I don't get it

ObyrenOfDorne · 2014-08-31T03:18:50+00:00

You've been conditioned all of your life to feel:

ashamed of your sexual urges.
like being sexually forward with a woman is akin to sexual assault.
being honest with your goals or sexuality will means your a bad person.
that women aren't sexual and don't desire sex as much as you.
that ALL guys that have a lot of sex treat women like shit and that by being forward you are a sleezy douchebag.
that being called a "creep" by a woman is a fate worse than death.
that women are scary when it comes to advancing sexually and that their opinion of you holds more weight than your opinion of yourself.
that the best way to get a woman is lie and lie to her about your intentions, be her friend while secretly harboring sexual attraction, and let her know months afterwards when she already has lost all potential attraction towards you.

That's a lot of baggage to get through. Luckily you're in the right place. Go to the sidebar and look at some of the suggested reading/videos. Good luck!

ThrowawayPUA · 2014-08-31T02:53:55+00:00

Where can I go to help me learn the right things to do/say?

There's this place called "seddit." You ought to check it out. They have a bunch of useful info on the sidebar on the right side of the front page.

You will have to recalibrate your sense of creepiness. Yes, girls who are attracted to you, do enjoy your attention. And if you can't close the deal, if you don't even try, you disappoint them. Any reasonably attractive woman is well familiar with guys hitting on her, and how to deflect their advances. They expect it. A woman will usually forgive you for being too aggressive, but she will never forgive you for not being aggressive enough.

I assure you that you are less creepy than you think. Most AFCs think that way, their inhibitions stop them long before they ever do anything creepy. Or else they get suddenly aggressive, and "put the moves on her" and yeah that is creepy. You are suppose to gradually become more intimate, so that you never have to make any big moves, you're constantly making small moves. If she resists, it's easier to back away from a small move than from a big one.

lucyintheskywithd · 2014-08-31T03:53:09+00:00

Hey! Just try approaching one girl from the positioning of wanting to be friends. If you approach her like she is some mystical object you won't form a connection and that's where the creepiness comes in. Just talk to girls and be nice. Yeah a lot of girls will think you're creepy sadly but not all of them will and those are the girls you want to spend time with anyways. Just get comfortable being around and talking to girls first.

Svenray · 2014-09-02T07:16:17+00:00

You answer is around you. Your fraternity. Call an emergency meeting of the minds with your best buddies there and tell them this. They all know girls.

Title	I don't get it
Author	mrratsangel
Upvotes	3
Comments	4
Date	August 31, 2014 2:42 AM UTC (11 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
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