the sheer grace that you're talking to people, stepping out of your comfort zone, and getting numbers at all. You've got a ways to go, but take a step back and admire how far you've actu…
/r/seduction10/04/14 05:02 AM
1

She looks eerily similar to someone I dated last year.
/r/seduction10/04/14 04:50 AM
5

Women are just people, man. They're not scary, or special in any significant way, or anything to worry about comparing yourself to. There's nothing so great about them that makes them somehow above your company. And if they think that, then they're clearly operating on a very exaggerated notion of themselves that's not grounded in reality. So relax. Be ballsy and start taking chances. The very worst that can happen is you get turned down and you're exactly where you were before: not getting laid…
/r/seduction10/04/14 04:36 AM
5

It's all in how you phrase it. "I'm twenty-eight. I survived this long despite a recession and being born in the weakest, most entitled generation in the last hundred years, climbing atop the failed masses to secure a decent paycheck. I endure day after day of mediocrity like a gladiator of boredom, driving an old car that's seen more battered highways and close calls than I care to remember. Naturally, this lifestyle requires a certain level of physical fitness -- for which I've miraculously ma…
/r/seduction10/04/14 04:26 AM
14

Keep it simple and move on. Rejection isn't a big deal, and even top-tier people get rejected more often than not. Don't dwell on it too much. Just move on to the next chick. A couple rejection lines I like: Simple "All right, thanks anyway." Aloof "Fuck it, I tried." Lighthearted "Aww, you're breaking my balls, man! All right, no worries. See ya." Exaggerated (say nothing, stare at her like she just said the most ridiculous, horribly profane thing in the world, and slowly back away while lookin…
/r/seduction10/04/14 04:19 AM
2

Do something enough and it eventually becomes habitual. Right now, you're still in the "faking it" stage that comes before the behavior is automatic. Give it time and practice and that'll just be your default way of speaking.
/r/seduction10/04/14 04:00 AM
3

Nah, you're fine. Most sexual relationships I've had started out as simple friendships. Just escalate over time and go from there.
/r/seduction09/04/14 10:30 PM
1

You should try to look good for your age. Don't try to age it up unless you've got a specific goal in mind (i.e. getting into 21+ clubs and venues). It's expected that you'll look like a fucking goofball who doesn't know how to dress himself at your age, so don't stress out about it too much. You've got your whole life ahead of you to look back and cringe at those awful pants you're wearing.
/r/seduction09/04/14 09:43 PM
2

Fuck small steps. Being timid gets you nowhere. You want to get better? Force yourself out of your comfort zone and adapt. Trial by fire. Don't coddle yourself or make excuses. Yeah, you're going to be awkward as fuck for a while, but so what? I challenge you to find a person who didn't go through an awkward phase when they were learning how to be the person they wanted to be.
/r/seduction09/04/14 09:35 PM
0

The third one. Either that, or just start a new conversation thread. The rest were utter crap. And it's not desperate to text someone after a period of no response. Life gets in the way sometimes; people get busy or they forget to reply. It happens. Usually, all they need is a friendly reminder that they have a conversation in progress. You don't need to hound them with bullshit like "you suck" or an all caps version of what you last texted.
/r/seduction09/04/14 09:14 PM
5

The only good one was #3. Everything else reeked of desperation and neediness.
/r/seduction09/04/14 08:48 PM
1

I'm assuming you mean e-mail. And no, it wouldn't. Phones are a faster means of communication, and you're probably just going to be texting anyway (nobody calls anymore). Don't explain why you want her number either. Don't rationalize it to her or try to convince her it's a good idea. Just keep it very simple: "What's your number?"
/r/seduction09/04/14 08:44 PM
1

Ah, good. Either way, you'll have better luck next time. Keep at it.
/r/seduction09/04/14 08:41 PM
1

"Yeah, no problem. What's your number?" Keep it simple. Don't overthink it. Getting a girl's number is not a big deal.
/r/seduction09/04/14 08:34 PM
1

Yeah, if you reply with something overly bitchy like that, they're going to be thrilled that they don't have to put up with it anymore. Chill, man. These girls don't owe you anything. If someone isn't into you, that's totally fine. Just back out graciously.
/r/seduction09/04/14 08:30 PM
1

Handle your own shit, let them worry about theirs. You can help people out from time to time because that's what a good guy does, but if you're carrying people and putting expectations upon them, you're constantly setting yourself up for disappointment, and you'll have no one to blame for it but yourself. People will always let you down on a long enough timeline, so it's pointless to lay any kind of expectations upon them. They will do right by themselves regardless of whether you're in the pict…
/r/seduction09/04/14 08:25 PM
2

Something that helped me out when I wore a younger man's pants was this: every girl is your type. Every person is your kind of person. There is nothing so special or unique about you that warrants being an elitist about who you spend time with. Every different person and perspective is a chance to expand your mind and your scope of experience. And being able to fluidly transition from group to group without any awkwardness is a reward unto itself.
/r/seduction09/04/14 08:18 PM
16

Yeah... I'm not sure I agree with this. Acting like an annoying spaz who's desperate for attention is powerfully uncool, and ADHD is not attractive. Goofing around and having fun is one thing; but being deliberately juvenile just reeks of trying too hard to get people's attention.
/r/seduction09/04/14 08:09 PM
4

Learn to adapt. I'm a white guy in a mostly black neighborhood; virtually everything about me clashes with the norm around here, but I still manage to get plenty of dates because I can assimilate and find common ground with people. From what you've described, you're not even dealing with big enough differences for people to notice most of the time. The only thing stopping you from hanging out with these people is you. Force yourself out of your comfort zone. Learn to appreciate things outside of…
/r/seduction09/04/14 08:02 PM
0

Yeah, but my motivation is unaffected by how much I jerk off, so I don't need to hold back. It's also detrimental to the women I'm with if I don't at least try to keep my libido in check, since most of them are good for maybe three or four times max before they're too sore to continue. Even my current girlfriend -- who has the highest libido of anyone I've ever been with -- topped out at sixteen times before she had to throw in the towel. Meanwhile, I'm sitting around still good to go.
/r/seduction09/04/14 07:51 PM
1

Three times a week? Shit, man. I get laid regularly and I'm still at three times a day. Don't sweat it. You'll break through to the other side eventually.
/r/seduction09/04/14 07:30 PM
7

I excused myself and rushed home. Except I hadn't taken my car for some stupid reason, so I had to sit for five stops on the L, using sheer force of will to keep my bowels from evacuating. Walking from the train stop to my house must've looked comical as hell to passers by, and by the time I got to my front door, my hands were so shaky I could barely put my keys in the lock. But brother, the feeling of finally taking that monster shit when I (barely) made it to my toilet? Better than any sex I c…
/r/seduction09/04/14 06:54 PM
9

My usual response: "I only date (insert race) men." "Yeah, I know. But gimme five minutes and I'll change your mind." You sound overeager, desperate, and more than a little fetishistic about a person's race. That's going to be a turnoff for a large number of women -- especially those who don't appreciate being pursued purely based on their racial heritage.
/r/seduction09/04/14 06:50 PM
1

Usually. Though I once knew a girl who got profoundly turned on by something as simple and benign as me taking her phone. Every person is different, so you need to be able to adjust accordingly.
/r/seduction09/04/14 06:21 PM
2

She might've just been being nice the first time around. It's easy to confuse politeness with interest, especially over PMs. I suggest moving onto other things in the meantime. Feel free to try again later once some time has elapsed, but don't put too much energy into this. She's not going for it.
/r/seduction09/04/14 06:15 PM
7

I once got a wicked case of explosive diarrhea while on a date with this one girl. It's hard to be charming and funny when your face is turning green and you're visibly trying not to shit your pants the entire time.
/r/seduction09/04/14 06:04 PM
3

If you make six figures and five-hundred bucks to you is the equivalent of fifty bucks to someone else, then sure. Even then, though, I can't fathom how you could possibly justify it. The difference in clothing quality is imperceptible. I once tried on a pair of $200 J Brand jeans and there was no discernible difference between them and the pair of Arizona jeans I got for twenty bucks. You're paying for a label; nothing more. That doesn't make you hip or fashion savvy, that just makes you a chum…
/r/seduction09/04/14 05:57 PM
7

I did. Actually, we both felt bad for him so I ended up introducing him to a bunch of people and trying to help him out.
/r/seduction09/04/14 05:36 PM
10

A lot of girls know the classic canned lines now, and many can identify when someone is trying to pull out the old Mystery Method playbook. I recently had a guy come up to me and my girlfriend and use the old "is it acceptable for men to wear eyeliner?" routine as an opener.
/r/seduction09/04/14 06:31 AM
0

I think genuine confidence comes from knowing yourself and what you're capable of, and that just comes from experience. For example: the first time I got into a brawl, I was terrified. I had no idea what I was doing or what the other person was going to attempt. But after a few fights, I started getting the hang of it. I learned to control my breathing, to grapple and punch effectively, and how to take a hit without crumpling. I became confident in my skills as a fighter because I'd done it befo…
/r/seduction09/04/14 06:24 AM
1

I realistically lost count of how many girls I'd kissed some time in my mid-teens. The only reason I even keep track of how many girls I've had sex with is so I have an idea of how many people I need to call in the event that I ever contract an STD.
/r/seduction09/04/14 06:11 AM
1

First of all, let me say that this is a good overall post with some fine examples of body language. Though about your last part, I gotta admit: anyone who spends $500 on a pair of jeans is either a moron, a metrosexual who gives way too much of a fuck about designer labels, or somebody with tons of cash to blow and no idea what to spend it on. For half a grand, you could easily get a custom tailored suit or a full wardrobe of high-quality street clothes. Of course, if you're trying to blend in w…
/r/seduction09/04/14 06:06 AM
12

Cowboy the fuck up; nothing is ever as big a deal as you think it is.
/r/seduction09/04/14 05:39 AM
1

Seems to me this was more an issue with her own comfort zone than anything you did wrong. The opportunities for physical escalation didn't really present themselves, and you seemed pretty attuned to her body language, so that didn't seem like a problem area either. She may have a more traditional view of dating, where courtship occurs over time instead of all at once. Overall, I didn't see anything in particular that struck me as a red flag (even the conversation lapses can be chalked up to cult…
/r/seduction05/04/14 05:07 AM
3

As an attractive guy, I can say from direct experience that it's a smaller advantage than you think, but still an advantage nonetheless. In general, I can get away with more, and generally ballsy or outrageous behavior is given a certain measure of leniency that wouldn't exist for less attractive guys. I can also get away with only doing warm approaches (the ones where the girl has already demonstrated a certain level of interest) because they happen often enough for me not to need the sheer vol…
/r/seduction03/04/14 01:28 AM
1

I just do it right away. No need to set arbitrary timetables for it. Make it known right away that you want to be friends with benefits and have sex with her when you feel like it.
/r/seduction31/03/14 09:56 PM
1

People are a lot less complicated than they give themselves credit for. Force of will is the thing that separates adults from children. Unless you have a mental disorder of some kind, there's next to no reason why you can't just put on your big boy pants and force yourself to do something. Hell, practically all of seduction is just forcing yourself out of your comfort zone and changing your behavior.
/r/seduction31/03/14 03:56 AM
-4

Man, you really don't like rappers from the 90s. I'm sorry if someone bad touched you to Break Stuff, but your skinny jeans still look stupid.
/r/seduction30/03/14 05:31 PM
-5

TIL Chicago is a trailer park. Looks like the MFA crew is a little sore about girls not liking their $600 street clothes.
/r/seduction30/03/14 05:15 PM
-1

Adidas mid-tops or Chuck Taylors. Way better basic sneakers. Vans are what old men wear in nursing homes (and I would know, because 9 times out of 10, the old men I transported from nursing homes to hospitals were wearing Vans -- if they had clothes on at all). I don't wear button-downs in the summer. Chicago summers get upwards of 100ºF+, so wearing layers becomes ridiculous. In fact, if it's above 75 outside, I don't even bother with button-downs. And form-fitting is not the same as "fits corr…
/r/seduction30/03/14 05:02 PM
1

That right there is what we commonly refer to as overthinking a very simple problem. People put women on a pedestal because they assign arbitrary values to them based on looks. Just stop doing that. You don't need some crazy mantras or "actionable" items in order to accomplish this. Just take what you know (hot women are better), discard it, and replace it with something else (women are the same). Simple.
/r/seduction30/03/14 04:48 PM
2

Flannels and work shirts, mostly.
/r/seduction30/03/14 06:45 AM
1

You got, like, maybe half of these right.
/r/seduction30/03/14 04:58 AM
1

I'll indulge her in small talk to a point, but after a while I either just let the conversation fizzle out by not responding, or say I'm going to bed. There's no real magic line for it.
/r/seduction30/03/14 04:57 AM
1

You're right. One's a physiological dependency, the other is someone not handling their shit.
/r/seduction30/03/14 04:51 AM
2

I don't doubt you were a train wreck. I'm just pointing out the impossibility of an addiction occurring from a non-addictive substance.
/r/seduction30/03/14 04:17 AM
3

I can guarantee you weren't actually addicted to weed, seeing as it's not an addictive substance. You can develop a tolerance to it over time, and it's fun as shit to do, but those things do not equal an addiction.
/r/seduction30/03/14 03:20 AM
-3

