Off my chest - finally got with (made out with) a girl and could not be happier (and what I learnt - I think there are some really good lessons here).

So I got to 18 (UK/male) and still had never got with (made out with) a girl. I've been into this girl (8/10 looks, less good personality) for a while who I have a very strange friendzoned-but-not-really relationship with. She's sexually very experienced and obviously I'm not.

So I get home the other night, and she messages me at about half 7 saying "Come pub with me?". Now usually I'm the kind of person who really cares what I look like going out, but that night I looked like shit (messy hair, messy unshaven face) so I didn't really want to but I thought I might as well. I ended up going to the pub with her, and all the way I was was hoping I'd be able to go to a club with her and maybe get with her. At the pub, we bumped into loads of boys we both knew, including her sort of bf (it transpired). At this point I realised all along I'd been putting all my eggs in that one basket and I shouldn't be obsessing over one girl. So instead of clubbing with her, I ended up going with this other guy I knew.

So usually I go out looking as perfect as possible and plan well in advance and end up obsessing over one girl, today however it was spontaneous, I looked a bit shitty and I left the girl I had wanted to get on to go off with some other blokes.

Get to the club, a bit drunk - and ended up chatting to this 6.5/10 (drunk 8/10) who I didn't know. There were loads of other guys there, some who kept trying to hit on her. Something in my head clicked and I just went for absolute confidence. Put my arm round her, completely ignored other guys (one dude just sat and held her hand but I completely engaged her so she ignored his very odd advance). Eventually I just went for it and got with her, abit weird since it was my first time doing so - but I completely understood where I'd been going wrong in the past. She even wanted (I think) to take it a bit further but I wasn't attracted to her quite enough so I wasn't comfortable with that.

Anyway I feel now that I've flicked that confidence switch and that was all I needed, so I can now go for hotter girls. Also learnt not to put all my eggs into one basket, and that spontaneous nights can be the best and that alcohol most definitely helps.

Also I looked on facebook the next day and there were photos, and to my dissapointment she was not the 8/10 I thought but only a 6-6.5. An older mate has explained to me that all guys do this when hammered though so all in all idgaf.