Hello :D, (inc wall o fucking text and MERRY FUCKING CHRISTMAS EVERYONE )

**-Table of context

1. intro

2. about me

3. Queen Elsa herself - Frost Queen ( she is actually quite lovely, my lack of escalation and intention makes her attitude quite rational imho)

4. Girl I missed a chance with

5. Outro**

#1. ( Skip to #3 if you don't care ) Well I have been around this sub-reddit for a while just reading up on advice, guides, and mostly importantly other FRs that I find interesting. First, this report will be about the 2 days I went out to my nearby Starbucks and started to talk to women when I had the chance. Within this post I will describe what happened and add commentary to why I did something, what I was thinking, my evaluation as well as asking for advice during key moments. I have recently tried to try to talk and hook up with women rather than simply stare at beautiful women as they past for my own self respect. I have a few gripes with the red pill version of pick up artistry and I want to be able to attract women while not making a single woman feel violated or harassed. I want to be able to make women want to have a relationship ( fwb, serious, friends ) with me because they absolutely enjoy my company. On to the show!

#2. ( skip to #3. if you don't care about my back story )

I have a deep respect for women. Some of the best people I have ever met have been strong, caring, lively, and loving women, without whom I couldn't be a fraction of the person I am today. Therefore, I want to be able to attract women with as much due respect as I can muster and without resorting to cheap trips to trick a bitch ( to put it bluntly.) I would rather miss a chance to sleep with a billion women, than make a single women feel like they were violated or harassed. I never wish to hurt a woman and I know I will probably sleep with less women because I didn't push hard enough for any single girl in particular I have only recently been trying to learn the trade of pick up artistry and seduction. I have read a good portion of guides and have a pretty decent understanding of the basic ideas of attraction, however I am at the position where I am standing at first hill of a large mountain and just starting to get my first muscle pains as I learn and fail to climb the mountain. I would appropriate any advice anyone would like to give and any criticism ( don't hold back, take off the kitty gloves and wreck me if I don't understand a key point. I want to improve.) Lets dive in my story about me going to a coffee shop w/ a book in an effort to perhaps pickup pretty women. I am from Hawaii, an Asian college student trying to learn.

#3 Queen Elsa Herself. - Frost Queen - lovely girl imho. =QE=

Alright bring it back a day or two ago to my first day at the coffee shop. I walk in and I see this attractive ~5'2"-4" beautiful Asian girl w/ dark brown hair and blond highlights, sitting in a tiny coffee table along the side of the shop. She has a sour expression on of perhaps irritation, or exhaustion. I would consider her to be extremely attractive and my type. From my initial observation she had a round face, nice teeth, this neon blue and pink bracelet,a mac laptop, a cup of some drink, with a ring on her right hand. I thought perhaps she was just bored and she has the syndrome of constant bitch face ( an all to common trait of some women where they looked like their pissed off when their face is resting.) Anyway, I sit about 2 or 3 tables away from here trying to get the confidence to go over and talk to her. ( also, the store was quite busy and that table where I sat was the only open table left.) After a few mins, the couple at the table next QE packs up leaves the table. So, with the opportunity at hand I walk up and move over 2 tables to get closer to her. It must have been quite a absurd sight to see a guy like me pick my shit up and change tables 6 feet away just to sit next to the hot girl. however, I had a short burst of AA where I took my seat next to her looking straight down for a good 3 seconds. However, I decided to just go fucking YOLO so I faced her and held my hand out and said

"Hi, my name is Immadeadbird. What is your name?" Holding out my hand for an hand shake. We shake hands very briefly ( I need to practice holding for a little longer than a simple friendly hand shake. I feel like I may have had a high pitched voice and I know I was nervous ) She looked at me slightly and I tried to maintain eye contact directly looking at her and turned to her. She answered in a friendly manner with her name. At this point my recollection becomes hazy i ask simple questions like how are you and other topical question. We get into interesting topics like where she got such a colorful bracelet. She informed me that her friend gave it to her and I tried to playfully respond in the best way I could. I think we had pretty decent chemistry, and our conversation was fluid. We talked about raves, and what kind of outfit she would wear.

However, after a little bit of time I ran out of things to say and I found out she actually had a boy friend who she said she really liked. From that point, I aborted and decided to read my book and we sat next to each other for a few hours. She was working on her laptop and I was on my book trying to make jokes from time to time. At the end of the first day our fluid conversations became dry and emotionless. I think its because I didn't escalate [ I didn't want to hit on her when she has a bf ] and I kinda drop the ball really quickly when I found out she didn't have a chance.

The next day, I went back to the coffee shop and I saw her again. She was quite cold and barley spoke to me, while I tried to ask her how she was and if she was having a good holiday season. She left eye contact to an minimum and didn't give me anytime. lol I don't think we will be friends.