You lost me at the pastel colors and Vans. And every pair of jeans or khakis I see on there is skinny fit or tapered, which just looks horrible on anyone who isn't built like a stick. Or they're wearing hoodies/jackets with arms that look like they're too short, often in pastel colors that look like Ralph Lauren threw up on them. From what I've seen (and I check that place every few weeks just to confirm I'm not going crazy), they're off on things a lot more often than not.
/r/seduction30/03/14 03:16 AM
-7

Are we talking about the same place? Because what you're describing is pretty far removed from the stuff I always see on the front page of MFA.
/r/seduction30/03/14 03:08 AM
8

You don't need any tools, man. You just don't do it. Do you need a special set of skills, mantras, or tools to avoid sticking a fork in a light socket? No, of course not. Because you know that doing so is retarded. The same principle applies here. Women are people; nothing more, nothing less. An attractive girl is no more objectively valuable than an ugly one, and the same rules apply equally to both. Once you grasp that basic concept, you'll stop doing it.
/r/seduction30/03/14 03:04 AM
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It was a rhetorical question, chief. The point was MFA is an awful place to go if you're trying to figure out how to dress yourself -- which is the reason most people go there in the first place.
/r/seduction30/03/14 02:59 AM
-10

Guarantee 99% of the guys on there aren't asking for advice on their clothes because they have an appreciation for textiles... Just saying...
/r/seduction30/03/14 02:52 AM
6

No, you call them out on it, but you don't make a huge scene or turn it into a big deal. You just ask them, "Yo, bro, you all right? You're kinda being a dick." Most of the time, they'll actually go into what's wrong or why they're being shitty, and it seldom has anything to do with you. Nothing is ever as big a deal as you think it is, son. Remember that.
/r/seduction30/03/14 02:50 AM
4

All I can say to that is: handle your shit, man. Don't be one of those train wrecks who gets addicted to things or who acts like a fucking moron when he's intoxicated. Know your limits and observe them.
/r/seduction30/03/14 02:48 AM
-13

So why even care about fashion then? You're dressing either for practicality (i.e. tactical gear), for attraction (i.e. clothes that don't look retarded), or because you're an artist and looking weird is your bag. Otherwise, it makes zero sense.
/r/seduction30/03/14 02:43 AM
2

They're petty, for one. For another, rejections happen. They're not a big deal. Be the bigger person and just let it go instead of dwelling on it like a candy-ass who has to resort to bitchy remarks to make himself feel better. That's just powerfully uncool.
/r/seduction30/03/14 02:38 AM
2

You said: /r/RejectionComebacks is here for you to read and post your favorite comebacks after being rejected to help you cope with that depressing feeling of rejection and to help cheer you up. You didn't say: /r/RejectionComebacks is here for you to read and post your favorite inspirational quotes. You're sending mixed messages, chief.
/r/seduction30/03/14 02:11 AM
2

Move on by dishing out snide comebacks and dwelling on what should be an insignificant event in a person's day. Right...
/r/seduction30/03/14 02:00 AM
7

... OR, and this may sound crazy, you just get the fuck over it, realize it's not actually a big deal, and move on to the next chick. Wasting your time getting butthurt over someone not being into you is like the height of pathetic.
/r/seduction30/03/14 01:54 AM
15

Stop trying to exchange being nice for sex. It doesn't work like that. Being a good guy is just how a man rolls because it makes him a better person. But you're not going to get anyone to sleep with you for it. She wants guys who can sack up and take charge. Typically, the guys who can do that readily are the guys who are callous, aloof, and don't give a fuck about a girl's feelings. You can be a good guy and still take charge, but you're not doing that. You're being the opposite of that, in fac…
/r/seduction30/03/14 01:44 AM
5

Nah, just focus your attention on other things. If down the line she decides to get in touch again, cool. But don't fixate on it. Go out and meet other people in the meantime.
/r/seduction30/03/14 01:29 AM
2

Drugs make everything better.
/r/seduction30/03/14 01:27 AM
13

Cowboy the fuck up; nothing is ever as big a deal as you think it is.
/r/seduction30/03/14 01:26 AM
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In general, it's a good idea to avoid dressing like an idiot, but otherwise it's one of those things that I think people put more emphasis on than it deserves. For instance, I once picked up a girl wearing a pair of pajama pants and a polo shirt from a phone store just to see if I could. My daily wear typically consists of monochromatic t-shirts (usually black), a button-up shirt with the sleeves cuffed up, loose straight-legged jeans, and either a pair of black work boots or Adidas mid-top snea…
/r/seduction30/03/14 01:22 AM
1

You reduce flake rate by being attractive and interesting enough for them to want to see you again. Where I go after I get a number is usually to just send a text when I feel like it and set up a date to hang out. I also like to engage in random text conversations throughout the day to keep her fresh in my mind; nothing crazy, just occasional flirting and joking around.
/r/seduction30/03/14 12:08 AM
1

Easy: you move on to the next girls. It's not like there aren't more out there. Getting numbers is not difficult. Anyone with the guts to even ask can usually get a phone number without much effort. But anything beyond that is another matter -- especially with cold approaches. Even the best PUAs have probably less than a 20% return rate from girls they randomly approach on the street. It's a pure numbers game. So relax. What you're going through isn't a big deal. It happens to even the absolute …
/r/seduction29/03/14 11:36 PM
2

You're overthinking it. Focus on being attractive and having her be into you. Boyfriend or not, if she's into you, she's into you. You don't need to give her some anticipatory song and dance to come off as nonthreatening. If she says, "I have a boyfriend", just say, "That's cool" and continue what you were doing. I can't tell you how many times a girl has said that to me in the beginning, only to tell me she's suddenly single a week later.
/r/seduction29/03/14 11:28 PM
3

Girls are notoriously good at faking. Watch out for that. Besides, ask pretty much any girl and the general consensus is that orgasm is a very small part of the overall experience for them. Getting a girl off is easy; it's not some magic ticket to keeping her interested in you. It's only as weird or as difficult as you make it, honestly. Friends to fuck buddies is actually a really easy transition if you're just honest about it. Tell them you like them as friends, and that you prefer to leave th…
/r/seduction29/03/14 11:18 PM
1

I'm not seeing the "risk" involved. You mean risk of rejection? So what? I think it's a swell idea. Go out, meet some people, and have a good time. At the very least, you're spending a day with your buddy.
/r/seduction29/03/14 09:30 PM
6

Sometimes, girls are only interested in one-night things. They find a guy who seems attractive at the time, they hit that, and then they bail. Sometimes, it's because anything more would result in an emotional investment that they don't want right now. Other times, it's just to "scratch an itch". Girls get horny too. And then there are times when you're just plain underwhelming in the sack and they don't want to sleep with you again. Either way, if you want a persistent fuck buddy, try being fri…
/r/seduction29/03/14 09:28 PM
1

"I have a gigantic dong and I rehabilitate sick puppies for a living" Seriously, does it even matter? They're paying attention to your picture, not your tagline.
/r/seduction29/03/14 08:55 PM
7

That's all well and good, but realistically, you play a pretty significant role in how others react to you. If you walk around like an awkward shit, people are going to treat you like an awkward shit. If you walk around with confidence, people will react positively to you. It's basic cause and effect. So no, I'm going to have to disagree with Mr. Oakey on this one. Confidence is most decidedly not bullshit.
/r/seduction29/03/14 08:52 PM
3

As a rule, keep it casual and be as brief about your situation as possible. You're moving soon, so there's no need to get super involved with anyone right now.
/r/seduction29/03/14 06:04 PM
1

Hang on, lemme just get out my metric to U.S. Standard Measurement conversion chart... Don't overthink it, pal. Wait it out. It's her turn to text now. Send her a simple, "What's up?" text tomorrow if you don't hear anything back. And if you still don't hear back, move on.
/r/seduction29/03/14 06:01 PM
1

Well, it's a start.
/r/seduction29/03/14 05:56 PM
2

People flake. It happens. She's allowed to change her mind and doesn't owe an explanation for it. Calling them out is not only a waste of energy and time, but it shows that you're the kind of person who can be easily manipulated by the actions of others. Don't be that guy. The next time someone flakes, move on to the next one and don't give them a second thought.
/r/seduction29/03/14 05:53 PM
1

Force yourself through the anxiety and ask her out. You lose nothing by trying. If she says no, oh well. It's not like you're worse off than before; you already weren't having sex with her.
/r/seduction29/03/14 05:46 PM
1

I've got some bad news for you, son: Carib girls aren't particularly weird -- no more so than Midwestern girls, anyway. I spent some time in Santo Domingo and Kingston and met some really cool women down there. The issue probably has little to do with the region and more to do with your difficulty carrying on conversations. If you're having trouble down there, you're not going to have a better time up here. Fortunately, it's not that difficult. You don't need fancy openers or a flow chart. Talki…
/r/seduction29/03/14 05:44 PM
9

All right, I'll lay a few things out for you that might give you some perspective. Man up. You're entering a profession where your choices affect people's very lives. They're going to die on a regular basis. You will see shit that will make your blood run cold and your nightmares more vivid than you can possibly imagine. I know this because I was a medic for over a decade, and you're going even deeper into the shit than I did. With all that in mind, what the fuck are you so afraid of? They're ju…
/r/seduction29/03/14 08:08 AM
1

Yeah, that's just insecurity talking. Being ballsy in no way makes you desperate. They're not even remotely related.
/r/seduction29/03/14 06:37 AM
3

Focus on having a good time. Picking up chicks is secondary.
/r/seduction29/03/14 03:29 AM
1

Well, if you're seriously getting distressed to the point where it's no longer worth it to be with her, consider breaking it off. But I don't see a reason why you can't just cowboy the fuck up and handle your shit. You're clearly not a guy who has trouble with that.
/r/seduction29/03/14 02:53 AM
2

And, most importantly be alpha. Be the leader. Be the head of the table, the person that people go for approval, the person that gives the orders. Women are turned on by powerful guys. In my experience, you either are or you aren't this guy. It's not really something a person learns since it has a lot to do with temperament. A small percentage of people are natural leaders, while everyone else tends to gravitate to more supplemental (though not necessarily subservient) roles. If you are that kin…
/r/seduction29/03/14 02:52 AM
2

People are still figuring shit out in high school, and the insecurity and inherent cliquey-ness of that age can make things needlessly difficult at times. Your best bet is just to be ballsy and ask girls out. A few will say yes, a few more will say no. Don't let it get to you. Just keep at it and eventually you'll get somewhere. The good news is there are lots of girls who are just as eager to experiment sexually as there are guys. You just gotta remember that most of them are worried about look…
/r/seduction29/03/14 02:44 AM
2

I'm not really seeing the problem. You're having sex with her regularly and you're still seeing other people. There's nothing wrong with having a favorite. I can tell that you're a guy who's used to getting what he wants when he sets his mind to it, so the fact that this girl is sexually liberated and independent is like some wonderful new drug to you. But I guarantee that if you tied that down, you'd get sick of it sooner or later. It's the scarcity and unattainable quality of it that's endeari…
/r/seduction29/03/14 02:35 AM
3

Hot guy problems. What's stopping you from banging these girls, exactly?
/r/seduction29/03/14 01:59 AM
3

I prefer to mix up the nicknames. Start with Shaq, then alternate: stretch, legs, beanpole, etc.
/r/seduction29/03/14 01:40 AM
4

Playful teasing like this is typically what you want to go for. Girls, especially nowadays, have a pretty good sense for canned lines or guys deliberately trying to "neg" them. But if you're just joking around with them like they're your buddies, you'll have a much better time.
/r/seduction29/03/14 01:10 AM
8

"What are you, a model or some shit?" "I work at Kohls." "That was my second guess."
/r/seduction29/03/14 01:03 AM
2

Those words are fine. All you gotta do is make sure you're using them when they're actually appropriate. Most things don't warrant an apology, and using them unnecessarily actually cheapens the ones that you need to give. As a rule, unless you genuinely fucked up and need to make amends to someone, don't apologize.
/r/seduction29/03/14 01:01 AM
1

Putting yourself in that position is the only way you get better. If you're too afraid of what other people think to even try, you might as well cash in your chips now and join the clergy. To put it into perspective for you: I've been with over 400 women. I've been rejected probably three times that amount. Rejections don't mean anything. Dating is a pure numbers game, even if you're totally hot shit. So you might as well cowboy the fuck up and stop being a pansy about getting turned down. It's …
/r/seduction29/03/14 12:48 AM
8

Get good with banter and improv comedy; you won't have this fear any longer. Some things that may help you: playing critical thinking games (my favorite is D&D), taking acting classes or extemporaneous speech courses, hanging out with naturally clever people, and just practicing with everyone as much as humanly possible.
/r/seduction29/03/14 12:42 AM
1

Go deeper. You can adjust on the fly according to their body language, and diffuse awkwardness with humor. Move in, get in her space immediately, put an arm around her and start bullshitting like you're old buddies. Touch her arm for emphasis when you're telling a joke, lead her out the door by brushing the small of her back, high-five, fist bump, play thumb war -- basically, use any excuse to touch her. Generally, if you do it with enough confidence, they'll just go with it and relax around you…
/r/seduction29/03/14 12:34 AM
1

