This is a new one for me.

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I slept with a girl I met at a club a few days ago. Everything was great. We made out in the club, danced, went to her friends' nearby airbnb, then ended up going back to my place.

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She left in the morning and texted me saying that she hopes to meet up again. Fast forward to today, we text back and forth a bit, and she suggests we get food or something.

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Everything is going great right?

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Well, I decided to look her up on Facebook... and it says that she's married to someone. At first, I thought it was one of those joke marriages that people do online with their friends. But I dug deeper (her privacy settings are bad). She has multiple photos with this guy, and even one where she's showing a ring on her left hand's ring finger, and people are congratulating her. The marriage seems legit.

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Here's what I don't understand though: she posted pictures form the night we met of her, her friends, and even her husband all at the airbnb. Yet none of her friends said anything at all to me about her marriage or seemed weird about it, and her husband wasn't at the airbnb when I was there. Also, the afternoon after the night we met, she posted a new profile picture of her and her husband together. Her husband didn't like or love this picture, while he has for all her other profile pictures.

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Another odd thing: after we went back to my place and had a drink, and before we started fooling around, she asked me what my darkest secret is. I thought it was an odd and prying question so I gave an absurdist answer. I don't remember if I asked her or not. Maybe she was hoping to tell me then about this?

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So here are the possibilities as I see it, in order of likelihood:

  1. She's actually married but had a fight that night and decided to cheat. This explains why the husband wasn't with her later but not why she posted a pic right after the night (maybe it was for appearances). This also explains why her friends were chill with me. This also explains why her husband didn't like her latest profile picture.
  2. She's actually married, there was no fight, but she is open to affairs. The husband either had to go home early that night or was with his friend group instead. Her friends are used to this behavior.
  3. She's married on paper only (maybe to become a citizen since she's an immigrant, although the husband seems like an immigrant too), and so she, her husband, and her friends are ok with her sleeping with other dudes. This does not explain why her husband didn't like her latest picture.
  4. She's actually married and her husband is ok with her cheating (getting cucked?). Unlikely because the guy doesn't look like that type of person, and he didn't like her latest picture.
  5. She was never married and the facebook pictures and status are a ruse. Unlikely because there is no motive for this (unless maybe the guy is gay and she needs citizenship? seems very unlikely though, especially with the ring).
  6. She was married and is now divorced. Unlikely given the tight timeframe.

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Given all this, what's the right play? I can still feign ignorance on this. I was planning to grab a quick, cheap bite and then go to a bar with her later this week. I can start prying a little and look for hints? The alternative is to never see her again and not take any risks. but I am extremely curious now.

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Any thoughts, help, or comments are appreciated!