Ok, so I’m a male college student, I have been a long time lurker and I just really need some advice to get out of this rut that I am in. So for the past 2 years I have been in a massive dry spell with girls. I was never exceptionally good at getting girls, but I remember being able to get with a girl if I wanted to and tried when I was in high school. This all ended 2 years ago, when I started to like one of my best friends. I eventually told her that I liked her and she gave me a whole spiel about how she didn’t know how she felt and dragged me along for a couple months before ultimately rejecting me and hooking up with several of my good friends.

Since then, I have been completely unable to make any kinds of moves on women or be forward whatsoever, which is so unlike me because I am usually the loudest person in the room, I’m always cracking jokes, not to toot my own horn but I’m usually the life of the party and have no problem making friends. I just can’t land a girl and I don’t know why. I have had crushes on two girls in the past two years but they both ended exactly the same. I’ll talk about the most recent crush I’ve had. So this year I have been hanging out with a new group of friends a lot. And this caused me to meet my current crush, and when we first started hanging out we got teased a lot because we would always be talking to one another. Things were going good from my perspective, we were talking more and more, I could always make her laugh and then I don’t know what happened. Before I knew it, 3 months had gone by and it hasn’t gone anywhere. I’m noticing she can be very hot and cold with me, she’ll be laughing at most of what I say sometimes and other times it’ll seem like she’s not interested at all. There is also another guy in our group of friends that I feel like she flirts with a lot and I am constantly worrying that she’s interested in him and not me (pathetic I know). And I have tried to be forward sometimes with her (like I offered to take her out to eat but it was a weird reaction, not positive or negative). So this past weekend at a party, we were hanging out and it was great. We were joking around, she was being flirty (at least in my eyes) she kept touching my hands and face and put her arms around me at one point (but It caught me so off guard so I didn’t really know how to react so I didn’t). Then later on in the night I noticed she was flirting with the other guy in our friend group and being really touchy and I noticed she gave him this look while being SO flirty and she said to him “you’re so cute” and I just felt crushed and had to leave the whole party because I didn’t want to stay there any longer. So I have hung out with her since then with mutual friends and it’s been the same hot and cold bullshit while being all flirty with the other guy. I just do not know, I think I might just throw in the towel with her.

Now this is the same thing that keeps happening. I feel like every time I start to like a girl, eventually they just go for someone else. I know I am an attractive guy, I go to the gym every day, I get great grades and I am VERY outgoing, I just cannot make it work. Sorry if this was a jarbled mess, just needed to get it all out. Please any advice would be appreciated.

TL;DR stuck in a constant cycle of liking a girl, barely making any moves, and watching her go for someone else.