The only thing it proves is that you didn't match that person's specific tastes. Everyone has them, and that's totally fine. There's no need to take it personally. It's not like you walk around immediately taking every offer that comes along just because it was available, so why would they? Even the best of us run into rejections. Even if you do everything right and are objectively a total catch, someone is going to turn you down. It happens. And really, it's not a big deal. Even if they reject …
/r/seduction29/03/14 12:21 AM
2

I wholeheartedly disagree. When I wore a younger man's pants, I used to internalize every shitty thing people said to me. Because that's what you do when you're young and your ego is still comprised of external validation. But as I aged and learned to draw my self-esteem from within, I stopped feeling anything but quiet amusement from people who acted shitty towards me. A psychopath wouldn't have ever cared because the empathy would've never existed in the first place. Where you draw your self-e…
/r/seduction28/03/14 08:14 PM
2

If somebody is rude to me I will be hurt, especially if I didn't do anything wrong Why? What does it matter? You say you "give very little of a fuck", but that's giving too much of a fuck in its purest form. That's just something I can't fathom. You have a host of options to choose from when it comes to reacting to things, and you opt to pick the one that not only makes you feel like shit, but makes you look like a whiny bitch as well? I don't get it. What possible benefit does that confer?
/r/seduction28/03/14 07:02 PM
7

They can reject you extremely rudely and make you feel like shit. So what? This just makes them look bad, not you. If someone is so up their own ass that they feel the need to turn someone down in the shittiest way possible, you gotta just laugh at how absurd it is. There's no reason whatsoever to feel shitty about it. Other people's attitudes only affect you insofar as you let them. They can embarrass you in a public place. What difference does it make if it's public? They're the ones creating …
/r/seduction28/03/14 06:51 PM
1

You got overeager, but understand that you're playing the cold approach game to begin with. You're going to have flakes -- especially if your initial interaction is like what you described: (a few interview questions, jokes, and a rush to get a number).
/r/seduction28/03/14 06:02 PM
1

Sounds profoundly boring. You're not giving her any incentive to continue with you beyond pleasantries. Girls like push and pull. They like guys who are ballsy enough to take chances and comfortable enough to touch them without hesitation. They like it when guys actively attempt to enjoy the interaction rather than seeming like they're just running through a checklist until they can secure a date.
/r/seduction28/03/14 06:00 PM
1

Seems a little weird, but realistically no weirder than me picking a girl up by saying "butt cheese".
/r/seduction28/03/14 05:45 PM
1

Escalate. Don't make it needlessly complicated. If you kiss her, kiss her again. Use your hands and touch her breasts or butt. Kiss her neck. Grip her hair. Grab her by the butt, lift her into the air, and have her use her legs to hang from your hips. You know, sexual stuff. Have fun with it. Basically, just keep pushing the envelope until either you end up fucking, or she says stop. Foreplay is great, so don't be so eager to get to the finish line that you skip out on all the fun to be had befo…
/r/seduction28/03/14 07:49 AM
1

Try to focus on having fun. You've already gotten past the most difficult part: getting her to like you. The rest of it is pretty easy. Start with small touching and work your way up the sexual ladder. Use her reaction as a gauge. Don't be afraid to be a little aggressive, just make sure that it's what you both want to do. If she stops you, then stop. Otherwise, keep going.
/r/seduction28/03/14 07:15 AM
1

Simple: you get on like you were never apart. Start with a warm hug and an enthusiastic greeting. Start bullshitting about your little inside jokes like you just saw her yesterday. Bust her chops in a friendly way, joke around with her, gossip about other people you know if you have to. In short: treat her like a buddy who you also have sex with.
/r/seduction28/03/14 07:10 AM
1

OKCupid's the one I've had the most success with by far. You set up a profile as someone looking for new friends, you message girls seeing if they want to hang out, and boom. Easy hookup.
/r/seduction28/03/14 07:02 AM
2

I'm sure you can find some resources on text game out there. Off the top of my head, I can't think of any -- but then, I don't spend a lot of time researching methods that I'm already using. Texting is really no different than the old days of IM chats on AIM or ICQ (for those old enough to remember those things). Except the great thing about text messages is nobody expects you to reply right away, so you can carry on a conversation throughout the day. It keeps you fresh in her mind, and it allow…
/r/seduction28/03/14 06:55 AM
0

Nah, man. Texting is a fun and easy way to continue a running dialogue in your spare time when you've got a busy schedule and you don't have a ton of time to yammer on the phone or see someone in person. It keeps you fresh in their minds, allows you to demonstrate a sense of humor, and makes engaging in sexy conversation incredibly easy -- especially when they're the kinds of girls who aren't super comfortable talking dirty in-person (I probably average a couple dozen sexts a day from various gi…
/r/seduction28/03/14 06:41 AM
2

Spoken like a true texting novice. Don't discount the attraction-building power of a good text dialogue. That's just letting an incredibly effective communication medium go to waste.
/r/seduction28/03/14 02:48 AM
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You largely got over your social disorder already, you're still young, you're in a good job while most guys your age are still living with their parents, and you live in probably the most laid back city in the South. Your shit's pretty well together. Far as I'm concerned, you shouldn't be so worried. All you really need to do is cowboy the fuck up and relax. Women aren't scary or terribly complicated. The worst they can do is not have sex with you, and you were there by default anyway. So chill …
/r/seduction28/03/14 01:24 AM
12

I prefer to call that a warm approach, since she gave you plenty of indication that she was interested before you even talked to her. That's usually how I approach women nowadays, and I can't even remember the last time doing it that way didn't work. Nicely done.
/r/seduction28/03/14 12:49 AM
1

You're all over the map here. But I can relate to some of this. Mostly the whole heartbreaking thing.
/r/seduction28/03/14 12:40 AM
6

Seems like she's doing all the work for you. All you gotta do is not fuck it up and you'll be fine.
/r/seduction28/03/14 12:30 AM
2

Owning failure is part of becoming a confident man, son. Even the best of us have failed countless times more than we have succeeded. And you don't learn how to cope with failure by pretending it doesn't exist, or by hiding behind a gimmick to "soften the blow". You face it head-on until you realize just how little failing actually matters. Then again, I'm of the "cowboy the fuck up" school of thought. I'd rather see men toughen up and cope with things on their own than invent elaborate schemes …
/r/seduction27/03/14 05:12 PM
2

I dunno. It seems to me like you're grossly overthinking what should be a really cut and dry process. Getting women isn't terribly complicated. The most difficult part is getting over yourself so you can see just how stupidly simple it actually is. It's not like you're hacking a computer or building a bomb from scratch; you're just talking to a girl in a way that she finds attractive. I think by assigning "achievements" to the process, you're needlessly building the impression in your mind that …
/r/seduction27/03/14 07:44 AM
8

Christ, that was awkward... But don't worry, both of you were.
/r/seduction27/03/14 06:13 AM
4

Work in the medical field for a couple years. You won't even notice the way people smell after that.
/r/seduction27/03/14 05:49 AM
23

My mindset has always been this: the very worst she can do is not have sex with you, and you're already there by default anyway. So what do you have to lose by talking to her?
/r/seduction26/03/14 11:44 PM
1

Have good posture, take up space, maintain eye contact, avoid nervous laughter, speak slowly and deliberately, and project your voice by speaking from your diaphragm rather than your sinuses. Avoid submissive or compacted postures. Don't yield when walking (i.e. if someone is walking in your path, don't be the one who moves). When you walk, take powerful steps: lead with your shoulders. Keep your head up while staying aware of your surroundings.
/r/seduction26/03/14 11:31 PM
1

The ease or difficulty of a task in no way affects its necessity. You don't really have a choice in the matter, so you might as well get used to soldiering through it. And really, you've gotten this far with a disability, so there's no reason whatsoever to assume you can't keep going.
/r/seduction26/03/14 06:38 PM
2

Honestly, they're only as big an issue as you make them. One of the guys I went to high school with is a short guy with palsy and he's been married for over ten years. Don't be insecure about it and it won't affect you that much.
/r/seduction26/03/14 06:17 PM
1

Watch the show Californication. David Duchovny does an excellent job of it throughout.
/r/seduction26/03/14 05:07 PM
2

Silence is fine. Use it as a cue to change topics, or playfully body check them, or play with their hair, or whatever. Just don't be awkward and you'll be fine.
/r/seduction26/03/14 04:58 PM
5

Banter. The topics of conversation don't matter so much as having a good back and forth. In general, all you need to do is pay attention to prompts and respond accordingly. Most of the time, you don't even need to do much talking; they'll be the ones chattering away. Let them, and then engage them on the things they say. Be interesting while you do that. If you can do so in a witty or charming way, even better. This is a good example of the kind of conversation you want to shoot for.
/r/seduction26/03/14 04:12 AM
1

Familiarity. Treat them like old friends who you're just catching up with. Basically, the easiest way to get past the awkward phase is to not have an awkward phase to begin with.
/r/seduction26/03/14 04:05 AM
0

I think they genuinely do. But I've found women, in general, have a higher capacity to de-sexualize relationships than men do. So the thought processes are a little different. Personally, I rarely bother with platonic relationships.
/r/seduction26/03/14 04:00 AM
1

If you can, just go on google images and type in hot girl or whatever, and tell me what exactly it is that you feel when you see these images. Try to be conscious, what do you think? "Yeah, I'd probably bang that." Then the standard thought that follows: "Is she the kind of person I'd hang out with after we had sex?" Do you get happy? Do you get nervous? Do you get horny? Do you get pissed? Do you get anything? Not really. I'm pretty neutral until she shows interest in some way (a look, a smile,…
/r/seduction26/03/14 03:52 AM
1

I love Madison. It's kind of like a miniature Portland or Austin: a college town full of hippies, ultra liberals, and scene kids/hipsters. In other words, it's like fishing with dynamite if you're reasonably educated and self-confident. I personally love the weather, but I was born and raised in and around Chicago, so the cold doesn't bother me in the slightest. Just wait until summer and you'll be sweating your balls off.
/r/seduction26/03/14 03:45 AM
1

"You seeing anyone?" Keep it simple. Don't needlessly dance around it.
/r/seduction26/03/14 03:35 AM
1

For every door that closes, a window opens.
/r/seduction22/03/14 07:30 AM
1

Sounds to me like someone was fucking around with you. The conversation seemed way too eager on her end, and the immediate run-around you got when you suggested meeting up was suspicious at best. What I honestly think happened was some kid thought it'd be fun to string someone along for some cheap laughs (or just to feel validated by someone for a while), and you just happened to draw the short straw. Sorry, bro. It happens sometimes.
/r/seduction22/03/14 07:26 AM
0

I dunno, man. I've been to the Philippines, Thailand, Singapore, China, and Japan, and I never had any issues getting people's contact information. The cultural norms may vary a little bit, but I don't think it's that different from out here. Have you given it a try?
/r/seduction22/03/14 06:55 AM
5

The best wingman will be the guy who runs interference for you, talks you up a little without making it seem like he's giving a sales pitch, and most importantly, knows when to get the fuck out of there. The worst wingmen are the ones who say they're going to help you out, but who end up absorbing the spotlight and lingering when they're not supposed to. When that happens, you need to be able to put them in their place and give them a friendly reminder of what their job is for the evening. Being…
/r/seduction22/03/14 06:50 AM
2

I'm not sure what traditional Reddit meetups are supposed to be like. By context, I'm assuming they're usually lame. All of the Reddit meetups I've had have either ended in me getting laid, or involved us getting shitfaced and having a blast at a club.
/r/seduction22/03/14 06:43 AM
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Okay, first off, chill. It's just a chick, man. It doesn't matter if she's your idea of a 9 or your idea of a 2. Women are women. The same rules apply across the board, and you have no reason whatsoever to get nervous. Second, try talking to them like you're old friends catching up rather than trying to fight through the awkward introductions phase. I always assume familiarity with people when I first meet them: joke around, bullshit for a bit, invite them to hang out somewhere. Remember the 3 C…
/r/seduction22/03/14 06:40 AM
3

I've hung out with a couple dudes I met on here in the Chicago area, but I'm fairly certain if any of them called us hanging out a "lair", I'd stop being their friend immediately and probably hit them with something.
/r/seduction22/03/14 06:33 AM
1

Think about it like this: there are some estimated 3.5-4 billion women in the world. A fair chunk of those are eligible for you to date (within a certain age, within a certain area, within a certain personality type). If even 99% of those women reject you, you'll still end up with more women available to you than most men end up with in a lifetime. So relax. Rejection isn't a big deal. People are allowed to have their preferences, and it usually has nothing to do with you specifically. You don't…
/r/seduction22/03/14 06:22 AM
5

Congratulations: you are literally every man ever. Even the best of us have gotten rejected more often than not. Don't sweat it. Most people don't start seeing their rejection percentages drop until they've been in the game for years, and even then, their rates of rejection will still probably be higher than their rates of success. Just keep at it. You'll get a bite eventually.
/r/seduction22/03/14 05:53 AM
7

Do exciting things. Pick up skills. Travel, read, and experience as much as you can. You're still young, so you've got plenty of time to do all that. Your best years are ahead of you, and you've got a lot of them yet.
/r/seduction22/03/14 05:47 AM
1

It's funny -- when you learn how to do it, you'll be surprised just how many times you end up needing it. I've had to break into houses, cars, strongboxes... it comes in handy. But you're absolutely right about the music and literature. You should be doing those as well.
/r/seduction22/03/14 05:22 AM
1

There are far too many possible answers to that question.
/r/seduction22/03/14 05:16 AM
1

