Help? Kino is hard...

nuuance · 2014-09-21T23:50:19+00:00

This is something that's worked great for me: treat kino like punctuation. In that, I mean for example when you say something like "you know what?" you tap/touch (hold for a bit) & say what you're gonna say (like what you think of her vibe for example). Or when they do something silly or "dumb" you tap them & say something in response ("woww you just said that? What a dork lol"). Almost like getting their attention -- because you ARE getting their attention

Use kino with what you say to really punctuate what you say and let it "reach." Dont do it ALL the time obviously, but you need to do it from the start (after first 30 seconds or so). And this isn't counting a handshake either lol. Although you CAN turn that into kino by holding her hand longer if she doesn't let go.

Get playful...push them away once you feel comfortable or are in the zone/vibing (not hard) on the shoulder (waist is a great place I like & sets a good tone). Anyways, play with it man and get your own style going for it. It's not hard, but I find my hugest problem literally is just forgetting to do it in the first place.

Interrupting_Otter · 2014-09-21T19:08:23+00:00

Ok, I feel you. I've never been super comfortable with people touching me, so touching others doesn't come so easily to me.

I've started modifying my body language, being more open and powerful (relaxed, take up max space, engaged etc.) and getting used to standing/sitting closer to other people. Also get better at looking at people in the eyes, forehead, just past them, whatever when you are directly addressing each other. If you are actively engaged and mirroring and close to the other person, kino comes much more naturally.

I mostly touch people on the shoulders or their elbows. Try to be observant as to when people touch you, it can be very subtle and quick, not a lot of pressure is necessary. I use kino infrequently. Know how to give a proper handshake. Offer high fives to people (Don't leave me hanging!!!)

If it's a young woman, I begin escalating by touching her lower back, waist, hugging regularly, etc.

Sometimes its not about reading women. Be a leader, go ahead and move and see if she follows.

recyclablebantha · 2014-09-22T13:07:43+00:00

To make it worse, I'm terrible at reading girls....how the hell do I get more comfortable using kino?

You have to put your balls out there a little more. From the sound of it, you're a pretty considerate guy, so you'll almost have to shoot for being a little more like a dick, to get to the right mix.

Overall, besides the idea of using kino as "punctuation," think of it in terms of the proverbial slowly boiling pot with a frog in it. If you turn the heat up slowly, the frog won't jump out, but will stick around as you slowly turn it up. So kino is something you can turn up slowly. And you pay attention to her every response as you do so.

The responses to your touch will be SIMPLE. She'll flinch or pull away, which is negative. She'll lean into it or be encouraging in some way, which is positive. Or she'll do nothing, which is neutral. As long as the responses are positive or neutral, you can carry on.

Is kino the best way to gauge how interested a girl is in you??

NO. It's the easiest way to show your interest and the easiest way to get things moving along, if she's up for it.

PAYING ATTENTION to her is the best way to gauge if she's interested in you. This isn't rocket science and girls aren't going to make it complicated, if they're into it. If you can read a girl in a TV show clip like this, then you have the skills required to gauge interest. You're probably just over-thinking this.

regrettedname · 2014-09-22T01:27:22+00:00

Don't force it, it would seem weird if it didn't feel natural doing it. do what you feel comfortable with. then the more often you do it the more normal it will seem, then build from there.

johnnymaddick · 2014-09-22T07:40:14+00:00

You should start kino from the very first second. It can be a hi-five (the easiest opener at a bar or a club), hand shake, fist bump, tap on a shoulder. Anything socially acceptable and fun.

Do kino with every one around you - this way you are just a touchy guy, and you wont weird her out but touching her 1 hour later.

Continue kino during your interaction (hi fives, games, corrective kino, when you try to hide a label that sticks out from her shirt (this is also a neg), inquiring kino - when you grab her necklace and ask to have a look)

Always escalate, touch longer and in more protected places (I am not talking about boobs and buttocks, you pervert). Her throat, face and hair are the most protected. If she allows you to touch it you are in. Escalate and calibrate.

Move to heavy kino - palm reading, and all kinds of physical games. Since my English is not perfect and was even worse, I had to rely heavily on the kino and games - it doesnt require a lot of talking.

Kino is the way to seduce her body with your body. However you also need to occupy her social brain which may question your stupid behavior and think it's inappropriate. For the brain feed some kind of a nice story, it can be anything, but if it has a sexual connotation it will align her mind with her body that is being seduced. Plus people are more interested to discuss sexual or relationship problems than politics or school.

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Title	Help? Kino is hard...
Author	peacekeeper23
Upvotes	10
Comments	17
Date	September 21, 2014 6:58 PM UTC (11 years ago)
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