Does soft nexting girls usually create more interest?

Don_Draper27 · 2019-01-07T20:45:51+00:00

No, DON'T EVER RESPOND EMOTIONALLY.

I'm kind of fed up with this girl I've been seeing.

If you have negative emotions about a girl, why in the world are you allowing her in your life?

I don't want to completely end it

Oneitis

Soft nexting works, yes. But your definition of it is completely beta. Soft nexting is simply avoiding all contact for a couple of days or maybe even weeks. Then, you reach out again as if nothing even happened. Don't hit her back up with, "Yeah I hope you learned your lesson!". Just a chill, "what's up" will do.

It seems like you have oneitis for this girl and you're already reacting negatively to her and there's hardly any doubt that you've even fucked her yet.

My advice: HARD next her and try again with a new girl.

throwawaybpdnpd · 2019-01-07T18:54:10+00:00

You’re just “seeing” this girl... you’re not dating her, why would you even say it wouldn’t work?

Simply start ghosting, make her a plate; yes ghosting usually makes them come back with more strength for validation

SWGRIT · 2019-01-07T19:19:06+00:00

Ehh. I told a girl I was casually seeing to hit me up when she has more time because she was pissing me off as well. I kind of regret saying anything honestly. If it’s casual and you enjoy the opportunity for sex, I’d not say anything to her.

Talinor09 · 2019-01-07T19:19:41+00:00

No, telling a girl “this isn’t working” makes you look like you’ve lost frame.

Not saying anything (soft next) MAY make her curious about what you’re doing any why you aren’t texting her.

Hypothetically an alpha would be going about his mission and talking to other girls.

If you soft next. Wait for her to contact you. Respond warmly like it’s no big deal and set up a date and escalate.

mallardcove · 2019-01-07T19:41:40+00:00

Soft nexting ONLY WORKS when you have her hooked and you are her top option.

It doesn't work if she has no interest in you or there are other male options in her life that she is more interested.

You have to have leverage for soft nexting to have any affect at all.

Ravenscar7 · 2019-01-08T01:38:06+00:00

If you totally withdraw your attention from a girl with a soft next she will eventually find that attention from somewhere else. Restrict your attention but don't totally remove it.

Title	Does soft nexting girls usually create more interest?
Author	Kevin19Fish
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Date	January 7, 2019 6:43 PM UTC (7 years ago)
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