How do I get started (high school)

gexxx007 · 2014-11-12T16:11:59+00:00

What was this incident that led girls to dispise you?

Posigen · 2014-11-12T16:52:03+00:00

Fix your hygiene and get a haircut first of all.

When I changed haircuts I got a lot of compliments for going for messy to actually styling it, I'm in the same position romance-wise though having no experience with girls in that way at all.

EpictetustheWise · 2014-11-13T03:21:33+00:00

OK, so let me first just start by saying that high school is a completely unique situation in terms of dating and getting with girls. It's a social circle game (i.e. who you know) like college but wayyy more based on cliques. With that being said, don't learn how to 'game' girls, you need to learn to be social first. Sort of learning to walk before you run.

First thing, right off the bat you can change, is your bad hygiene. Seriously, dude, it ain't hard. Take a shower daily or twice a day, wear deodorant, brush your teeth, floss, rinse. Do this for your basic health and appearance. Nobody wants to be around people who are dirty or just all around offensive to the senses.

Next, get a fresh haircut. Find one that is simple to maintain and suits the shape of your face, if all else fails, you could always shave it (either a longer or shorter length) so that it is basic and not much work to keep up. I'll assume you aren't a good dresser either. Don't worry most guys don't have a clue. You want to dress better than 90+% of the guys out there without having much money to spend on designer threads? Focus on two things:

The fit of your clothes. Not baggy, not too tight. Something that fits your body correctly. For instance, I'm tall, so if I'm wearing a t-shirt I need one with more length otherwise it'll look blocky as hell on me and make me seem fat.
Color coordination. Not just making sure your shirt and pants go together but that the color works with your skin tone. It makes a huge difference! Google, "matching colors with skin tone" for more info on that. Also see: http://attractyourdevelopment.com/dress-college-men-get-women/

Okay, once you've cleaned yourself up, start building yourself up. Cut way down on the video games and replace it with other things like working out, joining activities, and whatever else. Video games are entertaining but they probably aren't going to help you create an amazing life, so play them sparingly.

Socially, one thing you should realize is that social status is completely fluid. Most people's perceptions about others are just lazy generalizations. A kid who gets called shy, may start to believe that being 'shy' is exactly what he is. However, is that what he has to be? Is shyness the essence of his being? No. Most people who 'hate' you are probably indifferent to you or just hate what little you've presented them of yourself. I don't know what kind of 'incident' you did to earn a bad rep but you probably can turn things around if it wasn't too bad. If you did something really fucked up, maybe you are screwed...can't say though, I don't know the dynamics of your school.

Anyways, you decide what you present to the world. Don't fall into some label of being a video game nerd who not many people like. Screw that noise. If you are coming off as creepy, then that is poor social calibration on your part, which is why I really suggest you focus on learning to socialize rather than trying to pick up girls (eventually, opportunities present themselves once you're better at speaking to other humans).

What you need to get good at socializing, is more experience. Join a bunch of clubs or groups at your school, even if you're not really interested in them. This will put you around lots of different people and allow you to show them you aren't so bad and help you learn how to come off as an interesting guy people want to be around instead of creepy. This is a great site for more on social skills: http://www.succeedsocially.com/

All in all, you just need to start heading in the right direction and you might not have much success in high school. That's perfectly fine, you won't know a vast majority of those people in 5 years. What you want is to begin the long process of changing. Figure out what you want to do with your life, hang out with your friends, try to make some new ones, pick up some good habits/hobbies, and make yourself presentable so that you can start getting girls really easily.

High school really isn't serious at all but too many people let it mess them up permanently. Take control of your life, man. Remember that growth and change isn't a comfortable process but if you don't push yourself you'll only stay stuck in the same place you are now and it will eventually get worse as you get older.

rangamatchstick · 2014-11-12T17:24:11+00:00

learn basic game, practise game OUTSIDE of school until you are good and then be very picky with your targets as you DO NOT want to game every girl you can (like you should) in a school environment were people will stuff up like you are meant to like a noob but there will be consequences.

Loafception · 2014-11-13T00:19:00+00:00

Check out /r/highseddit, one of the top links details how seduction in high school is much different than normal stuff. Good stuff!

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Title	How do I get started (high school)
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Date	November 12, 2014 3:51 PM UTC (11 years ago)
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