So I anticipate that some people will tell me I should have done X differently, or I did Y wrong, but I'm pretty confident I've made the right moves with this girl, and yet she never reaches out to me to initiate conversation. I've found this with a lot of girls that I date, where I'll ask them out, we'll go out, have a great time, and then when we part, I don't hear from them. I then text or call, we go out again, have a great time, and then again, silence. To use a specific example:

Went out with a girl a few weeks ago for coffee, we sat outside for a few hours and talked, and then she had to get home to go to her parents to pick up some stuff. I walked her back to her place, we kissed and I said "Let's do this again" to which she agreed. Contacted her the next day for dinner on the coming Friday, and she was down. Met her outside the restaurant - she was in a super cute yellow sun dress - and we proceeded to have a passionate kiss on the street, dinner, and then she had to run to an event so I walked her to the bus and we shared another passionate kiss. I waited a few days and asked her to join me for a BBQ at a friends. She was down. She came, we had a great time, and I was going to try to go back to her place, but she said she wanted to go home and sleep and have some time to herself. I can tell that she's not ready to jump into sex, which is fine. We ended up talking for an hour and a half outside about allkinds of things, lots of making out, lots of touching and hand holding. She was starting a new job so I told her to let me know how it went - her first day came and went, and I never heard from her. It was a test to see if she'd reach out, and she didn't. Called her a few days later and we went out again, went back to my place, fooled around, it was great. We parted, and I decided to see if she'd reach out and show interest in communicating or even planning something, and nothing.

Am I missing something, or is the onus entirely on the guy to start conversation/make plans? This is one example, but I feel like many girls are like this. I don't want to keep reaching out because it makes me feel like I'm the only one making the effort and I want girls to put in even a modicum of effort to show interest/make plans etc. I was off the dating scene for a few years in a serious relationship, but I feel like when I've dated in the past, I would always engage in playful texting, or the girl would be like "Hey, want to come to XXX on Friday?". Am I doing something wrong, is it maybe the type of girls I'm meeting, or something completely out of my control?