I want to keep dating this girl but I may have hurt her. Need advice on how to proceed.

Drojo420 · 2014-08-27T16:00:06+00:00

If you really like one girl, you don't have sex with another. Move on.

projectm35 · 2014-08-27T16:08:00+00:00

I'm lost. What exactly did you do wrong? You were honest about your relationship status the whole way. You were honest about the other girl. She gave you the cold shoulder for a bit and what, you're supposed to just wait for her?

Your mistake is telling her she has a right to be upset. She doesn't. You are an honest guy (if you weren't you could have lied about Girl B). Explain to her that you did not cheat on her, and you felt she was distant and uninterested in you or you would have been with her instead of Girl B.

Don't be a bitch here.

Napoleon7 · 2014-08-27T16:30:25+00:00

I'd say it ain't exclusive until it's been made exclusive....I understand why it's upsetting (i'd be too)but she backed away from you so the water was clear for others to tread in...Also, in her saying she was mulling over being exclusive in that actual time frame means exactly that, you two were not* exclusive... you''re fine dude, especially since you were sincere and are actually interested in her...hopefully she gets it and doesnt turn totally double standard selfish

Throwawayforadvice14 · 2014-08-27T17:21:23+00:00

You should ask her the same questions. I would say it's a safe bet that she had other options on the side and this recent aloofness was actually her having a last fling with them before she decided what to do. If she was thinking about becoming more serious with you, then why the distance? If that was me, I would be spending MORE time with that person, not less.

manslutalt · 2014-08-27T17:29:58+00:00

She said "I just thought you were a good guy" that really hurt.

Take it as a compliment. Girls love bad boys.

Our convo last night ended with me saying she has a right to be upset because admittedly I would be a little upset if she did the same.

You admitted fault. Don't do it again, it'll just give her more leverage to guilt trip you later.

Now I don't know if she will give me another shot.

I think she will. Just don't act guilty about what you did. You thought she wasn't interested anymore, so you started exploring other options. In retrospect you discovered that it was a mistake and admitted that to her. Now forget all about it and move on. Don't let her make it a bigger deal than she already has.

puaCurveBall · 2014-08-27T17:53:12+00:00

This belongs in /r/askseddit as it is asking advice for a specific situation / girl

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Title	I want to keep dating this girl but I may have hurt her. Need advice on how to proceed.
Author	Throwawayforadvice14
Upvotes	2
Comments	15
Date	August 27, 2014 3:48 PM UTC (11 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
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