OK so I am still on cloud nine writing this so please excuse me.

So I go to this bar that I always go to, kinda where the owners know my name and what I'm drinking once I walk in. Its a small bar so most people that are there know everybody else so I was quite comfortable in this particular bar. That being said I see one of my friends and say hi who introduces me to three girls. I say hi and continue to acknowledge my friend because I had to talk to him about something.

After about 5 mins I turn over to the girl next to me and just start talking about our mutual friend. (easiest topic to talk about) The one thing I learned on seddit is confidence and eye contact. two things that i notice i lack majorly. I would like to think that I am a moderately attractive guy, but I'm using seddit to find a different caliber woman. Consistently, I have dated people who have taken advantage of my niceness and they only thing that is the same in the equation is me. I am attracting the wrong type of girl. anyway back to confidence and eye contact. Confidence came from were i was at and who i was with. the eye contact. I was watching a video on here that was examining Bill Clinton's speeches and showing that he was a great debater because he made you feel like you were the only one in the room. So I had that in my mind the entire night. (If anyone has that link post it)

As we are talking we go over a range of topics and in this particular situation she is Japanese so I proceed to wedge in some funny stereotypes about Japan as a means to kino her a bit. (She is Japanese-American so she gets sarcasm)

we end up talking for a good 20 mins and her friends left her to get to another bar. perfect were are alone.

after about 5 more minutes we go to my car outside and the conversation escalates. we start talking about fetishes and porn. The topic of conversation was different from in the bar. the one thing that made me sure she was ready was she took a sip of my drink. I don't know if that's a rule but it might as well should be. So the conversation stops, we look each other in the eyes, I look at her lips and BAM! kiss. just like that. (also the entire conversation shifted once we got back to my car, everything was about sex once we got to my car, she told me about how single she was, about porn, about things)

after a few minutes of that I suggest that we get out of the bar (12:30ish still early but i was ready to go home) she told me that she was driving her friends home 50 miles away and that she lived 200 miles away so I my mind; it had to happen tonight. I tell her to come to my place its not far ill drive her back. She agrees after a bit of convincing, I pay my tab, she tells her friends, and were off. (Its important to note that if we didn't have a mutual friend to begin with, this would have been a lot harder and not as smooth that being said say hi to her friends)

now at home i already know its going down so i just pull her in close and the rest is history. simple as that.

Tl:DR went from friendly gathering to f-close by using pretty much eye contact and confidence