Ah, I've had the latter happen to me before. Easy solution I found was to lean in towards the guy following you and whispering in his ear, "If you don't stop following me, I'm going to kick your teeth down your throat." Then give a big smile and go back to the girl. I doubt you're going to get a lot of guys who keep pestering you after that.
/r/seduction21/03/14 11:28 PM
3

It's like everything else in life: don't overcomplicate it. Give enough of a fuck to not be completely withdrawn and detached about her, but not so much of a fuck that you'll be affected by her actions.
/r/seduction21/03/14 10:30 PM
5

Don't use your build as an excuse for anything, son. If other short guys can do it without any problems, so can you. Get creative with it; if you can't put your hands on their shoulders, put your arms around their waists. Try bringing them down to sit on your lap rather than standing around with them. And make sure you're always taking up as much space as you can, as that'll give you more presence.
/r/seduction21/03/14 10:25 PM
5

Speech therapy. Keep at it and do not relent until it's reduced to a manageable level. I have a buddy who stuttered worse than Jimmy in South Park, but he eventually got through it with dedication.
/r/seduction21/03/14 05:53 AM
2

First of all, remember that it's a supplement, not a substitute. Treat it like a fishing net: throw it out there, check it periodically, but don't get super obsessed over it. It's a pure numbers game, so don't worry if people don't respond. I prefer to make my profiles vague, a little bit funny, and not too serious. You get way more casual responses that way than if you spent a ton of time filling out thoughtful answers. I also don't bother with lots of photos (I've got a picture of me looking l…
/r/seduction20/03/14 10:25 PM
1

It's only as weird as you make it, son. Don't make it into a big deal and it won't be.
/r/seduction20/03/14 10:11 PM
1

First of all, don't assume that because you're a shut-in with a hobby, you're somehow lower than this chick. Second, stop rating girls by number. It doesn't do anyone any favors. From now on, they should be broken up into two categories: interested and not interested. Third, make yourself stand out. Don't be the faceless chump in the sea of other faceless chumps. Be funny. Be interesting. Be useful. Be anything other than a boring, nondescript guy. That's the ticket to getting people to notice y…
/r/seduction20/03/14 09:15 AM
1

You just figure out a time that works for the both of you, and you learn to be flexible. Sometimes that takes a while. But if you're persistent, it'll happen eventually.
/r/seduction20/03/14 09:11 AM
1

Well, now you know why I was initially confused about whether it was satire or not. Which makes your followup post, "No, I'm not... That's the way I feel." all the more confusing. Was it satire or wasn't it? And that pickup lingo... I don't know what numbnuts first came up with it, but I absolutely cringe any time I see people use it without irony. "Sarge", "set", "HB", "state", "vibe"... Goddamn it, do pickup artists have some kind of aversion to talking like actual people or something?
/r/seduction20/03/14 08:47 AM
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Just the whole thing. It comes off as the diary of a douchebag. Instead of being a chill, laid back guy, the narrator in that report was constantly either putting down other guys, or elevating himself and his friends to absurd levels. "It became clear to all the babes that the men were here" -- you always hear shit like that from loudmouth tools who are all bluster and no substance. And those nicknames, man... Jesus... I'd kick my own ass if I was walking around with a nickname like that. For th…
/r/seduction20/03/14 08:30 AM
1

I gotta be honest, man: the abundance of douche lingo and friends who sound like they belong on the cast of Jersey Shore threw me. It was so over the top, there was no way to be sure.
/r/seduction20/03/14 08:20 AM
1

... Yeah, I can't tell if this is satire or not.
/r/seduction20/03/14 07:48 AM
1

Ask yourself: what are you doing to make people want to hang around you? Are you interesting? Are you particularly hilarious? Do you always make people happy when you're near? Are you insightful in any way? Helpful? Especially skilled? If all you're bringing to the table is physical fitness, nobody is going to want to take any time with you beyond that initial impression. You need to be a person of substance for them to give a shit about you. Remember: the world does not care who you are. It onl…
/r/seduction20/03/14 07:45 AM
1

Too many emoticons, man.
/r/seduction20/03/14 07:28 AM
2

I imagine it might with some. Some people see parenthood as too much of a responsibility to take on. They'll see it as having to constantly deal with an ex-girlfriend, or that they might have to become a surrogate mother. And that can put people off.
/r/seduction20/03/14 04:30 AM
1

Be honest about it, but don't make it into some huge deal. You're a dad. It's only as big a deal as you make it.
/r/seduction20/03/14 04:16 AM
8

Focus on having a good time rather than trying to get laid. If it happens, cool. If not, don't worry about it. And if nothing immediately presents itself, use the opportunity to make friends with a couple girls and hang out with them later. You can always escalate another day.
/r/seduction20/03/14 03:34 AM
1

How? You just nut up and ask. The consequences? She either says yes or no. Seriously, don't overthink this one, son.
/r/seduction20/03/14 01:54 AM
3

Don't ever overthink. Doesn't matter what you're overthinking; don't do it.
/r/seduction20/03/14 01:25 AM
1

I dunno, it's pretty much like hooking up anywhere else: you talk to a girl, hit it off, start getting physical, and if the situation presents itself, you find a place to sneak off to and fuck. There's no special rules for it.
/r/seduction20/03/14 12:49 AM
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Exposure therapy. Do it enough times and you'll realize that women aren't scary. The very worst thing they can do is not have sex with you, and you were there by default anyway. So really, what's there to be scared of?
/r/seduction20/03/14 12:30 AM
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I wouldn't advocate this, as her attitude is a very atypical reaction. A girl will forgive a lot if she likes you already, but as a general rule, laying your insecurities out like that is extremely unattractive. And I guarantee that if you're not doing anything to gradually eliminate those insecurities of yours, she's eventually going to get fucking sick of putting up with them.
/r/seduction19/03/14 11:45 PM
1

Definitely. Guys like it when girls make the first move. It's less we have to think about.
/r/seduction19/03/14 08:37 PM
8

Is it ever honestly a competition? You always hear stories about guys getting bird-dogged by some smooth dude, but that has literally never happened to me in over twenty years of dating. I've had people definitely try, but I can't honestly say I ever encountered a dude who was so unbelievably skilled that he just snatched the girl I was with out from under my nose.
/r/seduction19/03/14 05:58 AM
2

Simple: I think of the man that I want to be, and then I do the things that are necessary to be that guy.
/r/seduction19/03/14 05:43 AM
2

Flirting isn't a big deal. I flirt with everyone. It's when you start stepping over boundaries and acting on that flirting that things start to get inappropriate. If you want to keep her as a friend, just don't fuck her. Simple. You don't need to do anything special or "de-escalate" things.
/r/seduction19/03/14 05:41 AM
1

Not bad. I appreciate the lack of entitlement and the fact that you don't take other people's actions personally.
/r/seduction19/03/14 05:37 AM
1

Here's the rub, and it's become something of an inconvenient truth for guys like me who like to keep things casual: sex + time = demand for a relationship. Keep hooking up with them. Be great friends with them. Treat them right, fuck them proper, and give them all the perks of a boyfriend without the actual title. Sooner or later, they will want to define things, and it will never once be "I want to keep being friends with benefits" -- it'll always be "I want something more". Which, if you're lo…
/r/seduction19/03/14 05:30 AM
1

You're not, don't worry. This shit takes time; it's not something you pick up in a weekend seminar, contrary to what "professional" PUAs will tell you. In all my years of dating, the ones where I was still figuring shit out were the worst. And there were times when I honestly thought I was getting worse with every failure. But that's just not how heuristics work. You learn every time you fail -- even when it seems like you're steadily digging yourself deeper, you're recording every single failur…
/r/seduction19/03/14 05:20 AM
2

Don't. People see right through that anyway. Instead, work on building actual confidence so you don't have to fake it. And confidence isn't all that complicated or difficult to acquire; it's really just skill mastery. Do something enough times and it becomes second nature. Approach enough women and it stops being scary. Talk to enough people and you stop stumbling on your words. Tell enough jokes and they start getting funny. The only thing you need is the balls to force yourself into uncomforta…
/r/seduction19/03/14 05:10 AM
1

Some people get some pretty good mileage out of it. Personally, I find it slightly less useful than OKCupid, with a lot of bots to sift through.
/r/seduction18/03/14 11:55 PM
1

TL;DR -- always end on a high note. Showmanship 101.
/r/seduction18/03/14 11:30 PM
4

Best advice I can give you: shut up and listen. Understand that nobody cares about your opinions when you're that young, because you're still forming them and they're not going to be based on anything substantial. So be brief, be polite, and let them do most of the talking. Don't be afraid to assert yourself, but understand that older people are going to have a lot more experience most of the time.
/r/seduction18/03/14 11:23 PM
0

Top responses, all done with a cocky grin: "Sure, why not?" "That's a bit familiar, isn't it?" "Virgin, huh? I didn't think you were into that." "For fifty bucks, I'll be whatever you want."
/r/seduction18/03/14 11:17 PM
1

My mantra? "Cowboy the fuck up."
/r/seduction18/03/14 10:56 PM
9

Tinder's kinda like any of those online dating sites: you'll have your best luck just treating it like a fishing net. Throw it out there and leave it alone. Check it periodically, but don't fixate on it too much, and don't use it as a substitute for meeting people through regular channels.
/r/seduction18/03/14 10:41 PM
1

There's no real trick to it. Just treat them like any of your other friends. All it requires is a decent measure of self-confidence and the balls to do it in the first place. It's just like getting back stage at a concert or walking around in restricted areas: if you act like you belong there, people usually won't question it. I'll typically just sit down next to them and jump right into a conversation. Half the time, I don't even introduce myself unless they ask or they do it first.
/r/seduction18/03/14 10:34 PM
1

Getting into one of those situations is easy. Assuming she's into you, you just treat her like a friend and then add sex to the mix. You hang out, get physical, and leave afterwards. It'll be great for a while, but sooner or later you'll run into the same problem every guy who isn't looking for commitment runs into: she'll eventually want more. It's pretty much inevitable. Usually, I can get about six months tops out of a friends with benefits situation before they start dropping the "I want a r…
/r/seduction18/03/14 10:26 PM
1

Usually, I treat strangers like they're old friends and we're just catching up. It puts people at ease and removes a lot of the awkwardness of breaking the ice. You can make friends really easily in a very short amount of time this way.
/r/seduction18/03/14 09:51 PM
1

I've got a lot of life experience. I'm well-traveled, having been on four continents. I've gone to college and gotten degrees in both art and science. I've delivered babies and comforted people in their last moments on earth. I've known the deepest love and the most profound hatred; seen art and science at their apexes and marveled at the majesty of creation's most fantastic sights. I've performed relief work in war zones and I've even been shot. So when I say this, I want you to know exactly wh…
/r/seduction18/03/14 09:48 PM
4

As a rule, I don't believe in paying for what you should be out doing yourself. Boot camps are a huge racket that exploit the desperate and naive.
/r/seduction18/03/14 07:42 PM
2

Personally, I'd just own it. I'd tell her I'm sorry if she got the wrong idea, but that I had no intention of being committed to anyone. You didn't do anything wrong, but it generally helps to be up front with people beforehand so they at least know what they're getting into.
/r/seduction18/03/14 07:33 PM
3

It means toughen up, stop letting things get to you, be a leader, and don't be afraid to take chances. Like a cowboy.
/r/seduction18/03/14 07:20 PM
2

If you slip a girl tongue and she immediately puts the brakes on, you can pretty much guarantee that your kissing is sub-par. And it follows that bad kissing = bad sex. A good rule of thumb to follow: unless she slips you tongue first, or you're in the middle of some really intense sex/making out, avoid using tongue. I can't begin to tell you how many girls I've been with who complained about guys getting too eager with the French kissing.
/r/seduction18/03/14 07:13 PM
5

To summarize my past relationship experiences with women, they have been manipulative, passive aggressive (hard to understand clearly), and difficult to manage (as far as both getting what they want). Initially, I can’t help but feel that when a women becomes aware of a man who desires them, but doesn't dire him, they take advantage of that desperate man to advance their hidden agenda. Whether it’s someone to entertain them, aid in their college or career advances, or wants to befriend me as a m…
/r/seduction18/03/14 07:07 PM
2

I'd say you can. I think the trick is to make sure you're not giving too much of a fuck about it. There's nothing wrong with taking care of yourself and making sure you look/smell good, but if you're spending an hour in the bathroom styling your hair and moisturizing like a chick, you're probably overdoing it. A guy who primps and pampers himself more than a woman is kind of a joke.
/r/seduction18/03/14 06:43 PM
7

Dude... No. Take it from a guy who's been in a lot of fights and spent more than one night in lockup because of it: don't start shit. Self-defense is fine, but hitting someone because they're obnoxious? Absolutely unacceptable.
/r/seduction18/03/14 04:13 PM
1

Keep it simple. A well-placed "You live alone?" earlier in the evening usually does the trick. After that, all you usually have to do is escalate and get her to the point where she wants to have sex with you.
/r/seduction18/03/14 04:50 AM
5

I'd imagine it's similar to being homeless: you just need to go to her place. It's not that tricky, and you can leave any time you like rather than having to kick her out.
/r/seduction18/03/14 04:48 AM
1

