Hello Seddit!

This is my first field report and incidentally the first time I try to actually get out there and meet women that weren't already within my social circle or a girl in school.

Anyways, recently I went out to town with a couple of friends of mine and note that while I have lived near the big city my whole life, I have never actually spent the time to explore it. My friend is really into EDM and goes to all sorts of clubs and bars in the city so he offered to show us around. So after bar hopping in the center of the bustling metropolis, we landed at a club for which we had VIP passes (thanks to my friend, haha). Okay, so we're there and he's the only one into the scene or has even had any experience with clubbing. We were basically AFCs paying high price for subpar beer in an overcrowded venue. The energy was high though and we were having a good time nonetheless. I kept going back and forth between the VIP section and center floor trying to find some hot looking chicks. It wasn't turning out to be as easy as I thought.

I eventually end up on the center floor dancing by myself. That's when it hit me: I don't know how to dance EDM. I don't even consider myself a good dancer. I was making all sorts of excuses in my head and asking myself was I there, why I was putting myself through this. I clearly wasn't inebriated enough but I fought through it and relaxed a bit. I then noticed this girl that was dancing with her friends who looked pretty cute (although I could only see her from the back). After a bit she started dancing by herself away from the group and I was not dancing with her but behind her by myself if that makes sense. For whatever reason, I had it in my head that she wanted to dance with me even though I'm under the impression she couldn't see me very well. I could tell she could feel my presence though. Now, I should note that the club was really packed and very dark so it's very difficult to lock eyes with anyone and being that I was not acquainted with club etiquette I didn't actually know the right way to start dancing with her. Do I turn her around so I can see her? Do I just start dancing with her from behind? That seems like an easy way to get slapped! I had what I would consider AA in this case, even though I wasn't exactly approaching her. That being said, I went for it. I just grabbed her and we started grinding for 45 minutes straight. I must say, I didn't dance half bad, I had an awesome time and the guy next to me told me "Bro, she's into you, get her number." I should have listened to him!

After that her friends took her away and I felt pretty damn good so I actually started dancing with other people. I couldn't help but noticing that she was still looking at me though. Her friends presented her to another guy and they started dancing for a bit. Not nearly as sexually or close as we were but for whatever reason I was taking that as a shit test. As if her dancing with him was to lure me or make me want her more. I may have taken that wrongly. Hell, it was working but being that I was set that it was a shit test, I kept to myself. She continued looking at me until she and her friends left.

Now, as a summary, the things that I have learned is that (1) you have to fight through your AA, it doesn't matter if you feel a certain way, you'll feel worse not taking the chance. (2) Don't misinterpret a shit test. In my case I really can't tell if it was or not but I did regret not going to talk to her anyways. (3) At the very least go in for the #-close. I didn't and I've been regretting that ever since. She was hot, HB8 at least. All in all, I feel great that I actually went for it and was not denied. Ever since then I've been much more social and open to talk to people, anyone at all as long as they're interesting. It feels like a weight of sorts has been taken off my shoulders. My only fear is that I came off as a creeper or something and hopefully that's not the case. Either way I'm happy with the outcome and think I could do just as well next time.

I'm down for any criticisms or if you guys think I could have approached things in a different way!

Tl;dr: After bar-hopping several bars, went out clubbing. Got over my AA and grinded/danced with a girl for almost an hour.