hey seddit! happy right now :) setup a date with a girl ive hooked up with in the past but stopped due to her seeing some guy. off the bat i was silly and asked way to early in the day if she wanted to meet for drinks that night (asked before 1pm..) felt like a mistake after the fact. so no answer until 4 because shes been in work. she said "yes" and we were planned to meet at about 7. as im driving home i get this text from her. her: okay so this guy im kind of seeing decided to finally hit me up and he said he wants to see me tonight so now i feel obligated to go see him. but if your free tomorrow night we can defiantly go out.

me: maybe if im free me: have a good one

her: meh i feel bad

me: ha dont, if you dig him go for it.

her: yeah i do. hes the one i was complaining to you about hhaha.

me: lol good luck, thought he was being a pussy.

her: fuck he is! but im 2 loyal and nice so like im waiting to see if he turns around but not too long.

me: loyal? me: being nice gets you nowhere.

her: this is true hmm.

me: by loyal i ment what exactly is there to be loyal to.

her: idk, weve been friends for 5 years, he says im the only girl hes seeing an he wants to continue this. but im like dudeee why am i sitting here, only seeing you on weekends and you cant even ask me to be exclusive or official. i get the whole not rushing things but its confusing for me.

me: so he hasnt made any moves?

her: i mean, he asked me on a date to TGI fridays cause he has a gift card her: they dont even have tempeh... her: jk lol

me: does he know your vegan?

her: yea but gift card.. lol

me: sounds like a fun night rolls eyes* ;P

her: mmmm yea might be a few of those.

me: if its a bust come by. me: well get those drinks

her: ok, i kinda wanna just hangout with you. idk if thats bad haha but what everrr!

me: its not bad at all, enjoy your dinner ill see you later tonight.

her: oh god haha well see! ill keep you posted.

her: how do i get out of this? lol

10 min later...

her: told him i was tired haha.

her: ok lets hangout!

me: im busy youll have to wait around 40 min until im home again.

her: kk.

had her drive to my house. and off we went to a night of bouncing between bars and this little tappas place (cheap!!) the whole night i made sure to kino, i lead her from bar to bar, grabbing her hand as i lead, leading with my arm around her waist. playing with her hands as we spoke, hugging/huddling during smoke breaks outside. all goes well. we get back to my place and i ask her if she wants to come in... she stops and says were not having sex, everytime ive gone upstairs we fuck. i let out a laugh "woah woah woah" who said i was gonna let you. she giggles and blushed, i walked her to her car, we kissed for a bit and off she went.

while i didnt F close her this time, i really like the improvements ive made. i even noticed a few of the woman near us constantly eying me down. conversation skills have improved, kino definitely improved, i wasnt even nervous! i went into this not caring because of the initial cancellation. one thing im not happy about is the fact that i waited until the end to kiss her and i know its a mistake but i find it hard to do in the middle of the date, like it doesn't seem like the right time... i know waiting to the end is foolish. have a date with another girl tomorrow. should go even better! thank you so much seddit your helping me make huge leaps!

oh and literally half way through our date she started clowning on this other fool, it really cemented what i had read here about neediness being un attractive. she gets a text from him saying "i miss you" she looks up at me with a face of horror saying this kid says shit liek this often and texts her good morning. basically super nice guy crap. from what i can see its not working and she disgusted lol.

UPDATE 1/13/15 2nd date. we go to this little Indian place that was awesome, super cheap. it was a byob so we brought some wine. on the walk to the restaurant i begin kino, i give her a hug and instantly go for the kiss (first time ever doing so in the beginning) we hold hands and i lead her inside. we eat, chat and have a great time, light kino via hand touching and sharing each other food of our forks. i tell her were gonna go back to my place and finish off the other bottle. we get inside and she jumps! ALL OVER ME. teased and teased and teased untill she literally ripped her and my clothes off. F close. she left about 20 min ago and i am happy. i also made it clear we wouldnt be much more then FWB i told her i had enough friends. so went from plan B to plan A.. she may or may not be seeing the other guy aswell but from what ive heard he hast even made a move outside of a friendly date (hes been doing this for 2 months without escalation. needless to say hell be gone soon enough but then again i dont care as long as i get to slay. <3 seddit