Personally, no. I try to keep them in the friend zone for as long as possible. Because it's only a matter of time before they're going to want something more than friendship and sex: they'll want a solid commitment. I'd rather not have that conversation a moment sooner than I have to.
/r/seduction18/03/14 04:12 AM
1

Hang out. The word date can throw all kinds of unnecessary stress on the situation. Besides, you can make it a date by your actions, so there's no need to preemptively make it complicated.
/r/seduction18/03/14 03:58 AM
3

Sounds like there was some bad kissing going on and she didn't want to deal with any of that nonsense.
/r/seduction18/03/14 03:42 AM
1

I think this post belongs in /r/sex. But how you doin'?
/r/seduction18/03/14 03:39 AM
2

Good on you for not paying for it. I'm not really the biggest fan of RSD. They overcomplicate a lot of stuff, advocate some pretty sketchy tactics, and then charge people inordinate amounts of money. A couple things they do get right on the nose, but those are the general-purpose concepts that every pickup artist subscribes to (outcome independence, abundance mentality, yadda yadda yadda).
/r/seduction18/03/14 03:13 AM
1

Hey, if telemarketers can do it... But seriously, I'm with you. I can't fathom how people get so fixated on these scripts, routines, and algorithms. My brain just does not work like that.
/r/seduction18/03/14 02:29 AM
2

Absolutely. My whole philosophy hinges on keeping shit simple and avoiding making things needlessly complicated. You can deconstruct the nuances interpersonal communication and seduction all day long, but beyond a purely academic interest, there's no need to bother. Confidence and a sense of humor will take you where you want to go.
/r/seduction18/03/14 02:10 AM
1

You're gonna have to elaborate on this one. You mean just being "on" and energetic? I dunno, I guess I just have to be in a good mood? There's no real trick to it.
/r/seduction18/03/14 12:17 AM
0

... Do you seriously approach random people in a noisy bar and ask for their number without talking to them first? Shit, man, if that's your approach, of course you're going to fail. No phone app in the world is gonna be a solution to that. As for the app, I dunno. Shit like this seems about on par with those creepy dudes who hand little notes to girls with "Do you like me?" written on them. It's too passive for my tastes.
/r/seduction18/03/14 12:01 AM
10

The dude and his bros are fucking tools who use mind games to get laid, and then sell their gimmicks to chumps.
/r/seduction17/03/14 11:56 PM
2

Yourbrainonporn was thoroughly debunked. One of the other reasons I'm annoyed by NoFap's culture of broscience and propaganda: they ignore basic rigor.
/r/seduction17/03/14 11:52 PM
1

Eh. Seems like too much effort. A simple, "Here, spell your name for me." or "Gimme your number real quick." works great.
/r/seduction17/03/14 11:48 PM
7

First of all, stop being concerned with "what's more alpha" -- that's decidedly the most un-alpha thing ever. Second, relax. Go with the flow. You don't have to think of crazy, elaborate ways to demonstrate how much of a badass you are for perfectly dealing with snarky people. Just be cool. I usually respond by either owning it and laughing it off, or with an exaggerated "you wound me" type of expression, followed by laughing it off. After a while, they pretty much stop trying to get under your …
/r/seduction17/03/14 11:47 PM
1

I'm gonna strongly disagree with you on the pornography; it keeps my libido somewhat in check, and I still go out and talk to all kinds of women without any issues whatsoever. Hell, if it weren't for porn, I'd probably be out nailing everything with a pulse. And that's just not healthy for anyone -- least of all me.
/r/seduction17/03/14 11:35 PM
1

Nah, man. You don't need to bullshit people to get them to curb a behavior. You can give them the facts without the song and dance: jerk off too much and you'll see a decrease in performance. Jerk off too little and you'll see a decrease in performance as well as an elevated risk for certain serious medical conditions. Take a week off here and there, but don't go crazy with it. And it's not an addiction. At best, it's a compulsive behavior. They're not the same thing.
/r/seduction17/03/14 11:31 PM
1

Well, you already know what you're doing wrong, so the only thing left is to cowboy the fuck up and force yourself to do the opposite. And if you think you can't, that's bullshit. Even something as simple as learning how to ride a bike takes a measure of forcing yourself through your fear. If you ever learned how to ride a bike, you can sack up and force yourself to act like a man.
/r/seduction17/03/14 11:21 PM
2

Good for maybe a week, but after that it's pretty pointless. Masturbation has so many health benefits, it's ridiculous to abstain permanently. The NoFap subreddit is profoundly messed up too; the creepy, cultish, anti-masturbaton propaganda they spread is really unsettling at times.
/r/seduction17/03/14 11:17 PM
3

Think about it this way: at the end of the day, does anything anyone says truly change who you are on the inside? Are you any less you when someone insults you, or teases you, or tries to knock you down a peg? Being insulted is a choice. If you know yourself, and you know your quality, other people's insults are just words. They only affect you insofar as you let them.
/r/seduction17/03/14 11:14 PM
6

A lot of times too is that guys will use hot girls as a means of achieving some kind of visual proof of social status, even if they're doing it unconsciously as a means of competing with their peers. That might well be contributing to this issue you're having.
/r/seduction17/03/14 11:02 PM
3

That's really the trick: unlearning this idea that hotness at all affects value or difficulty. Shit, get enough hot chicks under your belt and practical experience alone will shoot that theory apart. You're probably just stuck on it because you're relatively green at this. Give it some time. It will get better, I promise.
/r/seduction17/03/14 10:57 PM
10

Nope. I think you're just contented and don't feel the need to spread your attention thinner. That's totally fine. When you feel the need to plow other fields, you will.
/r/seduction17/03/14 10:42 PM
5

I think he was referring to RSD's tendency to employ overthinking manic-depressives with a hard-on for Eckhart Tolle and mind games.
/r/seduction17/03/14 10:39 PM
9

That one's pretty simple. I usually take the enigmatic approach: keep the answers about yourself brief, vague, and open-ended. Allude to your past instead of talking about it directly. Obviously don't lie, but you don't have to lay everything on the table either. Feed them bits and pieces of information in an intriguing way that makes them want to find out more. Think Don Draper from Mad Men. Perfect example.
/r/seduction17/03/14 10:35 PM
4

Roller coaster of emotions? Dude, relax. You don't need to explode their heads with a deluge of emotional overload to get them to like you. Just don't be boring. And sometimes, you can do everything right and a girl will still opt out of dating you. That's totally fine. There are others out there.
/r/seduction17/03/14 10:11 PM
5

For me, it was the knowledge that the same rules apply across the board on the looks spectrum specifically because hotness is subjective. I could realistically go into a strip club or modeling agency and have my pick of the hottest girls there if I really wanted. Once I got that into my head, I started having a disconnect between attractiveness and whether the girl was going to be enjoyable to spend time with. Looks don't really matter that much when you know there's nothing particularly special…
/r/seduction17/03/14 10:04 PM
1

Best advice I can give you is to stop pouring over theory and start field testing. Trial and error is by far the best way to get good at it. Pay attention to peoples' reactions as you talk to them. For ease of use, treat laughter like a Geiger counter for effective conversation: the more they laugh, the better you're doing.
/r/seduction17/03/14 09:41 PM
2

Just wait. Sometimes, it can take upwards of a few days to get a reply. You can do other things and see other people in the meantime, so don't sweat it.
/r/seduction17/03/14 09:30 PM
4

The way I look at it, other guys aren't your responsibility. She made a conscious choice to be with you in that moment. The onus lies with her. But really, aside from that, fidelity is kind of a joke anyway. People cheat. People have sex with who they want to have sex with. It's human nature. We've got a very puritan world view about sex and monogamy, and we throw ourselves into these big drama fests needlessly over a social paradigm that's rooted entirely in insecurity. Like, if I am seeing a g…
/r/seduction17/03/14 09:29 PM
1

Tricky, but fortunately I have some experience in this department. As a man, your job is to lead. But more importantly, it's to care for the people who follow you. It takes a certain measure of trust for someone to hand over that kind of control, and it absolutely needs to be granted willingly. Victims of rape have had that control forcibly taken from them, so they're not in a quick position to give it away. Your job as a man is to be who you are, and offer that stability, protection, and care t…
/r/seduction16/03/14 06:26 AM
1

I dunno. Every couple of days or so?
/r/seduction16/03/14 05:47 AM
4

Not really. It's all about presence. With the right body language and air of confidence, you can say all of three words and still convey that you're the one in charge and nobody else has a say in what you do or how you feel. There'll always be some obnoxious person who's so desperate for attention that they'll talk over everyone else, but it's a simple enough matter to put them in their place.
/r/seduction16/03/14 05:15 AM
1

Ask her out. Make a move. If she reciprocates, you'll know she likes you. If she doesn't, move the fuck on. Keep it simple. Don't needlessly complicate things. Be ballsy. Have fun.
/r/seduction16/03/14 05:04 AM
17

Understand that other people have nothing to do with you; you can't affect them any more than they can affect you. Your only concern is this: are you living up to your own ideal version of yourself? Picture your best version of yourself: the ideal package of traits, skills, and looks that you want to have. How close are you to that ideal? If you can compare the two and see almost no difference, then you'll stop having these self-esteem issues. But if you're not there yet, then that is what you n…
/r/seduction16/03/14 05:01 AM
1

Couldn't have said it better myself.
/r/seduction15/03/14 11:00 PM
1

Send it whenever. There's no set rule for it as long as you're not spamming her with forty texts in a row in a single day.
/r/seduction15/03/14 10:59 PM
2

I mean, if you're trying to give her a head contusion, then yeah...
/r/seduction15/03/14 10:03 PM
2

You just kinda push your weight against hers, usually with one hand around her waist and the other bracing her head. Her body will respond accordingly.
/r/seduction15/03/14 09:04 PM
2

Easy fix: run your fingers through the back of her hair right before you do it. That way, your hand cushions the impact.
/r/seduction15/03/14 08:06 PM
3

Nah, man. The only way you get better is by stepping out of your comfort zone and forcing yourself to deal with situations you're uneasy with. It's the only way to ensure that you'll be confident in every situation. Otherwise, you'll just be some chump who can't hack in less than ideal conditions.
/r/seduction15/03/14 08:02 PM
5

Uh... No, man. Just relax. If you're that worried about what other people think of you, you've got a long way to go. Being obsessed with social status is powerfully uncool.
/r/seduction15/03/14 07:54 PM
0

At least she was direct about it. Personally, I'd have said, "Yeah... I'm not interested in that. At all. I've got enough platonic friendships."
/r/seduction15/03/14 06:49 PM
2

You should definitely read the book Please Understand Me. It details the sixteen different personality types and their individual thought processes. Some are rational, others are emotional. Gender has little to do with it.
/r/seduction15/03/14 05:32 PM
1

Son, rubberbanding people like that is emotional abuse. It's in the same category as making people qualify their self-worth, or guilt-tripping people into taking a course of action, or any of the other countless manipulative actions that a sociopathic person would do with impunity. It demonstrates a complete lack of empathy, as it treats peoples' emotions like a series of levers that are good for little more than tweaking to suit your purposes. Giving advice on it is about as useful to ordinary,…
/r/seduction15/03/14 09:07 AM
3

Conventional logic suggests that's a sugar-coated way of saying they're not interested. But you can't really know for sure, because it doesn't really seem like you pressed the issue very much. They answered your question by repeating themselves.
/r/seduction15/03/14 08:25 AM
3

You ever consider asking them?
/r/seduction15/03/14 07:37 AM
2

Sounds like you're overthinking it. Just take her out and escalate. If she rejects you, you'll know she's not into you. If she doesn't, awesome.
/r/seduction15/03/14 07:36 AM
3

I'm assuming he's being a bit more outgoing and approachable while conveying a sense of being comfortable in his own skin. Meanwhile, you get insecure over other peoples' success. That kind of shit projects without you realizing it.
/r/seduction15/03/14 07:34 AM
1

I keep wanting to say, "Use the force, Luke." Your first instinct is what I would personally go with. When in doubt, keep it simple and use as few qualifiers as possible.
/r/seduction15/03/14 07:23 AM
2

Holier than thou? Really, dude? You think pointing me out the inherent stupidity of losing your shit over someone's crazy reaction is taking a moralistic stance? If you're giving shitty advice, don't expect people to start kissing your ass for it. First you told people to jerk their girlfriends around with bullshit mind games, and now you're telling people to fly off the handle in situations where any sane person would just walk away. Do you seriously think people aren't going to call you out on…
/r/seduction15/03/14 07:17 AM
1

The good news is you've got everything else pretty neatly squared away, judging by your analysis of the situations and understanding of what you should have done. So all you've got left is to put it into action. That puts you way ahead of the game. Give it enough practice and this shit will be second nature to you. You won't even have to think about it; you'll just do it automatically.
/r/seduction15/03/14 07:02 AM
1

Best advice I can give you is to not overthink it, and just be cool. You're very afraid of people not approving of what you're doing, and that's going to become a self-fulfilling prophecy if you keep fixating on it. Keep your interactions simple, lighthearted, and fun. Assume she's into you until proven otherwise. And above all else, don't be afraid to be dominant. Fortune favors the bold.
/r/seduction15/03/14 06:56 AM
2

Like I said, I think your instincts were correct on this one. It was just a problem with execution. You've already got this, son. You really don't need me or anyone giving you a point by point analysis of something you've already intrinsically figured out. All you need to actually do is follow through with what your gut has already told you. You know how things work. You know the methods. You know yourself. Now it's just time to put it into action. Bravery is the only thing missing from this equ…
/r/seduction15/03/14 06:41 AM
3

