Okay, I made a thread before about how to pick up a girl without being a douchebag, and while I'm still not entirely sure that that has been resolved, I think I have a better idea of what I mean. I think I was speaking in terms of imposing yourself on someone in a potentially inappropriate way, without knowing or having a sense that there was any mutual interest. Anyway...

I have been doing a sort of LDR thing lately, and I think that both of us are now okay with moving on. So that's a good thing. But anyway, I've been rueing some of my missed opportunities with women recently, and I'm just wondering: is everything in my head? and am I just a clueless idiot? For instance, this last girl I've had a thing with, was apparently thrilled that I worked up the nerve to ask her out. And apparently, she had wanted me to do it well before I did. I'm trying to come to terms with that, and it's gotten me thinking: how often does this happen to me?

For instance, it has only recently occurred to me that I might be rather good looking, and I work out a shit ton, and that I may have underestimated how attractive I am to the opposite sex. This isn't about bragging, but just about coming to terms with things and improving myself. For example, the other day, I was driving and some girl pulled up next to me and pretty much eye-raped me. That was interesting. Just yesterday, I was sitting down somewhere and this girl sat down right across from me and was acting very fidgety. And then last weekend when I was out, two girls initiated conversations with me and just gave me there number without me asking for it, and then made weird comments about their sleeping arrangements. And there's this coffee shop I recently went to to go use the wifi, and the girl who worked there remembered what drink I ordered, even though I'd only been there once before. And then a bartender was talking to me a lot and gave me a free drink when she had other clients, and I'm sure she wanted a tip but I had told her before that I had been very clear that didn't have very much money. I also get looks a lot, apparently.

So if all this stuff is true, how easy should it be in theory for me to pick up women and what should I be doing differently in these situations? Like what should my move be? WTF is my problem.