Day 2:

#4 Girl I missed a chance with

During this point of the day I have already talked with 2 or 3 women and was warmed up. In between reading I would look up and try to hold eye contact with anyone I saw. I would try to hold their gaze as keep my eyes looking directly at them without looking away. I tried to keep the fuck me eyes out at all times. She had shoulder length hair, brown and with some light highlights. as well as long jeans, dark colors, with a tiny vest like jacket around her tank top. She was very attractive imo. This girl is where I messed up the most and showed how I am green at this.

Well GC walks in and stands in line. I look up from my book and I think our eyes meet and I keep look directly at her. I don't know if she saw me or she was quite skilled by looking directly at me and shifting her eyes slightly to make it look like she wasn't looking at me. Since she was in line trying to order I decided to keep to my original strategy where I try to strike up conversation while she waits for her drink.

With a mixture of AA and not wanting to interrupt any process, I stand behind her for perhaps a good 20 seconds like an idiot hahaha. Well I finally find my balls and approach and tap her shoulder on the left and try to get into talking distance. I repeat in my head my little mantra for the day: eye contact, lower register, smile, and speak slowly and with purpose.

"Hello , What i----" she actually was already turning her head to look at my exact direction before I actually touched her shoulder and she gave me a rather large smile and took a little step back. From what I could see and understand I think she was actually looking back to check me out when I was sitting at my table. But im not 100% sure, I would say that it was true perhaps 35% of the time. but anyway it gave me enough confidence to continue.

"Hey, What is your name?" With eye contact and a smile holding out my hand. She says her name and then stares at me and asks "Do I know you? you look familiar" I have actually never met her in my life but she goes on with this idea. I think I should have made a joke and turned the situation. try to pretend that she probably saw me in one of her dreams or some corny bullshit lol. but I kinda let it drop and didn't make much with it. However, because she thought she knew me I think she was more open than she might usually be. ( I like to think it was because I was just so charming tho lol )

We shake briefly again and we get to talking. I mention all the drinks she was getting and how I found it rather comical. At this point she was actually quite interested and our conversations were very fluid. We talk about how her day was. I bring up a question I was having as a little side story to try to build some sort of connection

"Hey want to help me decide something?" leaning closer and keeping eye contact. "I need you to vote, it is currently 1-2 where the 2 options are. Merry Christmas Eve, or Happy Christmas eve?

Well we talk about that for a bit and I think she was having as much fun with it as I was. However, I should have escalated throughout this whole process. we were apart and talking like friends. I end up offering to help carry her many drinks to her car and we walk out of the coffee shop together and we get to her car and drop off the drinks. I think its important to mention I never touched her again besides tapping her shoulder when I first introduced myself. However, since she had somewhere to be we were giving out good byes.

She initiated a hug and I just hugged her back lightly. I am actually quite furious at myself because I could have held her and made a joke about it or I could have kino-ed more and escalated the situation however I am still quite new to this and fucked up by not getting all I could out of it. Because she was leaving, I decided I wanted to date this girl because she was fun to hang out with and I could see myself on a date with her so I asked for her phone number. I actually messed up again, when I ask for a girls number I break eye contact for a long time and try to mess around with my phone. I need to be able to unlock my phone and ask for her number in a more smooth fashion. I need to practice taking out my phone and getting to the contacts while maintaining eye contact. Well I get some resistance here, and the conversation is as follows

"Whats your number?" I am reaching for my phone next to her blue car.

"why do you want my number?"

I think a little bit, try to get some eye contact but fail "To text you dirty things" (i'm trying to get her number and then text msg her "drity things" I saw it on another FR and thought it was funny )

"well I cant do that, but how about we trade facebooks?" I actually didn't like this idea very much

"No I dont want that, what is your number"

"how about instagram"

"no thanks, I bet your instagram is filled with weird things, like a bunch of quotes and food and nothing interesting" with a smirk

"what! my instgram is totally hipster" I have no idea what that means haha

"hmm Its either your phone number or nothing. instagram and phone number or nothing "

"really?"

"yep"

at this point she takes out her phone and asks me for my instagram and I lose frame and just give her my instagram. I think If I had more control of the situation with escalation I would have been able to keep frame. However, she adds me on instagram and we part ways without more kino.

#5.

Looking back I learned a lot and have a ton of fun however, im quite disappointing that I never escalated when I was receiving very strong IOIs from many of the women I talked to. Because my lack of kino, I sent mixed signals to the women I was trying to pick up and I got a few comments how friendly I was, and perhaps trying to seduce women at first then shutting down when I figured out they had bfs gave too much of a shock. If they have bfs I would like to be friends, but I dont think I was clear with my intentions. This imo explains why QE was so frosty to me today. At first, I tried to see if she was single trying to flirt, however when I figured out she had a bf I lost frame and didnt end out conversation very smoothly and I think I gave the impression that I only wanted to talk to hook up or whatever.

If anyone has any advice im glad to hear it through comments or PMs. Sorry about the Wall of text.

edits: some edits for grammar and wording ect ect. nothing major