Think about it like this: remember the first time you rode your bike? Remember how scared you were? Remember when you actually did it, it wasn't nearly as big a deal as it was in your head? Everything in life is like that. So when you get apprehensive, or feel the urge to pussy out, just remember: it's not nearly as bad as it is in your head. Now cowboy the fuck up, grab life by the tits, and throw her out a window.
/r/seduction15/03/14 06:38 AM
2

Seems to me like you already know what you should've done. Your instincts were right on this one, but your force of will to follow them wasn't strong enough. You'll get there, don't worry. But you gotta really force yourself. You can't lose yourself in your own head worrying too much about consequences. You're a smart guy, you know what's too far and what isn't. You know the difference between grabbing a girl's hand and saying, "Wait!" and grabbing her by the wrist and acting like a rapist. Ulti…
/r/seduction15/03/14 06:34 AM
4

All right, easiest way I can describe it is like this: picture an ideal man. He's smart, well put together, witty, confident, charming, knowledgeable, and handy. He can tackle any situation with ease and doesn't give too much of a fuck about anything. He's physically and emotionally strong, and he doesn't have any issues with talking to people because he knows he'll be well-liked as soon as he starts talking. Got the picture in your head? Good. Now be that guy. Sounds overly simple, doesn't it? …
/r/seduction15/03/14 06:29 AM
5

You seriously get a lot of interactions with people who are that hostile? These posts you're making lately are starting to go off the deep end a little bit, man. The last one was borderline sociopathic, and this one is turning a frankly ridiculous interaction into an outright shit show of needless drama. I mean, Jesus Christ -- does a person being psychotically bitchy really warrant you flipping your shit and launching into a tirade of insults? Do you seriously advocate giving that much of a fuc…
/r/seduction15/03/14 06:22 AM
1

Seems I'm not the one with the difficulty picking up sarcasm.
/r/seduction15/03/14 06:15 AM
5

Uh... yeah, man. Is that a serious question? What specific input are you looking for?
/r/seduction15/03/14 06:15 AM
1

Oh, it was definitely expressed. And I responded in kind.
/r/seduction15/03/14 06:10 AM
6

Get comfortable with it. You're only going to succeed if you sack up and force yourself through being uncomfortable. Nothing is ever an excuse for anything. If you want to get shit done, fucking take the reigns and do it yourself.
/r/seduction15/03/14 05:59 AM
1

Or, and this might just be a crazy idea, people can learn to fix their shitty personalities so they don't need mail-order brides. Come on now, kid. For being a bisexual girl who's done it all, you're possessed of some significant naiveté.
/r/seduction15/03/14 05:56 AM
1

Organically. Most conversations eventually take a turn towards sex anyway, so just segue into it naturally and let it take off from there.
/r/seduction15/03/14 05:51 AM
1

That's great and all, but bear in mind that a lot of peoples' self is in a current state of sucking profoundly, so being themselves is actually a hindrance until they get to the point where they're no longer ineffectual shitheels.
/r/seduction15/03/14 05:45 AM
1

And that's what happens when your game hinges on a single gimmick. Don't worry, though. You'll do better next time. Keep trying, and remember to treat every girl the same regardless of how hot you think she is.
/r/seduction15/03/14 05:11 AM
1

Seriously, man? You don't see anything wrong with intentionally dumping someone and yo-yo-ing them back just to press their buttons and elicit an emotional response -- something you could do with literally countless other actions? You've opted to do the most drama-riddled, painful, shitty thing possible to a person in the hope that it'll make them desperate enough to crawl back to you. How do you not understand what an absolute bullshit thing that is to do to a person? It's fucking mind-boggling…
/r/seduction15/03/14 01:20 AM
1

Exactly.
/r/seduction15/03/14 12:24 AM
1

Are there really multiple ways to make eye contact? I just look at them and smile, typically.
/r/seduction15/03/14 12:18 AM
1

I lost my virginity when I was 14, and I'm nearly 36. So about 22 years. It's not really that crazy when you protract it out over that long a period of time.
/r/seduction15/03/14 12:15 AM
1

It gets easier the more you do it. Being witty comes with experience -- kinda like muscle memory. After a while, it's just your default way of speaking.
/r/seduction15/03/14 12:03 AM
1

The same could really be said of the guy whose idea of a 10 is something else entirely to other people. So in order to make himself feel better, he resorts to trying to undercut other peoples' taste by saying things like, "Yeah, you obviously can't do better than a 7." I mean, really, we could play this speculative psychology game all day. But what it really comes down to is subjective opinion.
/r/seduction14/03/14 11:46 PM
7

Laugh it off and say, "...Best three out of five?" or "That looked a lot cooler in my head." Then go in for a kiss anyway.
/r/seduction14/03/14 11:17 PM
1

Nah, that's pretty much the same thing I do: I'm either interested, or I'm not.
/r/seduction14/03/14 11:07 PM
2

Yeah, that's complete bullshit. You know what you need to do in order to keep a girl interested? Actually be interesting. That's it. You don't need to drag her along on some emotional roller coaster like a manipulative dickbag. It's shit like this that makes me wonder why anyone even listens to those idiots over at RSD. You'd think with all the usage of NLP and Eckhart Tolle, people would have gotten the message that they're selling a giant pile of horse shit.
/r/seduction14/03/14 10:58 PM
3

Your other posts were pretty good. A little basic, mostly common sense stuff. Nothing to really write home about, but they were at least grounded somewhat in reality. But this? This one's completely asinine. That on-again, off-again bullshit is just inviting needless drama into the situation and being an emotionally manipulative shitheel. It's fucking nonsense like this that makes everyone look at the pickup community like a bunch of sociopathic narcissists. The fuck, man?
/r/seduction14/03/14 10:46 PM
2

By having an open relationship. Our only rule is that both of us have to be protected whenever we hook up with someone else, and we get regular screenings just to be safe. It's nice, though: she likes to pick out girls specifically for threesomes, or to watch me fuck them while she works the video camera. She's really the best wingman I've ever had.
/r/seduction14/03/14 10:42 PM
2

A little over 400. I'm just honest about it. The usual reaction is one of surprise, and occasionally they feel overwhelmed or inadequate. But then I just make light of it and remind them that it's not a contest, and I'm not keeping score on who's the best.
/r/seduction14/03/14 09:48 PM
2

Bleh. Children. No thank you. But yeah, I agree if that's what your end game is.
/r/seduction14/03/14 09:32 PM
0

Sure you can. Just be interesting. I know it sounds like an overly simplified answer, but really, that's all there is to it. You gotta visualize all the traits that equate to being a fun, confident, amusing, attractive guy, and then just be it. Emulate those behaviors until they become automatic and override your default behaviors of being boring and ordinary.
/r/seduction14/03/14 09:31 PM
3

Well, there's the problem. You're just another faceless chump in a sea of faceless chumps. If you want to stand out, then you need to be funny. Be interesting. Be something different from all the other chumps just like you.
/r/seduction14/03/14 09:16 PM
1

Well, there you go. Now just ask her to hang out some time. Don't overcomplicate it.
/r/seduction14/03/14 09:11 PM
1

Call it and find out. Worst case scenario, everyone gets a big laugh over it and you know for sure.
/r/seduction14/03/14 09:04 PM
1

What are you doing to set yourself apart from the countless other guys on campus?
/r/seduction14/03/14 08:59 PM
2

And birds go tweet.
/r/seduction14/03/14 08:45 PM
2

I never even use it. Too many bots. I prefer OKCupid.
/r/seduction14/03/14 08:26 PM
4

I'm assuming you're talking about the United States. And nah, man. I've been all around the South and I haven't seen anything to indicate that they dislike confidence below the Mason-Dixon line.
/r/seduction14/03/14 07:58 PM
3

Not unless she had some massive latex allergy I wasn't aware of. At the time I thought it'd be a little silly to be performing a medical exam with a rubber dangling off my half-flaccid dong. ... Though in retrospect, it's no more silly than performing a medical exam while naked...
/r/seduction14/03/14 07:40 PM
49

And here I am, nodding in approval. Well done, young man.
/r/seduction14/03/14 07:13 PM
1

If she's genuinely a busy person, just be persistent. Keep asking her out until you actually go out, or you get a solid rejection. In the meantime, see other people. There's no sense in holding out for one girl when you're still unsure about her.
/r/seduction14/03/14 07:06 PM
3

Ah, you're a fellow pirate astronaut? Very nice.
/r/seduction14/03/14 06:57 PM
14

Not to mention, it's pretty creepy and dehumanizing. It's one of the major gripes I have with PUA culture.
/r/seduction14/03/14 06:42 PM
9

I look at it like this: a person should never be satisfied with the amount of knowledge they have; you should never stop learning. You shouldn't be satisfied with the amount of traveling you've done, or the books you've read, or the movies you've seen, or the songs you've listened to; you should always want to keep accumulating experiences. So why should I be satisfied by the idea of being with just one woman for the rest of my life? Why is monogamy somehow this great idea that isn't open to cri…
/r/seduction14/03/14 06:12 PM
1

It's not super common, but yeah. It happens when I go out with friends more than anything. The girls who are apt to approach on their own usually gravitate towards the apparent leader of the group.
/r/seduction14/03/14 05:03 PM
1

I've not noticed a marked difference between alpha females and regular chicks -- the same general principles apply. As for turning people against each other, don't. Don't even try. That has so much potential to blow up in your face, it's not even worth it. They'll have their little spats all on their own without you needing to get involved and potentially fuck yourself later.
/r/seduction14/03/14 03:54 PM
1

... Wait, who said anything about doing things for virtuous reasons? All I said was the guy was petty and clearly not all that experienced. The entire blog reads like a jaded 23-year-old who posts on TRP. In fact, this would be a great article to post to /r/theredpill.
/r/seduction14/03/14 03:47 PM
1

Anyone who does "cookbook" pickup for more than a couple weeks will quickly find that it's a poor substitute for just manning up and doing shit on your own like a grownup. You can learn all the canned lines and bullshit techniques in the world, but they amount to a whole lot of nothing when stacked up against real world experience. Don't believe me? Test it. Go out and actually do the Mystery Method for a while. See how well those techniques work now that everyone can spot them from a mile away.…
/r/seduction14/03/14 07:51 AM
11

Usually I find one or two things to contest in long lists like this, but going through it I can't find a single thing I disagree with. Nicely done.
/r/seduction14/03/14 07:36 AM
3

The plants thing I actually agree with, since I noticed a marked difference in air quality once I filled my house with plants. Supplements I'm kind of on the fence on; there's a lot of data that shows supplements having little effect on overall health. The vision board seems cheesy and unnecessary, but I'm sure it helps some people. Same with the meditation space and the foam roller. Otherwise, it's a pretty solid list.
/r/seduction14/03/14 07:32 AM
1

I just try my luck. If she reciprocates, I know she's into me. If not, then I clearly misread something.
/r/seduction14/03/14 07:27 AM
0

That article seems to be a lot of blanket statements from someone with a fairly limited amount of life experience. Truth is, I've known plenty of women who were not at all afraid to say exactly what was wrong with the guy they were breaking up with. And while I do agree with the general precept of "nobody needs to know anything ever" when it comes to showing emotions in a breakup, the reasoning behind it in this guy's blog post is petty, and more than a little juvenile.
/r/seduction14/03/14 07:25 AM
1

You're speaking my language, son. Took the words right out of my mouth.
/r/seduction14/03/14 07:18 AM
2

Women, by and large, communicate through shared experience. Men, conversely, try to one-up each other. Examples of this can be seen in children on the playground: BOYS: "Check out this scar on my leg." "That's nothing! Check out this scar!" GIRLS: "Check out this scar on my leg." "I've got one too! We're like twins!" What does this mean for you? Essentially, if you want to communicate with them better and subsequently get them in your corner, you need to relate to them. Listen to them. Empathize…
/r/seduction14/03/14 07:17 AM
3

Take a breath, chill the fuck out, get your head out of the game for a minute, and let your body do the work. If it's happening while you're in bed with someone, I recommend just chilling with her naked for a while until you're relaxed enough to continue. Sometimes, you just need to settle your nerves before you can get down to the fun stuff.
/r/seduction14/03/14 07:12 AM
1

I've kept a journal for years. Sometimes, it's interesting to go back and look at just how much the years change a person -- and how many things stay the same. There's an old, weathered notebook I used when I was homeless, and sometimes I'll read excerpts just to remind myself how far I've come.
/r/seduction14/03/14 07:10 AM
4

I don't know what the rest of these guys are talking about. I use them a lot, and pretty much only with girls. I have a very expressive face in person, so the emoticons help convey that missing bit of communication with text messages.
/r/seduction14/03/14 07:04 AM
1

I'm sure I've had to do just as many approaches as my unattractive friends, but I guarantee I've had more women approach me than all of them put together. Being good-looking definitely has its benefits.
/r/seduction14/03/14 07:02 AM
1

To be honest, it never really bothered me. But I don't have anxiety issues. People can stare all they want and it doesn't affect me one iota. Something that might help you would be to acknowledge that the world exists outside of you, and that peoples' actions can only affect you insofar as you let them. So what if a person looks at me? Am I diminished as a person when someone does this? Am I somehow less able to accomplish basic tasks when they're viewed by other people? There is literally no di…
/r/seduction14/03/14 07:00 AM
1

