So I've been a lurker for most my time, but I had a sudden realization tonight about screening or "qualifying" people (because this skill should apply to every person you meet.)

Try to figure out if people are on the same wavelength as you about life. The more you have in common in terms of aspirations, desires, goals, etc, the better you'll be able to connect with people. They don't have to be complete clones of you obviously, but I was thinking about this and the concept of qualifying came to mind.

Instead of being the seller, be the buyer; whatever analogy makes it concrete for you.

For coming up with filters to screen with you could just ask, i.e. "What is adventure to you? What's the coolest thing about you?" Be creative, make it fun. This isn't an interview, but it should be something that tells you who they are in a matter of seconds and build a connection with them. Much deeper than "Where are you from?"

This is more just for me to remember my insight than to actually tell the community, but I figure someone may gain some insight from this. This can apply to regular everyday life as much as seduction as well, just make the conversation sexual if you want.

Thanks guys.