Either continue the topic or use it to segue into a new one.
/r/seduction14/03/14 06:33 AM
2

Innuendoes, more physical contact, the occasional backhanded compliment... You know, flirtation.
/r/seduction13/03/14 11:53 PM
2

I do, yes. Joking around and busting someone's chops is universal. The only difference is you add an edge of flirtation with girls.
/r/seduction13/03/14 09:12 PM
2

With a smile, a laugh, and a tone that conveys affection -- the kind you see buddies do.
/r/seduction13/03/14 08:16 PM
2

Learn. That's all there is to it. It's a fundamental part of human communication and one of the principle means of bonding. You need to reframe your mindset and understand that teasing isn't the same thing as insulting; it's not mean, it's merely jesting.
/r/seduction13/03/14 07:50 PM
2

Gesture with them. Be animated when you speak. And every once in a while, touch her arm or shoulder.
/r/seduction13/03/14 07:44 PM
1

If I remember correctly, Annie Cruz has a podcast episode where she talks in detail about the guy from RSD who picked her up... Or maybe it wasn't RSD... I can't recall.
/r/seduction13/03/14 07:31 PM
4

Just feel it out. I'm one of those guys who fall into that category, and I can tell you that there's no set rule for it. Everyone is different.
/r/seduction13/03/14 07:28 PM
2

A lot of the skills are definitely cross-applicable. Then again, you run the risk of coming off as a fucking salesman. And nobody likes that.
/r/seduction13/03/14 05:32 PM
1

Try telling them like a long joke with a punchline. Even if you've lived an incredibly sheltered, boring life, you can still tell anecdotes about other people (it's obviously not going to be as ideal as your own stories, but if they're funny enough, it won't matter).
/r/seduction13/03/14 05:30 PM
10

Wow. You respond to a very basic "not yet" with being whiny and pouting about not getting instant gratification. No wonder you're not closing. Most of these girls you could've kept pressing with the foreplay and gotten them to the point where they were practically begging for it. And then there's the fact that many women have arbitrary little timetables in their heads about when to put out, and that's usually not on the first night. You could've easily seen them again a date or two later and got…
/r/seduction13/03/14 05:25 PM
1

Okay, I hardly ever recommend this, but try taking a break. Like, take a week off or something. For dudes like you with low libidos, regular masturbation can actually make your drive tapped out. Don't go to that NoFap cult, though. Those people are fucking nutjobs who recommend just stopping masturbation altogether -- forever. That's just stupid.
/r/seduction13/03/14 05:14 PM
1

Sure, buddy.
/r/seduction13/03/14 04:49 PM
1

I'm gonna go out on a limb here, but I'm fairly certain that place contains no alpha males. There's gamma males aplenty, though: angry, entitled, confused men looking for someone or something to blame. There's an abundance of people playing the victim card, but very few people holding up the mirror to themselves and placing the blame for their troubles where it belongs.
/r/seduction13/03/14 06:51 AM
2

Back in the day, I usually just went to her place since I didn't actually have a place of my own most of the time. There wasn't any real trick to it; we just went there and had sex. A simple "Do you live alone?" early in the evening got the message across just fine. There was no need to overthink things. For your situation, I'd just set up the date relatively close to her. Logistically, it'll just make more sense to go to her place. That way, you can bail when you want out rather than having to …
/r/seduction13/03/14 06:44 AM
2

I think you've done a very good job hiding behind your rational mind to justify not taking chances. The thing your ego fails to understand, however, is that you lose nothing by taking those chances. The very worst thing a woman can do is not have sex with you, and you were there by default anyway. So really, there is no actual risk. Doing nothing is not a better alternative to taking action. Your mind may fool itself into thinking it's safer, but when there is no actual risk involved, that safet…
/r/seduction13/03/14 06:35 AM
1

By only seeking approval from yourself. If you can wake up in the morning and honestly say to yourself, "I am the man I want to be", then the approval of others won't mean anything to you.
/r/seduction13/03/14 06:23 AM
2

Yeah, they may be secondary to things like confidence and a sense of humor, but looks and money are definitely not meaningless. Looks make social interactions easier, and money allows more leeway with your time. They matter; maybe not as much as a lot of people think, but they do matter.
/r/seduction13/03/14 06:20 AM
2

I think, as with all things pertaining to arousal, it depends on the person. Some women might be turned on, others completely turned off. Pay attention to the individual's needs and act accordingly.
/r/seduction13/03/14 06:17 AM
1

Stigma. There's a stigma. Stigmatism refers to optics. And the difference is whether you do shitty things to people or not. Lying to people, being subversive, manipulating others to further yourself, etc. You can be confident and attractive without resorting to those things.
/r/seduction13/03/14 06:15 AM
3

Hey man, this shit's better than television. Reading it regularly isn't a problem unless you make it one. But getting bogged down in conflicting information is going to give you a headache, so I say chill for a bit and focus on having a good time instead of spazing out over picking up chicks.
/r/seduction13/03/14 05:09 AM
1

Clearly that kid wasn't so averse to failing that he gave up after a single try, so even though he sucked initially, he at least kept trying. So even if someone like him were to take bad advice and fuck up, he'd at least keep at it and try something different. Like I said: you gotta have some underlying tolerance for failure in order to even do stuff like this. And I'm 35, and a bit of a looker, if I do say so myself. I've run the gamut of women from homely girls to fashion models, because every…
/r/seduction13/03/14 03:15 AM
4

I usually smile, maintain eye contact, give a "what's up?" nod, and wave for her to join me. Then I introduce myself and start talking like we're old pals who've known each other for years. If she's shy or quiet, I take the lead and coax her out of her shell. If she's an extravert, we banter. Simple, really.
/r/seduction13/03/14 01:53 AM
1

Like I said: it's an experience. You learn a lot more from failure than you ever do from success. You never forget the first time you make an ass of yourself and come off as creepy, and from that point on you know to never do it again. And that's probably what would happen if Joe Average read that kid's post and decided to put it into practice: he'd learn that it was a shitty idea, and he'd have a deeper understanding about life as a result. Unless he was one of those aforementioned schmucks who…
/r/seduction12/03/14 10:21 PM
2

Sounds like she's into you. I wouldn't overthink it; just keep hanging out with her and focusing on having a good time. She's granting you a lot of leeway because she likes you, so just be cool and roll with it.
/r/seduction12/03/14 09:54 PM
1

Nah, man. If you're the kind of person who falls apart as soon as the going gets tough, no amount of faking it is ever going to give you the means to make it. You gotta have some underlying ability to roll with the punches, because the very nature of self-improvement demands that you deal with repeated failures anyway. Even if you followed the best advice in the world, it'd still mean fuckall if you were the type of person who gave up after a single failure. And yeah, beauty's definitely in the …
/r/seduction12/03/14 09:49 PM
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Well, you're probably right about the first two: being boring and bringing nothing worthwhile to the table will get you nowhere fast. Your stature isn't really a contributor to your failures, but it will definitely augment them when you're stuck feeling down about yourself. Avoid small-talk. Always banter. Listen to her and engage her on the things she says, don't just rattle off interview questions. Tell amusing anecdotes. Actually be interesting. Don't settle for boring. You don't need to brin…
/r/seduction12/03/14 08:12 PM
2

Heh... You sound like me ten years ago. I'd always thought I was going to find a girl who was "the one" for me. I even thought I'd found it once upon a time (the first time I was ever in love). But over the years, I figured out that relationships weren't for me, no matter what a lifetime of social conditioning had told me. I'd start out completely into someone, and then I'd get bored after a relatively short period of time. And though I wanted the option to keep having sex and hanging out with p…
/r/seduction12/03/14 08:01 PM
3

There'll be plenty of time for rejections, son. You will have no shortage of them in your life. Enjoy the victory.
/r/seduction12/03/14 07:44 PM
1

You know, when you smoke cigars, you're supposed to take them out of the plastic wrapper first...
/r/seduction12/03/14 07:42 PM
1

Realistically, if someone were to go out and try all the stuff detailed in that post, the very worst that would happen is he'd learn that it doesn't work, and he'd be a wiser man for it. He'd really lose nothing by trying it. If he got discouraged and said, "Fuck everything, game doesn't work!" after one failed attempt, he probably wasn't the kind of guy who was going anywhere anyway. Besides, self karma doesn't add to his total anyway, so it's not like he's getting imaginary internet points for…
/r/seduction12/03/14 07:38 PM
1

Nah. The friend zone in no way means the "no sex" zone. If you want a girlfriend, all you have to do is keep them there for a sufficient length of time before they finally give you an ultimatum: either give them a firm commitment, or go back to being friends without the benefits. In fact, I try to keep women in the fuck-buddy zone for as long as possible, because I hate monogamy and it's way easier to end something casual than get dragged through a long-term thing.
/r/seduction12/03/14 07:28 PM
1

It's entirely possible that he just lucked out. I've seen weirder shit happen. And "10" is relative; everyone's idea of attractive is different. So it's entirely possible that she could've been absolutely gorgeous to this kid and his friends, but kinda mediocre to others. And I will say, if a girl is genuinely interested in you, she'll make it fucking easy. She'll laugh at all your lame jokes, look interested at your boring stories, and hang on your every word. Literally all you have to do is no…
/r/seduction12/03/14 07:21 PM
1

I'd say a fair amount of girls are attached. A good percentage of those are dating casually and not really that serious about whoever they're currently seeing. Are you giving off an immediate, "I want to date you!" vibe? Because I've found that being friends with people and escalating works way better than directly propositioning people into relationships.
/r/seduction12/03/14 07:04 PM
1

Jesus Christ, man... This read like the diary of a serial rapist.
/r/seduction12/03/14 07:01 PM
2

Well, like I said: you lose nothing by approaching them anyway. Every experience -- especially rejection -- is a chance to improve.
/r/seduction12/03/14 06:51 PM
1

Well, think about it: do you like being interrupted by strangers? Realistically, you lose nothing by approaching them anyway, but don't expect any kind of results with people who are occupied.
/r/seduction12/03/14 06:37 PM
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I wouldn't really call that massive volume; it's pretty easy to get there by adding five reps a week, which is what I've always done to break through plateau. Mass-wise, I've never gotten above 190lbs (which is where I'm at now at 5'11''). Body fat's probably somewhere in the 9-10% range since I enjoy junk food and drinking; it'd probably be way lower if I put in some effort with my diet. I always thought Charles Bronson was a pretty good approximation, build-wise.
/r/seduction12/03/14 05:39 PM
1

If I had to give a pap diagnosis, this is a classic fear of failure model: you see a situation that you see as having low difficulty, but your ego can't handle the prospect of failing something that is so easy. So instead of simply going for it like a well-adjusted person, you self-sabotage and retreat into the safety of not taking the shot at all. After all, you can't disappoint yourself if you aren't even in a situation to begin with. Combating fear of failure is simple (not necessarily easy):…
/r/seduction12/03/14 05:09 PM
2

I think the word you're looking for is "schema". I'll agree to that much: you can form a general idea about people and be at least partially right most of the time. The problem I always find with trying to use some kind of formula or magic bullet for something that's inherently riddled with standard deviation is that you're always going to run into something that blasts your preconceived notions apart. What works for one girl will invariably not work on the next. Even our traditionally held "con…
/r/seduction12/03/14 04:54 PM
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Getting fit is one of the easiest ways to improve nearly everything about your life. My daily workout routine is something like this: 50 pull-ups 200 push-ups with dumbbell lifts 200 dips 500 stomach crunches Minimum 15 minutes of stationary bicycle time (I've got my exercise bike set up in my living room, so I always hop on while watching TV or playing videogames) Five minutes hitting the heavy bag or five minutes weighted shadowboxing (good for cardio, but I mainly do it to maintain my muscle …
/r/seduction12/03/14 09:10 AM
2

Don't put people on pedestals because of their subjective looks. A 10 is only different from a 5 insofar as the way you treat her. The same rules apply to both. If you keep assuming there's such a thing as leagues, or that there's any reason whatsoever to be nervous because of a girl's appearance, you're going to keep failing. Also, it's "pussy", not "p*ssy". Don't be a pussy about profanity.
/r/seduction12/03/14 08:55 AM
2

I'd love to help you out, but can we get a TL;DR, or maybe some paragraphs up in that wall of text?
/r/seduction12/03/14 08:52 AM
3

I can tell you right off the bat that it's a shit article if it's advocating you "pretend to be busy". If you're not actually a busy person, go get some hobbies to make your time scarce. Otherwise, don't pretend like you've got shit going on when you don't. That's incredibly lame.
/r/seduction12/03/14 08:44 AM
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Seduction is anything but a hard science. Most men will never see a sufficient enough sample size to use the scientific method to any real effect. And while you can apply basic anthropology and biochemistry to explain certain behaviors, there are far too many variables to make any kind of accurate, universal predictions of behavior.
/r/seduction12/03/14 08:41 AM
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Openers don't matter.
/r/seduction12/03/14 08:26 AM
1

Bear in mind a lot of advice comes from amateurs coaching other amateurs as a means of figuring shit out on their own. A lot of them haven't quite come to terms with what's relevant and what's not. Things like social psychology, inner game, and the like are relatively complex concepts that you need some measure of experience to truly understand, so these same amateurs will turn to offering advice on things that seem obvious: dress nicely, go to the gym, be busy, etc. They're certainly fair point…
/r/seduction12/03/14 06:40 AM
6

Spent a week in Qingdao a few years back, so if where you're going is anything like that, do yourself a favor and make sure you keep a travel packet of toilet paper on you at all times. When it happens, you'll know.
/r/seduction12/03/14 06:33 AM
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That's nice and all, and I don't mean to shit on anyone's success, but women are women. Numbers are entirely subjective, so it's no more impressive a feat to nail your idea of a 10 than it is if you nailed my idea of a 5. But regardless of that fact, good job. I'm glad things worked out for you.
/r/seduction12/03/14 06:32 AM
1

You're basically focused on superficial minutiae, which amounts to so little importance in the grand scheme of things, it's silly to get fixated on it. If there's one thing life has taught me time and time again, it's that you could look like a complete slob and have the nerdiest hobbies in the world and still get laid like crazy as long as you were confident in yourself. I even did an experiment a long time ago, back in my college days. I decided just for fun to go out looking like absolute shi…
/r/seduction12/03/14 06:25 AM
1

Handle your shit, man. Unless someone you loved just died or you've just been given a prison sentence, there's no reason whatsoever to get blackout drunk. Drink water, maintain a buzz, and don't be an idiot.
/r/seduction10/03/14 05:59 PM
1

It's not that complicated: be yourself if yourself is not an ineffectual shitheel. If that's your natural state of being, change it. That's really all seduction is: becoming a naturally awesome person who doesn't have to fake it.
/r/seduction10/03/14 05:56 PM
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The problem I see with this is when people take your "don't be a robot" advice, they usually don't dial back the amount of fucks given enough, and they're still bitching and moaning about really stupid shit. Thing is, the list of times that it's a good idea to let your emotions loose is extremely short. The rest of the time, you need to keep that shit in check. You may not be able to control how you feel, but you sure as shit can control how you react to those feelings. Otherwise, you're just an…
/r/seduction10/03/14 05:51 PM
5

I ride a Honda Shadow during the warmer months, and I've never met a girl who didn't love riding on it. It's fun, it's exhilarating, and it's instant physical contact (she has no choice but to hold onto you). If they have their own vehicle, just say, "Follow me." And then it's no different than someone following you in your car.
/r/seduction10/03/14 05:19 PM
1

Warm approaches are just approaches where the girl has given you some indication that she's interested. And if the person is actually interested, most of the work is done for you -- all you gotta do is not fuck it up and you're golden. A cold approach, on the other hand, is talking up everything with a pulse and trying to play the percentages. That's all well and good, and it's definitely effective from a mathematical standpoint, but it's very time consuming. I'm not a homeless 18-year-old anymo…
/r/seduction10/03/14 07:01 AM
1

I can't speak to other people's success rates, so I'm not going to make any suppositions on what numbers are realistic for other people. And in all honesty, I'm not too impressed by the folks over at RSD, so I wouldn't really use them as any basis for comparison. As a rule, the people who try to sell you a product you can get for free are going to be the ones who are full of shit. All I know is this shit's not difficult. If I approach a girl who's interested in me, odds are we're going to have s…
/r/seduction10/03/14 06:53 AM
1

I mean, if you're cool with being boring, then sure. But that violates my number one rule: never be boring. Boring guys are what she gets all the time. Witty is always better because it sets you apart from the rest of the herd and gives you an actual chance to turn "just friends" into "friends with benefits".
/r/seduction10/03/14 03:57 AM
1

"You got it: just sex, no funny business." It never fails to get a laugh, and it cuts the tension a bit. I keep girls like that on the back burner and periodically check on them. Not interested now doesn't mean not interested ever. Stay friends with her, keep being attractive and likeable, and come back later. You can date other people in the meantime.
/r/seduction10/03/14 03:02 AM
3

I think the smoothest thing I ever did wasn't really smooth so much as exceedingly lucky, but the fact that I had the balls to do it at all puts it at the top of my list in my mind. I was drinking heavily: the kind of bender that Beat-generation authors wrote about. I was pretty lit from a week of drinking every single night. From across the party, I saw her making eyes at me -- smiling, turning away, turning back to look at me. Under normal circumstances I would've talked to her, told a few jok…
/r/seduction10/03/14 01:13 AM
1

Cold approaches don't work most of the time, so those figures you mentioned seem realistic. It's rare that I even do them anymore unless I'm just screwing around for fun. Warm approaches are where you're going to get results.
/r/seduction10/03/14 12:23 AM
1

Hang out with her more, and just be cool about it. Don't be super eager or needy and you'll be fine.
/r/seduction10/03/14 12:04 AM
3

My advice is to just try your luck and see what happens. That's what I did when I was your age. Sometimes, it worked: the girls found my boldness charming. Most of the time it didn't. But that's okay; you miss 100% of the shots you don't take.
/r/seduction10/03/14 12:01 AM
0

It's varied throughout my life. When I was a young man in my late teens and early twenties, it was probably as low as 20% at times. Now, it's probably closer to 95%. You'll get better with time. Just keep practicing and don't be afraid of rejection. Every interaction is a learning experience. EDIT: To clarify, this is with warm approaches where the girl has shown some level of interest. Success rates with cold approaches are going to be a lot lower.
/r/seduction09/03/14 11:41 PM
3

I usually use pet names for people until I hear the name enough times to remember it. Most commonly used: Men: Son Chief Pal Boss Buddy Hoss Dude Broham Women: Darlin' Sweetheart Princess Kid Kiddo Duck Nibblet Booster-seat (girls under 5'5'') Half-pint (alternative to Booster-seat) Tough guy Slim (skinny girls) Stringbean (tall girls) Red (redheads)
/r/seduction09/03/14 11:35 PM
2

It helps when it's your default way of speaking.
/r/seduction09/03/14 07:26 PM
8

Normally, in those instances, I'd recommend walking away and not even engaging them. But I'm a bit of a glutton for verbal lashings since it's rare that I get someone so completely hostile. When the gloves come off, there's nothing more enjoyable to me than dishing it right back. Top responses: (while gently brushing her aside and speaking to her friend) "Anyway, as I was saying..." "Pump the brakes, sweetheart. I get it: you're coming down from a hard week and your last boyfriend cheated on you…
/r/seduction09/03/14 05:35 PM
1

Just do it. Saving yourself for "the right one" is pointless and just shorts you valuable experience. Besides, take it from someone who's run the gamut of girls from supermodel hot to methhouse ugly: as a general rule, the not-so-attractive ones tend to be better in bed.
/r/seduction09/03/14 06:25 AM
1

It's been a while since I've been down there. Most of what I remember from that area is the farmer's market near Stoughton, and a semi-decent bar a short walk from one of the med school buildings. Then again, most of my time spent in Urbana/Champaign was indoors having sex with someone who went there. We didn't get out much. Except to get food from said farmer's market.
/r/seduction09/03/14 05:58 AM
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Actually, I do. But then, I'm nearly 36. Being the guy who "wears many hats" is fine when you're twenty years old and don't really have a cohesive personality of your own, because you're still young and developing one. You're not quite sure what kind of person you're going to be around people yet. So you do what seems obvious: be one person for your girlfriend, another person for your buddies, and yet another person at your job or around your parents. But there's an inherent problem with that: i…
/r/seduction09/03/14 05:29 AM
2

I don't know what to tell you, man. Don't be a douchebag? It's not like it's hard to bust somebody's chops in a friendly, teasing manner. If you seriously talk to your friends in a way that's utterly repellent to women, maybe it's time to reevaluate how you communicate with others.
/r/seduction08/03/14 07:13 PM
1

Speak slower, more deliberately, and drop your pitch an octave. Adjust your posture too so you're not talking into your chest.
/r/seduction08/03/14 04:39 PM
4

The same way you tease your buddies: lighthearted, and not so dickish that you hurt anyone's feelings.
/r/seduction08/03/14 04:31 PM
1

Some people don't banter well over text. In-person will be a different story entirely. If she's overly terse, just grab some face time as soon as possible.
/r/seduction08/03/14 02:02 PM
1

Keep going. Dead ends are solved with humorously phrased questions or a radical subject change. The goal is to keep the banter going.
/r/seduction08/03/14 01:53 PM
1

Yeah, I'm not a big fan of Mark Manson's terminology, since it sends a confusing message that a lot of people misconstrue as "wear your heart on your sleeve and spill your guts all the time". And that's about the least attractive thing ever (emo kids do that shit). Manson also says that putting yourself out there makes you vulnerable, but I say that the very act of putting yourself out there means you're at the point where taking those kinds of social risks isn't actually risky. So realistically…
/r/seduction08/03/14 04:17 AM
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I have a friend who didn't lose his virginity until he was twenty-four. The sex itself is less of a big deal than the underlying causes behind your late blooming, so that's what you should really be focusing on. Stutters can be fixed with speech therapy, and looks don't really matter (my best friend is ugly as fuck as he gets laid even more than I do). Lots of people your age live at home, so that's only an issue as far as logistics go. You can do this, man. Don't get discouraged.
/r/seduction08/03/14 03:54 AM
1

Jesus... Was voice to text made by the FCC or something?
/r/seduction08/03/14 03:45 AM
1

That'd be a start. You can also start by not censoring your own profanity. This is Reddit, son. If you're gonna swear, swear.
/r/seduction08/03/14 03:43 AM
5

Actually, he's right. It's only as big a deal as you make it. The more you validate peoples' fears, the more real they become. When I was a medic, I learned this bit of very basic psychology: tell a kid that a shot's going to hurt, he's going to scream his head off when he gets it because he's built it up in his mind. Distract him with something else, and suddenly the little poke is barely a big deal. The same principle applies to things like this. If she's afraid of being a slut, validating tho…
/r/seduction08/03/14 03:40 AM
1

Tone's admittedly important with those last two. An air of obvious, cool detachment with a hint of sarcasm is necessary to not come off as needy or like she's doing you a favor.
/r/seduction08/03/14 03:28 AM
4

All right, you're probably gonna get told to go to one of the beginner boards, but I'll offer you a few points to chew on: Nobody gives a shit that you're nice. They only care about what you can do for them. Can you make them laugh? Can you be good company? Can you be a good provider? Can you provide a valuable service? Being nice isn't a qualifier for anything. It earns you no points, and you should never, under any circumstances, expect anything in return for it. Doing so makes you a douchebag…
/r/seduction08/03/14 03:21 AM
2

I think if you already associate pain with accomplishment, it's a damned good analogy.
/r/seduction08/03/14 03:10 AM
3

I wouldn't go so far to say it's your friend... The way I see it, it's merely an unfortunate side-effect until you reach the point where you're good enough that it doesn't make you uncomfortable anymore. Or, to use your analogy, it's like when you just start working out: you're gonna feel that burn and feel like shit. But do it enough, and your endurance increases to the point where you no longer feel like shit.
/r/seduction08/03/14 02:58 AM
2

The PUA community is fucked up and creepy a lot of the time. I mean, have you seen the terminology page? It's a fucking nightmare. And many famous pickup gurus with their canned gimmicks and dehumanization tactics don't help that image. But I firmly believe that outside of that general perception lies a core of guys who are just struggling with the fallout from out of control post-feminist culture. The millennials in particular are the biggest victims of this, being raised to reject traditional …
/r/seduction08/03/14 02:50 AM
2

You should probably help the guy out next time rather than shit talk him on Reddit afterwards. One's being helpful, the other is just being an asshole.
/r/seduction08/03/14 02:30 AM
0

It's not even something that needs to be discussed most of the time. It's just one of those unspoken truths that everyone knows, but that we pretend to ignore due to endless whining from the Anita Sarkeesians of the world. The quickest way to deal with sex-negative bullshit like this is just to do what you're going to do anyway: take charge and be dominant in the bedroom while being attentive to the other person's needs, and let them be the ones to deal with the cognitive dissonance of saying on…
/r/seduction08/03/14 02:20 AM
1

I think if you're naturally dominant and not a bonehead about paying attention to nonverbal cues, this kind of stupid shit never comes up. Most women want a man to take charge in and out of the bedroom; that means taking the lead and being aggressive, but it also means caring for the person afterwards. It's a huge responsibility being dominant: by accepting that role, you're effectively acknowledging that your submissive is under your care. If you're dominant without the care, you're just an abu…
/r/seduction08/03/14 02:07 AM
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Think about it this way: who are you going to be more invested in -- the person you have a casual conversation with about your old neighborhood, or the person who understands your feelings and experiences because they get you? Getting people emotionally invested in you isn't difficult; just be a friend. Listen to them. Relate to them. Exchange ideas and empathize with their situation. Don't be a self-centered douchebag who only waits for his turn to speak instead of actually listening to what th…
/r/seduction08/03/14 01:49 AM
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Top responses to the first one: "Yeah. Well, except when I'm helping the needy. Wait, I mean training dolphins. Wait -- which bullshit answer sounds the best?" "Well, not all the time. I don't do it in the shower... usually..." "Of course. Who wouldn't?" "Shit. I tried not to make it that obvious." Top responses to the second: "And this is crazy... but here's my number... Goddamn it, now you got that song stuck in my head." "Ah, shit, you're right. I'm Jack... Now that we've gotten that out of t…
/r/seduction08/03/14 01:30 AM
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